What Women Find Attractive and Unattractive

What Women Find Attractive and Unattractive?  The answer revealed!

Last night I was partaking in my usual Monday night, guilty pleasure of watching the Bachelor Pad.  In case you don’t know the Bachelor Pad is a spin off of the Bachelor series where they take ex contestants, put them in a house and have them compete for $250,000.  During the competition they are also interacting with the opposite sex and attempting to possibly find love.

Every week I say to myself, I have to show that clip to you. And every week, I forget to do it but this week is different.  This weeks clip was too good to forget about.

I have titled the video clip below: Looks Only Go So Far, What Women Find Attractive and Unattractive.  Many men never believe me when I say that, women will choose personality over looks every time.  Looks can get you in the door, but it’s personality that will keep you there.

My commentary is sprinkled throughout the video.

Watch as Jesse B, who is a total cutie, can INSTANTLY lose Peyton’s attraction and become repulsive.

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Marni’s Commentary: So I am pretty sure some of you are going to say to me “What a bit*h.  She should give him a chance. He made 1 mistake…..”  I have heard this from people before and my answer is always the same.  I tell you how women DO react, not how they SHOULD react.  Based on that theory, Jesse SHOULD have not made these stupid mistakes, but he did. AND what he did, in case it was not clear,  was hurt her feelings because he took away an amazing romantic moment that she thought he was feeling as well.

As a woman, I could feel Peyton’s disappointment because I constantly experience this in my own relationship.  When I am in a romantic mood and turned on by my man and then he does something “dudeish” I get sad.  Sad that the moment wasn’t reciprocated. The thing is that I understand it from the guys POV as well.  I know that when I am with my man and we are really connecting, he gets comfortable with me and when he gets comfortable he lets out his real self.  Sometimes his real self wants to pick my nose or fart.  As much as I should take it as a compliment, I don’t.

Same thing happened with Jesse. Jesse got super comfortable and showed his true self, which is great.  BUT there is a difference between being yourself with the guys and a being yourself with a woman you are on a second date with and trying to date/sleep with/be with. This was Jesse and Peyton’s 2nd date not their 6th year of a relationship.  Therefore Peyton only has the 1st date and this experience to form her opinion of him.  And sadly for Jesse, her opinion is NOT FOR ME.

Let me know what you think.  Post your comment and share your thoughts.

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Product Review: The Man’s Approach

Produced By: Scot Mckay of X&Y Communications

Now you may or may not know this but I LOVE Scot Mckay and his materials. Why? Because they are genuine, real and easy to put to practice.  His products and teachings are very in-line with mine.  We both believe that inner confidence and comfort are the driving force for success with women. His newest product, The Man’s Approach, definitely lives up to this reputation I hold for Scot.

The Man’s Approach is the definitive tool kit for the regular guy that doesn’t want to be a pick up artist but a real man.

The first thing I want to say about this product is HOLY SH*T is this packed with content. There must be at least 30 + hours of product materials PLUS tons of bonus materials that include 30 minutes of coaching to the first 50 buyers. Now you would think with all this content it would be extremely overwhelming, but the way Scot has laid out the materials has made it very easy to use.

Materials are separated into clear cut categories so that you can pick and choose the materials you want, when you want them. For example, you want to understand how to pick up a waitress, there is a video dedicated just to picking up waitresses.  You want to know how to ask for a phone number, there is another video just for asking for phone numbers. So even though there is a lot of material it is still very easy to use.

As I said this program provides step by step instructions on EVERY possible scenario you could possibly encounter.  No “Pick Up” routines, or lines, or tricks.  He gives solid, sincere and honest advice that every man can use to succeed with women.

Here are just some of the topics covered through video examples and audio directions:

- Approaching Women

- Starting Conversations & Creating Attraction

- Getting Her Number

- Meeting Women in Various Situations:

- Igniting Femininity – This one is super important

These are just a few of the topics covered in audio format with a written PDF transcript attached.

THEN he has a whole video section as well with visual examples and instructions.

Some of the topics include: How to handle adversity, meeting several women at once, waitresses, meeting women at bars, on the street, at the gym, dating single moms….

