Do Bad Boy Jerks Really Get The Girl?

There are still so many men out there that believe women want to be with the Bad Boy.  I am here to tell you that this statement is entirely false.

WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO BE WITH THE BAD BOY!!!!!!!  They want to be with a good man who does possess some of the qualities the bad boy pretends to have.

Just to be clear when I use the term bad boy I mean a guy who is mysterious, is not reliable, a player, a jerk, secretly insecure, has no respect for anyone but himself and manipulates and uses women.  I want to be sure we are on the same page.

I wanted to share a small outtake from the audio interview I did with Carlos Xuma from Dating Dynamics. The interview is part of his new program called “The Bad Boy Formula” which teaches men how to be strong and respect themselves WITHOUT being a BAD BOY JERK.  A program, as you know, I am full support of.

Listen and let me know what you think.

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Making Connections With Women

Making connections with women can be a tough feat for those that do understand the importance of connecting.

Listen to the audio below where I talk with Christian Hudson of The Social Man and discussed making connections with women. He had some great tips and insights on How To Make Connections With Women and the importance of Making Connections in general.

Feel free to comment. Any added information is welcome and appreciated.

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Pick-Up Artist or Artist of the Science Behind Social Dynamics?

Are the pick-up artists of the world slowly molding into Artist of the Science behind Social Dynamics?

I think so.

A lot of the leading male “PUA’s” out there have embraced the idea that inner/natural game is the key to success and that pick up lines and routines are just forms of manipulation. Manipulation against women but also against themselves.

This is a belief that myself and The Wing Girl Method have held for a very long time.

I wanted to tell you about a man/client/user I have been interacting with a for over a year now through email.

He first came to me bitter and angry at women challenging my abilities to assist him. At first, I told him that I had no interest in being challenged but I would be ready to assist him when he was ready to receive information.

I think the response caught him off guard and he quickly softened and became open. I think I was the first honest and blunt women he had ever encountered, just a guess

Over the year, he has changed considerably and sends me quotes from his psych courses and insightful notions that he now believes.

He sent me a note this morning that I thought I would pass on to #1 toot my own horn, but also show you how a man who was once angry can slowly transform into an open well balanced human being.

“I guess I’m practicing on leading – not reaction seeking. Trying to convey that they’re (women) just as equal as I am that what I say is really not as important as I’m making it out to be. I do remember the post where you said your responses, 95% of the time dictate the response, or feeling of the other person.

The only thing different than me in comparison to other guys is my intentions are perfectly pure. I’m intruiged by social dynamics because I understand how important it is to hold a relationship. I believe unhealthy minds attract unhealthy people – and healthy to healthy. At the moment, I’m building myself up because like you said – women want a MAN not a passive male who is constantly evaluating himself and making sure his performance will please her.

I really want you to know that your posts helped me a lot, it opened my eyes and softened my point of view towards others and influenced me to understand others. I’m driven to make others comfortable – to not do nice actions purely to get positive results. You’ve changed my personality completely as well as other – I don’t want to say pick-up artists, it sounds corny – artists of the science behind social dynamics.”

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10 Signs She’s Flirting

Want to know 10 easy way to spot if a woman is flirting with you?

I recently came across an article by Bob Strauss, for Match.com’s Happen magazine, on signs to look for when a woman is into you.

You may or may not know that I do not believe in waiting for signs to take action. When considering approaching a woman the only sign you need is “I am interested in her and want to know more.”

BUT I once you get into a conversation with a woman, I know it can be difficult for men to tell when a woman is interested and flirting.

First, signs she is not interested:
No eye contact
Body language away from you
Nodding and not responding
1 word answers

You see these signs, RUN. Get away and get over this woman.

Second, sign she is flirting taken from Bob Strauss’s article.

My comments are at the end of each point in bold.

Enjoy!

ARTICLE

There are two types of guys in the world: those who think anything a woman does (scratching her nose, asking for the time, bending down to adjust her pumps) is an invitation to an immediate come-on, and those who can catch a casually tossed keycard in a crowded hotel bar and think to themselves, “Golly, she must have mistaken me for a bellboy. I’ll just leave this with the bartender and he’ll give it back to her when she’s sober.”

If you’re the second type, read the list below immediately, lest that gal who’s desperately been trying to engage your interest moves on to someone a bit less obtuse.

1. A smile. This is the simplest flirt there is, and the hardest to misinterpret. If a woman smiles at you from across the room, this means that she wants you to talk to her. Really. (Though once this happened to me, and as I approached the lady in question she said, “Oh, I’m sorry! I thought you were someone else.”)

Marni: Reinforcing my belief that everything is a signal, don’t wait for a smile. You like her your approach her and then you decide. If you have a situation where the woman says “whoops thought you were someone else” let her know it was okay for her to make that mistake but you are still sticking around cause you want to know more about her “whoops, I think your hot and could have a good personality that I may like. Let’s see if you do”.

