Why Do Women Flake On Plans?

Why do women flake on plans?

Have you ever made plans with a women and then 30 minutes before meeting she sends you a text saying “Totally forgot. I have plans to meet my grandmother and can’t make it” or “Seems work has called me in last minute. Can we reschedule?”

I am pretty sure you have experienced this at least once in your life.

I can tell you for certain that this woman did not just “remember” she had plans. She is flaking. She is a female flake.

When a woman likes a man there is no way she would cancel plans on him for something else. AND if she does cancel she will make
certain they have concrete plans in the future.

How do I know?

I know because I have done this to men several times. So have each of my Wing Girls and so have each of my female friends.

So the question is why do women do this?

Unbeknown to them, women do this because they are selfish. To avoid their own discomfort they will be polite and accept an invite with
absolutely no plans of ever following through.

I do want to add in, that this is not malicious behavior from women. It is in no way planned or meant to be cruel. Women are not
trying to embarrass you or be mean. It is simply done to avoid an awkward situation for her.

It is easier to say yes to an invite or give out a phone number than to say NO. At least that is what most women feel and what
felt in the past.

They would much rather avoid the phone or flake on a date rather than being rude and saying NO to your face.

Again, this is selfish behavior that is based in female insecurity.

Women don’t realize how hurtful these actions are to another person. They don’t realize the frustration, annoyance and hurt men
experience when they have a woman flake on them.

They think they have avoided being mean and rude when in fact their actions were actually more cruel.

Now, I am going to try to my best to teach the women of the world to be honest and say what they mean but that is going to take some
time.

In the mean time I can provide you with tips on how to protect yourself against the flakes!

These tips will help you ensure you don’t waste time, money and energy on women that are not into you.

Tip #1

Don’t Get Angry

When a woman texts you 15 minutes before your date that she “forgot” she has another obligation understand that this means she is not into you. Instead of being angry or hurt about her flaking,
feel sorry for her that she was not mature enough to be honest.

This will create a calmness in you because you will realize that this is a type of woman that is not worthy of being with you. A woman who cannot speak the truth is not worthy of your attention
nor is she mature enough to handle you.

If you like you can express back your disappointment in a mature manner that lets her know you will not accept this behavior. Again, do not be a dick but maturely express that this behavior of flaking
is not cool.

For example write something like “Totally understand that things can slip the mind. In the future it would be best to check your schedule so that you aware of your commitments. My time is very valuable to me and I hope you will respect that in the future. No hard feelings. Have fun at your event!”

It’s firm, shows you have respect for yourself and is also soft at the end to let her know you are still safe.

Hopefully she will learn that her behavior was not cool and either correct it with you OR correct it in the future. Either way a good deed has come out of the situation.

Tip #2

Don’t Leave The House Before Confirming

To save yourself a drive and possible parking fee text her before you leave your home about an hour before you are set to meet.

Say “Running about 10 minutes late. Hope that is still cool?”

This text gives her the time to take her out if she wants it. Truth is if a woman is going to flake she is going to flake but at least with this move you can save yourself time, money and energy.

Tip #3

Learn To Spot Signs Of Interest

The possible flake date can be avoided by being armed with knowing what it looks like when a woman is interested in you. I must add that these are not fool signs to look for because circumstance can
play a role in many interactions.

For example, sobering up.

Some women will only be very available to you for a single night. Meaning potential for a one night stand but no date a week later.

Another example is personal reason.

She may be on the rocks with an ex, she may be super stressed in her own life, she may be getting over a break up, she may have just been up for flirting that evening. So many reasons exist as to why
her feelings faded after an evening.

Another example is meeting someone else. Attractive, quality women may meet someone else that they are more interested in. Therefore they will now put their energy into this new guy.

The signs to look for that she is interested your sexually or for dating are:

- Making eye contact
- Ignoring her friends even if it is a girls night
- Slightly touching you (too much touch is a sign of extreme
comfort and possible future friendship)
- Engagement in conversation
- Twirling her hair
- Puckering her lips
- Going to the bathroom all touched up and looking fresh

Once you ask for the number listen for the pause. The awkward pause where she debates whether or not to give you a real number or fake number.