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When Is It Okay To Talk Dirty To A Woman?

When is it okay to talk dirty to a woman?

This is an area that has been fascinating me for the past week after getting an email from one of my clients, who I will refer to as D.

Email:

Marni,

Thanks for all your advice. I am having too much fun now.  I wish I truly understood this side of me in my teens and twenties.  Just knowing exactly what I want and what truly motivates me to pursue.

I am taking your advice on giving my dates a second chance. I didn’t know that you all (women) in general could be so wild. Now, I’m finding out even the shy/boring acting ones are too.  I told this one girl I was on a second date with  in so many words that her perfume smelled like an edible flower that I wanted to devour and from that point 80% of our conversation was sexual (mutually).

what is up with that?;)

D

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D has been experimenting with flirting, banter and escalating to sexual conversations with women. And I must say, he is doing very well.  What he is learning is that the less he constricts himself on what he CAN say, the more attracted,  excited and open women become.
Why? Because lack of rules mixed with, being attracted and feeling safe, cause a subtle rush of excitement.

I gave D my response but wanted to dive a little deeper with other women in my network. So I sent an email out to about 200 women to ask them their thoughts on when it is okay to talk dirty to a woman, do women like to talk dirty and what did they think of D’s actions?

I got some mixed responses, which I have posted below.  My commentary will be at the end:

J – (26). Truth. Once I have a few cocktails I am up for anything, especially if I am into the guy.  Drunk translates to feeling relaxed and comfortable.  Know what I mean?

A – (40) I’m sorry, this may not be very generous of me, but is this guy 15? He sounds totally ill-equipped to be dating grown women.

Ellen (59) – My response might be relative to how much i have had to drink. un-drunk, 2nd date, i find it creepy; unless that is what you want from the relationship, just sex.  In a relationship, when you feel safe, you can have dirty/sexy talk, why not?

S – (28) That’s a pretty good line. I think it gets a response because flowers conjure up feeling of beauty, delicate-ness, a delicious-ness that every woman wants to feel & have it related to her. Therefore it is not too threatening and very sensual. I would definitely respond to it – #1 – if I was wearing a floral scented perfume (which I usually don’t, so could be viewed as a total come on line) #2 – if I was feeling some chemistry from our 1st date, I’d be open to sexually tinged conversation on the 2nd…

C – (32) – Hmmmm….  For me, I found the email to be sweet.  It sounds to me like this man is exploring his natural impulses of sensuality.  Rather than staying all buttoned-up tight as lots of our societal conditioning can want us to be! Personally…  I’m a big fan of tapping into the more primal energies that I believe are always present…  But not always accessed in our everyday modern lives. I think I would have enjoyed his question as well…  IF…  And this is a big IF…  It came from a pure place of sensual pleasure.  If it came from a creepy place, then of course it would be a different story.  But I think I would have appreciated his creativity, and his risk to break outside of the dating mold. I like, what I call, a little grrrrrrrrr-rr-rr-r-rr in a conversation!

E – (30) He needs to be careful because there is a fine line between saying something to get a rise and sexual harassment. It may be rewarding if the girl is the same way.

JM – (29) If you are into him, it’s hot – not if he is a nerd. That would totally creep me out.

Marni’s Commentary:

Here are my thoughts on the topic.  I truly believe that deep down inside most women crave to be released sexually BUT they want to be released in a safe and secure environment.

Let me explain. Women are more locked sexually than men because of the backlash women constantly receive for being overtly sexual.  Names like whore and slut come to mind.  I think for a lot of women moving past the fear of being labeled is difficult to do. I know that when I was younger I never wanted to be placed in either of those categories. Therefore I held back sexually until I was sure that the man would not take advantage of me and respected me.  Sadly for me it locked me up sexually.

Fortunately I have a partner now who has been able to “unlock” me and help me really experience sex.

Now that I am more comfortable with my sexuality I would love if someone I LIKED talked to me the way D talked to his date. It’s fun, it’s exciting and it’s out of the norm.  I will say that even though I am not a big drinker, a little alcohol would help me drop my inhibitions and fears and I would gladly play along.

