Bad Boy vs. Nice Guy

Do Women Want To Be With The Bad Boy or The Nice Guy?

Contrary to popular belief women DO NOT want to be with the Bad Boy. They want the Nice Guy. I know you are probably cringing right now because everything you have learned up until now has provided evidence that makes you believe the opposite.

So again I am going to tell you, women DO NOT want to be with the Bad Boy. They want to be with the Nice Guy.

Listen to the audio below. It tells you how I know this to be true, why it’s true and how you can use this information to get any woman you want!

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Do You Have The Presence Women Want?

American thanksgiving is coming up so I wanted to give you a gift. The gift of knowledge!

As I always say information is key and recently I was challenged to elaborate on the information that I provide.

You may or not know but women like to be challenged so I was more than happy to accept!   This challenge involved me digging deep to really understand, as a woman, the energy that I respond to from men.

About a month ago I got an email from one man who had purchased The Wing Girl Method best selling program How To Become The Man Women Want where I reveal to you the top characteristics a man must possess in order to attract a woman and then I provide ways to gain these characteristics.

This man, who I will refer to as X, had told me that the information he received from the program, How To Become The Man Women Want was priceless but it left with 1 question about presence. He wanted to me explain this presence that I kept referring to that women fall head over heals for.

After his request, and my completion of his challenge, that I realized how valuable this information was to other men so I wanted to share our email correspondence where I explain exactly what women are looking for in a man.    Below is the email from X.  He really got me to dig deep and I know this information is the exact information you need to truly understand what women want in from a man.

Question from X:

On Oct 29, 2009, at 7:19 AM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Here's a question about looks:

 If looks don't matter that much to women, but everyone -man and

 woman alike- wants a good looking girl or guy... I'm confused, so,

 for a woman, what is the point, or the deed, or the key or whatever,

 where the woman stops looking at what he looks like, and starts to     

like him for who is inside. More so, what must the man be like, act

 like or do, in order to take attention away from the way he looks

 and turn a woman's attention to his character, of course, not in a

 manipulative way?

 And yes, i know confidence, proactiveness and fun will all be there

 in your answer. Be your best self advice is also way too generalized

 for me. I know I'm being picky with the answer i haven't even got

 yet. Plus, I'm making it harder for you to answer, so I'll make it

 easier for you to answer this question.

 And you don't have to answer this question but you're a woman so I

 have to ask... So, here's the question anyway!

 What would make you forget about how the guy's looks and like him

 for something he's got inside or something he does or it's just the

 way he expresses himself, what does it for you, and what would make

 you say, 'wow, it's so not about how he looks'?

 Thanks

 X

Answer From Me:

 From: info@winggirlmethod.com

 Subject: Re: WGM Become the Man Women Want

 Date: Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:29:53 -0400

 X,

 I totally get your frustration because some of the advice that most

 people dish out seems general and there is no WHY behind what they

 are saying. I am going to try to break it down for you the best way

 that I can.

 For me, yes, looks are what initially catch my eye.  It's easy to

 spot pretty things and the truth is those pretty things can bring

 great disappointment when they don't work as well as you think they

 should.  BUT a pretty thing can be over powered by quality in a

 matter of seconds. Once you hear and feel that something is quality,

 that THING starts to become appealing.

 I would like you to go out to the mall or somewhere really social

 and notice the way that people carry themselves.  Take a look at

 really attractive people and people who are unattractive. I am sure

 you will spot some people that you typically would not give a second

 look to with a powerful presence about them. That presence is what

 I am talking about. That is what is sexy. It is the perceived notion

 that something is quality!

 By being confident, proactive and fun you can build up your inner

 core so that you can display this type of quality to others and it

 will be a real quality. A top machine that can produce better than some silly little

produced in china that looks amazing but falls apart after the first time you use it.

I hope that makes things more clear.

Let me know if you want me to elaborate.

Best,

Marni

On Oct 29, 2009, at 7:20 PM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Yeah, I totally understood what you said in your email. If you could

 elaborate on that 'presence' that you are talking about? - that

'quality'- because that is exactly what I'm trying to get at!

