6 Signs That A Woman Is A Cock Tease

A Wing Girls job is to let a man know what he needs to do in order to attract the women he wants. It is also her job to inform him of when he is wasting his time on a woman that is not into him.

Therefore I am going to teach you 6 Signs A Woman Is A Cock Tease.

A Cock Tease is a woman who, from the male perspective, acts in a sexual manner that seems to have the intention of seducing a man, but without actually fulfilling the expected sexual actions.

Pay close attention to these instructions. I promise, if you learn these signs it will save you time, energy, heartache and $$$’s.

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Why Do Women Flirt With No Intention Of Being With You, A.K.A Cock Tease?

This has been an annoying thing for men for some time and here is the brutal gist of it fellas… The same reason you men take time to play video games, watch sports, and all things of that nature is the exact same reason us women “Flirt With No Intentions Of Being With You. It’s FUN!!!

OK, OK, it’s not very nice of us ladies, and is a tad egotistical, we admit that, but it’s the facts. Being that I am a faithful flirt
I am guilty of this unconscious pleasure of “flirting for fun”, it’s one of those deeds women do on a whim and seemingly enjoy in the moment and then once over feel slightly guilty and ask ourselves “why did I just flirt with him when I have no intentions of being with him?”. Go figure.

Every man on the planet wants an answer of how to prevent encountering this scenario, but it’s not as cut and dry as you think. The way it works is 95% of women are natural flirts it’s innate and the reason you may have received flirting that resulted in no action is because us women flirt for attention; we flirt to boost our own confidence and ego’s, we flirt to simply feel cute and attractive, the main objective of a woman’s being is feeling wanted, even if we don’t want you unfortunately.

Flirting for us simply gains wanted attention and assurance that we could in fact have you if we wanted. Most of the time previous to flirting we know that we don’t, but still flirt for mere fun as well as confidence boost, come on’ fellas, no woman passes up a chance to look endearing, feel like an innocent girl, and bat our mascara enhanced eyelashes.

No man wants to play the fool so to help detect when you are interacting with a Cock Tease I’ve listed some tactics to help you have the advantage of scoping out a guilty flirt with no intentions of being with you:

TOP 6 SIGNS THAT A WOMAN IS A COCK TEASE:

1. She doesn’t talk about her personal statures-   she’s being vague for a reason.

2. She never makes direct comments on how cute/ attractive you are-   she’s not sincerely attracted, she’s entertaining herself.

3. She keeps conversation constricted to things going on in the moment-    not interested in sharing any moments beyond this point.

4. She lets a gal pal pull her away-   give it up, this was a mere flirtatious encounter.

5. She takes your number instead of giving you hers – She’s doesn’t want you calling her, and has no intentions on calling you.

6. She is not open to being touched- She pulls away when you make attempts at physical contact

This can be a hard thing to swallow about us ladies, so on a brighter note I wanted to share that I have indeed experienced a few rare occasions where I have flirted with a guy with no intentions of being with him and was pleasantly surprised with interest… so keep hope alive fellas! There are always special odds to every scenario.

BUT for the most typical occasions remember these signs the next time a woman flirts with you, to weed out the fake flirts… it will save your time for the legitimate ones.

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  • Michael

    As a guy who is really working to improve himself in this area, I am sometimes guilty of approaching women that I am not all that attracted to. This is some sort of double jeopardy because (a) there’s that awkward moment at the end of the encounter, and (b) because I’m not nervous, I tend to be more likely to do what I know I should do, and get her to want me. This does not feel good–I know from experience how hard dating is already, and I don’t want to add any more confusion.

  • Michael

    Bottom line: Everyone wants to feel attractive. I got this concept this past month, and when I got it, a lot of my disappointment in the opposite sex went away. I understand that this is why women will give out their numbers and then not take calls. Or even why a woman will actually see the guy again, when it is clear from the beginning of the date that she just isn’t into the him, no matter how much she might have seemed, *seemed* into him the time they first met.

    • Marni

      I love that you are getting it Mike. The important thing is you are recognizing human behavior, accepting it, not getting upset and moving on.

      • Michael

        Thanks Marni! I am learning a lot from you!

        I think the key for all of us is to use this sort of thing to our advantage. We could do one of two things here:

        (a) We could make it a point to NOT lay ourselves out until she actually does something for us (follow us to a different part of the bar, kiss us, leave to a different venue, ect). In the meanwhile, we could be thankful that we’re getting a chance to practice our leading, connecting, storytelling, ect; i.e., our ‘game’, while we are getting social proof that will help us with other women.

        (b) Or we could act like a chump and buy her (and even her friends!) drinks, thinking we’re getting somewhere when we aren’t really.

        We guys have to realize how hard dating is for most women too. I know of single women in their 40′s who are wonderful people who have a lot to give a guy, but (being blunt here) they aren’t physically attractive. Is it fair to them that they are constantly being blown off for a girl who might be much prettier, but who isn’t nearly as nice? We guys should be thankful how much easier it is for us to increase our attractiveness.

  • Riki

    Absolutely Michael, there’s no doubt about the fact that everyone wants to feel attractive… especially a woman… if you can accomplish making her feel that way on the 1st meet it definitely makes the whole encounter pleasurable vs. awkward. The things we humans do to feel attracted and desired right! But I can’t stress enough to never let one encounter with one woman hinder your next with another… as they are all different.

  • http://www.somatics.com/backpainreliefsantafe.htm Lawrence

    What are “personal statures?

    Personal statues? Like, nudes in the hallway? What?

    “Moments beyond this point” — you mean future plans? personal history? stories?

    Again — what?

    and what if she does call me — but avoids making plans to get together, but invites me to get together with her (and we do, and have a good time…)

    Hmmm?

    • Marni

      Hmmm is right. Think about what was mentioned in Riki’s article. If a woman starts to play these types of “games” of being hot and cold it most likely means that she is not into you but likes the attention.

      I have done this many times. There was this guy that was into me in college that worked at my gym. I had just gotten out of a relationship and was heart broken. He flirted with me, made me feel attractive and I loved it. He asked for my number, I gave it even though I knew I would never be into him. He called, I didn’t answer but called him back 4 days later at a time I knew he was working. Then he called me back, asked me out. I never called back but saw him at the gym a few days later. He still flirted and I took the attention with open arms. Then he called me again. I did not answer the phone but called back 3 days later with the hopes of him not answering. He answered and asked me to meet him at a bar around the corner. I flaked and didn’t go. Saw him at the gym the next day. He didn’t give me a lot of attention. I went home and called him and he never called me again.

      This “game” can go on forever but ultimately it is just that a game not an actual connection. I was not in the right mind set and I was very open to any attention that made me feel attracted and wanted.

      If a woman avoids your calls, flakes, is wishy washy and does not show a level of interest consistently then move on. I am not saying to ignore this woman if you see her, there still might be a chance when she is in a better space. I am simply saying don’t focus all of your attention on a woman that does not deserve your attention.

