Big news that I may have mentioned to you before but now it’s actually happening.

I am finally doing a Podcast and I am so excited about it.

Me and 3 other amazing, intelligent SUPER HOT women, are going to be doing a weekly FREE podcast called Ask Women.

Each week me and these 3 lovely ladies will be giving you realistically raw and hilarious perspectives on what women ACTUALLY want in a man.

To ensure you get all the updates on the podcast, you can follow @askwomenpodcast on twitter and I’ll also update you through email so that you don’t miss it.

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1. Where and when to listen to the podcast

2. How to download the podcast

I’ll also be introducing you to the other 3 women that will be part of Ask Women.But for now, here are some preview pics of them:

I am so excited for you to get to know these girls and for them to educate you on the ridiculous mind of a woman to help you better understand, appreciate, and avoid getting punched by the next girl you come across.

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In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues in the video below, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

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Honestly, you don’t have to answer that right now but think about it.

A good lover, from a woman’s POV, is one that is present and connected to her in the bedroom whether it’s for one night of fun and excitement or a lifetime. A good lover is also someone that understands her body inside and out and knows how to calm her mind so that she can really “open up”.

I get A LOT of men writing into me who are concerned because they are not sure if they are good lovers. Sometimes it’s because they don’t have a lot of experience with sex and some of them are even virgins. But there are also many that just aren’t sure.

Be honest with me right now. At some point or another YOU have questioned whether or not you are good in bed.

I know I have.

I will tell you the same thing I tell each of these guys. Just because a guy has experience in the bedroom (or the back seat of a car) DOES NOT mean that he is a good lover.

In fact, many men who started having sex at an early age never acquired skills on how to be good in the bedroom because they didn’t think they had to. When I was younger I didn’t even know what an orgasm felt like.I was just excited that I was having sex which is why it was easier to please me.

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It’s so funny how things pop up for you at the right time.  I have been getting tons of email about body language and sexual confidence.  When BOOM, while watching an episode of my new favorite show GIRLS on HBO, a great visual example of it flashed in front of me.  You gotta watch this as soon as possible because I am pretty sure HBO is going to get me to take this down ASAP.

So you better watch it now.

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As I said in the video, I literally grunted, screamed out “That’s Hot” and then walked out of the room.  I don’t know if all women would have had the same reaction, but I am very certain most women want that excitement in their sex lives. They want to be with an assertive, sexual leader.

Every woman I talk to tells me about how they wish their man knew when to be assertive.  In fact one of my girlfriends just said to me last night “This new guy that I’m seeing just knows what I want in the bedroom.  I would ask my ex-husband to slap my ass all the time but he would never do it. This guy just knows and I like it. It excites me.”

It feels so amazing to be wanted by a confident man. Desire by high status (a.k.a a confident man who can lead) is the hottest thing!

So next time you are in a sexual situation with a woman and you can feel her wanting you, follow the example in the video. Stay grounded and go after what you want. If its not reciprocated, smile and walk away. Sexy!

Want to learn more about what turns women on and what we want sexually? Check out my 1.5 our seminar with Sexpert and coach Darrah De Jour.  Even I learned a few things Click Here to get the instant mp3 download now.

Just some of the topics we cover include:

1) How to make a move – even when you’re self-doubting

2) How to initiate oral sex

3) How to talk about safe sex

4) What to do during sex that will make a woman feel comfortable, confident and self-assured — ready and willing to open up to you and satisfy both you and her

5) Questions to ask to discover her erogenous zones

6) What to do after you ‘finish’

7) How to talk about your fantasies so they bring your partner *closer*, not alienate her

8) How to last longer in bed

9) Getting even the most sexually repressed girl to open up her freaky side to you in bed

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Here's a piece I wrote called 10 Ways To Get Her In The Mood.

I am about to rock your world by revealing the #1 myth about women and sex.  Ready for it?

Women want sex just as much do, if not more than men. Women are sexual, sensual beasts waiting to be released by the RIGHT man in just the RIGHT way.

Here are 10 Ways To Get Her In The Mood whether you are dating, simply seducing or in a long-term relationship.

#1. Get Her Out of Her Head.