 Can you describe what that 'presence' or 'quality' is for you; what

 it feels like or how or what makes you sense this presence or

 quality in a guy; is it a skill that a man has to be attain; or is

 it an intuition the man has and he does what he wants in the moment?

 -You know, try to be as specific as you can, but also try to

 consider what every other women thinks of this presence and/or

 quality, in your answer.

 Even for me that is a really hard question to answer, but I

 sincerely think that we are on a goldmine here, we just haven't

 reached the gold yet.

 Thanks

 X

 From: info@winggirlmethod.com

 Date: Fri, 30 Oct 2009 09:59:13 -0400

 X,

 I like the challenge! I know this is something that needs to be

 broken down and it is priceless.

 I was with a best friend of mine who has always been great with

 women.  Some of our other friends, guys, are a little jealous of his

 abilities and credit it to his money/car/home.  As a woman I know

 that his success with women has nothing to do with his money/cars/

 home.  He could be dirt poor, no car and bald and if he was still

 able to hold that inner calmness that he currently has he would

 still be able to attract many many women.

 The thing about this friend of mine is that he knows he is worthy,

 he has self respect and he knows what he wants and goes after it.

 I know you want a more magical answer than this but that is really

 the secret.

 Now the hard part is getting to a place of believing this about

 yourself and feeling that calmness and comfort.  This comes with

 practice, experience and information.  It comes from observing

 people but more importantly from recognizing yourself.

 I don't want to sound like a spiritual guru right now but I hope you

 see where I am going with this.

 My guy friend has been in therapy since he was 12.  He was

 constantly evaluating himself with the assistance of another person.

 This allowed him to face his greatest fears, learn to control his

 anxiousness and come out on the other side as a man of value.  The

 reason he has this value for himself is because he has earned it and

 worked at it.  He gives himself permission to go after what he wants

 and believes that he will get it.  This type of attitude is where

 comfort and calmness stem from.

 You can have this as well but it takes time and effort!

 Marni

 On Oct 31, 2009, at 10:55 AM, X wrote:

 Hey Marni,

 Thanks for sharing that story about your friend, plus, also thanks

 for providing an answer to my question. And, you didn't sound like a

 spiritual guru, you actually spoke a lot of sense -giving yourself

 permission to going after what you want and believing that you'll

 get it, and knowing yourself- is basically the best advice, and I'll

 tell you why...

 I went out to this club last night. Now, I have approach anxiety.

 So, when I went out to this one club, loud music and all...

 something happened - I just got my phone out and typed a message

 "hey I think that ur gorgeous" and I went out on the dance floor and

 I gently touched this really gorgeous blonde girl on her shoulder

 and showed her the message on my phone. She burst out laughing and

 asked me, "How often do you do say that sort of thing?" and I calmly

 told her the absolute truth, "not often, this is actually the first

 time..."

 And it was, it truly was the first time I just went up to a girl who

 i wanted just like that, and sure, I could have said something

 better than just 'ur gorgeuos', but I'm learning, it was more about

 getting rid of the anxiety. But, I realized that the anxiety I had

 about approaching was so irrational, and it is so true, women are

 really friendly and polite. I spoke to her for a short time, but

 then I thanked her for the conversation and left, because I knew my

 chances were zero...

 I wouldn't say my approach anxiety is all gone, but I just listened to what you

said and understand that it is my choice to decide if I can get the women I want.

I know I can meet new girls when I'm out because that's what I want. 

What I also know is that I won't be afraid to go up to a girl

 any more, because, I know that after I did what I did with the girl

 on the dance floor, I still felt like me, I still felt like X,

 even though I didn't get her. I now look back in the past to the

 many chances I could have met someone great and didn't because I was

 too nervous or worried about rejection, and I just kick myself.

 So, again, thanks for the advice marni! I am one step closer to the presence
you are talking about.

 Sincerely

 X

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What this email exchange shows is that the only person from holding you back from getting EVERYTHING you want is you.  X took a chance and went after what he wanted. He approach a woman, he felt like himself instead of pretending to be  someone else and even though he didn’t get the girl he felt better about himself because he took the chance.

The more you can start pushing yourself to take the chances the more confidence you will gain and more opportunities with women will appear.

