Do Bad Boy Jerks Really Get The Girl?

There are still so many men out there that believe women want to be with the Bad Boy.  I am here to tell you that this statement is entirely false.

WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO BE WITH THE BAD BOY!!!!!!!  They want to be with a good man who does possess some of the qualities the bad boy pretends to have.

Just to be clear when I use the term bad boy I mean a guy who is mysterious, is not reliable, a player, a jerk, secretly insecure, has no respect for anyone but himself and manipulates and uses women.  I want to be sure we are on the same page.

I wanted to share a small outtake from the audio interview I did with Carlos Xuma from Dating Dynamics. The interview is part of his new program called “The Bad Boy Formula” which teaches men how to be strong and respect themselves WITHOUT being a BAD BOY JERK.  A program, as you know, I am full support of.

Listen and let me know what you think.

To check out the full Bad Boy Formula and listen to the full hour interview plus hours more of audio and video content click here!

26 Top PUA’s (Pick Up Artist) In One Room – Summit Wrap Up #3

So what did you think of Nick Quick? I am actually very curious. As I said I have very mixed feelings about his materials and message but really like him as a person.

If you did not get a chance to check out Nick Quick materials on Same Night Lays then use the link below:

http://nickquicksamenightlays.com

I am very interested in hearing what you think.

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As you know The Wing Girl Method is the leading Female Run PUA company in the world but there have been many other amazing women that are popping up all over to also offer their advice, opinions and assistance.

At the PUA Summit, I had the pleasure of meeting Erika Awakening . Erika was also part of the New Blood Panel and definitely gave the audience a different way of looking at the world of Pick Up.

Erika is a specialist (Emotional Freedom Techniques) which is an emotional, needle free version of acupuncture that is based on new discoveries regarding the connection between the body’s subtle energies, your emotions, and your health.

She uses this technique to assist men with adjusting their limiting beliefs about themselves.

So if you have a limiting belief that you are not good enough, or that you will be rejected, or you are too short, too bald, too fat etc… It will help you adjust this belief so that you can think about it positively.

It is basically tapping yourself on points in your body, specific points, and saying things while tapping.

When I first heard about this I laughed probably due to discomfort from hearing a simple tap could adjust the way I feel about myself. But then I had an experience at the PUA Summit where another speaker, whose name I will not mention, drained the positive energy right out of me.

I considered this person to be an energy drainer. A negative person who feels uncomfortable within himself and to balance the discomfort puts others down.

I told Erika about this and she had a very similar experience with this person and showed me some tapping to help get me back to my positive space.

Basically what she told me to do what take the points of my 3 middle fingers (no thumb or pinky) on my right hand and tap the exterior of the base of my hand.

She told me to say out loud while I tapped “I will not let someone else drain my energy. I am proud of myself and my ability to help others. I am a good person and will not let anyone effect me.”

I instantly starting giggling and feeling all of my energy and confidence come racing back into me. It was crazy. I loved it and have been using it ever since the PUA Summit. Every time my body has the same response. A bubbling of energy and I giggle! Felt like jumping on a trampoline.

I thought this was awesome and definitely something to assist you. It’s a constant reminder to your body and mind to be proud of who you are.

Erika also has a blog with some great material! I would definitely recommend checking her information out.

If you do decide to reach out to Erika and work with her, tell her that I sent you and she will give you a special Wing Girl Method package that is exclusive to my members list.

You can check her out by clicking the link below:

http://www.spiritualseduction.com/coaching

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Enjoy!

Marni

26 Top PUA’s (Pick Up Artist) In One Room – Summit Wrap Up #1

It has been just over a week since the 2009 PUA Summit! I was hoping to give you an instant wrap up on the event but I have been sick. Just a cold so no need to worry but I have been totally drained but now I am back to feeling good and ready to report!

Online Dating Guide: 14 Dos and Dont’s of that First Crucial Email

Don’t you just love modern day technology. So many ways to connect and meet women but also so many ways to screw up in a matter of seconds.

To help combat these issues, I have put together a quick list of do’s and don’ts for online dating. These rules can also be tweaked to applied to other areas like emailing and texting.

Print these rules out and put them by computer and read them every time before you engage in online dating!!!

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Online Dating Guide: 14 Dos and Don’ts of that First Crucial Email

Online dating often feels like its own world. Real winks are replaced with virtual ones, and chemistry is guessed at through pictures and profiles. But the biggest difference between online dating and meeting someone in the real world is how much words count, specifically, written words.

A lot of men fail when it comes to online dating because they don’t give good email

Yes, it’s that important. In a virtual dating word, your written words are you. It’s not only important what you write, but how you write it.

