Approach Anxiety: Case Study

Approach anxiety sucks. Point blank!  It sucks because approach anxiety is based on fictional beliefs that we make up in our head that stop us from doing the thing we really want to do and as men are born to do.  APPROACH WOMEN!

Below is a Case Study of a client that I worked with a couple of years ago who, in 1 week, was able to overcome his Approach Anxiety by pushing himself, being proactive and taking risks.  Again, all things that men are born to do.

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Do Women Want Bad Boys? A Female Perspective

I have been digging deeper into the question of Do Women Want Bad Boys and I have been getting tons of responses from men and women.  I got a really interesting response from a woman named Sarah from the UK that I wanted to share with you.

Bad Boys vs. Chemistry

I wish I could say that chemistry is something that is a frequent visitor in my life. It’s not. It has arrived, maybe half a dozen times, and it is becoming more rare as I grow older. Each time the man was highly desired by more than a few women.

The chemistry was always hot, and, fortunately, mutual. It happened within minutes of our meeting or observing each other. And it never went away – on my side, at least. Yet, none of these fledgling ‘relationships’ ever lasted beyond a few days, weeks, or months.

Were they bad boys? As I look back now, I realize none of them were particularly honest, and all of them had a flock of females vying for their affections. These men were hot, and it had to do with their good looks, their smile, and their charisma. They were polished, sophisticated, and charming. It never occurred to me that they were bad, but then I’m not sure what people mean when they say women succumb to bad boys. I most certainly don’t!

If they were bad, I didn’t know it. How would I classify bad? For me, personally, it would mean someone who stole, was violent, broke the law, was perpetually drunk, abused people, and who sported all the other negative behavior patterns there are. But the term could also cover behavior that wasn’t necessarily criminal, so much as socially dysfunctional and deceitful. For instance, would I consider a bad boy a man who simultaneously took out three women at the same time, pretended he was faithful to all of them, and increasingly messed them around by not pitching for dates or letting them down in other ways? Yes, I think I would.

Would I continue to date someone like this if there was no chemistry? The first time it happened would be the last time. Would I continue to date someone like this if there was heavy chemistry involved? Probably – but not for long. Would I continue to find them attractive despite dumping them? I am ashamed to say yes. But get this straight! I did not find them attractive because of their bad behavior! I didn’t know about their bad behavior. I found them attractive as a result of their movie star good looks and their charismatic charm. Men who offend me upfront, regardless of good looks and chemistry, never get past hello.

This post was written by Sarah Lane from UK online dating site WeLoveDates.com. For more of Sarah’s writing please visit the WeLoveDates blog.

Wing Girl Outing

Two-On-One Outing With Your Own Wing Girls

Sit back and relax as your 2 Wing Girls scan the room and pick up women for you.

This is your chance to discover where you are going wrong with women!

Your Wing Girls not only pick up women for you but they also give you first hand, instant feedback on your approach style and attraction level.

“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime.”

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How A Two-on-One Outing Works

One of our Wing Girls will give you a call to find out more about you. Together you will decide on the proper social location and time to meet at for your outing. Marni + 1 Wing Girl will meet you at the social location and for the first 30 minutes you will get to know one another, decide on goals and scan the room for targets! One of your Wing Girls will approach the women you find attractive and bring them to you.  When we notice a connection, we back off and let you complete your mission! If there is no connection we help you excuse yourself and move on to the next target.

The best part is that your Wing Girls are also there to give you tips, tools and feedback on your approach.  We instantly give feedback on your technique and style and make suggestions on how you can tweak to bring higher success with women. I guarantee we can pinpoint where you have been going wrong with your current approaches and we will quickly tell you how to change it!

We promise to give an experience you will remember for the rest of your life.  From your 3 hours with your Wing Girls you will find out EXACTLY how women are perceiving you and where you have been making huge mistakes in the past that have stopped you from getting the women you want.

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What You Get

Your Two-on-One Wing Girl Outing Includes:

• 2o minute consultation with Marni

• 3 hours at a social location with 2 Wing Girls

• 2 Wing Girls to accompany to a social location and pick up women for you

• 2 Wing Girls that validate you to the other women in the room

• Instant feedback on your current technique and style with women

• Tips and tools on how to improve your technique and style with women

• Assessment of your wardrobe

• Introductions to women at your selected social location

• 1 Wing Girl who will break the ice with women so you don’t have to. We do your dirty leg work! Sit back and relax.