Most women who want you to call, if they give you their number have been waiting for this question to come out of your mouth. Meaning there should be no pause.

A pause usually translates into possible flake.

These tips will assist you with determining whether or not a woman will flake on you and will also assist you when you are dealing
with a flake.

The important thing to remember is that when a woman is a flake it is a reflection on her. It shows that she is not confident enough
in herself to give a real honest answer and is scared to look poorly in someones eyes.

I have learned my lesson about flaking and try to teach every woman I come in contact with the importance of being upfront and honest.

Again, I will do my part to stop this from happening and you can do your part to stop it from happening to you!

Marni

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Do You Have The Presence Women Want?

As I always say information is key and recently I was challenged to elaborate on the information that I provide.

You may or not know but women like to be challenged so I was more than happy to accept!   This challenge involved me digging deep to really understand, as a woman, the energy that I respond to from men.

About a month ago I got an email from one man who had purchased The Wing Girl Method best selling program How To Become The Man Women Want where I reveal to you the top characteristics a man must possess in order to attract a woman and then I provide ways to gain these characteristics.

This man, who I will refer to as X, had told me that the information he received from the program, How To Become The Man Women Want was priceless but it left with 1 question about presence. He wanted to me explain this presence that I kept referring to that women fall head over heals for.

After his request, and my completion of his challenge, that I realized how valuable this information was to other men so I wanted to share our email correspondence where I explain exactly what women are looking for in a man.    Below is the email from X.  He really got me to dig deep and I know this information is the exact information you need to truly understand what women want in from a man.

Question from X:

On Oct 29, 2009, at 7:19 AM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Here's a question about looks:

 If looks don't matter that much to women, but everyone -man and

 woman alike- wants a good looking girl or guy... I'm confused, so,

 for a woman, what is the point, or the deed, or the key or whatever,

 where the woman stops looking at what he looks like, and starts to     

like him for who is inside. More so, what must the man be like, act

 like or do, in order to take attention away from the way he looks

 and turn a woman's attention to his character, of course, not in a

 manipulative way?

 And yes, i know confidence, proactiveness and fun will all be there

 in your answer. Be your best self advice is also way too generalized

 for me. I know I'm being picky with the answer i haven't even got

 yet. Plus, I'm making it harder for you to answer, so I'll make it

 easier for you to answer this question.

 And you don't have to answer this question but you're a woman so I

 have to ask... So, here's the question anyway!

 What would make you forget about how the guy's looks and like him

 for something he's got inside or something he does or it's just the

 way he expresses himself, what does it for you, and what would make

 you say, 'wow, it's so not about how he looks'?

 Thanks

 X

Answer From Me:

 From: info@winggirlmethod.com

 Subject: Re: WGM Become the Man Women Want

 Date: Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:29:53 -0400

 X,

 I totally get your frustration because some of the advice that most

 people dish out seems general and there is no WHY behind what they

 are saying. I am going to try to break it down for you the best way

 that I can.

 For me, yes, looks are what initially catch my eye.  It's easy to

 spot pretty things and the truth is those pretty things can bring

 great disappointment when they don't work as well as you think they

 should.  BUT a pretty thing can be over powered by quality in a

 matter of seconds. Once you hear and feel that something is quality,

 that THING starts to become appealing.

 I would like you to go out to the mall or somewhere really social

 and notice the way that people carry themselves.  Take a look at

 really attractive people and people who are unattractive. I am sure

 you will spot some people that you typically would not give a second

 look to with a powerful presence about them. That presence is what

 I am talking about. That is what is sexy. It is the perceived notion

 that something is quality!

 By being confident, proactive and fun you can build up your inner

 core so that you can display this type of quality to others and it

 will be a real quality. A top machine that can produce better than some silly little

produced in china that looks amazing but falls apart after the first time you use it.

I hope that makes things more clear.

Let me know if you want me to elaborate.