DON’T wink. Yeah, yeah, it’s a nice little tool that helps you figure out if someone is interested in you or not, but what it really says to a woman is “I’m too shy to actually talk to you.” And while shy can seem endearing, most women doing online dating have a ton of men contacting them, especially if they are someone worth contacting. You winking at her isn’t going to stand out as much as a well written introductory email.

DO keep it light. Funny is sexy! While writing a joke is harder than telling one, any bit of humor you can put in your email is a good way to show off your personality. And women like men who make them laugh.

DON’T use IM/text speak. I will tell you right now that I delete anyone who contacts me with “How R U doing 2day?”If you can’t take the time to actually spell out your words, you’re just not worth mine. Women want men who can hold actual conversations, and writing like you only have 140 characters isn’t the way to convince them of that.

DO keep it short. Too long of an email tends to give a bit of the creepy vibe, and no woman wants to read a novel about why you decided to write to her: “we have this in common, and this in common, and I think you’d really like my mom!” But while short is good, too short can also be an issue if there is nothing for her to respond to. Aim for around three lines, minimum, but no longer than a couple of short paragraphs.

DON’T forget to spell check and edit your email. If the online dating program you have use doesn’t have a built in spell check program, write the email in Word or the equivalent and copy and paste it into the body of the email. Appearance counts, and just like you wouldn’t try to pick up a woman in a bar wearing sweats and a dirty t-shirt, you shouldn’t try to pick up a woman online half-assed either.

DO read her profile and make a comment about something you read. This comment shouldn’t be “I can’t live without sex either, so why don’t we get together and save each other’s lives?” It should be more like “I really like hiking too. What are your favorite spots?”

DON’T give out your contact information right away. Any guy who sends his phone number or even AIM or other messenger services contact information to me in a first email I automatically label as a “player”, someone not interested in any sort of long term relationship. It’s sort of like walking up to a woman and handing her your card first and then trying to have a conversation with her after. It might work in a business setting, but not in a romantic encounter.

DO ask at least one question, preferably about something you read in her profile. This proves you actually read her profile and didn’t just check out her picture, and that, again, you’re capable of having a conversation. However, first rule dates apply to first emails as well, and this question shouldn’t delve into heavy topics like past relationships or the reason why she’s doing online dating. But by asking a question you give her something to respond to should she decide to write back to you.

DON’T start talking about sex right away or compliment her in a sexual manner. Women like compliments, but “you’re very pretty” is different than “I can totally see myself having sex with you.” Also stay away from complimenting particular body parts that are not eyes or smiles.

DO sign off with your actual name. The screen names are entertaining and all, but signing off as “drlovegod137” isn’t going to personalize you to the woman you’re contacting as much as “Jim.” Remember, you want to get her thinking of you as a person and not just a profile.

DON’T come on too strong or immediately suggest getting together for coffee or a drink. Women like to be wooed, and that’s a two-email minimum of you asking questions about herself and answering questions about yourself, slowly establishing that preliminary trust that will make her feel comfortable meeting with you. However…

DO communicate clearly. Ambiguity is not your friend in email, where it’s hard enough to read someone’s tone as it is. If you’re making a movie reference or a joke, make sure she can tell that’s what it is and not a really bad pick up line, especially if the joke is in reference to something in her profile. You might think you’re being clever, but she might not remember that she talked about the Simpsons, so why are you talking about the windmill in a mini golf course?

DON’T wait longer than a few weeks of email exchanges to ask a woman to meet you. The point of online dating to is get offline and actually meet to see if the chemistry is there before getting too invested. I’m perfectly fine with a man suggesting a meet up after about two or three email exchanges, depending on how much we actually talk about it those emails.

DO follow up. Now, assuming you’ve done your job and paid attention to her profile, writing a well formed email with proper spelling and grammar, at least one attempt at humor and one question, it’s up to her to decide if, and when, she writes you back. If she does, the follow up email should follow the same advice as the first with the exception that it’s allowed to be a little longer—a little longer. This is not your opportunity to write a thesis paper on why Kobe is the best basketball player ever or how the iPhone has changed your life. This is where you answer any questions she asked, and then ask her a few more of your own. A good rule of thumb on email length is to respond about the same length she’s written to you—mirroring behavior works, even with emails.

Remember, your email is supposed to show the woman in question that you’re good at communicating. Think about how many fights between men and women are about a lack of communication—you don’t want that to be you. Giving good email is the best way to get to that first date, but after that first date remember that nothing speaks as loud…as your own voice. Picking up the phone is always a good idea.