• Helping you distinguish who is available and approachable and who is not.

• Direct female feedback

• Access to female opinions and insight. Ask us anything

• Mock pick ups

• 2 Wing Girls who keep the conversation flowing and get rid of any awkward silences.

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Only $895 for 3 hours with 2 Wing Girls.
Guaranteed to change your life forever!

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Hear What Other Men Have Experienced On Their Two-on-One Wing Girl Outings

Michael 45, Client 2009

“I have asked wives of my friends what attracted them to their husbands and not one of them mentioned a physical trait –it was more his passion, ambition, optimism or sense of humor. This is the great message the Wing Girls should put out from sea to shining sea. It is very sad that there  are loads of guys out there who talk themselves  out of approaching women because they think they don’t measure up to some perceived standard. I wish I had a dime for every time a woman told me things like ” I don’t understand it Mike, you are nice looking, well built and intelligent–my mind tells me I should be attracted to you, and yet you just don’t do anything for me” But it took Marni finally to tell me she finds me attractive, but that the dreaded wuss factor kicked in and that is the kiss of death for building attraction. It was working through that issue that finally unplugged the dam for me. Your suggestion that I take women off their pedestals was the best.”

Stewart 23, Client 2008

“Your instruction has been among the most valuable I have had the pleasure of receiving in a long time. As such, I have been able to reach a place where I can move forward under my own power. The experiences I have had with what I have learned has given me some great sometimes downright hilarious stories which I use to both practice storytelling and to get a good laugh out of people.”

How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Get More Women

One of The Wing Girl Method users sent me this article that I think is awesome about positive thinking, tweaking thoughts and the Law Of Attraction!

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ARTICLE BY: Tom Venuto, NSCA-CPT, CSCS, Author, Burn The Fat, Feed The Muscle

On a recent special edition of CNN’s Larry King Live, Mr. King interviewed a panel of “mind experts” about how the thoughts you think literally turn into the events you experience, the material things you possess… AND even the health of your body.

For years, “positive thinking” and goal-setting were often criticized as “pollyanna” and “the law of attraction” was relegated into the category of “new age” fluff

On the recent show, panel experts Bob Proctor, John Assaraf and others who were featured in the movie ‘The Secret’ explained that recent breakthroughs in neuroscience along with understanding mental laws, reveals why goal setting, the “law of attraction” and “positive thinking” all work, regardless of whether you look at them from a metaphysical or a scientific perspective.

Scientists have even identified specific parts of the brain, such as the reticular activating system (RAS), which works with the visual parts of our brain to call our conscious attention to things that are important to reaching our goals and to filter out those things that are unimportant.

The RAS is activated by “programming” goals into our sub-conscious minds. Our sub concscious mind is the “power center” and THIS is the mechanism that explains why goal setting and positive thinking are now being accepted as scientific methods for change.

We are discovering that our brain is cybernetic in nature, which means that it is literally like a computer, waiting for a program to be installed.

Here’s the kicker – the subconcsious is completely neutral and impartial – it will carry out any instructions you give it.

Unfortunately, many of us are still running negative programs we picked up from others as children when our non-conscious minds were totally open and impressionable, or which we developed over the years as a result of repetition of our own negative thinking.

As it turns out, our own thoughts, repeated daily, are one of the primary ways that our “mental computer” is programmed on a sub-conscious level, which is the level of beliefs, habits and automatic behavior.

To change your results, you must overwrite old negative programming and install positive new programming into your subconscious.

This can be achived through such techniques as written goal setting, positive self-talk (affirmations), and mental imagery (visualization).

In the 1970’s, the Soviets and East Germans were the first to formally use structured mental rehearsal, and at that time, they dominated in several olympic sports. Today, virtually all elite athletes use visualization extensively, as we now know that the brain cannot differentiate between real practice and practice that is vividly imagined.

If you are getting more of the same negative results in your life – such as the same health problems, or the same body fat continues to return even after you lose it, then you have probably been un-consciously running old negative programs and re-inforcing them with negative thought patterns.