Just note that the creepy comment comes up several times in the responses above. There is a fine line between being sexually exciting and creepy.  Be careful not to cross that line. Baby steps, feel out the women you are with. She will tell you how far you can go and how comfortable she is with talking dirty.

TAKE AWAY: Women are open to being sexual, if anything they WANT to be sexual as long as they feel comfortable.

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What are your thoughts on this topic?

I would love to hear your experiences, opinions or any questions you have.

How To Be A Woman’s Hero

“Nothing” is the worst word a man can possibly hear coming out of a woman’s mouth. “What’s wrong”, “NOTHING”. But it doesn’t have to be.

I want to tell you what this “Nothing” really means, why we say it and how it has NOTHING to do with you. If you can learn how to handle the “NOTHING” with class, comfort and ease you will be a woman’s hero for life!

I will explain it by using an email that I received from one of my Insider Club Members, E.

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Email From E:

Hey Marni,

I’m curious about something.

When you can see that something is a woman’s mind or is troubling her. When you ask her, is something wrong or what’s on her mind? Females usually say ” Its nothing”.
But my gut feeling is that: “nothing” = something she’s not wanting to tell you. If I’m right Marni, what is the best way to handle that situation? or should I just let it go? What’s really happening here?

My Response:

E,

Ah the dreaded “Nothing”, a statement I have made oh so many times.  This “Nothing” is actually quite loaded, but not in the way you think.  I have heard many men label this as a “test” or a way for women to manipulate.  It is neither.  What it actually is, is a statement stemming from discomfort.

“Nothing” means either “You should know and I can’t believe you don’t” or “I am mad at myself for being this mad about X and need your help calming down. I don’t want to be this upset, but I am”. Both come from a place of caring about you, feeling alone and discomfort. Both should be handled in the same way.

Let me step back up for a minute and tell you something about women. Women tend to “think” they are in control at all times. They also aim to be an ideal woman, especially in the eyes of the man they are seeing. When they get into situations where they begin to feel “less than ideal” it creates anxiety. Anxiety that is uncontrollable and sooooo uncomfortable.

When she is seemly sitting and stewing, this is the moment where you can be a woman’s hero OR you can be her punching bag. Ultimately this choice is up to you because it’s really in your control, not hers.

If you wish to be the punching bag, engage her defensively and tell her that what is feeling is irrational/crazy/unacceptable.  No good. Get’s you nowhere but the dog house for a full week.

If you wish to be a woman’s HERO, stay strong, listen, be patient and understand that it’s not ABOUT YOU.  Next, you engage her in a warm way. Not defensive, not attacking and not AFRAID. The last one is most important. If you show any indication that you are afraid or that for one minute you are thinking in your head “this chicks crazy” game over

You say to her “I can tell something is bothering you and I want to talk about with you”. And then you LISTEN to her.

If she still does not budge you say “listen, I want you to be comfortable telling me things. If I have done something to upset you, I want to know so that I can try to not do it again.” Give her a hug if needed.

If she still sticks with the huffing and puffing, that is when you have to have a boundary and you say to her “I can tell something is wrong but I am not going to push it out of you. I will be in the other room and when you are ready to talk, I will be ready to listen to you.” and then leave.

Most likely she will calm down and eventually work up the courage to speak with you. Still be strong, patient and understanding and LISTEN to what she is saying. These are her feelings, they are not meant to hurt you or attack you. They are meant to show you what she is feeling so that you can grow together.

Sometimes in relationships, your partner can make mistakes or they can have a moment of weakness. These are the most important times to show her you still care and can handle her imperfections.  If you handle these situations with class and calmness, these situations will happen fewer and farther between and you truly will be a woman’s hero. Trust me!

Marni
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Situations like the one described above can either hurt a couple of bring them closer together.  Next time you encounter the “NOTHING” situation with the girl your dating, take it as a compliment.  Seriously.  Understand that she cares about you enough to feel stress, anxiety and discomfort over you.  If she didn’t care about you and if she was not invested, then these things would not matter to her.

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#1 Secret To Dating Younger Women

Want to know the #1 Secret To Dating Younger Women?