      • Alun

        When I was single I came across this type of behaviour a lot while genuinely looking to meet someone.
        Whilst I understand sometimes it can be nice to be wanted and I have unintentionally done it myself in the past but once I realised what I had done I actually came clean and said to the person sorry I am a bit confused right now and was giving off the wrong signals but I am not interested.
        It seems to me a little childish to keep calling someone and acting interested when you have no intention of showing any interest beyond flirting and strikes me as a bit pathetic and any guy who has this done to him is a fool if he keep calling or flirting with the individual in question.
        The sad thing is at some point people who do this are going to meet someone they really really like but a friend of a friend is going to know some poor sap who has been messed about by this person and the likelyhood is they will say stay away from her she is a a game player lol.

      • Context Matters

        Ouch. Very candid. Definitely has the ring of truth to it. I know I’ve been that guy at the gym before.

        Sometimes I wish I was a monk. Or gay. Or celibate. Or a celibate gay monk.

        Life would be much easier then.

        • Admin

          You are funny :-)

      • Hose A

        Marni says:

        “…I have done this many times…”

        This is known as fraud. Engaging in deceptive behavior to get something when you have no intention of giving something of value in return.

        What you’re asserting in neon letters is that the so-called stereotypes about women aren’t stereotypes at all. Flaky, inconsistent, unreliable with a range-of-the-moment consciousness. Nothing that comes out of their mouth can be counted on to have any substance behind it.

        What you’re saying is you don’t actually value a solid, meaningful connection, you just need your fucking surface-level ego stroked. You’re looking for empty emotional calories at someone else’s expense.

        And you don’t give a fuck how it affects the other person.

        Yeah, and when she does actually seem “into you” – what’s at the other end of that? You’ve been busting ass to make a life for your family and whatever hormone flux of the moment causes her to derail it all – and she of course will expect you to live in servitude and subsidize her.

        And here you are “tee hee, aren’t we women cute for being this way?”

        No, you’re not. You’re fucking pathetic and deserve the disdain of men and to not be regarded as anything more than a cunt.

  • Riki

    Simply meaning the personal make-ups of ones self. The small things that makes that women an individual… person information/ history would be the gist of it Lawrence.

    Moments beyond this point- is speaking for that very moment in action, and meaning she is not interested in or planning on giving you any of her time what so ever beyond that very moment/ encounter.

    If a woman invites you to get together or even calls you for that matter she definitely has intentions beyond “flirting for fun”. She has some sort of interest in you for sure! But be careful assuming that a good time means you have it in the bag… romantic chemistry and platonic matching wave lengths, are two very separate things that can sometimes be confused.

  • http://crispe.org/blog Marcy Ganz

    I believe cock teases do more harm to women and make it more difficult to find the right guys because these cock teases burn men and make them jaded towards women. I think women need to end the games. We are victims of our own choices and them blame men for our bad decisions.

    • Context Matters

      Exactly.

      For all the women who wonder why men are defensive or don’t bother to approach them, there’s your answer!

  • Riki

    You’ve made a good point Marni. “The game” can be tricky. I think sometimes, the feelings a man gives us of feeling attractive, sexy and wanted can be addictive… we just want more of it and can’t get enough of it! We use and abuse to boost or own egos… And loneliness can make a woman do things she knows she shouldn’t or wouldn’t do if in the right mind set.

    But honestly when we make those phone calls and send those text messages to men we know we’re not that into… sometimes there can be those occasions where deep down we hope there’s something hiding there that may spark out and result in a connection! A woman always has that hope… especially if she’s in need of companionship from a man.

    • Dj

      The game! That’s the prob with woman and men we think its a game.Why does it have to be a game?. Its like why even waste your time flirting with the guy if yu know your not into to him. How is the man makeing yu feel better about yourself? If your acting out of character? meaning, you know your putting on a show to get what yu want. Wouldn’t it feel better if yu got that from somebody your really into?.
      Yes ii understand woman wanna feel a current why about there self’s but that’s going about it the wrong way. just keep it real!

      • Marni

        Dj, I know this can be frustrating but women don’t go out with a goal in mind to mess with a guys head and screw him over. It’s a selfish act where they want to go out and feel good. For me I feel good when I feel attractive and wanted. The truth is that if there is somebody that can knock me off my feet and catch my attention I am going to be interested. But while I am looking I am going to have a good time, put out great energy and flirt!

    • Vanessa

      Damn….I don’t even know where to start….lets see…very cool article. I am definitely guilty of doing all of these things at least once or ten times, but I argue..what’s so wrong with meeting someone new and being personable and outgoing?

      I think some men (and women) are quick to assume that a confident, out-going individual of the opposite sex, making conversation in a social setting, is doing so with the intent to make the encounter a sexual one. Which is definitely not always the case….sometimes its JUST harmless conversation.

      On another note, I watched this show on the Discovery Channel called “The Science of Sex Appeal” and they actually prove that attention from the opposite sex can be addictive. To loosely summarize, they show that when you’re around a person you’re attracted to (varying from crush to in love) and exchange conversation or have physical contact with that individual, dopamine is released into your body. Its the drug that makes you feel all warm and tingly inside….so when you’re around that person you literally “feel good”, as their presence signals a release of feel good hormones.

      Alright I’m done going super nerd on the comment board. Love the article Riki, keep up the good work and lemme know when the next one is out!!!

  • http://myspace.com/i15 flash

    Such a relevant article from friday to sunday….you know a lot of these ladies work hard all week and by the weekend its time to play….us fellas are definitely guilty of these accusations also…I’m just waiting for them to put to put flirting in the olympics so I can break micheal phelps gold medal record…lol…love you tiDa..

  • Joe

    this is very seriously in need of editing.

  • Alexis

    I’ve been guilty of it in the past before. Men have done it before. Its a part of makin yourself feel good no matter what sex you are. As long as your not an asshole about it, there’s nothing wrong with it. Thnx riki

  • http://charmingrogue.com/updates-for-the-charming-rogue%E2%84%A2-free-chapter-of-secrets-of-same-night-lays/ Adonis

    I wouldn’t really categorize any of these female behaviors as being a “cock-tease”. To me, a “cock-tease” is the girl who feigns interest for whatever reason (validation, gold-digging, make another guy jealous, etc…)

    These are all just signs that she’s not into you and you’re wasting your time…

    ….but I love it when you “talk dirty” like this :-p

    • http://www.gettinginsideawoman.com/ Liz Leia

      I have to agree with the Charming Rogue.

      These are signs that she’s not into you — she’s probably enjoying a nice, FRIENDLY conversation with you.

      I gotta play devil’s advocate here and say, ok, yes, some women flirt for fun, but in my experience flirting for fun isn’t that fun unless I’m actually at least somewhat attracted to the guy in question.

      Most of the time that I’ve ended up being a cock-tease, I actually WAS attracted during the flirting/banter portion of the encounter, but then the guy displayed some kind of behavior that made me second guess actually going to bed with him.