You can begin the positive mental reprogramming process by writing down your goals, changing your internal dialogue and taking a few minutes to relax, quiet your mind and perform a session of visualization or mental rehearsal every day (seeing yourself in your “mind’s eye” not as you currently are, but as you ideally would like to be).

These methods, repeated often enough, will begin to program the non-conscious portion of the mind, which is the same part of the mind that controls your heart beat, digestion and new cell production, all on “automatic pilot.”

In the last decade, neuroscientists discovered that you have the capacity to create an almost infinite number of new neural connections in your brain when you run new thought patterns.

The Old neural pathways are like grooves in a record, and if you are struggling with your health related behaviors or behaviors in any other area of your life, you have been playing the “old records” over and over again.

If you were to carve a new groove into that record, it would never play the same way again. the old pattern would weaken and the new one would take over. Brand new, positive thoughts, feelings and images begin to create new
neural patterns.

Psychologists estimate that it takes 21 to 30 days to establish a new pattern in your brain. During this time, the focus on sticking with your practice and repeating your new thought patterns is critical.

Is this easy? For most people, no it’s not. In fact, controlling your thinking and keeping it constructive may be one of the most difficult challenges you have ever faced. Fortunately, writing goals and reading affirmations can help get you started.

You can take some of the pressure off yourself by simply accepting that negative thoughts and self criticisms will pop up from time to time. Just observe them, without mulling over them or adding to them, and change the polarity of the thought by quickly repeating one of your positive affirmations or by changing your mental pictures.

So is there something to this whole “positive thinking” thing?

The philosophers and theologians have been saying yes for the entire span of recorded history:  “As you think, so shall you be.” Variations on this proverb can be found in every spiritual and philosophical tradition.

But… if you are the left-brained, “prove-it-to-me” type, you dont have to go on faith anymore. Scientists are beginning to prove more and more convincingly that thoughts are powerful things. Even Larry King seemed impressed with what his panel of “mind mentors” had to say. In fact, I just found out that larry will be airing part two of this “Power of positive thinking” show next week.

So how soon are you going to begin your mental training right alongside your physical training? When are you going to learn how to harness this power locked up inside your mind?

Guess what? You’re already using this force every day because you cannot turn it off. Whatever you are thinking and picturing in your mind repeatedly on a daily basis is on it’s way to you already, so it’s simply a matter of HOW you are using it, not IF you are using it.

What do you say to yourself every day? Do you say, “I am becoming leaner, healthier and more muscular every day?”… or do you say “I am a fat person – Ive tried everything, nothing ever works?”

The fact is – you can think yourself thin and healthy or you can think yourself obese and ill. Maybe not in the literal sense…but most certainly as the critical part in the chain of causation…

You see, there’s a lot of talk these days in the personal improvement world about law of attraction, manifesting, intention, visualization and of course, positive thinking

Without understanding that there is an orderly, scientific basis underneath all of this, many people will simply remain skeptics, while on the opposite extreme, others may get the idea that you can sit around meditating and visualizing, then expect a mystical “law of attraction” to kick in and then “poof!” a great body materializes out of thin air… along with the perfect relationship, a nice bank account and career success.

What really happens is “Positive thinking” and related methods quite literally re-program your brain, which in turn creates new behaviors that move you physically toward whatever you have been thinking about and focusing on.

So success is achieved through positive thinking + positive doing… attraction + action. There are two sides to the coin. Without paying attention to both, you may continue to struggle… often against nothing but yourself.

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I loved this article mainly because it really speaks to what I believe and what I teach others to understand.  It really is all in your control.  All that is required of you is to use your strength to think positively and change your story, rather than speak negatively.  It takes work but it can be done!

Positive thinking leads to positive outcomes. Meaning positive thinking leads to greater success with women. I guarantee.

If you want a helpful push from me to jump start your positive thinking check out How To Become The Man Women Want.  The only program that gives you the exact steps you need to create positive outcomes with women by building up the positives in you.  Check it out: http://www.winggirlmethod.com/products/become-the-man-women-want/

How To Please A Woman Sexually

You want to know how to please a woman sexually?  It’s something only a woman can tell you.

I sit down with my friend Jason Lane to discuss attraction, how to get physical and how men can really please a woman sexually.

Want to learn more techniques on how to please a woman sexually? Click Here

Do Bad Boy Jerks Really Get The Girl?