I promise you!

Have a great thanksgiving and don’t worry if you don’t get to make a wish on that wish bone because you don’t need it! Make the wish yourself and then go make it happen!

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What Women Want – Other Experts Speak Out Part 2

Yesterday I introduced you to a couple of my new friends in the community Alan Roger Currie and Carlos Xuma. I shared with you their opinions on What Women Want.

Today I have a few more people to introduce you to, who will be giving their expert opinion on What Women Want. I want to introduce you to:
David Wygant, Jamie Smart, Christian Hudson and Liz Leia.

Again, these are others in my community who have been validated by world as experts in the field of Attraction, Dating, Seduction, NLP and What Women Want!

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4 more amazing people I have recently connected with that have wonderful insight into what women want. All provide absolutely amazing materials that will empower you so that you can attract the women you want!

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What Women Want – Other Experts Speak Out

What The Hell Do Women Want?

Over the past 6 years I have been giving you my insight into the minds of women and worked hard to explore, understand and explain to you What Women Want!

During this time I have gained the respect of some of the worlds top PUA’s, dating experts and attraction specialists because I have been able to clearly articulate to men What Women Want. I didn’t even realize this was a commodity until a few years ago!

Throughout my site there is tons of free content available to you so that you can learn what women want including 2 video and audio programs that also teach you step-by-step How To Become The Man Women Want and What’s Inside A Woman’s Mind? You have heard my opinions and the opinions of my Wing Girls but now I want to open the floor for even more opinions that I definitely agree with.

As I said, I have gained respect from others in my community BUT I have also found many other individuals who opinions I respect as well. All of whom I have had countless conversations with about What Women Want. Most of these conversations have lasted for hours and could have continued for many more.

I wanted to start sharing some of their views with you because, as you know, I believe information and numerous opinions are always beneficial.

These other individuals may say the same thing that I am saying but in a slightly different way that may resonate with you!

I am going to do this as a series as not to overload you with too many opinions.

Today I am going to start by introducing you to two wonderful men, Carlos Xuma of Dating Dynamics and Alan Roger Currie of Mode One.

I really want your feedback on these two men.

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These are just two of the amazing people I have recently connected with. Both provide absolutely amazing materials that will empower you so that you can attract the women you want!

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Making Connections With Women

Making connections with women can be a tough feat for those that do understand the importance of connecting.

Listen to the audio below where I talk with Christian Hudson of The Social Man and discussed making connections with women. He had some great tips and insights on How To Make Connections With Women and the importance of Making Connections in general.

Feel free to comment. Any added information is welcome and appreciated.

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and Understanding What’s Inside A Woman’s Mind?

How To Become The Man Women Want

You want to know what women want? I will tell you.

Women want a man.

A MAN, by female definition is a male that is self assured, calm, cool, collected, comfortable and direct. A MAN goes after what he wants and does not apologize for it. A MAN is not a jerk, or aggressive. A MAN is kind but will not allow others to walk all over him.

Every male has the power inside him to be a MAN. The MAN that women want! It’s just hard to find him sometimes because of that thing above your shoulders

I’m talking about the brain, the mind, thoughts. These things are what stop you from getting what you want because you let them overpower your natural, biological makeup.

So stop letting that thing on the top of your head stop you from fulfilling your role as a male.

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Does She Like Me Or Is She Trying To Get Over Her Ex?

Does she like me or is she trying to get over an ex?

For both men and women, getting over an ex is tough. It’s especially tough for others around us because our actions are not stable and can be based on emotional insecurity rather than rational choices. This means that we may reach out to others to assist us in filling the new empty void.

These actions are not fair. They can be hurtful but they are typical and normal.

I myself have done this to many men in my past. When I went through my big heartbreak I attempted to get over it by quickly trying to find a replacement rather than dealing with the break up.

Again not fair but it’s what happens. It is not meant to be malicious and in fact these actions are usually subconscious.

I think it is really important to be aware that this happens.

To avoid this issue you can do 1 of 2 things.

1. Make a rule to never date a woman who is just coming off a recent breakup.

This can be effective but you could possibly loose out on meeting a great woman that you were meant to be with because a rigid rule.