The #1 thing that blocks or stops women from enjoying a sexual/sensual experience is that thing on top of her shoulders. Her head. For women, sex is far more mental than physical. The more you help make a women feel accepted, attractive and safe during any sexual act, the more free she will be.  When you provide a safe space it allows a woman’s mind to free itself of insecurities and actually enjoy being in the moment. If you ease her mind, you’ll loosen her body!

** After reading this article – go watch my video on how to calm a woman's mind so that she will do whatever you want! Click Here

#2. Calm Her Nerves.  

My nickname in high school was The Kissing Bandit, which was a fancy way of calling me a prude.

When I was 18, I went backpacking in Australia and safely kissed my way up the east coast. That is, until I met a guy who broke me out of my shell. I met him at a club, we went back to our hostel and started making out. Prude Marni kicked in. I clenched and got uncomfortable. He noticed my quick change in behavior and said to me “I want you to be comfortable. If I do anything that makes you nervous or uncomfortable, just slap my hand and I will stop immediately.” I can tell you there was no hand slapping that night and I quickly got rid of my childhood nickname.

#3 Tell Her EXACTLY What You Want.

It drives me wild when a man tells me exactly what he wants to do to me. It’s exciting and sexy. Be a man, say exactly what they want, and you’ll get to beat around the bush, but in a very different way

#4 Pay Her A REAL Compliment, Not An Exaggerated One.

Give a woman a REAL compliment about her inner core rather than her exterior. Evolutionary psychologists show that women are programmed to be skeptical of what men say. It’s their way of protecting themselves from manipulative men who don’t want to commit to relationships. The more a compliment is tailored to that specific woman, the more intimate and effective it is says Tammy Nelson Ph.D.

#5 Treat Her Like A Lady.

Whether it’s for a one-night stand or for a partner of 6 years, no woman want to feel like she a slut, a whore or a stupid female that’s been used.  Make sure to treat every woman with respect. Be honest, don’t manipulate and treat her like a lady.

#6 Whip Out Your…

Intelligence. Now this may just be me but I get a “hard on” for men who are ubber intelligent. Not the arrogant ones who want to attempt to school me on how much they know. The ones that just seem to know about stuff and talk about it with confidence and authority.

#7 Tease Her In Public.

I’m not talking about pulling her hair and telling her she smells. I’m talking about being covertly inappropriate while out in public. For example, while sitting across the table from friends, talking about politics, slide your fingers up her thigh and just around her underwear line. Do this for about 15 seconds and then remove your hand. Do a couple of these in a night and she’ll attack you as soon as you walk in the door.

#8 Bring Out Your Inner Caveman.

Nothing puts me in the mood faster than when I can feel my man craving me. “Women love to feel the desire of a man they’re into. Give your girl an unexpected, passionate kiss.  Grab her hair – gently – and run your hands through it as your lips lock.  And when dinners over, pick her up over your shoulder, carry her into the bedroom, and toss her onto the bed.  A little spank won't hurt along the way.” – Christian Hudson, The Social Man

#9 Start Flirting At 9am.

Anticipation is one of the most amazing aphrodisiacs. Send her 3-4 texts throughout the day telling her what you are going to do to her in the evening. Tell her how hot she is, that she turns you on and then tell her you like it when she does X. X is the thing that is unique to just her so that she knows your lines aren’t canned.

One Note: Don’t get offended if she does not respond right away or even at all.  Many women are not comfortable with this type of forwardness because they don’t know how to respond. Just keep going. This shows her you are comfortable being sexual and she can be too!

#10 Touch Her Slowly!!!!!! 

I just got shivers writing this one. Nothing turns me on more than when a man slowly touches me all over my body. Starting with a light massage of my feet. Then working up the leg to the inner portion of my thighs. Moving onto to caressing the sides of my belly and chest and ending by brushing my back and neck with his lips. Amazing!

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Want to hear more about what women want in the bedroom? Check out Let's Talk Sex with Darrah De Jour

It's an unedited, 1.5 hour recording of myself and Darrah talking about what we want sexually from men.

Here are just a few things we cover:

- How to avoid performance anxiety

- How to calm a woman so that she is open to doing what you want in the bedroom

- Does size matter?

- How to properly use a smaller penis

- How to touch a woman (how long, where to touch)

- How to escalate to sex

- How to talk about safe sex

- Can all women have vaginal orgasms?