      In other words, it’s not that some women are cock-teases and others aren’t. It’s a behavior, not a personality type. If women are consistently acting like cock-teases towards you, then you are probably amping up some initial attraction but aren’t escalating it properly all the way to actual sexual contact. It’s a good sign that it’s time to get that part of your game handled. :)

      • Clear Vision

        Liz Leia said among other things:

        “…you are probably amping up some initial attraction but aren’t escalating it properly all the way to actual sexual contact. It’s a good sign that it’s time to get that part of your game handled…”

        Uh huh…and wondering how many guys who “escalated it properly” you’ve ended up declaring to be assholes and users etc. etc. because what really “escalated” it was some surface-level bullshit – you know, like using some “method” to manufacture a persona.

        If he was fortunate, the guy who didn’t connect with you found someone who was actually interested in making some effort of her own to determine if he was a quality person who isn’t looking to “game” a woman, instead of some lazy, shallow bimbo who considers it incumbent upon men to find whatever “key” unlocks the door to all the wonderfulness that clearly is you.

        And that’s really the focus of this site – “Be yourself? Pfft – how silly. No, let Marni show you how to be the pussy-whipped slob who’s trained to jump through hoops to *keep* the woman who apparently doesn’t already recognize whether you’re a good guy just as you are.”

        • Marni

          I don’t even have the energy right now…

          Glad I could provide you a safe space to vent your frustration and anger towards women ;-)

          • Clear Vision

            …you say as if naming it invalidates it. Yup, anger that’s solidly based in reality.

            “..I don’t even have the energy right now..”

            Princess please, what you don’t have is a leg to stand on. Your site is a testament to the truth of what I’ve said and you’re cashing in on it as a self-proclaimed “expert”. You must be an expert ’cause there’s pics of you talking in front of people, straight out of the Corporate Posturing Handbook.

        • Sarah

          Someone sounds bitter and dripping with negativity. With a great attitude like that, it doesn’t exactly take a rocket scientist to figure out why you have trouble meeting women.

        • ankit

          i get what ur saying here… but marni isnt to blame… i think liz lea is the person who brought this tone into the whole conversation focusing on men to improve their ‘game’ which rather means manipulationg ur personality to mk ur self more attractive n desirable… its healthy to an extent as in to become a better person for urself more than nything else…… but trying to hange urself simply to bed some girl seems very shallow…. and just plain wrong for women to expect from men

  • Riki

    In response to Dj’s comment:

    I know it is awfully irritating the games we play… but it’s the inevitable. I’m not saying “Flirting For Fun” is blameless but it is the reality and something us women do. Can be wrong… but if you think about it…most men’s intentions aren’t clear cut either, meaning while we “Flirt For Fun” some men flirt to “score”… so in a way that’s a misleading game in itself. Acting like you want us for more then a sexual moment when in fact you don’t… still a game… same thing as “Flirting For Fun” just in more depth.

  • Dj

    That’s what’s killer when ii guy flirt’s it’s “he just want’s to get in my paints”.Why is that? What if we wanna feel that same thing yu ladies wanna feeL?
    Can we have fun & sexy toooooo???
    No homo!

  • Dj

    That’s what’s killer when ii guy flirt’s it’s “he just want’s to get in my paints”.Why is that? What if we wanna feel that same thing yu ladies wanna feeL?
    Can we have fun & feel sexy toooooo???
    No homo!

    • Marni

      Then by all means play ball DJ!! Everyone should be able to feel sexy and wanted.

  • Big Daddy

    “….but I love it when you “talk dirty” like this :-p”

    Good God, Charming Rogue….even your ONLINE game is WEAK.

    haha

    Big Daddy
    The Best,

  • http://www.mikeseroveyenterprises.com Mike S

    I like to flirt for fun and I am a man. Sometimes I will show affection for a female friend by flirting with her. However, I will never lead a woman that I have no interest in to believe otherwise! Whenever a pretty woman that I don’t know starts to show me more attention than I think the situation calls for I wonder what it is that she is setting me up for. Twice I got set up to be sucker punched by a guy!

  • http://facebook.com/thedouglasexperoicne Doug

    I’ve mostly thought that I’d rather figure out the unified field theory than to try and figure out women. But one thing I know about women: They are starved for respect… for appreciation… to be loved (but then, who wouldn’t be!). Help them appreciate their own value, their own worth. I am a big believer in the more you give give the more you get. Connect with them as HUMANS. Be a good listener — without any agenda. I think this can go along way. Recognize a quality in them; create levity and be the spark of fun.

  • http://icebraking oscar

    waoooo that happened with me a lot of times, and thanks to you , i realizing right now that the cock women i know they made to have fun themselves, and know i am aware of this, thankyou marny and nina for giving us this knowledge.

  • Brian

    Blegh, really though, cock teasers seriously reinforce my bittnerness towards the next woman I meet. Whether right or wrong, the attitude they have (women) helped me develop is: remain absolutely distant until they jump on top of me.

    Whether or not someone does or does not take things personally, or, doesn’t care about anyone’s opinion around them does not have the right to assume that the next person they meet will look at them as a fluke either. The shit test is adorable but I can’t support this one.

    Now I know how that sounds, I re-read it. I’m not saying anyone is wrong in this situation, only giving an example of what it can lead to – it’s really not a healthy habit. At all. I have the ability to take others’ feelings into account before I speak, I don’t think it should be too challenging for a woman to consider the same.

    Listen, I love you all, but I think ladies who back this behavior up are equivalent to the man who walks and/or prances around his work place five-starring every girl’s ass and replies, “what!? you didn’t like that?”

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Jay

      Should you call her out on being a ‘cock tease’?
      If so, could you give the fellas a couple of examples?

      • Marni

        Yes call her out but not in a mean way. This is where subtle humor comes into play. This may actually snap her out of flirting for fun and make her take notice of you.

        The best thing for you to do when you notice someone flirting just for fun is to check in with yourself and see if you really want to continue with them. If you are having fun with them then continue. Flirting for fun can go both ways and it is an enjoyable experience.

        • Gary

          Women seem to take a sadistic pleasure in cock-teasing shy or lonely men.
          They do this nasty mixture of enticing you, then laughing at you with their friends. If you are shy they will pity you in a mocking way.

          I notice they never do this to the “Alpha males”, who strangely escape the ridicule and humilaition that is inflicted on less confident men.

          The truth is that men and women ruthlessly use each other to get what they want. The whole relationship between the genders is poisonous and nasty, spare me the Mills & Boon crap; there’s no love, only mutually beneficial usery.

          • Michelle

            Putting aside your obvious bitterness towards women who might teased you in the past, you have to admit that the women cannot be expected to know if you are a shy or lonely guy.

            What do you know of being “Alpha males”? I think they received their shares of teasing encounters. The difference is either they are better players at the whole game than you or they take home someone with them at the end of the night and blot out the experience of being teased.

            You are only setting up yourself for failure if you approach the whole mating dance with such negative attitude.

          • Marni Wing Girl

            Hey Michelle

            I like your point about choosing to focus on the positives of an interaction (whether that be ‘wow that was a learning curve’ or ‘she’s crazy not to like me’) instead of the negatives.

            A positive attitude is a great attribute to have

            Thanks for your comments

            Marni :)

  • Brian

    Making my point more clear… because I understand how it can be unclear… before I hand out compliments, before I hand out flirts, before I hand out any sign of attraction I decide whether or not the person has earned the right to be hit on.

    Actions like this make others feel special, not… bait.

