Best Place To Meet Women & Why Tinder Sucks

I had a really interesting experience the other day where I got to see a first encounter that built into deep attraction in just a few hours.

Here’s what happened…

I typically don’t take time off for holidays…Not because I am a workaholic…But simply because I’m not even aware there is a holiday…  Anyone that runs their own company can understand and attest to this.

My friend Matt was in town from Austin and staying with us.  He’s a chatter box, so it’s easy to get distracted and get into deep and interesting conversations.

So once I got the big chunk of my “need to get done” work out of the way, I got into a few of these conversations with Matt and dove into holiday mode.

About an hour into the conversation my awesome and beautiful friend Kelsey came over.

I instantly thought to myself “they are going to like each other”.  AND I was right!

8 HOURS LATER Kelsey was still over and hanging out with us.  Kelsey never hangs out with me for 8 hours, ha.

The point of this email isn’t to tell you about these 2 people that connected… even though they totally did… the point it to tell you something very interesting that I realized.

Now I know that Kelsey has been using online apps like tinder and hinge to meet people, with little success over the past year.

I know for a FACT that if Kelsey saw Matt on one of these apps, she would almost certainly have swiped left. Left is a NO just in case you don’t use these apps.

She would have never found him attractive. Nor would she have gone on a date with him.

Why?  Because he doesn’t look like a guy that I know she expects to be with. In her mind he’s not her type but in reality he was.

I don’t know if yesterday was the start of an amazing relationship but it was a sign that what we THINK we want may not actually be whats good for us…. And online dishes out a ton of “what we think we want” options, instead of what may be good for us.

Not saying online or apps suck and you should not use them.

I’m simply saying that in person introductions and meetings are still the #1 way to meet others that will ultimately be good matches for you.

My advice….

Do both!  Online should never be the only way that you meet others.  I know our worlds busy and online just seems easier.   But there is something to be said for real life, in person interactions.

There is always time to lift your head and see what’s around you 😉

Just some food for thought!

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  • John Young

    I wish I could use personal introductions, but I can’t. All of my friends are married, and none of them know any women my age that are single. And the few times that someone has introduced me to someone, she turns out to be 250-300 lbs. (not to be shallow, but I’m not into that. There are plenty of guys who are.)
    In the area where I live, you can’t meet women any place except online (because the fairly attractive one are ALWAYS taken), and usually online is filled with nothing but “zombie profiles”. (Very old profiles of women who are now taken, but they never deleted their profile.)
    Basically, in a nutshell, there is no place to meet women, because all women my age are taken.

    • temich1985 .

      There are plenty of desperate single moms around lol but I feel ya pain. The older u get the more pickier we become and yet we just get uglier with age. Maybe import one from the third world or something where there is no abundance of food, that way they will be under 200 lbs

    • Rob Farrell

      In my opinion. Don’t waste your time with american women if your looking for a girlfriend or wife. American women are to busy trying to be like men to be good women.And as you have seen most are not attractive unless your drunk out of your mind. Look in other countries. Being an American man you are in high demand in other countries. As well as being able to find ladies younger and attractive that are interested in you.

      • Jaded satyr

        Well, I don’t think that you should give up completely on American women, but you have to size up the group that you have available to chose from. Let’s look at a hypothetical group of 12 women:
        2 drink WAY too much.
        1 has a substance abuse problem.
        2 are as big as a houseboat.
        2 are certifiably crazy.
        1 has a house full of kids (3 or more).
        2 are physically unattractive.
        2 have enough positives to be keepers.
        That gives you a pool of about 15 to 20
        percent to choose from. If you mark off the obese and unattractive ones, that removes 1/3rd of the group. Then you have to sort through the drunks, druggies, crazies and baby mill mama’s. Being generous with the percent that may be of interest, you’re now competing with the rest of the available guys for about 1 out of 5 available women. The odds are better in Vegas.

        • Rob Farrell

          Actually 50-60% of women are overweight. So half are out already. And only about 10% of the remainder are even average attractive. Then add all the other negatives and your almost in the 0% . But knowing this just don’t waste your time looking in the U.S. There is a whole world out there. Travel. But don’t marry some young girl from south america and bring her to the U.S. Because you will be paying for everything.She will push out a kid.That you will pay for the next 20 years. Then she will find a younger guy to screw.