There are still so many men out there that believe women want to be with the Bad Boy.  I am here to tell you that this statement is entirely false.

WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO BE WITH THE BAD BOY!!!!!!!  They want to be with a good man who does possess some of the qualities the bad boy pretends to have.

Just to be clear when I use the term bad boy I mean a guy who is mysterious, is not reliable, a player, a jerk, secretly insecure, has no respect for anyone but himself and manipulates and uses women.  I want to be sure we are on the same page.

I wanted to share a small outtake from the audio interview I did with Carlos Xuma from Dating Dynamics. The interview is part of his new program called “The Bad Boy Formula” which teaches men how to be strong and respect themselves WITHOUT being a BAD BOY JERK.  A program, as you know, I am full support of.

Listen and let me know what you think.

To check out the full Bad Boy Formula and listen to the full hour interview plus hours more of audio and video content click here!

The Insiders Style Assessment

Style Assessment With The Wing Girls

3 of my most stylish and fashion forward Wing Girls, Ellen, Jen and Nicki,  want to assess your current style and make sure it’s working for you.

Women do not value looks the same way that men do BUT when you feel better about your overall look you increase your confidence especially with women.  Putting your best self forward always increases your chances for success.

A hair cut, a shave, a few minor adjustments to the wardrobe. All of these things can give you a quick confidence boost, improve your look and increase your success with women.

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How Does It Work?

It’s Simple!

What You Need To Do:

1. Place an order for your order using the order form at the bottom of this page

2. Send in 3-5 CURRENT pictures of yourself (make sure to include at least 1 full body shot)

3. If possible send us a 2 minute video/audio of you talking about yourself. This is meant for us to properly assess your character and the way you hold yourself.

Within 72 hours our team of Wing Girls will assess your style and give you feedback, suggestions and a full write up on how you present yourself to women. We will instruct you on how to make minor tweaks that will boost your confidence and increase your success with women.

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Customer Reviews & Testimonials

Success Story #1

Marni has the uncanny knack to diagnose, articulate, and treat whatever is ailing a guy’s love life. And her prescriptions are right on the money. I had always had trouble attracting women and had begged my female friends to tell me what I was doing wrong. My inquiries were usually met with a brusque response like “I don’t know Mike, you are quite attractive”, and I somehow felt they were evading the question to preserve my feelings.

Marni has no such pretensions because she wants guys to genuinely succeed with quality women. Her analysis of your looks, body language, and clothing style takes into account not only her own gut feelings but those of the hundreds of women she has interviewed. And her advice is objective, honest, and frequently delivered with an irrepressible sense of humor. As a bachelor I had developed the most deplorable taste in clothing and within seconds of meeting me Marni with great wit  and not mincing words pointed out many of my fashion “mistakes”—in the process suggesting articles of clothing that would enhance my physical qualities. Following her advice I “re-engineered” my wardrobe and immediately received compliments from gorgeous women on how much nicer and sexier I looked. Needless to say my dating life improved dramatically and I no longer “punch an empty dance card” on Saturday night. As single men I think we can all agree that the competition for the attractive, intelligent, and emotionally healthy women has been and always will be very stiff. Marni’s advice is the greatest resource any guy can utilize to increase his chances of ending up in the winner’s circle of romance
- Mike, 46

Success Story #2

Thanks Marni and girls,

I love your assessment.  You’re basically right on target based on looking only at the pictures.

Nicki is right about the soft and non aggressive (just friends type).  I wish I knew how to be different or sexy.  I tend to attract people that don’t know me.  They’ll want to hook up but then I’ll do something down the line that will lose their interest (ie. 3 months down the line).

I think you guys provide a very valuable service.  I never realized what girls thought about the external part of me.  It makes me a little more confident.  I know I need some work on the internal.  Being in a position of authority makes you a little more attractive but I don’t want girls to like me only because I have a good job or because I make good money.
- Stan, 38

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Get A Wing Girl – WGM In The Huffington Post

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How To Have Real Confidence

As you know, The Wing Girl Method believes that for a man to be truly attractive to women he has to have real confidence! But what exactly does that mean?

Well for me, as a woman, I think that a man has real confidence when he presents himself in a comfortable manner. Meaning he is just fine with who he is and proud to show it off.  He realizes that he is a top of line model, the MVP of the team, the brightest star in the sky BUT he doesn’t feel the need to tell me about it. He just knows it.  That is confidence that women want! The real confidence.