    An ‘over’ flirt is like… picture someone who laughs all the time. Everyone knows someone like that. When you tell them a joke and they laugh, there is no meaning behind it. Well, there may, or may not be. Check for dimples. Point being, when you do something that gets you good results with the girl, what is to make you think she sincerely likes it? Why and how could someone possibly be attracted to girls like that if they are used to them?

    I feel even though taming a CT can be done, I don’t exert energy if it’s not deserved, I think taking this approach is healthy. If I enjoy their character I’ll turn the Crombie Meter on. Rule number one though: If she wants me to kiss her, she has to first ask me to use the force on her. Protocol is only fair.

  • Riki

    No one likes a tease… the only person who enjoys that game is the “teaser”.

    I see your logic in that theory Brian; the only negative is most women aren’t the “jump on men” type. They want to be the one chased (for the most part)… and most of the time a man doesn’t realize a girl isn’t sincere which is where the “6 SIGNS” come into play to assist in that detection. But never the less it’s good you have a strategy that you’re comfortable with, that’s exactly what I encourage, give energy to the ladies that deserve it!

    No time wasting for you!!!

    … And yes we all know or have encountered and “over flirt” ;-p

  • Steve

    So would it be fair to say that “6 Signs That a Woman Is Into You” would be the opposite of these 6? Or would you choose others that are more important?

    • Marni

      The signs to look for that a woman is into you are:

      Eye contact
      Body language turned towards you
      Tossing of hair
      Batting eye lashes
      More than one word answers
      Not overly touching you but subtle touches – if a woman is overly comfortable with you chances are she is not interested in you but enjoys your company
      A little nervous – When i am attracted to a person I mumble a little over my words. When I am not into them I am overly confident and comfortable with everything I say

      • Steve

        I think that last one is key. You can really separate women who are interested in you from those who are not by the ones who get nervous about talking to you. They don’t want to “blow it.” They’re careful about what they say.

        I’ve done the same thing with women I’m attracted to. Tripping over your words, that kind of thing.

        Thanks, Marni. The touching one is also interesting. I’ve confused the “overly touching” woman for someone who was interested and then usually found out she was not, and was baffled. It makes sense — just as the interested woman will hesitate over her words, she’ll hesitate over her touch.

        Nice.

      • CL

        I found this pdf to be short but interesting to read. It gets you into thinking about the signals.

        http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.pdf

        I like how she keep saying : “Men already tend to mistake friendliness for flirting; if your
        signals of interest are too direct and obvious, they will mistake them for sexual availability.”… so true.

  • Sasha Fierce

    I have to say i 100% agree with this post as far as flirting for fun goes. Women will always flirt, not because they want to be a “cocktease” but because it makes a night more enjoyable. Every man shouldnt assume that just because your talking to him ur going to take him home that night or want to automatically go out with him, which is the case most times. Socializing is just fun… If a man is really interested he’ll find a way to make himself stand out without trying to show off.

    Love the article… cant wait to see more.

  • Brian

    Right. By all means, enjoy your night and have a blast. If anything, I can say from a man’s perspective that a woman with genuine conversation is more attractive than being approached with an animated personality – making the assumption that the majority of the time you hit the bars you’re out in hopes of meeting someone new.

    There is nothing that we enjoy more than being listened to, and nothing that bothers us more than being stuck in a conversation with someone we are not interested in. I assure you were are not as attracted to Paris Hilton’s as the media may make us out to be. On second thought, the pooch in the purse is a HUGE turn on.

    If you have good intentions, game on. I do suggest letting empathy take it’s course if he doesn’t enjoy it, or, if you can clearly see he is being lead on – then it’s time you tone it down and be honest.

  • Adam

    Until she’s shown genuine interest, it’s a flirt. Just a simple flirt, and nothing but a flirt. But that’s exactly it – a girl flirted with me! Cool!

    A flirt is just a seed, it’s not the genuine article, and you shouldn’t expect love interest from a stranger, which is also why I rarely buy women drinks at a bar. I love the attention, I love that women do it, but for the most part, I don’t change what I’m doing to get it. It’s just a natural extension of what I’m already doing.

    It’s also a great way to see if she’s really into you – pursue her just enough that she knows you like it too, then reverse it, play reserved and watch her come back to you.

    Great article, Marni.

  • Riki

    I concur with that Brian, conversation is key, genuine conversation, a great personality can only get you so far for me, but keeping my interest with well spoken dialog that isn’t over the top is a thumbs up. For me being intrigued by word of mouth and being of interest keeping me engaged is impressive and rare.

    Marni touched on the fact our that as women; being full of emotions our best conversational skills don’t always surface when we are really interested and so worried about what you think of us, so making a woman feel relaxed and at ease can facilitate the encounter. Empathy may not come on the 1st encounter but doesn’t mean it isn’t cable of being given, compassion usually comes a little later.

    Before you lose interest switch the conversation up to something of your interest bring her into your world, doesn’t hurt.

    By-the-by a pooch in the purse is such an unambiguous sign of a creditable tête-à-tête, as it’s a guarantee you will be listened to with empathized puppy dog eyes! (Wink). :-p

    - Pretty Riki

  • Brian

    Give me 5 ways to hold your interest, Ms. Riki outside of getting new shoes on my ride, rolling down 95 and looking for a cutiepieeee.

  • Riki

    Adam!

    Love your “A flirt is just a seed” analogy, true in so many ways. It can blossom into something or it may not, depending on what’s put into it.

    Playing the hard to get and reserved card can intensify the encounter or do the exact opposite so be careful with that game, a woman needs to feel some sort attention/ chase to surrender to lust.

    -Pretty Riki

  • Riki

    Exactly Sasha Fierce, flirting is an enjoyable game for us ladies period, whether pre-meditated or not, it gives our night out some stimulation, I want to almost say it’s the inevitable. We don’t get all dolled up for our girlfriends to look at us with desirability, it’s for the fellas!!!

    Thanks for the support.

    Happy flirting!

    -Pretty Riki

  • Riki

    5 qualities that hold’s a young woman’s interest:

    Laughter

    Sex appeal

    Intellectual conversation

    Wit

    Humbleness

    - Pretty Riki

  • Willi

    I have definetely fallen for those cock tease traps throughout my adolesence, and since then I can say that I have been scared for life. So only recently have I managed to look at opportunities in a totally different perspective and not been afraid of approaching women in general. If they want to be approach, I simply build up the courage and go. Now about this artcile, on being cock teased, I must agree and also accept your points to all of them. I have fallen victim to this many times, and to avoid misinterpreting it all, I have lost interest in tons of girls, or mostly convinced myself that she was being a cocktease, even though she may not have been doing so. Which ended up by me not asking her out, and never getting dates for a long time. Which I sometimes still do. The whole concept of being teased, is still trilled into my head in a way that I meet women left and right, but I know not to trust anyone of them, and take everything as a grain of salt in a way. But also willing to be surprise by the woman to find out if she really does want to be with me or not. Plus I have learned NEVER to act or demonstrate NEEDINESS!!!!! If I do by accident I know I lost my chance with the girl. Am I right or wrong?