I get at least 2-3 emails a week from men asking whether or not they can date girls who are younger than them.

I always find this to be such a strange question because there should never be any limitations on who you can and cannot date.

Listen, if the girl is 16 I am obviously going to advise against it but if she is legal and you connect, then I play ball!

The real question I like to throw back at these men is why are you putting boundaries on what you can and cannot do?

The #1 Secret To Dating Younger Women is to stop thinking about what complete strangers (women) want and start going after what you want. The only thing that stops you from getting what you want is your own head. So if you think that a younger women will not be interested in you then she won’t be. How could she be?

Thinking that younger women will not be attracted to you is an issue with YOU not women. The longer you have this belief the longer you will not be dating younger women.

The way to get rid of this belief is simple. Just throw it out the window and stop letting your insecurity about your age be your crutch or defense mechanism.

I can tell you that I have a lot of female friends who prefer dating older men.  In fact, I happen to be one of them.  In the past I had dated men who have been up to 20 years older than me and am now married to a man that is 10 years my senior.  To be honest at times, the issue of age did come into my mind but quickly disappeared every time.

There was one instance when age did become an issue and that was the time when the guy I was dating became totally fixated and insecure about our difference in age.  It was brought up every 2 weeks and I could tell that he was very uncomfortable with it.  This made me uncomfortable with it and it also annoyed me having to constantly defend my age and the reason we were together. Exhausting and very unattractive.

I thought it would be interesting to interview them and see why they preferred dating older men compared to men their own age.

“Older men are like a breath of fresh air. Most of the men that are my age (26) are not comfortable in their skin yet. They are still figuring themselves out. I did that 3 years ago and am ready to be with someone that is a little more mature, independent and confident.” – Melissa 26

“I like to date men who are in their late 30′s – early 40′s. They are less headaches and are more open to communicating because they are not worried about looking cool and being macho. Plus they know who they are or are at least closer to getting there then men my own age.” – Jennifer 27

“I have dated younger men and I have dated older men and I definitely prefer dating older men. They are just better. Men who are younger or my age don’t really interest me. I find it easier to connect to older men.” – Belinda 35

Everyone around you is an option and therefore women young or old will be attracted to you as long as you are attracted to yourself.

Remember, you can’t turn anyone on if you aren’t turning yourself on and doubt mixed with poor self worth will not turn anybody on.

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How To Talk To Women

The most common questions I receive from men all over the world are about How To Talk To Women? And it got me thinking why is this question so common? Why are men so confused on how to talk to women and then I realized it was because the way that men talk to one another and the way women talk are totally different.

When women talk, they look for connectors, emotional connectors. So men that understand this about women, have an upper hand over other males.

So what I am going to do, with the help of my friend Bill, from PUA Forums, is teach you a few tools to use so that you can connect to women in conversation and will never again have to ask me how to talk to women.

Bill discusses what he uses to remember to connect with women when talking with them. He remembers to  Listen, Confirm and Affirm which I thought was genius and as a woman I can say these actions are definitely appreciated and rewarded at any stage, be it attracting, dating, relationship or marriage.  Connecting to women does not stop once you get her number.

Here is a brief summary of Listen ,Confirm and Affirm

Learn – Learn something about a woman by asking a question or by having her tell you something about herself

Confirm – Confirm you have heard her by talking about the topic at hand for example giving your own take on the topic either by sharing a story or expanding on hers

Affirm – Affirm that because of this “thing” she has told you makes you like her more

Listen to the full audio (16 minutes) that gives a much longer description with exact examples on how to talk to women and how to connect to them through conversation.  After you are done listening to the video, Click Here to see another one of Bill’s famous moves called The Whiskey Kiss!

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One Night Stand: When Are Women Open To A One Night Stand?

One Night Only: When Are Women Open To A One night Stand?

My Wing Girl Zoey tells you exactly when a woman is open to a one night stand!

