20 Things That Attract Women

26. Dec, 2008 18 Comments

20 Things That Attract Women

1. A man that is a LEADER not a FOLLOWER

2. Men who are direct and ask for what they want instead of tippy toeing around it – e.g. If you see a woman you want, approach her. Don’t try to be “friendly” and cover up that you find her attractive. Be direct and find out if you are attracted to her. If so, then ask for her number. Get what YOU want.

3. Men who have their own full life that they can become a part of

4. A man that has boundaries – e.g. I will not contact a woman who flakes on me. She must contact me and do the work to set up another date.
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5. Men who understand female insecurity and know how to handle tension with ease

6. Men that have their own beliefs and passions

7. A man that is comfortable with himself and can speak his mind

8. A man that can listen without being defensive (defensive =’s insecurity, open to listening and compromise =’s strength and security)

9. A man that is able to make things happen (proactive)

10. A man who doesn’t need a woman but wants her in his life

11. Men who are nice but not a wimp

12. A man who is not afraid to touch a woman – Touch her softly on the small of her back, on the shoulder or her hand

13. A man that is not afraid to try new things – e.g. wear 1 article of clothing that is slightly out of your comfort zone, each week

14. A man that knows he has options

15. Men that compliment because they mean it, not because they have nothing else to say

16. A man that is confidence in conversation

17. Men that create their own lines of conversation, instead of borrowing from others

18. A man that has emotional control a.k.a does not let emotions rule your actions

19. A man that is interesting and interested

20. Men that can guide the conversation, not dominate it – Men should be talking 25% to a woman’s 75%

21. BONUS – A Man who is a Masculine Man

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18 Responses to “20 Things That Attract Women”

  1. JIM Reply 01. Jun, 2009 at 2:29 pm

    “34. Do not use canned pick up lines. They make you seem like you are 50″

    Gee thanks. I’ll be 55 next week.

    But I agree with you about the Pickup Lines.

    However, I did come up with my own (well, it’s a famous line, but it’s my adaptation in that context) line…

    “Are You a Good Witch or a Bad Witch?”

    Perhaps what also makes a difference is timing; it may sound contrived as an opener, but be a clever reference if used later in the conversation.

  2. J.R.Magdos Reply 16. Mar, 2011 at 10:38 am

    I have done most of the required things that are supposedly make me more attractive to women, and it is a load of crap. Why doesn’t the women have to conform? reguardless of what you give for hints it has been my experiance that the woman always goes with the bad boy! Reguardless of their age (The womans age) They may say they want all these things but will choose the bad boy! Always! p.s. I am 65 yrs old and this is the way it is.

  3. Xavier Reply 19. Mar, 2011 at 5:30 pm

    I completely agree with you! Even though I don’t have all the experience that you have, I’ve come to realise that indeed it’s always the bad boy who wins, no matter what you could possibly try if you’re one of the “nice guys”. It’s so frustrating! Women are not logical, they say they want a nice, caring man, but in the reality, nice guys always finish last! It’s as if men should have at the same time two completely opposite personnalities (the nice one and the “bad boy” one)…I say, it’s too much asked of us men!

    • Dan Reply 20. Dec, 2011 at 3:53 pm

      J.R. and Xavier – you’re missing the whole point. Women don’t like bad guys. They like the qualities that bad guys often posses (just about everything on this list, except for the nice in #11.) No woman wants to be treated like crap any more than you do. But confidence, assertiveness, having boundaries, etc (i.e. masculine qualities) those are things that woman are attracted to and just so happen to often be found in “bad guys”.

      • Marni Wing Girl Reply 30. Dec, 2011 at 11:16 am

        Hey Dan

        I love how you put this across and I totally agree. Women like to be treated well, but by a confident, masculine guy that they respect
        :)

    • rich Reply 04. Jan, 2012 at 5:20 am

      nah xavier

      TREAT PEOPLE WELL. That is the underlying code here. When they talk about leadership behavioural theory, this is the code.

      The “bad” fellas have alot of confidence, and sway and lead people well. I assume you say “bad” because they also don’t treat the women properly. I don’t understand why the women stay with them tho….maybe it’s because they love us more than we love them……or because they love us more than we love our selves.

      I believe a man’s biggest value is subtle assured confidence, and the ability to love himself and women, God to. This is what I aim for

      • Marni Wing Girl Reply 06. Jan, 2012 at 9:11 am

        Hey Rich

        Really like your comment, ‘I believe a man’s biggest value is subtle assured confidence, and the ability to love himself and women…’ amen to that

        Marni :)

        • PhilosopherKing Reply 24. Jan, 2012 at 4:21 pm

          God, the missing element in all secular discourse, leaving it dry, facing reality incompletely.