Best,

Marni

On Oct 29, 2009, at 7:20 PM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Yeah, I totally understood what you said in your email. If you could

 elaborate on that 'presence' that you are talking about? - that

'quality'- because that is exactly what I'm trying to get at!

 Can you describe what that 'presence' or 'quality' is for you; what

 it feels like or how or what makes you sense this presence or

 quality in a guy; is it a skill that a man has to be attain; or is

 it an intuition the man has and he does what he wants in the moment?

 -You know, try to be as specific as you can, but also try to

 consider what every other women thinks of this presence and/or

 quality, in your answer.

 Even for me that is a really hard question to answer, but I

 sincerely think that we are on a goldmine here, we just haven't

 reached the gold yet.

 Thanks

 X

 From: info@winggirlmethod.com

 Date: Fri, 30 Oct 2009 09:59:13 -0400

 X,

 I like the challenge! I know this is something that needs to be

 broken down and it is priceless.

 I was with a best friend of mine who has always been great with

 women.  Some of our other friends, guys, are a little jealous of his

 abilities and credit it to his money/car/home.  As a woman I know

 that his success with women has nothing to do with his money/cars/

 home.  He could be dirt poor, no car and bald and if he was still

 able to hold that inner calmness that he currently has he would

 still be able to attract many many women.

 The thing about this friend of mine is that he knows he is worthy,

 he has self respect and he knows what he wants and goes after it.

 I know you want a more magical answer than this but that is really

 the secret.

 Now the hard part is getting to a place of believing this about

 yourself and feeling that calmness and comfort.  This comes with

 practice, experience and information.  It comes from observing

 people but more importantly from recognizing yourself.

 I don't want to sound like a spiritual guru right now but I hope you

 see where I am going with this.

 My guy friend has been in therapy since he was 12.  He was

 constantly evaluating himself with the assistance of another person.

 This allowed him to face his greatest fears, learn to control his

 anxiousness and come out on the other side as a man of value.  The

 reason he has this value for himself is because he has earned it and

 worked at it.  He gives himself permission to go after what he wants

 and believes that he will get it.  This type of attitude is where

 comfort and calmness stem from.

 You can have this as well but it takes time and effort!

 Marni

 On Oct 31, 2009, at 10:55 AM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Thanks for sharing that story about your friend, plus, also thanks

 for providing an answer to my question. And, you didn't sound like a

 spiritual guru, you actually spoke a lot of sense -giving yourself

 permission to going after what you want and believing that you'll

 get it, and knowing yourself- is basically the best advice, and I'll

 tell you why...

 I went out to this club last night. Now, I have approach anxiety.

 So, when I went out to this one club, loud music and all...

 something happened - I just got my phone out and typed a message

 "hey I think that ur gorgeous" and I went out on the dance floor and

 I gently touched this really gorgeous blonde girl on her shoulder

 and showed her the message on my phone. She burst out laughing and

 asked me, "How often do you do say that sort of thing?" and I calmly

 told her the absolute truth, "not often, this is actually the first

 time..."

 And it was, it truly was the first time I just went up to a girl who

 i wanted just like that, and sure, I could have said something

 better than just 'ur gorgeuos', but I'm learning, it was more about

 getting rid of the anxiety. But, I realized that the anxiety I had

 about approaching was so irrational, and it is so true, women are

 really friendly and polite. I spoke to her for a short time, but

 then I thanked her for the conversation and left, because I knew my

 chances were zero...

 I wouldn't say my approach anxiety is all gone, but I just listened to what you

said and understand that it is my choice to decide if I can get the women I want.

I know I can meet new girls when I'm out because that's what I want. 

What I also know is that I won't be afraid to go up to a girl

 any more, because, I know that after I did what I did with the girl

 on the dance floor, I still felt like me, I still felt like X,

 even though I didn't get her. I now look back in the past to the

 many chances I could have met someone great and didn't because I was

 too nervous or worried about rejection, and I just kick myself.

 So, again, thanks for the advice marni! I am one step closer to the presence
you are talking about.