I could have a one night stand, and I’m the kind of girl who looks over in the morning and is like, ‘Do you really have to be here?’ I don’t need to cuddle and do all that stuff because I know what it is and I don’t try to make it more… I feel like a lot of women try to make it into more, so they don’t feel so bad about just wanting to have sex. I don’t really have a problem with just wanting sex. Never have… I just wanted to see what it was like to be with different people. I don’t think a girl’s a slut if she enjoys sex. – Jessica Alba in “Cosmo”

There’s a common misconception that only a wanton slut, a Desperate Housewife, or DeDe the Dogfaced Girl would be the kind of woman open to a one-night stand.  But many desirable women, Jessica Alba included, aren’t afraid to satisfy their needs with no strings attached.  Truth be told, a vast majority of women have enjoyed a single night of passionate, no rules, no meaning, simple satisfying sex.  In the past we may not have admitted, even to our girlfriends, that we’d indulged in a one night stand for fear of being labeled and judged.  But more and more women are embracing their own empowerment and sense of fun and adventure, while choosing to leave the judgments and labels in the dark ages where they belong.

We’re all aware of the stereotypes of a weepy woman waiting by the phone for her one night stand wonder to fulfill his empty promise of “I’ll call you…” or the wannabe-wife who believes a night of sex translates into choosing a caterer and color theme for the wedding.  While these stereotypes are often the antithesis of real women, their desires and intentions, more than a few of us have had her feelings squashed by that troglodyte who wrote a check his ass couldn’t (and never meant to) cash.

After a couple of these disappointments, some women determine to not be let down again by any man.  She starts calling the shots, deciding with whom and when she wants to get laid; she becomes the architect of her own experience.  Rather than finding herself panicked and lonely, the woman unafraid to love ‘em and leave ‘em indulges in a night of passion and then simply goes on leading her full life.  Presented with the choice, she turns a one night stand into an experience instead of a disappointment.

For other women, spontaneity is simply a way of life.  This type of girl grabs opportunity by the balls and rides it for all its worth.  This type of adventure-girl believes life is too short to let an exciting opportunity pass her by.  The right guy, the right place, and the chance to regale her girlfriends with another fantastic story, is too irresistible.  This is her moment to enjoy her body and her sexuality with the right person to satisfy her needs at that time.  Waiting around for a one night stand to take her out to breakfast is not her style.  For the adventure-girl, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.  Even when she’s in Detroit.

Women are open to a one night stand on innumerable occasions, each with her own reason or for no reason at all.  She might be too busy to be tied down by a long-term commitment or maybe obligations make her feel trapped.  Perhaps she’s living out a lifelong fantasy of going home with a sexy stranger.  She might be on the rebound, unready for all the banal complications that come with dating someone new, but eager to sample some fresh flavors of men.  Or maybe she just wants what Erica Jong termed a “zipless fuck”: Unapologetic sex with no stings attached, pure and free of ulterior motives and power plays.  With no emotions involved, she’s able to get out of her head and truly enjoy the chance to leave behind all the contrived rules about romantic encounters and just have wild, hot, meaningless sex.  In between searching for our soul-mate and getting our hearts broken, who couldn’t use zipless screw now and then?

Here is your chance to listen to 2 women talk about their experiences with a one night stand, why we had a one night stand and what makes us want to have a one night stand!  Listen to the audio below:

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How To Please A Woman Sexually

You want to know how to please a woman sexually?  It’s not always what you think.

In this special interview, I sit down with my friend Jason Lane (an expert on sexual escalation) to discuss attraction, how to get physical, and what men can do to really please a woman in bed.

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Bad Boy vs. Nice Guy

Do Women Want To Be With The Bad Boy or The Nice Guy?

Contrary to popular belief women DO NOT want to be with the Bad Boy. They want the Nice Guy. I know you are probably cringing right now because everything you have learned up until now has provided evidence that makes you believe the opposite.

So again I am going to tell you, women DO NOT want to be with the Bad Boy. They want to be with the Nice Guy.

Listen to the audio below. It tells you how I know this to be true, why it’s true and how you can use this information to get any woman you want!

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Why Do Women Flake On Plans?

Why do women flake on plans?

Have you ever made plans with a women and then 30 minutes before meeting she sends you a text saying “Totally forgot. I have plans to meet my grandmother and can’t make it” or “Seems work has called me in last minute. Can we reschedule?”