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Too Much Outer Game Can Ruin Chances With Women

I am constantly getting emails from men around the world asking for advice on women. I thought I would share one of these emails with you because I think it is something you can learn from.

This email was written by a 26 year old man in London. He totally has his outer game down pat and his actions should be able to get him most women he wants. Pay attention to the negs he uses, because these are lines you may want to incorporate into your routine.

The one thing he does not have down is how to transition from outer game to a more substantial “connecting” with the girl he’s persuing. Without this connecting, your outer game will be wasted.

If you cannot transition from being the entertainer to being the man, then you will never truly be successful with women. Below is his email to the Wing Girls, and my response follows.

Dear Wing Girls,

It was a singles’ social boat cruise, and the following are the events that happened with one of the cuties I am really interested in. Need some opinion how to pick up the momentum.

Thursday Night: It was a singles’ social event, and I was moving around groups of women, busting on them and teasing some. This particular cutie that caught my eye I approached by grabbing her by her arm and telling follow me. She came along willingly.

Me: Why were you avoiding me all night?
Her: I was not, you were busy running around with other girls.
Me: Wait, are you single?
Her: Yes, of course
Me: You better be, otherwise I have to kick you off the boat!
Her :
Me: Are you a Good girl or a Nice girl?
Her: Naughty but nice.
Me: Do you speak English?
Her: Yes.
Me: Choose one then…good or nice?
Her: Nice I guess?
Me. Do you know the difference?
Her: You tell me.
Me: Good Girl goes out, comes home and sleeps, a Nice Girl goes out,
sleeps and comes home.
Her:
Me: Do you know the difference between a Good Secretary and a Nice Secretary?
Her: No, go ahead.
Me: Good Secretary will say, “Good morning, Sir,” and a Nice Secretary
will say, “It’s morning, Sir.”
Her:

Then we have a chat about where she is staying, her ethnic mix, and places
she has traveled. She turns out to be Singaporean and British. Then I say,
“I bet you suck at Thumb-wrestling!”

Her: Bring it on.
Me: I do not play without a wager.
Her: What is the wager?
Me: Loser buys dinner.
Her: OK
Me: No Cheating! Best out of 3, GO!

We wrestle, and it’s 1 – 1. Last round…I start to tickle her and wrestle/hug her. It’s good fun with some tension. I lose on purpose cuz I tickled her. I say ok, give me your number and we’ll set something up. We part.

The next hour, we exchange glances and I throw a few “I’m watching you” and “Stay out of trouble” lines at her, at which she giggles (most probably from a nice dosage of alcohol consumption.)

Friday: Cool off

Saturday: Message her to check if she got home alive and ask for her email address. She replies ok and gives me her email address.

Sunday Morning: Call and leave a message. She calls back and we have a chat about setting a date, but we both have commitments. She mentions briefly to touch base next weekend if we can do something together. I say, “Ok, we’ll see.”

I then ask her what is she up to? It’s almost noon, and why is she lazing like a pig? She giggle and says she has plans with some friends to watch Sex and the City.

Me: So which character best describes you?
Her: I dunno, what do you think?
Me: I think you are a Samantha in Charlotte disguise.
Her: Noooooo, No one likes to be her, its not nice.
Me: Are you judging her? You are even more evil.
Her: Nooo hahah etc.
Me: I gotta go, got training, will call and catch up.

I text her later telling her I had to cut her short cuz I was dealing with London traffic. TOURIST. Will call at night to catch up and have some stimulating conversations. End with Charlotte and a wink.

Called her at 22:30, went to her voice mail, I say, “Ahh, playing hard to get? Cheeky! Holla back!” Not heard from her since.

Tuesday 11PM, sent her a funny text: “It’s important to find a man who has money, a man who adores you, a man who is great in the sack. It’s also important that these 3 men should never meet! How are you doing?” Did not receive any reply.

Any opinion as to how I can pick my game up again?

I will share my response a little later, but I wanted to use this email to show you an example of how many men can get carried away with too much outer game. So carried away that they lose the girl.

Listen, I am the first one to admit I LOVE THE GAME!! I love the banter, the butterflies, the negging, all of it. It is fun, but only for a night, maybe two tops. After that, I need something a little more substantial.

When I met Mystery at David DeAngelo’s seminar, where we were both speaking, I can honestly say he captivated me.

He was able to pull me away from a crowd of people, talk with me for two hours, and keep me completely focused on him. I understand how his game works, and it worked on me.