2. Be armed and know the signs of a woman trying to get over her ex

I asked one of my Wing Girls Lisa to put together a list of Signs to look for that a woman is still not over her ex. These signs will also help you evaluate when a woman is into you even if there is no ex in the picture.

Does She Like Me Or Is She Trying To Get Over Her Ex?

Women can be such complicated creatures.  At times that complicated nature can be a challenge for a man who loves the thrill of the chase.  Other times it can lead to heart break when you never know where you stand.

You meet a woman and she seems to have all the attributes you’re looking for: she’s attractive, can carry an intelligent conversation and seems to have a good head on her shoulders.  You exchange phone numbers and during the first phone call, when you ask her how long it has been since her last relationship and she replies something to the effect, “Oh, my boyfriend and I broke up about three weeks ago,” proceed with caution!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying run for the hills and avoid her altogether.  By all means, slowly continue to explore her as a potential mate.  But look for a few of the signs that are a good indication that you may be the in-between guy until she finds someone better.

The Signs:

1.      She insists on going to places she and her ex once visited.
When you take her out to restaurants suggested by her, only to discover she knows every waiter and busboy at each establishment because they were favorite eating places for her and the ex, it’s time to wake up and smell the decaf.  By dragging you to these places, she’s trying to relive the good times with her ex or she’s hoping she’ll run into him so he can see she’s “moved on.”

2.      She subtly compares you to her ex.
If she asks whether you’d be willing to do a certain activity, for example skydiving, and you reply you’d be open to it or you’ve done it before, and she replies, “Because my ex never like to…,” take note!  That means she’s trying to justify in her mind that it was a good thing to break up with her ex because you’re willing to do things her ex wasn’t.  In other words, she exploring the possibility that a better man exists for her, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you are that man!

3.      She shows no interest in your plans, only hers.
After a couple of months of dating (this measure of time is on the assumption that you’ve ignored the two signs above), it’s only natural that you might want, for example, to plan a romantic weekend getaway.  For every possible weekend you suggest, she thwarts you at every turn with a litany of excuses.  But that doesn’t stop her from dragging you to a party given by her friend, whom she coyly reveals later has a six-degree of separation from her ex.  Understand that her ego is bruised from the breakup; she needs to feel adequate again AND to let her ex know he didn’t break her.

4.      She’s not making any attempts to get to know you as a person.
You remember every detail about her; her likes and dislikes, her favorite flower, even the birthday of her pet guinea pig, Mr. Nibbles.  Yet, she can’t remember the things that are important to you, what makes you tick.  If you’re asking her questions in an effort to understand her and she doesn’t reciprocate the interest, chances are she doesn’t see a future with you beyond her “mourning” period.

5.      She’s forgotten how to use her phone.
You call, leave messages and she finally gets back to you when you least expect it.  She may pretend she didn’t get your messages or she may come up with a lengthy explanation as to why she didn’t return your calls.  Don’t be surprised if she ends the phone call with a promise to call you later.  Just to be clear, “later” doesn’t mean by the end of the day.  It may not even be by the end of week!  And what was the purpose of the return call?  To check if Mr. Standby is still standing by (this means you!).  This also applies to e-mails, text messages, etc.

6.    You’ve unwittingly become her BFF with benefits instead of her boyfriend.
Here’s an example: you don’t hear from her for a while, and then suddenly she calls you in tears asking you to come over.  Like the gentleman you are, you rush over to see a weepy, sniffling wreck answer the door.  As you comfort her, one thing leads to another and before you know it, you’re performing a tonsillectomy with her on her couch.  Afterwards, you think, “I’m in like Flynn!  She’s seeing I can be there for her,” but no!  She treats you the same as before and as a matter of fact, the late night, sporadic “tongue calls” become a pattern.  Oh, one more thing!  If that sporadic tongue action leads to more (wink!), then you’re officially a “jump off.”  She wants you to sneak over when no one can see you and start asking her questions about you.