I am pretty sure you have experienced this at least once in your life.

I can tell you for certain that this woman did not just “remember” she had plans. She is flaking. She is a female flake.

When a woman likes a man there is no way she would cancel plans on him for something else. AND if she does cancel she will make
certain they have concrete plans in the future.

How do I know?

I know because I have done this to men several times. So have each of my Wing Girls and so have each of my female friends.

So the question is why do women do this?

Unbeknown to them, women do this because they are selfish. To avoid their own discomfort they will be polite and accept an invite with
absolutely no plans of ever following through.

I do want to add in, that this is not malicious behavior from women. It is in no way planned or meant to be cruel. Women are not
trying to embarrass you or be mean. It is simply done to avoid an awkward situation for her.

It is easier to say yes to an invite or give out a phone number than to say NO. At least that is what most women feel and what
felt in the past.

They would much rather avoid the phone or flake on a date rather than being rude and saying NO to your face.

Again, this is selfish behavior that is based in female insecurity.

Women don’t realize how hurtful these actions are to another person. They don’t realize the frustration, annoyance and hurt men
experience when they have a woman flake on them.

They think they have avoided being mean and rude when in fact their actions were actually more cruel.

Now, I am going to try to my best to teach the women of the world to be honest and say what they mean but that is going to take some
time.

In the mean time I can provide you with tips on how to protect yourself against the flakes!

These tips will help you ensure you don’t waste time, money and energy on women that are not into you.

Tip #1

Don’t Get Angry

When a woman texts you 15 minutes before your date that she “forgot” she has another obligation understand that this means she is not into you. Instead of being angry or hurt about her flaking,
feel sorry for her that she was not mature enough to be honest.

This will create a calmness in you because you will realize that this is a type of woman that is not worthy of being with you. A woman who cannot speak the truth is not worthy of your attention
nor is she mature enough to handle you.

If you like you can express back your disappointment in a mature manner that lets her know you will not accept this behavior. Again, do not be a dick but maturely express that this behavior of flaking
is not cool.

For example write something like “Totally understand that things can slip the mind. In the future it would be best to check your schedule so that you aware of your commitments. My time is very valuable to me and I hope you will respect that in the future. No hard feelings. Have fun at your event!”

It’s firm, shows you have respect for yourself and is also soft at the end to let her know you are still safe.

Hopefully she will learn that her behavior was not cool and either correct it with you OR correct it in the future. Either way a good deed has come out of the situation.

Tip #2

Don’t Leave The House Before Confirming

To save yourself a drive and possible parking fee text her before you leave your home about an hour before you are set to meet.

Say “Running about 10 minutes late. Hope that is still cool?”

This text gives her the time to take her out if she wants it. Truth is if a woman is going to flake she is going to flake but at least with this move you can save yourself time, money and energy.

Tip #3

Learn To Spot Signs Of Interest

The possible flake date can be avoided by being armed with knowing what it looks like when a woman is interested in you. I must add that these are not fool signs to look for because circumstance can
play a role in many interactions.

For example, sobering up.

Some women will only be very available to you for a single night. Meaning potential for a one night stand but no date a week later.

Another example is personal reason.

She may be on the rocks with an ex, she may be super stressed in her own life, she may be getting over a break up, she may have just been up for flirting that evening. So many reasons exist as to why
her feelings faded after an evening.

Another example is meeting someone else. Attractive, quality women may meet someone else that they are more interested in. Therefore they will now put their energy into this new guy.

The signs to look for that she is interested your sexually or for dating are:

- Making eye contact
- Ignoring her friends even if it is a girls night
- Slightly touching you (too much touch is a sign of extreme
comfort and possible future friendship)
- Engagement in conversation
- Twirling her hair
- Puckering her lips
- Going to the bathroom all touched up and looking fresh

Once you ask for the number listen for the pause. The awkward pause where she debates whether or not to give you a real number or fake number.

Most women who want you to call, if they give you their number have been waiting for this question to come out of your mouth. Meaning there should be no pause.

A pause usually translates into possible flake.

These tips will assist you with determining whether or not a woman will flake on you and will also assist you when you are dealing
with a flake.