It worked on me because it was fun and exciting and it challenged me. I did not feel madly in love with him, nor did I think we had a great connection, but I had an urge for him to like me, respect me and want me. But once we had separated, I did not think of him again.

His magic only worked for a short period of time because I had nothing real to latch onto so that I could feel connected. I was simply entertained.

I have many clients that have done several PUA programs. These men have no problems engaging and approaching women, but after that they are helpless. They do not know how to have real conversations, nor do they listen to women. Basically they have learned to tap dance for women, and once the dance is over the women leave.

I am a big fan of programs like Mystery’s because he teaches men to be comfortable in their own skins. He shows them they can be that guy they have always wanted to be. They are worthy and deserving of everything that others have. I would recommend his material to any one of my clients.

But… where his program falls short is that it does not teach men what to do next. It is hard to keep up banter. It gets exhausting.

I am going to give you a straight and honest female perspective.

As a man, you have to give women a little more than just a moment of entertainment. If your goal is to get a woman to sleep with you for an evening, then outer game works great! Routines, magic tricks, anything that captures your audience and gets them excited will work perfectly.

But if you are looking to be with a woman for a longer period of time you will never succeed without showing a bit more substance. This is what makes connecting with her possible, and without that, your outer game is useless.

Here is how I responded to the email above.

What I noticed from your email is that you need to STOP playing a game. Games like this are good in the moment. They are fun and entertaining and get a girl’s heart racing, but once this moment or period in time has passed, reality sets in and girls realize what this behavior really means. It means player, games, and sex with no phone call the next day.

Again, if you want to sleep with women, great tactic, but you need to move fast or the euphoric feeling will disappear. If your goal is to date and have relationships, then you are totally using the wrong approach.

Not sure what you were trying to accomplish. The routine you have described will totally get a girl back to your room if you take the right steps to lead her there. Seeing that you took your time makes me think you were looking for something more.

One other key thing I noticed was the Sex and the City joke. First, very impressed you knew the characters. Second, no woman wants to be referred to as a Samantha by a man who is trying to sleep with her. It makes her feel slutty and used. It also makes her think that there is only one thing on that man’s mind, and that makes her feel dirty. Women want to be in control of their own sexuality and know that they are being respected.

Do not pigeon hole women by telling them who they are. Let them tell you who they are. You will get way more out a woman that way. To save yourself from this comment, it would have been smart to send her better text that had more heart attached to it, more of the “real” you. I think you would have gotten a response.

What I try to teach to all of my clients is that balance is so important. Outer game is fun and exciting, and most women, especially the great ones, will engage in it. But every outer game needs to have some substance behind it. It’s all about connecting, because once you run out of outer game, you need to make sure you have something left.

Thank you for contacting The Wing Girl Method.

I will show you how important it is to have balance in the way you present yourself to women. Outer game is fun, exciting and most women, especially the great ones, will engage in it. But behind every show of outer game needs to be something of substance. Something a woman can hold onto that makes her feel that there is more to “this” male than games, banter and playfulness.

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Am I Into This Girl?

As a follow up to my last post “Why Do Women Give Out Their Phone Number and Not Answer?” I wanted to talk about a huge issue that I hear from my clients all time.

The issue is that a lot of my clients (men) are so focused on whether or not a woman likes them, that they forget to ask themselves

“Am I into this girl?”

This is one of the most important questions you can ever ask yourself because it will stop you from getting all wrapped up in “the game” and keep you focused on reality.

The next time that you go and approach a random girl I want you to focus on her rather than yourself.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Do I find her interesting?

2. Is she engaging me?

3. Do I like her?

4. Am I attracted to her?

Remember, this whole process of meeting people and approaching them is about finding someone who is right for you.

Not about making everyone like you.

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Too Much Outer Game =’s BAD NEWS

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This article is about one of my clients that was obsessed with outer game.

Obsessed to the point where he found himself constantly losing women.

Don’t get me wrong, I love outer game. It is fun, engaging and easy. Usually when I am out for a night and I interact with a guy, we banter, I do my dance for him, he does his dance for me and it is fun. FOR ONE NIGHT, maybe 2 if I am in the mood.  But then it becomes exhausting.  BORING, UNATTRACTIVE and NOT SEXY AT ALL.

After 1 or 2 times with a guy, I want something real, something I can latch onto or at least feel like I could latch onto.  What I am referring to is substance.

Women want to connect to man they feel has substance.  Has more going on than some quick lines of banter and entertainment.

If a man is all about outer game he is basically equivalent a magician.

A magician is there to entertain for the evening then disappear from your life but will continue to do his show night after night after night.