  • Riki

    Hi Will,

    No you are not wrong. Neediness is not in any way attractive. Ironically enough the harder you are to get the more a woman wants you, it’s one of those weird unjustifiable things that happens, not in every case, but happens! That doesn’t mean go out there and play hard to get, my point is never act or show neediness that only gets a woman to dig deeper and wonder why you’re so needy, which will result in loss of interest. Be confident (i.e. today’s post “How To Show Self Confidence”) and be yourself, this will get you someone who appreciates you, the real you! ;-)

    -Pretty Riki.

    • blawk hawk dwn

      Once when I looked at a girl, she just looked down towards the ground, lowering her head. What does this mean? She wanted to tell me that she´s not interested?

  • Phil

    I don’t worry too much about it.Women are not even attracted by the penis.They think it’s a tool, so sometimes the whole man is a tool

  • Grant

    If a guy is romantically direct, or Mode One (in a non crass way), what does this do to the cock tease’s game? Does it just hand her the win, or tend to make her turned on?

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    If a woman is flirting with everyone and tries hard to be social with everyone – she is ‘attention bitch’ I know that because of dating some of them. On the other hand if a girl is in to you she would invest(don things for you, making it very easy for you to lead her to bed or suggesting herself of you two sleeping together) in order to have sex with you.

  • joe mama

    I wish I could have told a lady friend that I just wanted to talk. We both at the time were going through some rough times in our lives. She was flirting with me , I think to just get the attention. I dunno .for one she is taller than me and 2 she is a country girl and I am a metal head. But I asked her out once for coffee and she said no,and starting crying. I just wish that I could have told her that I don’t want her for sex. I am getting to old to just want sex from someone. I want someone that stimulate me with conversation. As well.. This was happeining at her place of business , and I didn’t really feel comfortable playing this game at work. Oh well. Live and Learn

  • Farley

    Nice blog,

    Here’s one: “6 signs that a man is a vagina tease”.

    Any ideas for men on how to become one? ( all in a fun way of course)

    • Context Matters

      Only one “vagina tease” tip.

      Act COMPLETELY DISINTERESTED.

      Pretty girls are used to used to getting lots of attention from men.

      College Humor have a funny video called “Hot Girl POV” that nicely illustrates this.

      Of course, if you stop ignoring her she will just treat you like all the other guys who don’t.

      But if you continue to ignore her to the bitter end she will eventually give up in much the same way as the prick-tease victim.

      Teasing is pretty dumb, isn’t it?

      • Admin

        Ha. Yes I think teasing is dumb but can be amazing if done the right way. You are totally right about teasing till the bitter end. You gotta give something or else you are going to end up “teasing” yourself :-)

  • Benson

    wow … glad I wasn’t born female … this list just shows what shallow, conniving, selfish, loser cunts chicks are … so that’s what they do for FUN? … wow, sad … it basically explains that they are more INSECURE than a gay owl drunk on jello shots … um, females EXPECT males to be honest and this is how they act? … yeah, no wonder the modern-day divorce rate is over 50 percent … look in the mirror chickees — it is YOU for the reason why ALL your relationships fail, not the male who was unable to be a MIND-READER … get a clue and quit watching Oprah and Dancing With the Stars (LOSER CHICKS!!!!) … then throw in you have to bleed every month and go through 9 months of pregnancy 8 or 9 times in your lives (14 times if your are Mormon) and it now all makes sense … that list just shows that men are way more powerful than chicks because men don’t have to be FAKE to be SECURE … chicks are SHALLOW LOSERS!!!!!!!!! …. thanks for sharing the list. Now I get it because I don’t like or respect FAKE PEOPLE OF ANY GENDER!

    • Marni

      oh dear. I don’t have the energy right now for this.

    • Context Matters

      High five Benson.

      “more insecure than a gay owl drunk on jello shots”?

      I’d say “more insecure than a closeted gay owl drunk on jello shots after snorting a few lines of coke” ;-)

      I read all these dating advice sites like a recovering alcoholic goes to meetings.

      Its a warning to not “fall of the wagon” and go chasing women again.

  • Flash

    I’m a guy, and I flirt with girls without having any intention whatsoever of taking it further. I do it for lots of reasons – such as to make the girl I really want, who is watching, more interested before I approach her. Or simply to practice my conversational skills.

    But I always put a stop to the flirting at the same point: meaning that when a girl asks me for my number, or touches me a lot, or begins to make heavy hints of taking things further, I always tell her very gently but clearly that I am not available, and never will be, only looking for good conversation. Women are always grateful to me for the honesty.

    I do this because I have empathy and a conscience, and I’m not out to hurt anyone. I can’t for the life of me figure out why anyone would think its okay to play phone tag with someone so that you can keep them on the hook indefinitely. It’s a horribly unfeeling and unethical thing to do, and women like this have only themselves to blame for the bitterness and misogyny they earn from jaded men.

    But I am very appreciative to the women on this site who bring such behavior to the attention of men, and we should be grateful to you: I really hope that you remain strong enough to maintain your openness and be careful that any backlash you receive doesn’t diminish your candor, or cause you to water down the product you’re selling (truth and insight about social dynamics) which is a valuable and ethical business, and it would be very unfortunate for women and men alike should you learn from reproach to withhold anything.

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    In my experience a few things stood out:
    * loved the email flirting and dirty texting etc. – implying comfort with sexual flirting and therefore interest;
    * would agree to meet up – then flake at the last minute;
    * would do enough just to keep me interested and hanging on.
    I was a little distracted with other issues in my life at the time – but looking back can’t believe I fell for it! :(
    Some very valuable lessons with the most important being that if a women is not willing to follow through in a concrete way – namely a date – and she exhibits the behaviour in your article – she’s a cocktease.

    One thing I would comment on is that women (more so than men) know when they are engaging in fun harmless flirting and when they are deliberately leading men on.

    Two things I would hope for – men, watch out for these signals, women – know the difference but fun teasing and attention-whore teasing and act honourably. And boost your self esteem else where!

    However, again Marni, can’t help but notice that you AGAIN make allowances for female behaviour. You consistently do this through your articles, always saying things along the lines of, ‘women don’t realise they’re doing it’, ‘not meaning to be cruel’, ‘based on their insecurities’, etc. etc.

    Accountability? Or you implying that women are simple creatures with no self awareness or ability to control their own behaviour, merely slaves to their emotional desires?

    • Brad

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      I actually had a situation like this just over a month ago with a girl who has cock teased me a few times in the past, she wrote a status update whinging about how guys weren’t old fashioned and traditional anymore, didn’t treat women like ladies, blah, blah, blah, and I called her out on it, I posted a comment on this status saying “It goes both ways, what about girls who cock tease guys to boost their own self esteem?”. Surprise, surprise the next day I log on I discover she has deleted me, guess the stupid bitch knew I was right!.

      It is a waste of everyones time doing this, if you don’t like a guy, fuck off and talk to someone else!

      I’ve become much more aware of girls like this now, but it has damaged me a bit, causing me to resent women.

      If a woman needs to boost her self esteem, take up a fucking hobby!.

      Leading someone on like this is extremely cruel, these women need to look up the word empathy in the dictionary!.