The important thing to remember is that when a woman is a flake it is a reflection on her. It shows that she is not confident enough
in herself to give a real honest answer and is scared to look poorly in someones eyes.

I have learned my lesson about flaking and try to teach every woman I come in contact with the importance of being upfront and honest.

Again, I will do my part to stop this from happening and you can do your part to stop it from happening to you!

Marni

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Do You Have The Presence Women Want?

As I always say information is key and recently I was challenged to elaborate on the information that I provide.

You may or not know but women like to be challenged so I was more than happy to accept!   This challenge involved me digging deep to really understand, as a woman, the energy that I respond to from men.

About a month ago I got an email from one man who had purchased The Wing Girl Method best selling program How To Become The Man Women Want where I reveal to you the top characteristics a man must possess in order to attract a woman and then I provide ways to gain these characteristics.

This man, who I will refer to as X, had told me that the information he received from the program, How To Become The Man Women Want was priceless but it left with 1 question about presence. He wanted to me explain this presence that I kept referring to that women fall head over heals for.

After his request, and my completion of his challenge, that I realized how valuable this information was to other men so I wanted to share our email correspondence where I explain exactly what women are looking for in a man.    Below is the email from X.  He really got me to dig deep and I know this information is the exact information you need to truly understand what women want in from a man.

Question from X:

On Oct 29, 2009, at 7:19 AM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Here's a question about looks:

 If looks don't matter that much to women, but everyone -man and

 woman alike- wants a good looking girl or guy... I'm confused, so,

 for a woman, what is the point, or the deed, or the key or whatever,

 where the woman stops looking at what he looks like, and starts to     

like him for who is inside. More so, what must the man be like, act

 like or do, in order to take attention away from the way he looks

 and turn a woman's attention to his character, of course, not in a

 manipulative way?

 And yes, i know confidence, proactiveness and fun will all be there

 in your answer. Be your best self advice is also way too generalized

 for me. I know I'm being picky with the answer i haven't even got

 yet. Plus, I'm making it harder for you to answer, so I'll make it

 easier for you to answer this question.

 And you don't have to answer this question but you're a woman so I

 have to ask... So, here's the question anyway!

 What would make you forget about how the guy's looks and like him

 for something he's got inside or something he does or it's just the

 way he expresses himself, what does it for you, and what would make

 you say, 'wow, it's so not about how he looks'?

 Thanks

 X

Answer From Me:

 From: info@winggirlmethod.com

 Subject: Re: WGM Become the Man Women Want

 Date: Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:29:53 -0400

 X,

 I totally get your frustration because some of the advice that most

 people dish out seems general and there is no WHY behind what they

 are saying. I am going to try to break it down for you the best way

 that I can.

 For me, yes, looks are what initially catch my eye.  It's easy to

 spot pretty things and the truth is those pretty things can bring

 great disappointment when they don't work as well as you think they

 should.  BUT a pretty thing can be over powered by quality in a

 matter of seconds. Once you hear and feel that something is quality,

 that THING starts to become appealing.

 I would like you to go out to the mall or somewhere really social

 and notice the way that people carry themselves.  Take a look at

 really attractive people and people who are unattractive. I am sure

 you will spot some people that you typically would not give a second

 look to with a powerful presence about them. That presence is what

 I am talking about. That is what is sexy. It is the perceived notion

 that something is quality!

 By being confident, proactive and fun you can build up your inner

 core so that you can display this type of quality to others and it

 will be a real quality. A top machine that can produce better than some silly little

produced in china that looks amazing but falls apart after the first time you use it.

I hope that makes things more clear.

Let me know if you want me to elaborate.

Best,

Marni

On Oct 29, 2009, at 7:20 PM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Yeah, I totally understood what you said in your email. If you could

 elaborate on that 'presence' that you are talking about? - that

'quality'- because that is exactly what I'm trying to get at!

 Can you describe what that 'presence' or 'quality' is for you; what

 it feels like or how or what makes you sense this presence or

 quality in a guy; is it a skill that a man has to be attain; or is

 it an intuition the man has and he does what he wants in the moment?

