Exercise: Break Out Of Your Shell With Women

07. Oct, 2011 7 Comments

A sample exercise to “coming out of your shell.”

Starting a “low risk” conversation is a great exercise to help you to “come out of their shell.” A “low risk” conversation is one where you can’t be rejected easily.

Here’s a one good example:

First, for simplicity let’s have two categories.

1. Plus (+) which is a positive response

2. Minus (-) which is a negative/neutral response

Go to a location (Whole Foods, a bookstore, etc) where there is likely to be some attractive women. Find one who is NOT wearing a watch and ask her “Do you know what time it is?” Put her response in a +/- category. If you think that her response is a “+” as measured by her tone, her reaction, her overall response then the conversation plan goes something like this:

You:  “Do you have the time?”

Her: (+)  “Oh, sorry I don’t have a watch do you want me to find out for you?”

You: “No, problem. Does your cell phone have the time? I forgot mine”

Her: (+) “Oh, good idea, yes it’s 11:30″

You:  “Thank you”….then see if you can start conversation.

If you do start a conversation, no matter how trivial it may seem…….you just took a small step in coming out of your shell! Great! Want to add in a little flirting?

When the conversation is over, say “I really didn’t want to know the time, I just wanted to talk with you” and walk away. If something better comes out of the conversation, that’s great. However, get the flirt in if you can!

You don’t have to use the EXACT wording that I have given you, but you get the idea. It’s just a small step to starting conversations with people. The more you do it, the easier it becomes!

Oh, if her response is a minus (-), you may want to try someone else OR challenge yourself to taking a bigger risk. It’s just an exercise. Get out of that shell!

NOTE: This exercise is just for practice and to help you break out of your shell!

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7 Responses to “Exercise: Break Out Of Your Shell With Women”

  1. Kevin Reply 07. Oct, 2011 at 5:52 am

    When I was in High School, I saw this goddess I used to basically stalk. About 5′ 8, slim, pale skin and long straight jet black hair. I had no idea what to say to her, I built up this fantasy about her in my head so bad I couldn’t even speak to her.

    I asked around to my friends who knew I was obsessed with her. “what do I say to her?” I can’t just walk over to her and talk, are you crazy? It’s suicide!!!

    One day in study hall, I asked my friend that I wanted to talk to Lisa but I didn’t know how to break the ice with her. He said…

    “I don’t know, Ask her for the time”

    I said “Oh ok, I’ll do that then!!

    I saw her walking through the hallway and caught up to her and said “Excuse me, Do you know what time it is?”

    She said “No sorry, I don’t have a watch on” as she showed me her wrist.

    I didn’t say anything and she just kept walking, then she walked a little faster and then a little faster till she was gone far ahead of me.

    Few weeks past and a guy in my woodworking class said to me “I saw Lisa today, I asked her “Hey do you have the time” She started laughing”

    I wasn’t amused.

    • Redfish Reply 12. Oct, 2011 at 11:55 am

      Hey Kevin,

      You opened her successfully, but didn’t take the lead in the conversation. She gave you a shot and you missed! The line “I didn’t really want to know the time, I just wanted to talk to you” is what makes that work! Just look a woman dead in the eye if you happen to use it. It’s honest and assertive, and that turns women ON.

      Even though you didn’t have success with that woman, try it again. By her physically showing you her wrist, you actually got a positive response; you just didn’t continue the conversation!

      Redfish

  2. Dan Reply 10. Oct, 2011 at 5:35 pm

    Marni, I approached a lovely young women over the weekend while walking my beagle! We exchanged morning greetings and when I asked how she was, I recieved a very confident reply “Great” from her. I got the sense that she wanted to talk…or wanted me to talk to her further. Her expression was eager and friendly. That was a good feeling! I hope I run into her again as she is a neighbor of mine. I will go a bit further next time!

    • Marni Wing Girl Reply 27. Oct, 2011 at 2:37 am

      Hey Dan

      Please do! A woman will give you all the signs to approach, but you need to take action. So if you can strike up a conversation with her, maybe walk along together with that Beagle for a while, then say that you want to link up another time. Suggest coffee for next week :-)

  3. Mike Reply 12. Oct, 2011 at 2:14 pm

    I agree with Redfish. What turned her off wasn’t you “asking for the time”, it was you sort of awkwardly hanging around without saying anything (take even more points away if you gave her the “creeper stare”). She sped up to avoid an uncomfortable situation–she could feel that you wanted more but that you didn’t have what it took to go for it.

    Also, not every woman is going to be receptive. A big part of being successful with women is learning to deal with it.

  4. RedFish Reply 12. Oct, 2011 at 2:41 pm

    Redfish,

    This was 18 years ago. Things have changed. I have no problem looking at a woman in the eye. But thanx for the tip.

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