      • Marni Wing Girl

        Hey Brad

        I think the problem is quite a lot of the time women may be doing this subconsciously and not trying to be aggrovating towards you.

        Next time you feel this way towards a girl I wouldn’t create more negative energy with a Facebook comment: this makes you look bad. Instead, I’d just delete her from yoru Facebook and find someone else who you have a more rewarding relationship with.

        Marni :)

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  • Paul

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  • Hose A

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    I’ll be curious to see if you actually have the balls to publish this and the other comment I’ve made.

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      or you can have sex with me. Either way you haven’t wasted my time.

  • My Name

    In other words the female thinks she should be entitled to get her ego stroked while bashing the guy’s ego.

    Another manifestation of this is women who do this crap in the workplace, and then cry “sexual harassment”. Happens all the time. One of the female’s other favorite “games” is to be a victim.

  • Terra Misterious

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    The more I, as a male, read about this overly flirty behavior, the more I agree with Flash that it’s unethical. If we don’t genuinely care to get to know someone with intentions of it going further (on either side of the gender line), then we both shouldn’t be flirty. To me, there’s a difference between talking to someone and flirting.
    First, I talk to people to get to know them. Before I flirt (if I do…), I’ll find someone I’m attracted to and talk to them. To flirt first is cruel, self-centered, dishonest, naïve, and lastly, controlling. At the heart of it all, we are both lying to the other person and wasting each other’s time by flirting with people we’re not authentically interested in as people. Plus, both people are looking for some sort of a relationship (either friend or romantic) so both people should be seeking to complement each other’s interests. Why would I want to get to know someone that is putting on a show for me? I would want someone that is real and honest.
    I agree it is fun to flirt but it’s the same type of fun as getting wasted – fun in the short run and likely to be disastrous in the long run. If it doesn’t end in a romantic relationship in the long run, then it will tear at least one person up. By flirting first, we limit where relationships go and assume – as economists would use – a zero-sum game in a win-lose atmosphere. It doesn’t have to be this way. We could both win if emotional intentions are not revealed prematurely. We all are seeking control over our own lives, which people translate into controlling others if their lives are in disarray. Why not talk and get to know each other before going further with flirting? If it doesn’t turn out perfect in a romantic happily-ever after for both people, flirting, without knowing someone, damages both people. Both are unable to learn and end up more confused afterwards then they were to begin with because they don’t know what they did wrong and it can’t be generalizable to another relationship.
    If I know that my actions in the short run could hurt someone’s feelings in the long run, I don’t do it! Why create an environment for pain when people could just talk and get to know each other before one or both people’s emotions get overly involved and people get hurt? If I end a conversation with someone, it doesn’t hurt people’s feelings because people don’t feel like they’ve lost something or had their heart ripped out by someone. I’m leaning towards treating flirting like “playing with fire” – “leave it to the professionals”. To me, it’s best not to play games and just be genuine with your intentions. If the person doesn’t like your authenticity, then move on to someone who appreciates honesty and respect.

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Marni

      Didn’t read your whole post cause all I saw was that flirting was bad. Correct me if I am wrong on this.

      Flirting is awesome!! Just stop thinking of it at naughty, or misleading. It’s fun, awesome and enjoyable. I flirt with everyone I meet. Why? because it makes me feel good and it makes them feel good. I am not doing it to lead them on and they understand this. American’s are WAY to cautious when it comes to flirting. I was over in the UK and everyone flirted. The police officers, the retail clerks, the tube station workers. They were so open, free and fun! Loved it.

      • B

        Womanizing women for sex is awesome! I don’t know why so many women think of it as naughty or misleading. We both have sex and it both feels good for both people (hopefully). Women shouldn’t feel so emotionally attached when a man just uses them for sex, because it is so fun for the both of them!

        See what I did there?

        It hurts for us guys, and I bet being played by a man would hurt for you, too. Play all the games you want, when it comes to bite you in the ass I hope you don’t complain about it.

        • Eugene Davis

          The only type of women that would do this is a women who cock tease a man for their own personal victory….bit me in the ass I don’t think so….some women I met have low self self esteem, no motivation and think they are god’s gift to this planet; they are shallow, create a lot of stress for no reason at all and selfless in which they need to be bitch slap…wake up and smell the coffee.

          • LR

            Maneaters.

  • Alex

    Marni , you need to read Flirting Skeptic’s post , you created a discussion board , you should read other people’s opinions ffs! Don’t tell me to stop thinking about it in a naughty way. Flirting is meant to be naughty and you are the twisted one to think otherwise.

    Americans are cautious because they’ve been stung many times by ignorant attention whores such as yourself. Men get aroused in less then a second , while for a woman it takes some time. It is brutal and childish for you to pretend that abusing this advantage of yours is some sort of harmless fun. You see the guys having fun WHILE you’re flirting , you never see them sad after that… they won’t let you cuz that means you’ve won!

    • Mark

      Booo! Some people are so uptight. So what if a woman has a harmless flirt with you. You know what’s worse than that? Just about anything!!!

      Marni, you rock and most of us guys know it; your honesty is one of the most endearing things about you.

    • LR

      Women are aroused in less than a second. Men, it takes tame.

  • http://www.jamesamuta.com James

    there’s even a more dangerous variant to the bar-room cockteasing/ flirting scenario. what would you say about women who go the extra mile to cock-tease a guy in his own bedroom, and scream foul when the guy reaches out to grab? it happens everywhere in the world – and in this post on Facebook, it explains the scenario from an African point-of-view: use the link below to read the note on Facebook -

    http://www.facebook.com/note.php?saved&&note_id=10150551269852776

  • Kara

    I think it’s okay to flirt with a guy without intending to sleep with him. After all, men have sex with women without any intention to start relationships all the time. But flirting is harmless whereas sex carries risk.

    • Todd

      The problem Kara isn’t the women who flirt with men without intending to sleep with them. The problem is the woman leading men on that they want sex but then turn down the men just to get their kicks. Honestly I’m thinking of being a mood killer and asking if they want to have sex with me before hand and they have to prove it before flirting. So that way if they don’t want to have sex it’s alright. But I need to know so I don’t wind up hurt with blue balls and a damaged ego.

  • Will

    Being a cock tease is not like men playing video games or watching a game. A cock tease is playing with someone’s emotions. Playing video games or watching a sporting event is actual entertainment. Not messing with anyones feelings.

    Women like this tend to not understand the definition of things like this. What men find entertaining through games and bonding, these women aren’t creative or satiated with whatever so toying with emotions and a persons’ mind is their definition of “fun”.

    • Fun

      messing with feelings? hardly. when men sleep with women for the most part it is for mere “fun” yet they know that those women will develop feelings for them. i believe women/prick teases should be entitled to enjoy such “fun” too

      • LR

        Women sleep around for fun.

  • Jonny

    I’m sorry Marni but if any woman needs to casually flirt with guys to boost her confidence then she’s relying on what I call artificial self-concepts (a substitute for inner peace). I’ve crossed so many women in this position and all of them, once the time comes, eventually complain that their boyfriends (or even husbands) don’t love them. Ironic. But if there is nothing to love, then what do you expect? Where’s the spiritual substance? Where is the deep affection for all things that breathe? Absent.