One of WGM’s most recent insider members, recently read an article I wrote about too much out game equally bad news.  In this article I go through a case study of one of my clients who was obsessed with outer game.  In fact he was so obsessed with outer game that he totally forgot to focus on any inner game.

He first wrote to me confused by the fact that he was not getting girls to answer his calls past the second date.  Obviously you can take a gander at what my response was.

So after a few emails back and forth, a lot of female insight and much more openness from his end, he finally got it and wrote me this email:

“This is so real. I’ve lost so many women due to over gaming. and really, i think it was really out of fear. Fear that if I didn’t have her utterly captivated and laughing and if i wasn’t escalating sexually that i would lose her.

It’s funny (and a bit tragic) that when i learned these things – i became so enamored with the tools that i lost touch with my own body, my own feeling of things. and when I’d rewind i could notice that “hmm. . . that interaction felt off . . . i pushed too hard . . . i missed the transition point . . . i came across as eager and try hard.”painful to see but good to learn.

I love the banter and the flirting too. and i find it’s good to pepper it into interactions as a spice but not the whole meal. i really am loving your stuff. Pretty shocked that after only a few emails back and forth my whole mindset totally shifted. thanks so much for doing it. “

Routines can work. In fact, I totally endorse using routines and lines AT FIRST.  But treat them as training wheels.  They can help you overcome approach anxiety and show you how to structure conversation. But they can’t keep a person engaged for longer than an evening.  That skill has to come from within you.

It is so important to have a balance of inner game and outer game. When you are truly balanced you will see it is not a game at all but YOU. A confident, self assured, whole YOU.

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What Do I Talk To Women About?

What do I talk to women about?

ANYTHING

There is no wrong conversation to have with a woman. Well maybe except how you are a big fan of XXX rated porn. But even that, with the right woman, may be a perfectly normal conversation.

The thing is that you must stop thinking about what SHE wants to talk about. Think about what you want to talk about and go from there.  Throughout your life you have had many conversations before right? In fact I am sure most of them have been very successful and even easy!  That means you already have the skills you are just freaking out because you THINK that conversation with women needs to be different. It doesn’t!

The only thing you need to be careful of is that you are present in the conversation.  That means that you are listening, engaging and present.  Not off in never never land, fixating on whether or not she is into you.

To warm up your conversation tools, I have a mini assignment for you.

I want you to write down 10 questions which can be anything from “So are you from around here?” to “What was your favorite toy when you were a child?”. Up to you.  Then go PRACTICE these questions.  Practice at home in front of the mirror, in public with live human beings and on real women.  The more you practice and use your conversation tool the easier conversation will come to you.  The more you do it the more natural it will feel and the more automatic it will become.

To help others, post some of your questions. This way you can get feedback and also help others who may not be able to come up with questions.

Remember, these questions have to work for you.

Should Men Buy Women Drinks?

Should you buy a woman a drink? Depends.

First ask yourself a few questions:

Are you buying this drink to be a gentleman?

Are you buying this drink cause it’s polite?

Are you buying this drink so that she won’t run away?

Are you buying this drink so she’ll like you?

If you answered YES to any of these questions then DO NOT BUY HER A DRINK.

I think it is really important to acknowledge when you are doing things for other people and when you are doing things for yourself. Women are attracted to men who do things for themselves.

This does not mean they like selfish men but women like men who are confident enough not to be lead by what others think or want. Not swayed by trying to please others.

So next time you think to offer a drink to women think about why you are doing it. If you are buying it because you want to and you have no “REASON” behind buying the drink then buy it.

If however you feel that buying a drink will automatically lead you somewhere with a women than 9 times out of 10 you will be sadly be disappointed.

Let me know what you think.

How To Dress: A Woman’s View On “Peacocking”

Marni gives her opinion on Peacocking. For those of you who don’t know what “Peacocking” is, it is the action of dressing to stand out, or to have an item of clothing or an accessory that looks interesting, allowing the girl to comment on it if she is interested in starting a conversation with you.

As a woman I know what women see and lately all I see is men wearing boa’s and tall hats to impress a woman. A man does need to go this far to impress a woman.

If you are a man who naturally, on his own, would choose to wear a certain type of clothing, then continue wearing this clothing.

If, however, you are forcing a certain style to attract women then it will never work for you.

As I have said many times before, WOMEN CAN SMELL WHEN YOU ARE FAKING IT!

Instead of wearing a dress with red sparkles, go out and buy that one article of clothing that you have had your eye. You know what I am talking about. That one piece of clothing that you would like to wear but fear you can’t pull off.

Go buy it!

Listen to the audio below and let me know your thoughts and questions.

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