7.  She hasn’t mentioned or introduced you to any of her friends.
You’re out together and you run into one of her closest friends.  You stand there awkwardly as she and her friend chat away before she acknowledges your presence with a polite, “This is Larry, my friend.”  Translation: this is just some guy I’m seeing to pass the time, and hopefully make my ex jealous over, until I find someone I’m willing to introduce with the title of boyfriend.  When a woman is protecting her property, she’ll let every woman within a 10-block radius know this is her man, she’ll make sure her scent is all over him.

8.  She has no problem spending money, as long as it’s yours.
Now, I’m not saying she’s a golddigger…but do you find yourself breaking out your wallet more than she breaks out hers?  Is she accepting little gifts from you without reciprocating the kindness?  No, she’s not cheap; it’s just that you are not important enough to spend money on.  When a woman is in love with a man, she’ll beg, borrow and steal to get things for her man to make him happy and more importantly, keep him in her life.  Pay attention when she regales stories of how she bought her ex this and that.

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The first two signs in Lisa’s post will definitely help you decide whether or not a woman is still fixated on her ex. The rest of the signs can be used as indicators to evaluate whether or not a woman is into you.  When you start dating a woman and you start wondering to yourself “Does She Like Me?” go through this list and answer the questions honestly.

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Kissing Women At The End Of A Date: How To Know If She Wants To Be Kissed!

No longer does kissing women at the end of a date have to become such a daunting task.

My fabulous Wing Girl Ericha, has put together her list of the important signs to look for that will let you know a woman wants to be kissed.

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Kissing Women At The End Of A Date: How To Know If She Wants To Be Kissed!

It’s the end of an evening with your date, following a great dinner and nice conversation.  You want to kiss her good night.  But is the timing right?

Of course the timing is right! Why? Because you have already acknowledged that you want to kiss the girl at the end of the night. Therefore be confident in your decision and go after what you want, the kiss!

BUT if you are looking for the list of guaranteed, fool proof “signs” to watch for before kissing women then you have come to the right place!

In my opinion it’s always a good idea for a man to walk a woman to her door following a date.  In fact, it’s a must.  But how do you navigate that awkward feeling of, “What do I do now?”  “Should I go in for the kiss?” “Does she even want to be kissed?”

Here Is A List Of  The Body Signs That Indicate Whether Or Not A Woman Wants To Be Kissed:

Making eye contact before saying goodnight – GOOD SIGN

Face down, hands by her side – BAD SIGN

Sexy lean against her door, attempting to show off her body and appear sexy - GOOD SIGN

Bolting ahead of you – BAD SIGN

Licking her lips – GOOD SIGN

Fumbling for her keys – BAD SIGN

Leaning towards you – GOOD SIGN

Arms crossed protecting her body – BAD SIGN

Batting her eyelashes – GOOD SIGN

Making excuses about her busy day at work tomorrow/how busy she is going to be in the next couple of weeks – BAD SIGN

**Note: The head turn is always a confusing one for men. If a woman turns her head when you go in for the kiss this is not necessarily a bad sign. It may mean that the woman is not ready to be kissed by you, but this does not mean that she will never get there.

If the woman is still acting present, making eye contact and very comfortable around you YET turns her head at the end of the night, be patient.  You will get your kiss eventually!

If you happen to see any of the GOOD SIGNS listed above then get ready to kiss!

However, do not hastily lean in for the kiss.  Instead run your hand up and down her arm a couple of times to see if she responds by leaning in.

Marni’s Comment: This move can be extremely powerful and sexy! It shows that you are confident, in control and a leader plus it feels so damn good Sends chills up my spine just picturing it.

TIP: To be able to do this move effectively, you must be able to be present in the situation. Concentrating on whether or not she wants to be kissed or if you will be a good kisser removes you from the situation.  Take a breath, get back into your body and out of your head and know that both of you are going to enjoy this moment.

Many men may not be aware that the first kiss is a magical and sacred moment for many women.  It might seem silly to you, but it is actually quite intimate for many women.

If you have any doubt at all, the worst thing to do is to kiss her. You can’t go wrong by just saying good night and walking away.  She might even wonder why you didn’t kiss her and it will stick in her mind all night and the next day.  Women love the mystery of that too.

For more tips on what goes on inside a woman’s mind, check out our What’s Inside A Woman’s Mind program. 5 hours of unedited, raw discussions between women on what they really want!