- What to do after sex

- How to have 1 night stands

Get instant access to the MP3 recording of “Let's Talk Sex” call with Sexpert Darrah de jour by Clicking Here.

The results include answers that, I'm pretty sure, will shock you.

Article: What Do Women Find Sexy?
By: Marni Kinrys – UMM Magazine

I am about to shatter a lot of male fantasies right now by revealing that the top “things” women find sexy are not at all related to sex. So set aside your hopes of women being turned on by hair pulling and you in your boxer briefs.

In fact, for many women, turn-ons come from simple everyday rituals, mannerisms and idiosyncrasies.

That’s because a woman’s libido is triggered by her emotions and the way something makes her feel rather than what it makes her think!

I put out a survey to my circle of female friends, confidants and Wing Girls (over 200 women).  I asked each of them, What Do You Find Sexy?  Below are the top 11 responses:

1) Intelligence Without Arrogance. Intelligence is sexy only when the guy’s not attempting to belittle you or be arrogant in the process. It’s extremely sexy when a man knows how to maintain his intelligence without riding a high horse in the process.

2) Voice – “When I hear a man with a deep voice that comes from his diaphragm it makes my tingle in area’s that may not be appropriate to talk about” – Daisy. A deep voice is the ultimate sign of masculinity.

3) Honesty, Loyalty & Integrity – Overall these 3 characteristics speak to a man’s character. “The measure of a man's real character is what he would do if he knew he never would be found out.” ~Thomas Babington Macaulay. Being an honest, loyal man with integrity will not only turn women on, it will keep them coming back over and over and over again.

4) Good Credit – Probably the most seemingly superficial response from my gaggle of gals, but one of the most important.  Poor credit can be a huge red flag because it triggers fear that a man is not reliable, lazy and is not responsible.  To save yourself from having your poor rating hold you back from attracting women, it’s important to show that you are proactively working on erasing the bad credit and committed to whipping that slate clean.

5) Great Smile – Even though recent studies have found that pictures of men smiling can decrease feelings of attraction from women, my survey proved otherwise. A nice, warm smile from a man can melt a woman’s heart and instantly turn her on.  “What’s important about the smile is not the actual smile itself, but the underlying intention behind the smile.  I love it when a man smirks at me in a way that says, I’m thinking something you but I’ll never tell” – Jen

6) A True Gentleman – “In all my dating years, I have only had 2 men open doors for men. 1 of those men was my first and only one night stand. The other, is now my husband” – Monica.

MEN! Do not let chivalry die. Open doors, pull out chairs, be polite to everyone. But do it because you want to, not because you think it will get you something. That’s the true definition of a gentleman.

7) Taking Out The Garbage Without Being Asked – “Want to know how to get my panties off in 30 seconds flat. Take out the trash without me having to ask you.” – Justine.

Caring gestures make women feel really good. Guys don't realize how important they are for women when it comes to getting turned on in the bedroom. To connect physically, they really need that emotional and mental connection.

8) A Sense of Self – “So many men are like Velcro. They just latch onto you. Especially when they are older or divorced, which is NOT sexy at all. ” – Mica.

Have a purpose, have an opinion, have a life, and you’ll always be the sexiest man in the room.

9) Sense of Humor – “If a man can made me laugh, I’m his forever. Sexy, sexy, sexy.” – Emily.

Before you start signing up for comedy classes, I want to be clear about what. I want a guy that makes me laugh, actually means. What a woman is really saying is, I want a guy that is light, fun and doesn’t take himself too seriously.  Enjoys life always equals sexy.

10) Good Communication – They say communication is the essential foundation to all relationships but sexy? “If I am talking to a man about something and he gets emotional and defensive I am instantly turned off. Seriously. I find it especially sexy if a man can hear me and remain grounded” – Ericha

11) Confidence - When asked, women often respond the number one thing they want in a man is confidence! Confidence is nature’s signal that “I am not weak.” And no woman wants to be with a weak man. “A bald man is just as sexy as a man with thick wavy hair if he loves his head.” – Jennie

Confidence tells a woman I’m proud of who I am, I respect myself and you will always be safe with me.

So you see men, the real turns on for women do not include crazy, unachievable sexual fantasies.  In fact, what women actually find the most sexy is when you are simply being the best you.