 -You know, try to be as specific as you can, but also try to

 consider what every other women thinks of this presence and/or

 quality, in your answer.

 Even for me that is a really hard question to answer, but I

 sincerely think that we are on a goldmine here, we just haven't

 reached the gold yet.

 Thanks

 X

 From: info@winggirlmethod.com

 Date: Fri, 30 Oct 2009 09:59:13 -0400

 X,

 I like the challenge! I know this is something that needs to be

 broken down and it is priceless.

 I was with a best friend of mine who has always been great with

 women.  Some of our other friends, guys, are a little jealous of his

 abilities and credit it to his money/car/home.  As a woman I know

 that his success with women has nothing to do with his money/cars/

 home.  He could be dirt poor, no car and bald and if he was still

 able to hold that inner calmness that he currently has he would

 still be able to attract many many women.

 The thing about this friend of mine is that he knows he is worthy,

 he has self respect and he knows what he wants and goes after it.

 I know you want a more magical answer than this but that is really

 the secret.

 Now the hard part is getting to a place of believing this about

 yourself and feeling that calmness and comfort.  This comes with

 practice, experience and information.  It comes from observing

 people but more importantly from recognizing yourself.

 I don't want to sound like a spiritual guru right now but I hope you

 see where I am going with this.

 My guy friend has been in therapy since he was 12.  He was

 constantly evaluating himself with the assistance of another person.

 This allowed him to face his greatest fears, learn to control his

 anxiousness and come out on the other side as a man of value.  The

 reason he has this value for himself is because he has earned it and

 worked at it.  He gives himself permission to go after what he wants

 and believes that he will get it.  This type of attitude is where

 comfort and calmness stem from.

 You can have this as well but it takes time and effort!

 Marni

 On Oct 31, 2009, at 10:55 AM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Thanks for sharing that story about your friend, plus, also thanks

 for providing an answer to my question. And, you didn't sound like a

 spiritual guru, you actually spoke a lot of sense -giving yourself

 permission to going after what you want and believing that you'll

 get it, and knowing yourself- is basically the best advice, and I'll

 tell you why...

 I went out to this club last night. Now, I have approach anxiety.

 So, when I went out to this one club, loud music and all...

 something happened - I just got my phone out and typed a message

 "hey I think that ur gorgeous" and I went out on the dance floor and

 I gently touched this really gorgeous blonde girl on her shoulder

 and showed her the message on my phone. She burst out laughing and

 asked me, "How often do you do say that sort of thing?" and I calmly

 told her the absolute truth, "not often, this is actually the first

 time..."

 And it was, it truly was the first time I just went up to a girl who

 i wanted just like that, and sure, I could have said something

 better than just 'ur gorgeuos', but I'm learning, it was more about

 getting rid of the anxiety. But, I realized that the anxiety I had

 about approaching was so irrational, and it is so true, women are

 really friendly and polite. I spoke to her for a short time, but

 then I thanked her for the conversation and left, because I knew my

 chances were zero...

 I wouldn't say my approach anxiety is all gone, but I just listened to what you

said and understand that it is my choice to decide if I can get the women I want.

I know I can meet new girls when I'm out because that's what I want. 

What I also know is that I won't be afraid to go up to a girl

 any more, because, I know that after I did what I did with the girl

 on the dance floor, I still felt like me, I still felt like X,

 even though I didn't get her. I now look back in the past to the

 many chances I could have met someone great and didn't because I was

 too nervous or worried about rejection, and I just kick myself.

 So, again, thanks for the advice marni! I am one step closer to the presence
you are talking about.

 Sincerely

 X

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What this email exchange shows is that the only person from holding you back from getting EVERYTHING you want is you.  X took a chance and went after what he wanted. He approach a woman, he felt like himself instead of pretending to be  someone else and even though he didn’t get the girl he felt better about himself because he took the chance.

The more you can start pushing yourself to take the chances the more confidence you will gain and more opportunities with women will appear.

I promise you!

Have a great thanksgiving and don’t worry if you don’t get to make a wish on that wish bone because you don’t need it! Make the wish yourself and then go make it happen!

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