Lyle, one of my newest clients, has been working with  me for just a little over a month.  In the beginning he did not understand how to have real confidence and then he watched one of The Wing Girl Method programs How To Become The Man Women Want and it just clicked for him.  As a thank you to me, he  sent me an email that explains the type of confidence I have been speaking about.

Read Lyle’s definition of real confidence men must have to attract all women:

Confidence is a funny old thing. You think you have enough of it to take that next step, and all of a sudden the wrong glance in a mirror, a flashed look by that girl, a comment by some girls douche bag boyfriend, and it all comes tumbling down. Its like that game of trust you play as a kid: “fall backwards and I’ll catch you”. If you let that person drop, after they’ve recovered from their concussion and tried to kill you, see how willing they are to play that game again. In much the same way, confidence is playing a game of trust with yourself. Trust me I’ve had a whole bunch of concussions. The only difference is when you ask yourself to play again you forget about the last time, suck it up and know that this time you’ll be caught.

Now I know it sounds rather contradictory to give yourself a concussion and then like a naive little puppy start chasing the semi-trailer wheels down the road into what will only end as disaster, but the key to all of this is in your head.  Confidence comes from peace of mind, and how do you achieve peace of mind? By not worrying, thinking positively and always feeling good about where you’re going.

Now don’t get this confused like that hippy guy over there is; “heeeey man, you gotta think positively, it makes the world go round, yeeeeeeeaaay”, that’s bullshit. He’s probably taken too much acid, and hey, good for him.  The positivity I’m talking about is in your thoughts, nobody has to see it, nobody can judge it, it’s your own.

That’s an excellent point right there. Your thoughts are, and allow me to be fairly general here, the only private thing you may have. Nobody else gets to hear whats going on in there but you. If you start with positive thoughts, it emulates through your everyday movements and you start to exude what people call confidence. Your smiling at things, your laughing to yourself, people will hate you “who is this happy jerk, what an arse hole”, and you’ll make a funny joke with them because your feeling content and probably make that persons day. It’s amazing how far a bit of positivity goes.

Depending on how you feel about yourself relates to the general aura that you let off. If you are relaxed in yourself, people don’t notice things. For example, my palms are ridiculously sweaty, like I’m talking, the cracks in my hands sometimes make the Nile river look like a stream. When I was younger I hated it, I was so embarrassed about it I wouldn’t shake peoples hands, or at best avoid them at all costs. Then recently, I figured that probably 9 out of 10 people wouldn’t have noticed if I wasn’t so uncomfortable with it. So every time I’d be in that situation, I’d think to myself and really emphasize “stop being a dick, nobody even notices that your hands are sweaty, move on”.

Now you’d probably expect me to tell you that this worked. Well, it did, but it has taken some time. Because it wasn’t just hand shakes that were affected. Think about all of the things you can do with your hands. For example, I’d dread haven’t to stand up in a crowded bus because the sweat from my hands would drip down the pole. Getting busy with the ladies was also sometimes a little awkward for me, but I adapted, I made do.

Again, I think that one of the first steps to becoming more confident and having real confidence is realizing that 99% of people won’t or don’t notice the things you are most insecure about. And for that 1%, either who gives a damn, or get creative. If I’m having a bad “hand” day, and I know a sweaty shake is imminent, I keep a clean piece of cotton available to wipe my hand or a cold drink in my hand and blame the condensation. Its not perfect but neither am I. Nobody is. And if you think I’m the only one with insecurities and hang ups! Your crazy! There isn’t a person on the planet who isn’t feeling a little insecure, or a little unhappy about something.

Thank you Marni for all your help in making me realize that I can have real confidence.

Lyle

Bad Boy vs. Nice Guy

Do Women Want To Be With The Bad Boy or The Nice Guy?

Contrary to popular belief women DO NOT want to be with the Bad Boy. They want the Nice Guy. I know you are probably cringing right now because everything you have learned up until now has provided evidence that makes you believe the opposite.

So again I am going to tell you, women DO NOT want to be with the Bad Boy. They want to be with the Nice Guy.

Listen to the audio below. It tells you how I know this to be true, why it’s true and how you can use this information to get any woman you want!

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