There are 1000′s of little things like this that matter to women, that most men have NO IDEA matter! Hear more from nearly 50 women on what they want, what turns them on and WHY they do the things they do to men. Click Here to find out more now!

Talking about sex with a woman, even if you're in a long term relationship can be an uncomfortable situation. Especially, if you want to discuss trying something new.

Many men that I work with find experimenting and fantasy a tough topic to bring up to a woman because they think things like:

• What if she thinks I'm a freak for wanting to do this?
• What if she doesn't want to be with me after she hears I like this?
• What if she doesn't want to do it?
• How to I let her know that me wanting this is not about me being unhappy with our sex life?

So instead of talking about what they want, they suppress, maybe go online or find other outlets to get what they want. When in fact, if they did just 1 thing, they could get their woman to do everything they wanted and more in the bedroom.

Watch my latest video from Askmen.com on how to talk to women about trying new things in the bedroom.

The key is to bring up the topic in a safe environment.  You want to nurture a woman, listen to her and be compassionate about any fears and insecurities that may pop up.  She may get angry, she may get anxious, she may get sad and quite.  Be calm and be there for her and I guarantee 9 out of 10 times you will get what you want.

Want to take your bedroom skills to the next level?

Learn the Secrets of Female Sexuality and how to be a LEADER in the bedroom.  I have two great resources that I recommend to all my one-on-one clients that I know you will like as well.

1. David Shade's How To Be A Masterful Love – Excellent materials from a man whose wife left him because he was a bad lover.  Pretty sure that's not the entire reason but it's his reason.  He then spent 15-20 years researching to develop Masterful Lover.  Great material and if you use the following link you will get a FREE CD from him on the Secrets of A Masterful Love. Click Here to find out more

2. Porn Star Sex Life - Don't let the name scare you away.  It is lessons from a former porn star but it one of the most informative videos I have seen on how to pleasure a woman.  It doesn't feel seedy, it feels informative and educational. Click here for more info.

I, Marni, your Wing Girl have been asked to be one of Askmen.com‘s video experts on SEX!!!  To be fair, “Sexpert” is not a hat I am used to wearing, but I am definitely confident and comfortable talking about sex from the female POV.

AskMen.com is a free online men’s lifestyle magazine!

The Askmen.com team flew out to LA to do a 5 hour shoot with me, covering 10 hot topics on sex & attraction all from a woman’s POV.

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The topics I covered were topics you have never seen on The Wing Girl Method site! Topics like:

- 4 Tips To Enhance Her Orgasm

- Should A Man Trim Down There?

- How To Attract Women

- How To Know When It’s Time To Break Up

Plus 7 more topics!

I’ll keep you posted and let you know as soon as the video’s go live. They are going to be awesome

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The key to get a woman to calm down and be happy, is to know how to speak directly to her insecurities.  The first thing you have to acknowledge is that she may have insecurities no matter how hot or perfect you think she is.  Every woman has insecurities.

“>The second and most important thing is to know how to show her you appreciate her for any and every difference she may have.

I have a video clip below, with my commentary included, that shows an example of a man that was successfully able to get a woman to calm down and be happy. It's a clip from the NBC show Love Bites that was on a few weeks ago.  Truth – it's a horrible show, but for some reason I am mildly addicted to it.

Every time I watch, it sparks an idea for a blog or topic to talk to you about.

The background to this clip is that the boyfriend discovers, through looking at the cable bill, that his GF has a small fetish for guys in uniform. When he confronts his GF, she is mortified.  Not mortified that she has the fetish, but mortified that it has been revealed to her unsuspecting boyfriend. AND that he may be see her in a different light, possibly not like her anymore and want to break up with her.

At the time, he handles it horribly. Poking fun at her, making fun of the fetish and most importantly, not attempting to understand her thoughts surrounding the fetish.  Actions that made her feel even more insecure and embarrassed.

To help her feel better he lies and says he has a fetish.  Below is a video with my commentary on how the whole scenario plays out.

Even though there were some minor hiccups at first with this situation, this man not only recovered but became his GF's hero! He was honest, clearly expressed himself and helped his GF, not only feel comfortable with her fetish, but empowered by it. Which in the real world, translates to new fun surprises in the bedroom and an open door for sexual communication.