          “A man without religion should be pitied. A woman without religion is a horror beyond all things”

          Character can only really be forged by religion. Selfishness can only truly be erased by realizing that our pleasure is not the most important thing. You don’t care for anyone’s approval, you do things because they are the right thing to do, no matter what. A wise woman will marry a religious man. What can increase confidence more than knowing God is on your side.

          What women are attracted to ultimately is a strong Character, and although atheism can form it, it is very rare, since we become our own God and worship ourselves. Its human nature.

          Does not mean you can’t be adventurous, fun, hard to get, challenge, and play the game. Any interaction not written in formality involved deception, aka politics. There is a game you play when you interact with salesmen, when you apply for a job, etc. You think the salesmen is going to tell you the real price he’s willing to go to right away? Are you? Does that mean your lying? No, its politics when rules are absent. Romantic relations are no different.

          The key to the bad boy is just this: Emotional Variance and Control. Play a women’s emotions like a conductor in an orchestra. Control her emotions, control your own emotions, control the way she feels about herself, control the way she feels about you, control everything. Happy, sad, confused, mystery, intrigue, excitement, wonder, sad, anger, longing, missing, romance, fun, nervous, tension, an endless list.

          And another key men don’t understand is this: all emotions, not just positive ones. Drama is a need of the feminine gender.

          • Marni Wing Girl 30. Jan, 2012 at 1:44 am

            Hey Julian

            Whilst I wouldn’t agree that drama is ‘a need of the feminine gender’ (this comes across as derogatory) I agree women enjoy things that are more emotive: this is a gender difference though, not a negative.

            I do agree that women do want someone of strong character, though. These qualities are certainly found in religion, but I believe you can be a great man without that moral compass too: as long as you have compassion, courage and integrity

            Thanks fro your comments

            Marni :)

  4. Dany Reply 25. Jul, 2011 at 8:44 pm

    Hi Marni, what happens if we are too direct?

  5. Royal Reply 20. Aug, 2011 at 12:14 pm

    You 20 things that attract women are secrets most men need to realize, practice, and master if they ever want to have a lasting successful relationship with women. I will definitely master them because the best advice a man can receive about women is from a woman. You’re really on our side. Thanks for your help.

  6. Royal Reply 20. Aug, 2011 at 12:17 pm

    The best advice a man can receive about women is from a woman. You’re really on our side. Thanks for your help.

  7. Alan Reply 02. Jan, 2012 at 12:27 am

    Great reminder why I gave up on this crap. The implication here is that if you do not meet all of these points, you are doomed to be alone and miserable. Feeling this way will REALLY help you get a girl, I’m sure. At least a pick up artist is trying to make girls feel insecure to get with them – pickup COACHES make MEN feel insecure to get their MONEY. Funny how that makes me NOT want to buy any of these products.

  8. rich Reply 04. Jan, 2012 at 5:12 am

    no prob miss maarni

  9. Dan Reply 05. Jan, 2012 at 4:00 pm

    The only problem I have with this list is No.1 I am quietly confident, but not a natural leader. This masculine quality of being a leader seems so elusive.

    • Marni Wing Girl Reply 06. Jan, 2012 at 9:03 am

      Hey Dan,

      sometimes just making a simple change, like deciding to make all of your decisions yourself (without having to ask another person their opinion) can help to bring out your ‘leadership’ qualities.

      Good luck

      Marni :)

  10. Billy Cheeks Reply 02. Feb, 2012 at 6:40 pm

    A man wants: an honest woman.
    A woman wants: a man who is good looking, well endowed, successful, witty, in good shape, deep, has other women all over him, knows everything, is perfect and good at everything, has money, has pride, has lots of friends, is entertaining (like a PS3), has been with tons of other women, has never shown weakness, has feelings but never shows them except when she wants him to, is resourceful, can fix things, can lift heavy objects, dresses good, smells good, has the right haircut, can juggle and do a headstand while solving a rubix cube and simultaneously pleasuring five women better than any other man they have been with can…

    • Marni Wing Girl Reply 06. Feb, 2012 at 2:52 am

      Hey Billy

      this is pretty funny: but not exactly accurate! I think women fundamentally want a man who respects us and is honest: I think this is the same for both sexes when dating. However, I also think it’s great for everyone to have high standards for the people they’re dating: because I think if you value yourself, then you should want to have a great person in your life.

      Marni :)

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