2. The hair twirl. Just about every person I interviewed mentioned that the girly, unselfconscious habit of playing with her hair means that a woman is open to your advances. So if you say hello and she’s wrapping her locks around her finger, well, all signals say: Keep chatting.

Marni: This is something that I do when I am into a guy and want him to be attracted to me. I twirl my hair, touch my lips and bat my eyes. All very feminine things that, as women, we feel will make a man turned on and more attracted to us.

3. An unbuttoned button. Watch for a blouse that isn’t as closed up as it might usually be, says image consultant Dianne M. Daniels. “No, she won’t be stripping off her clothes in front of you, but if she doesn’t immediately re-wrap that scarf so you don’t see her cleavage, it could be a sign that she’s interested.”

Marni: This may or may not be a sign. It’s a sign when she returns from the bathroom with new lip gloss applied, her hair tossed and a one less button done up.

4. A cry for help. “If a woman asks you for assistance in any way, such as, ‘Excuse me, could you help me figure out the tip on this bar tab? I’ve never had to pay one before,’ she’s flirting with you by indulging your psychological need to feel like a hero,” says Py Kim Conant, author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha.

Marni: I have definitely done this one may times. Asked for help when it was not needed just to catch someone’s attention. “Can you help me lift this heavy chair for me?”. I do Yoga and weight training and could totally lift it myself but why do it yourself when there is a cute guy that could do it for you.

5. A well-placed double entendre. Says Debbie Mandel, author of Turn on Your Love Light, “When a woman is flirting, she’ll invest the conversation with subtle double meanings, and most everything she says will have an erotic undercurrent, even unremarkable phrases like ‘I really like your tie.’”

Marni: I don’t know about double entendres but for me, if I make a statement like this one I am FLIRTING. Unless I say it point blank or over the top. This is an important to note. Women who are overly comfortable with you are NOT usually into you.

6. Happy feet. “Consciously, a woman may play hard to get by twisting her upper body away, but her feet show where her interest really is,” says TV personality Dr. Diana Kirschner. “A clueless guy should ask her some friendly questions, then watch carefully to see if she starts opening up nonverbally by pointing her toes in your direction.” (Note for beginners: Be subtle about glancing under the table.)

Marni: Sometimes very true.

7. Fidgeting. This one cuts both ways, but the experts concur: If a gal constantly tosses her hair, twists her pinky ring, or snaps her hairband, this counts as flirtatious behavior if and only if (and these are big “ifs” and “onlys”) she maintains uninterrupted eye contact. If she keeps glancing away, she may very well be repulsed by you and wants to get away as soon as possible.

Marni: Very true. As I said above about double entendres, when I am attracted to someone I stumble over my words and fidget. Not at my peak of confidence so I get nervous.

8. Proximity. “If a woman stays inside a ’safe distance’, then she’s probably interested in you, especially if she’s not the touchy-feely type,” Daniels says (of course, this advice doesn’t necessarily apply if you’re talking in a crowded, noisy club). “Also, watch for any lingering touches where she doesn’t immediately remove her hand.”

Marni: True. Women who do not want to be around you will physically back away from you. If she is into you she will lightly touch you in some way.

9. Lively banter. For many women, flirting is a non-button-popping, non toe-pointing no-brainer: They merely listen to what you have to say, and interject meaningful, encouraging comments. If she’s not interested, she’ll yawn during your yarn about parachuting behind enemy lines during Gulf War I. If she is interested, she’ll expostulate endlessly about how fascinating the shoe business can be.

Marni: I have done this myself when I am attracted to a guy. I will be fascinated by anything that comes out of his. As I said in the intro to this blog is if a woman is NOT interested she will give you 1 word answers and nod. If you have a woman engaged but you can tell she is slightly nervous, she is into you.

10. Lack of inhibition. I’m as cloddish as the next guy, but I still fondly remember the time I met a gal at a cocktail party and, within five minutes, we were talking about how old we were when we lost our virginity. (Alas, she already had a boyfriend, but I still cling desperately to the belief that it was a genuine flirt maneuver…)

Marni: This is a sticky one because most women who are that comfortable with you right off the bat are usually not attracted to you. Therefore they may freely reveal lots of private information with little remorse because there is no attraction. However it depends on the conversation. In this case I would need to hear more about what information was actually exchanged to give a good assessment as to whether she was interested.

Over all, I think these are great tools for you to use to catch female signals.

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The Master Plan

I have said to you several times that as a man, being able to attract women is part of your genetic make up.

Why? So you can have sex and make babies.

So what is stopping you? It is that thing on the top of your shoulders called YOUR HEAD.

Your head tells you:

- I am too fat
- I am too bald
- I am not rich enough
- She will reject me
- I will have nothing interesting to say

It never ends.