If dealt with correctly, bumps in dating and relationships can lead to a strength in connection, a deeper comfort level and plenty of fun new adventures

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This post is for all the people out there who believe Porn is the be all and end all when it comes to sexual instruction.  When in fact, the truth is that most of the stuff you see in Porn you would NEVER want to use in your sex life.

A few months back, I had sent out an email that I would be interviewing a woman named Ryan Keely, one of the foremost sexperts in the WORLD. Ryan has worked for years as  a Penthouse Pet, a former host for Playboy Radio and Porn Star. She is now teaching men and women about the world of Sexual Pleasure.

My interview with Ryan was unbelievably informative, because during our 45 minutes together, she revealed to me the many myths about porn that are ruining men’s sex lives. For example, positions constantly performed in porn, can physically damage men and women permanently. In fact, many of the shots are simply done to provide the director with the best possible shot and should never be replicated.

Watch the video below to see 3 moves that should NEVER be performed on a woman.

So now that know some mistakes men are making with women and sex, you probably want to know what you SHOULD be doing?

How To Please A Woman Sexually

In her newest program, Ryan teaches men and women how to have unbelievable, mind blowing sex like real people, not Porn Stars. Even though the program is called Porn Star Sex Life, the name is just for marketing purposes.

I was able to get a sneak preview of the program a few months back (before I knew Ryan) and I was totally shocked. I obviously was expecting dirty Porn with little information. I was judgmental, I’ll admit it. But what I got, was an entertaining way of being educated on sex and sensuality.

In fact, I even showed it to a few of my girlfriends, my sister in law and my husband and they all had the same reaction. They were glued to the screen and each of them walked away with two new techniques they were eager to try

I definitely suggest you check out Ryan’s new program. Buy it, try it and if you don’t find value, return it. They have a money back guarantee!
Click Here to watch more Ryan and get a Sex Life 99% of the men in the world wish they had.

I have one more program that I can suggest when it comes to thoroughly learning about how to pleasure a woman and increase your own pleasure at the same time.  It’s a program by David Shade of Masterful Lover. His program’s of one of the best resources I have found to help men understand the essentials needed for an unbelievable sexual experience.

Click Here to get more information on David Shade.

Last longer, by controlling ejactulation and rock her world!

Did you know that there were Kegel exercises for men to do, so that they can last longer in bed??  Neither did I until yesterday.

One of my clients asked me “Are there kegel exercises for men?”. He wanted to do these exercises so that he could make his PC (pubococcygeus) muscles to control ejaculation and last longer in bed.  I had never heard of this, so my response was, not that I know of but let me find out.

So, I googled and found a great article on Askmen.com that gave step by step instructions on kegel exercises for men.

Note From A FEMALE POV: Being “present” while having sex, increases a woman’s levels of sexual pleasure.  If a woman feels that you are disconnected or distracted she may have difficulty relaxing and enjoying the experience.   Doing these exercises will help you be more present in the bedroom, because it will free your mind of negative thoughts about possible pre-mature ejaculation.

Therefore:

Kegel Exercises = Stronger PC Muscles = Piece of Mind = “Present” During Sex = Better Sex For You and Your Partner

I cut and paste the exercises for you below:

ARTICLE: Kegel Exercises For Men

By David Strovny Sex Education Correspondent

Controlling ejaculation is a huge issue for many men, one that they are often too embarrassed to bring up. How do I control myself? How can I last longer, be firmer and do better? The answer is working out your pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles, by doing Kegel exercises for men.

PC muscles control the flow of semen and urine, the firmness of your penis during erection and the shooting power of your ejaculation. They are important, and if kept very strong, will see you into your golden years with a fantastical hard on. The great thing about Kegel exercises for men is that you can do them anywhere, anytime — and nobody will know the difference.

You will be able to have better sex by being able to better control your orgasms and ejaculations, and last for longer, plus you may get the added kudos of being able to hold up a wet towel with your erection if you practice these Kegel exercises for men.

How do I know where my PC muscles are?

The easiest way to find them is to stop your flow of urine next time you go to the bathroom. Another way to isolate them is to put your finger inside your anus; when you contract the right muscles, your anus will tighten. However you decide to find them, once they are found you need to practice feeling exactly where they are located — it is easy to overcompensate for weak muscles by using the abdominals, buttocks or thighs. These must all stay relaxed when doing Kegel exercises for men.