    I know what you mean Marni by this casual flirting, it comes off a lot like a used car salesman making a pitch. I have a natural radar for things like that and it is a gift I’ve learned to appreciate and be grateful for.

    I guess to help some of you guys out there, 99% of the time you’ll find that women genuinely want to like you and women who flirt with no intention of getting involved are relatively few. If you disagree, then you are in a toxic environment my friend, remove yourself from it.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Jonny

      thanks for your comments: though I don’t think women casually flirt in a way that is harmful, or that is a substitute for things lacking within them all the time. Flirting is just a natural way women communicate.

      Though I do agree that whilst inner peace may be a high bar to set; the more centred and happy you are with yourself as an individual then the better you will be in relationships, regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman

      Marni :)

    • Roger Farmer

      you are wrong almost all the owmen I have met are this way , they have no intention of being with you it is like the most inviting game they can be part of they love it and don’t care what the man thinks

      • Roger Farmer

        I can live wioth this becaue it has gone on so long I really think notig of it but basically all women do this

  • Jamison

    In my situation the female is touching me sensually, she lets me touch her as well, but it never leads to anything! She gave me a naked lapdance and still NOTHING happened! I asked her were we gonna do this and it seems like she keeps saying “oh, next time” or something like that. What do I do? Does that mean she’s a super cock tease?

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Next time don’t seem so willing to have her- I think you should call her bluff and stop entering into games like these that only end in frustration.

      Marni :)

      • Mark

        Or take the lead, and ask her out for a drink, and then back to your place.

    • Eugene Davis

      tell her if you want something to play with gt a vibrator and tell her your not her toy.

    • Eugene Davis

      Had you done that to her she would have called the Police on you.

  • dave

    BOOO WOMEN! (i love you but hate you simultaneously; damn)

    • Marni Wing Girl

      That made me laugh Dave!

  • The M

    When I was younger, I observed this behavior b/t a girl and a guy who was really interested in her. And she knew of his interest.

    My first reaction and instinctual reaction was that it is WRONG. I felt bad for the guy but also knew intuitively that he was at the fault too because he knew that she knew and he should have respected himself enough to not give into the enticing behavior repetitively. In the end he was the one who was going to get hurt so he should have taken control of the situation – and he did get hurt too – and perhaps lost his joy of life with that game of momentary satisfaction.

    Her fault was that she didn’t respect his feelings as explicitly kept flirting with him.

    The girl was my friend (I didn’t know her closely enough to know her side of the story) but I never looked at her the same again.

    Btw, I was 17 and she was a few years older than me, and the guy was a lot older (at least that’s what it seemed at the time) than us.

    Now with me, when I am comfortable with someone and attracted too, as other ladies said, it feels GOOD to be yourself and do what you do best. It feels good to share a genuine moment of shared liking. And I dread knowing that the other person likes me for “x” reasons because then it takes away the carefree-ness. But anyhow for the benefit of men reading this – I think it should be simple from the guy’s POV – if you do really like the girl, just tell her simply and concisely, be the bigger person. And if she tells you out rightly or show her from her actions that she doesn’t respect the feelings – then choose to respect yours and stop being “played.”

    Ah, I wish I didn’t this blog, my conscience would have been more clear, but sigh.

    I just wish we were a little more kind to ourselves and others – we’d get a lot less hurt, and probably enjoy life a bit more.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey M

      I definitely believe that you should respect and love yourself first. That doesn’t mean being selfish, or unkind; but it does mean being a great guy involves knowing your own boundaries and having self respect. Achieve this and you will be that guy that women want to get to know.

      If any guys out there are reading this and find that having that self respect and that confidence is a real issue then take a look at this http://www.winggirlmethod.com/offers/boost-your-confidence-with-women/

      Marni :)

  • Dave

    I’m a UK police officer and I don’t flirt with people, or respond to any flirting from (admittedly usually drunk) women.

    First of all I like to think of myself as a consummate professional, flirting on duty in uniform in the public eye is not a professional way of doign things. I of course remain friendly and approachable, but try and shut down any flirting as it happens.

    Second, I get no payoff from it, so why bother? It’s not like these women are going to jump me there and then and if they did it would cost me my job, which I would much rather have than some 5-minute fumble with a random. So why play into it? I’m not paid to stroke egos, I’m not getting anything out of it and like some of the other posters have said it is quite disingenious.

    Finally, I’m not a woman hater, I’m very happily married, but I do sympathise with the guys saying they are fed up of being led on. My advice is that the women who mainly do this are a bit vacuous and their conversations are equally vacuous. Smash in some engaging conversation fast that requires some investment of time/opinions and watch them drop away, leavign only women who may actually be worth getting to know.

    Some of us Brits do still retain a stiff upper lip mentality!

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Dave

      first of all you sound like a great guy so thanks for contributing here: and yes I agree a woman who isn’t seriously interested won’t stick around for long if you throw something more challenging her way. The kind of women who behave this way are perhaps a little too used to guys giving into them easily: be strong and you’ll know the good women, from the women who just want something from you.

      Marni :)

      • LR

        I love guys who give into me too easily.

    • Eugene Davis

      Hey Dave next time a Women flirt with you or in other words Cock Tease you throw their ass in jail for the night. 24 hours later when you release her I beat she would show more respect to you for doing your job as Cop.

      • LR

        Attempted rape on a man.

  • EvAn’s Life

    What if she does touch u my best friend is a tease from what people and she says but the other night she came to my house and before she left i gave her a hug good bye and she started rubbing my junk and we started kissing and she let me touch her. Then she goes and tells me yesterday that she was just teasing

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Matt

      I would not play her games! If you reward this kind of behavior you’re telling her that it’s ok to use her sexuality to gain the upper hand: which is uncool. Instead cool it off, and see if she becomes more sincere

      Marni :)

  • lenny shots

    I had a helarious (or not so encounter) making me realize reading people is utter nonsense. i had a crush on my next door neighbor for about 8 months. im super shy, shes overly flirty, blushes, waves, smiles, i even caught her swooning looking up at me accidentaly onetime like she was in love with me/crushin. so i originaly tried and got the wrong apt. to friend request her and try to be friends. 8 months later shes locked out of her apt. and comes over so shes obviously cool with me as we met when i was locked out originaly, i had the flue so i didnt bother talking to her.
    so i decide to leave a note on her door asking if her and her male roommate would like to be friends and go see a movie sometime. i get a weird call from her roommate who sounds
    high (muffled,etc.) saying she has a boyfriend, isnt interested in any contact whatsoever and not to leave another note.
    so im like uhh. as its kind of bipolar to be overly friendly like that when your anti social.
    so i decide to avoid her and everyone in the apt. complex. for 3 weeks im succesful and i finaly bump into her. she’s eye humping me, playing with her hair etc. i overhear her with her boyfriend walk by and aparently she has no clue i wrote her and act like she has a possible stalker random door note dropper lol.
    so as i say i kind of feel love is utter bs. and nothing more than people feeding on thier own emotions displacing them onto other people.
    I continue to avoid her as Its pointless to flirt with someone if thiers not even the possibility of friendship.
    I call it puppy dogging not cock teasing, its when a woman treats you like a viable romantic interest yet has no intention on any level of being with you, its hella rude
    and annoying and a bit creepy.
    its not cool to play with someones feelings. I’m well aware of the differences between being in a relationship and being friends with someone so im not delusional or stalkerish
    or obsessed. It hurts that I got rejected and more hurts that i was indirectly semi stalkerfied for trying to be someones friend who was overly flirty with me. laughingly if shes that uptight i dont want anything to do with her anyway to be in a relationship you cant have outside friends as im generaly not into monogomy.
    i also get alot of car teases, where im super smiled at by attractive women driving by in thier car and im like well i can f you through the car so its pointless to flirt lol. at least im clued in that shes a complete idiot and immature for not taking the time to figure out who was trying to be friends with her. always be direct and blunt, dont waste time reading people and talk to them and never ever ever leave a note or flirt with a neighbor or work partner.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Lenny