I wanted to introduce you to a friend of mine Scot Mckay who has just completed a wonderful program called The Master Plan.

This program is all about how you, as a man, can tap into your natural ability to pickup and attract women.

It is a fantastic program with detailed examples, interviews with top specialists (including myself) and much more.

I have taken a clip from the interview between myself and Scot. We talk about what women want from men.

This is only 5 minutes of the 50 minute long interview that is part of The Master Plan and my interview is only a small piece of the entire program.

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How To Tell A Woman Likes You

Lots of men can’t pick up on subtle female signals.

I do not want this to be you.

Not being able to pick up on subtle signals translate into missing out on great opportunities.

For example I have worked with a lot of clients and have many male friends who are totally oblivious to women’s “I like you” signals.

Tons of my clients and friends will tell me about women they encounter that they are interested in but fear the women does not feel the same way.

Most of the time it turns out the women are equally just as in to them but my client was unable to pick up on her subtle female signals.

The audio below gives you a woman’s opinion on ways for you to know when a woman likes you and tells you the exact signals to look for.

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Are you ready to take it up a notch and not just notice when a woman likes but also do something about it. Check out WGM’s program called How To Become The Man Women Want.

Learn Step-by-step How To Approach, Meet, Attract, Date and Keep any woman you want!!! This program has been rated by top experts and users as one of the most informational, helpful and easy programs to assist men in getting success with women.

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A Woman’s View On “Peacocking”

Marni gives her opinion on Peacocking. For those of you who don’t know what “Peacocking” is, it is the action of dressing to stand out, or to have an item of clothing or an accessory that looks interesting, allowing the girl to comment on it if she is interested in starting a conversation with you.

As a woman I know what women see and lately all I see is men wearing boa’s and tall hats to impress a woman. A man does need to go this far to impress a woman.

If you are a man who naturally, on his own, would choose to wear a certain type of clothing, then continue wearing this clothing.

If, however, you are forcing a certain style to attract women then it will never work for you.

As I have said many times before, WOMEN CAN SMELL WHEN YOU ARE FAKING IT!

Instead of wearing a dress with red sparkles, go out and buy that one article of clothing that you have had your eye. You know what I am talking about. That one piece of clothing that you would like to wear but fear you can’t pull off.

Go buy it!

Listen to the audio below and let me know your thoughts and questions.

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Maintaining Conversations With Women

Maintaining Conversations With Women may seem like a daunting task right now, but it doesn’t have to be.

It can actually be quite an easy thing to do but you first you must do some work.

I get questions like: 1. What do I say? 2. What do women like to talk about? 3. What will make a woman want to talk to me longer?

The answers I give to the above questions are: 1. Say anything but be confident in what you are saying. 2. Women like to talk about themselves and the more you can show that you GET a woman the more responsive she will be. Try to guide the conversation, not dominate it. 3. Women will want to talk to you longer if they like your energy. A nervous train wreck does not have attractive energy. Be confident, practice at home and excuse yourself if you are no longer interested in the conversation.

YOU CAN WALK AWAY TOO!!

Again, MEN ARE ALLOWED TO WALK AWAY FROM A WOMAN TOO!

I bet you didn’t know that.

Listen to the audio below where I Provide 1 Tactic  you can use to better your conversation skills so you will have no trouble maintaining conversations with women in the future!

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5 Tips For Maintaining Conversations With Women

1. Ask questions and LISTEN – Women enjoy talking about themselves and they enjoying revealing information.

2. Do not reveal too much right away.  Women Reveal, Men Conceal. There is no need to reveal to much about yourself right away.  If you want to become friends with a woman, reveal. If you want to create attraction with a woman Guide The Conversation Don’t Dominate It.

3. Sign up for improvisation classes.  These classes will make you take risks, confront fears but most importantly teach you how to pull conversation out of thin air.  Best thing I ever did was sign up for an improv class!

4. Let women know you hear and understand what they are telling you.

5. Keep it short and sweet!  The more you drag on the further a woman will bond with you on a friendship level.  Save the longer versions of stories for later! When initially interacting, let her have center stage. You will get your chance later.

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Carlos Xuma Interviews Marni

Carlos and Marni discuss the importance of setting boundaries with women.

Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating field. Xuma argues that most of the problems men face in romance and attraction stem from a gender disadvantage, as women are socialized to be collaborators and communicators from early childhood, and men are socialized as independent and competitors.

His unique methods of instruction start with rehabilitation of a man’s self-confidence. He describes the three primary parts of a man’s masculine confidence as: 1) Self-esteem (how worthy a man views himself), 2) Self-image (the roles or actions a man can and cannot envision himself performing), and 3) Self-confidence (how certain a man is about his world and abilities in general.)

For more info and programs from Carlos go to: http://innergame.carlosxuma.com/?aid=094343

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Overcome Approach Anxiety

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