Now, on to the daily Kegel exercises for men.

Note: These exercises are done hands-free. You do not “squeeze” anything with your hands as they are all done with your PC muscles.

Kegel Session 1

Exercise A
Sets: 3
Quickly clench and release repeatedly for 10 seconds.

Take a 10-second break between sets.

Exercise B
Sets: 10
Clench and release repeatedly for 5 seconds.

Take a 5-second break between sets.

Exercise C
Sets: 3
Tighten and hold your PC muscle for 30 seconds.

Take a 30 second break between sets.

That’s it for today, but repeat these Kegel exercises for men daily for one week.

Kegel Session 2

Exercise A
Sets: 10
Clench and hold your PC muscle for 5 seconds.

Release and repeat.

Exercise B
Sets: 3
Quickly clench and release your PC muscle 10 times.

Exercise C
Sets: 3
Clench and release your PC muscle alternatively in long and short bursts for counts of 10.

Exercise D
Sets: 1
Tighten your PC muscle and hold for as long as you can. Aim for 2 minutes.

You can do the session 2 Kegel exercises for men for a week; however, feel free to progress if you feel you are strong enough. Remember that these are strengthening exercises, so start off slowly and build up, just like you would with any other muscle.

To see exercises 3 & 4 go to: http://www.askmen.com/dating/love

Even if you aren’t sleeping with any one now, you may be very soon. So start building those PC muscles now and give her a sexual experience she’ll never forget.

To get more information on How To Be BETTER In Bed With Women then I have a suggestion for you.

1. Go check out a program called Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms . It’s a product by David Shade, Masterful Lover.  I will admit that David is an odd character but definitely knows what he is talking about when it comes to pleasing a woman sexually. He has been studying the art of sexual seduction and pleasure for over 15 years.

You can go sample David’s materials by listening to a free 1 hour audio filled with pure information on how to be better in bed.

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This is an area that has been fascinating me for the past week after getting an email from one of my clients, who I will refer to as D.

Email:

Marni,

Thanks for all your advice. I am having too much fun now.  I wish I truly understood this side of me in my teens and twenties.  Just knowing exactly what I want and what truly motivates me to pursue.

I am taking your advice on giving my dates a second chance. I didn’t know that you all (women) in general could be so wild. Now, I’m finding out even the shy/boring acting ones are too.  I told this one girl I was on a second date with  in so many words that her perfume smelled like an edible flower that I wanted to devour and from that point 80% of our conversation was sexual (mutually).

what is up with that?;)

D

****

D has been experimenting with flirting, banter and escalating to sexual conversations with women. And I must say, he is doing very well.  What he is learning is that the less he constricts himself on what he CAN say, the more attracted,  excited and open women become.
Why? Because lack of rules mixed with, being attracted and feeling safe, cause a subtle rush of excitement.

I gave D my response but wanted to dive a little deeper with other women in my network. So I sent an email out to about 200 women to ask them their thoughts on when it is okay to talk dirty to a woman, do women like to talk dirty and what did they think of D’s actions?

I got some mixed responses, which I have posted below.  My commentary will be at the end:

J – (26). Truth. Once I have a few cocktails I am up for anything, especially if I am into the guy.  Drunk translates to feeling relaxed and comfortable.  Know what I mean?

A – (40) I’m sorry, this may not be very generous of me, but is this guy 15? He sounds totally ill-equipped to be dating grown women.

Ellen (59) – My response might be relative to how much i have had to drink. un-drunk, 2nd date, i find it creepy; unless that is what you want from the relationship, just sex.  In a relationship, when you feel safe, you can have dirty/sexy talk, why not?