      it sounds like you’ve had a bad experience there! It sounds like you’ve walked away from it though:

      - more aware of when a woman is really flirting with you, and when she is just temporarily seeking attention.
      - how peoples actions don’t always match their feelings: these are generally good people to avoid!
      - that there are more direct ways of communication that may be better.

      That doesn’t mean that love, women and relationships are all BS- just learn from this one, go on and improve

      Marni :)

    • LR

      I treat men like they’re objects and I catcall at them.

  • marlon

    does a women tease with guy voice?

  • marlon

    In porn movies we watching girls squirting a liquids from their pussies ,is that pee or another substance? and can girls squirt this big much of this substance?

  • marlon

    which one more teasing for girls ,to get a cock from their asses or their pussies?

  • SMore

    I hate to be a bearer of bad news but not all people are cock teases because of this list, for example: I’m very introverted, I don’t talk about myself (my statures) for guys to say wow that’s awesome. Unless a guy comments to me that I look nice I don’t pay nice comments to him either. For number three if the guy wants to talk about something else other than the moment, he can bring it up, once again I’m not that great of conversationalist but I’m willing to continue the conversation if possible. I don’t let strange men that I just met have my number right away, I rarely give it out because I rarely use it…anything you have to say to me can be sent in an email…those I can delete…or remove you from facebook if you aren’t my type in the long run; can’t do that with a phone number, they will always have it. I’m not going to get a new one just because a guys bothering me. I don’t like being touched right away and what if the girl had bad experiences with guys and touching, like rape? So some of these things could be true but not in all cases.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey SMore,
      Of course everyone is different and you need to take the time to get to know the situation. These are just some general points to keep in mind.
      Marni :)

  • Jack

    Cock tease is playing with HUMAN emotions…video game is playing with machines !

    Don’t compare them and insult are intelligence

    • Matt

      And then they wonder why we hate feminists

  • Very Much True

    first of all, there are so many low life loser women that are out there today. i am a straight man that doesn’t play games by the way, since i would like to meet a good woman that is down to earth, very caring, loving, and understanding. most of the women now want men that have a very large bank account, and expect to be wined and dined constantly.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      The world is full of people that don’t want what’s best for you but I don’t necessarily think women looking for a bank account is a new feature on the market. It shouldn’t be taken as the whole. And believe it or not a lot of ‘good women’ play games too! Dating can be quirky, painful, fun and amazing. People are as varied in themselves as they are on the street. And there is almost always more than meets the eye.
      Marni :)

  • AbsolutelySays

    because they are such losers, and they need to be better educated.

  • Eugene Davis

    I can’t believe I found this site on women who cock tease men for their own pleasure that you for put this online. I have met a lot of women in my life half of the min the Night Club and the other half where I work (not at work). In comparing both types of women the women I met in Night Clubs and dancing with so close all night are more open minded and doesn’t play head games if they wanted me to have sex they would tell me right their and then even though I haven’t asked. Now the women that I met where I work and see every day (where I deliver mail on my Route) they show me that they like me or giving me vibes that they want to do something with me behind closed doors. At first I have played it off it must be the Uniform or maybe they are just playing around aka Cock Teasing me. Later on and I give these ladies my email address & phone number and wait for one of them call or e-mail me,; mind you these are the same ladies smiling and showing me they they like what they see but wont admit it. So days gone by and known of them called or emailed so I confront 2 of them and asked why haven’t you called or emailed me..their response blown me away…they said: I don’t have any time and I have a boyfriend., my response was…It would’ve been nice if you told me this when I gave you my email and phone number…what I should have called them a Cock Teaser instead. Meanwhile I thought that was it. one women who gave only my phone number to had called sometimes text me, she was the best looking women out there but she has a nice body that is all. I felt sorry for her so i became her friend, she on the other had was Cock Teasing from day one and I didn’t notice until I asked her to come over and speed a night with me, she turn it into sexual questioning on what would happen if. and what will happen next then cut me off and say all I think about is sex. I told her that I’m a man and I will always think of sex with a women is it a crime. Last clash with her. she kept pushing me away as I tried to get close to her as I’m texting her, she tell’s me let’s get together another time. later she tells me let’s do this next week…when next week came around, she would say…Oh I can’t come over. Right there and then I gave up on her aka Cock Teaser, I blocked her phone number so she can’t call or text me anymore. If or when I see her while delivering mail at the Business she works at once a week on my route I would bother to look and say hi to her.
    I would rather go to a Night Club and meet a women their and exchange emails & phone numbers at least I’d know if was met to see her again it wont be for Cock teasing. In short why do some (not all) women do that; Cock Tease a man giving him false hope of ever hocking up? I just don’t get it. Now what I do is when a women acts like she’s interested in me I just look back and smile and walk away, no more giving out my email & phone number to later find out they where Cock Teasing me all the time.

  • Eugene Davis

    6 Signs That A Woman Is A Cock Tease…
    1.They are Shallow
    2.They only think of them selves as God’s gift to Earth and you don’t count.
    3.They love playing Head Games
    4.Perfect Drama Queens
    5.Always think they are right all the time (Big Ego Problem)
    6.Low Self Esteem
    psps…keep these types women away from me or they will get bitch slapped

    • LR

      Women are manipulative.

  • Eugene Davis

    Cock Teasers need to seriously “D.S.”…’Dick Slapped”…since they like to cock tease so much.

  • http://www.facebook.com/adam.charles.smith Adam C Smith

    The simple way to get back at women doing that b.s. is to spin a tale of any extremely romantic adventure you could have then walk away.

    • adam smith

      I’m not a cock tease, I get right down to business and suck that thing!

  • bignose

    its basically rape,

  • Mark

    I don’t mind if a woman does that, I enjoy a good flirt myself! :)

  • Omega

    I hate these types of women, I would love to shove there heads in the toilet!

  • Roger Farmer

    they don’t know I would do the same thing I have flirted with women until they asked me out then turned them down so men can do it too they are far and rew between but I have done it as others have too I am sure

  • Very Right

    All of us good guys out there just have to stay away from the Bar Chicks since they’re the Worst.

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