Do-Able vs. Date-Able, What Do Women Want?

Meet one of my new and wonderful Wing Girls Trish a fiery red-head with tons of spunk and personality. She has written an interesting article for you on what defines a man who is “Do-able” vs. “Date-able”.  Just like you, we place members of the opposite sex into categories. Shocking right?

So what do women want? The Date-able guy or the Do-able guy?  The answer is a little bit of both.  Ultimately, most women I know, want to be with the Date-able guy but while they look they may as well have some fun with the Do-able ones!

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Do-Able vs. Date-Able, What Do Women Want?

For me it’s dark, vibey hair.  That’s the first thing that catches my twinkling, single eyes when I walk into a bar, film event, concert, whatever.  Maybe it was working in the music industry or spending a lot of time in granola Santa Cruz, but guys with shaggy-ish hair you can run your fingers through, like Adrian Grenier or Brandon Boyd, make my heart p-p-pump in a, “How YOU doin’?” kind of way.  I can’t help it, that’s just my type…or
what I’m INITIALLY attracted to at first glance.

But does this mean my future husband has to rock the “I don’t have to shower or cut my shag-alicious hair because I’m a rock star” look?  Absolutely not…no matter how fabulous my dreams of shocking the pressed pants off my more buttoned-up, east coast relatives are.

You see just because the dark, brooding artsy types top my “Do-able” list doesn’t mean I want to have three hour “hipster” conversations or vibey babies with them.  In fact, I have tried to date some and in reality a lot of these guys are notorious commitment-phobic players.  I have found that a lot of these guys don’t conform to society’s standards—of grooming, career, etc.—for a reason.  In other words, these guys are totally “Do-able,” but not totally “Date-able.” Go ahead and kiss…YUM…then run-walk away…

So who is this “Date-able” guy?

To be “Date-able” there has to be some kind of physical pull, but there also must be something more to keep one interested—whether it’s a killer sense of humor, a shared passion for the high art of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, or simply the promise of not being a douche.  It means you actually want to spend DAY time with the person, not just make- out time.  It means you look forward to introducing the person to your friends without fear that said friends will suddenly “forget” to invite you lovebirds to every social function.  It’s simple, really.  The same things that make guys want to get to know a girl
POST-beer goggles make us want to get to know you post-Pinot Grigio-goggles.

Think about it…

Most every hetero male has at one time been mesmerized by the stunning Heidi Klum look-a-like with a 2.0 GPA shaking her micro mini on the bar…but that doesn’t mean they all want to take her home to mom or even pay for a first-date dinner at Koi.  I mean, does she even eat?  Can you talk to her about your embarrassing passion for John Grisham novels?  Would she ever dare wear snow pants—the kind you can actually stay out in -15 degree weather for hours on cross-country skis?  Of course that doesn’t mean you and Heidi can’t have a noteworthy night (or ten!) in the sack (no judgments here, my friends) and part ways before the morning hours where no doubt she eats Camel Lights for breakfast.  Just don’t kid yourself if you try to date Heidi and are suddenly inspired to stab yourself with the salad fork every time she responds to a question with, “Huh?”

And “Groom-able”?

That’s the Holy Grail of “Date-able.”  It rarely comes around more than a handful of times a lifetime.  In order to reach “Groom-able” status a girl not only has to love spending day and night time with you…she has to want to live with you.  Forever.  Till smelly gym shirts do us part.  She has to trust you.  And not be grossed out by the idea of procreating with you (or not…kids aren’t for everyone…again, no judgments!).  She has to introduce you to her family and hope you don’t turn them into Edvard Munch’s “The Scream” in the process (no matter how fun that might be).

So next time you meet a girl you actually want to date, remember…there has to be something more than a cute face or witty opener to keep her interested.  The same standards you look for in a “Date-able” girl are pointed right back at you.  So just be yourself.  If you guys actually date she’ll get to know the real you, anyway, so why not figure out if this is worth pursuing right away?

And please guys, start conversations, not lines.  Or save those for the Heidi’s…they’re probably too dense to realize how lame you sound or at least you won’t be around the next day when they finally figure it out.

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