S – (28) That’s a pretty good line. I think it gets a response because flowers conjure up feeling of beauty, delicate-ness, a delicious-ness that every woman wants to feel & have it related to her. Therefore it is not too threatening and very sensual. I would definitely respond to it – #1 – if I was wearing a floral scented perfume (which I usually don’t, so could be viewed as a total come on line) #2 – if I was feeling some chemistry from our 1st date, I’d be open to sexually tinged conversation on the 2nd…

C – (32) – Hmmmm….  For me, I found the email to be sweet.  It sounds to me like this man is exploring his natural impulses of sensuality.  Rather than staying all buttoned-up tight as lots of our societal conditioning can want us to be! Personally…  I’m a big fan of tapping into the more primal energies that I believe are always present…  But not always accessed in our everyday modern lives. I think I would have enjoyed his question as well…  IF…  And this is a big IF…  It came from a pure place of sensual pleasure.  If it came from a creepy place, then of course it would be a different story.  But I think I would have appreciated his creativity, and his risk to break outside of the dating mold. I like, what I call, a little grrrrrrrrr-rr-rr-r-rr in a conversation!

E – (30) He needs to be careful because there is a fine line between saying something to get a rise and sexual harassment. It may be rewarding if the girl is the same way.

JM – (29) If you are into him, it’s hot – not if he is a nerd. That would totally creep me out.

Marni’s Commentary:

Here are my thoughts on the topic.  I truly believe that deep down inside most women crave to be released sexually BUT they want to be released in a safe and secure environment.

Let me explain. Women are more locked sexually than men because of the backlash women constantly receive for being overtly sexual.  Names like whore and slut come to mind.  I think for a lot of women moving past the fear of being labeled is difficult to do. I know that when I was younger I never wanted to be placed in either of those categories. Therefore I held back sexually until I was sure that the man would not take advantage of me and respected me.  Sadly for me it locked me up sexually.

Fortunately I have a partner now who has been able to “unlock” me and help me really experience sex.

Now that I am more comfortable with my sexuality I would love if someone I LIKED talked to me the way D talked to his date. It’s fun, it’s exciting and it’s out of the norm.  I will say that even though I am not a big drinker, a little alcohol would help me drop my inhibitions and fears and I would gladly play along.

Just note that the creepy comment comes up several times in the responses above. There is a fine line between being sexually exciting and creepy.  Be careful not to cross that line. Baby steps, feel out the women you are with. She will tell you how far you can go and how comfortable she is with talking dirty.

TAKE AWAY: Women are open to being sexual, if anything they WANT to be sexual as long as they feel comfortable.

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What are your thoughts on this topic?

I would love to hear your experiences, opinions or any questions you have.

I wanted to highlight some interesting points that were shared in this article.

What To Say To A Naked Woman

1. Most women have insecurities (duh) and love frequent, enthusiastic compliments

2. Love and Care is one of the 19 recognized mate-retention tactics. Aaron Goetz Ph. D says “The biggest part of the love and care tactic is complimenting your partner’s physical appearance.”

3. Evolutionary psychologists show that women are programmed to be skeptical of what men say. It’s their way of protecting themselves from manipulative men who don’t want to commit to relationships. TIP Avoid exaggerating. The more a compliment is tailored to that specific woman, the more intimate and effective it is says Tammy Nelson Ph.D.

4. Women said they enjoyed compliments about their breasts. EXAMPLES Your breasts are so soft. They fit your body perfectly.  Your nipples are so hot.

5. For women, compliments lose their credibility when they’re paid in response to a statement of insecurity

6. Note changes to her appearance. Her efforts are a common mate-retention tactic.

7. Women are most sensitive about their stomachs

8. Women are more aware then men are of compliments given and received, according to a 2004 study. Women see compliments as a way to grow closer to a partner. Keep giving her compliments whether she is in the buff or fully clothed. It reassures her that you still feel an emotional connections to her.

9. Compliments from others are often more believeable than compliments from you. Tell her compliments your guy friends have given her about her.

10. Make sure she knows how happy or excited you are to be in bed with her. Display feelings.

11. Out of 572 women, the majority of them listed Panties, Camisole or a Necklace are the single items she feels sexiest to leave on when stripping down

Remember that each of these were in response to the title topics “What To Say To A Naked Woman”.  Each of the items listed below will help your lady feel more comfortable, more secure and safe.  Remember the safer she feels the more she will do

Another important thing to note is that women enjoy being sexual.  They just want to be able to choose their sexuality rather than have it forced on them.  As stated above, the more you can make a women feel accepted, attractive and safe during any sexual act, the more free she will be.  When you provide a safe space it allows a woman’s mind to free itself of insecurities and actually enjoy being in the moment.

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