Let me try to explain why this keeps happening to you by using an everyday example so that it may be easier for you to understand.

My friend is having a barbecue. There are all kinds of meat on the grill.  Chicken, fish, steak, ribs, everything! I go up to the bbq and say I am so hungry and that looks amazing.  I would love a piece that meat. Can I have the one on the top shelf?

My friend will look to the top shelf and see 10 pieces of meat of all different assortments.  He’ll then look at me and say “which one?” and I will say “the one on the right?”  My friend probably still have be confused about which one on the right I am referring to.

Now what if I were to change the way I was asking for that meat and said “Can you I have that piece of chicken on the top shelf second from the right?”.  BINGO!!! My friend knows instantly what I am asking for, reaches for the chicken and hands it to me.  We are all happy. There is no room for confusion. He knows what I want and can give me exactly what I am asking for.

See where I am going with this?

In my experience as a woman, I have seen many men who tippy toe around asking for what they want with me.  They do this because they don’t think it’s polite to be obvious and let a woman know they are attracted and interested in pursuing.  My assumption is that men also think women are clueless.  Of course we know. As soon as you approach us we know or at least we always assume that is why you are approaching.  We don’t think you are coming over to us at a bar or social location because you REALLY want to tell us about the recent stock market crash or find out our favorite color.  We know and there is nothing wrong with that.

If you are attracted to us, approach us and then be perfectly clear why you are approaching. Don’t hide it or cover it up to seem less obvious.  Seem very obvious and let her know your intentions.

Don’t try to be sneaky and ask to be a friend. Because you know what’s going to happen don’t you?

YOU WILL BECOME THE FRIEND.  If you don’t ask for more, we won’t give you more.  AND we will assume that you are very content being that friend until you tell us differently.

I refer to this as Nice Guy Manipulation.  A manipulation tactic that sadly, always blows up in a guys face.

So next time you meet a woman be very clear on what you are looking for.  Tell her you think she is attractive and want to get to know more.  When you are online don’t say you are looking for a friend because you most certainly are not.   Be clear, be straight and be direct with what you want and I can guarantee you will not find yourself in the friend zone.

The only way to get what you want is by asking for it!

Remember the only one sticking you in the friend zone is you.

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1. Do not linger and stare – Women are always aware of the “lurkers”. We can see you and feel you. The longer you stare the lower your chances are of having a successful approach.

2. Do not be afraid of rejection – What is rejection really when approaching a woman? It is a woman who you have never met before and know nothing about telling you she may not be into you based on two seconds of conversation. The less afraid you are of rejection the more attention you will get from women.

3. Always go after what you want – I always say the only way to get what you want is by asking for it. If you never take a chance and go after the things you want, you will never get anything EXCEPT a big case of depression. Any woman that you are interested in approach, find out more about, and then decide if she is really what you want.

4. 25% / 75% – As the man you should be talking 25% and guiding the conversation not dominating it. The more a woman is talking the better.

5. Know what you want to say – I hate it when men come up to me and expect me to start and carry the conversation. An opinion opener is always a good way to start a conversation if you are stuck. Just make sure that you are actually interested in the question you have asked.

6. Pay attention to her body language – To avoid wasting your time, energy and money take notice of a womans body language. This will tell you what she is really saying. She is not interested or engaged if: She is not making eye contact, she nods her head to answer your questions, she gives one word answers, her body is turned away from you, she is looking over your shoulder for someone to save her.

7. You can leave at any time – Remember that reason you are approaching a woman is because you want to see if you she is interesting and worth your time. If this is not the case you have full power and permission to excuse yourself and leave.

8. Everyone has approach anxiety – Approaching a complete stranger is a nerve racking task for everyone. But the more that you do the less scary it seems and the more natural it becomes.

9. Approach every woman – Practice, practice, practice.

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