 Sincerely

 X

******** ******** ******** ****** ******* ********

What this email exchange shows is that the only person from holding you back from getting EVERYTHING you want is you.  X took a chance and went after what he wanted. He approach a woman, he felt like himself instead of pretending to be  someone else and even though he didn’t get the girl he felt better about himself because he took the chance.

The more you can start pushing yourself to take the chances the more confidence you will gain and more opportunities with women will appear.

I promise you!

Have a great thanksgiving and don’t worry if you don’t get to make a wish on that wish bone because you don’t need it! Make the wish yourself and then go make it happen!

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How To Attract Women: Avoid Pouncing On Her

You want to know how to attract women?  Don’t pounce on them.  In the past few weeks I have had several coaching sessions with men who did not realize that their actions were considered pouncey by female definition.

This made me realize that there are probably thousands of men in the world who don’t know how to attract women because they end up on pouncing on the women they desire.

Because of this I asked one of my Wing Girls Esmerelda to write a list of the Do’s and Don’ts to ensure you don’t pounce on women. I am sure you are not doing all of these things but if you are STOP RIGHT NOW! These Do’s and Don’ts are for those who have gotten past the first and second date and are on the way to exploring the options of a possible relationship.

I have also written a blog post for AOL that explains bouncing in greater detail. If you are a pouncer it can explain why you may be bouncing and what you can do to stop it! A link to the article is posted below the Do’s and Don’t list.

How to Avoid Pouncing On A Woman

Do

1) Text or call her once or twice a day – Keep it short, brief and non-needy.  There is nothing wrong with saying a quick hi as long as that quick hi is not satisfying an urge for you.  Read the AOL article for greater detail on this.

2) Focus on the moment and make an effort to make sure things continue to go well. No need to focus on the future especially in the beginning stages. Take your time and make sure she is for you. This is a testing period for both of you so don’t forget you are involved in the decision as well.

3) Reciprocate physical affection but don’t go over board.

4) Share your interest with her: We want to get to know you.  A man with a passion is the sexiest type of man.

5) Control your desire for her.  Think about where the desire is coming from. If you are trying to control an emotion and acting impulsively don’t do it.

6) Appreciate her body. Tell her she is sexy.

7) Don’t pressure her sexually.  A woman pressured is a woman that will not feel free to be sexual.  Let her feel that she is involved in the process of opting into sex.  (Get David Shades Material about how to be a masterful lover.  He just interviewed me last week for his membership series and we talk all about how to make a woman more comfortable with sex.  My interview goes out in January.  Click here to get David’s Materials)

8 Show her you trust her. Men with walls who distrust all women are by far the most unattractive specimen of man.  Be cautious but don’t let past baggage carry over.

9) Accept change.

Don’t

1) Compulsively text or call her every time you think about her

2) Physically dwell on her. Too much kissing and obsessive hugging is annoying.

3) Give her constant reassurance. If a woman needs constant reassurance there is a disconnect.  Either there is something you are not giving her or she has some past insecurity. Get down to the bottom of it and figure out what can be done to make her feel more comfortable.

4) Throw yourself too quickly into a person you barely know. Take time. You are allowed to go slowly and figure out if this new woman is someone you want to invest your time in.

5) Exaggerate your physical ardor and enthusiasm for her all the time.

6) Talk about your exes and compare her to any of them. Even if your intentions are good, we do not like it!

7) Dwell on the past.  As said above this is a fresh start so past baggage is not needed and unappreciated.

8 Overwhelm her with food or gifts.

9) Be defensive. Listen to her and don’t take everything she says as a test.  Read our blog on The Shit Test so you can understand.

10) Get jealous of every man that sets his eyes on her.

11) Make sex a display of desperation or a time to show off. Remember she is there to and she feels “like a hole” she is going to tense up and the experience will not be as great as it could be.

12) Expect anything to stay the same forever.

I think Esmeralda did a pretty great job of discussing what does and does not attract women.  Go back and read through this list and check out my latest post on AOL to get a better idea of what pouncing means, how women view it and how to avoid it!

To read the AOL post click here.

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