Go here to get it now: http://bit.ly/12sd68B

I am so excited for you to hear it and to give feedback on it.
I have to be honest with you.

This new experience has been a little uncomfortable for me and has brought out some insecurities which I am sure you can relate to.

I obviously want this podcast to be amazing and super successful. I know that I have so much great information and advice to give and I want to be sure to make everyone happy.

Which is so funny because the pressure I’m putting on myself to make this podcast “perfect” is so similar to the pressure you put on yourself to make every interaction with women perfect right?

Funny how these two worlds can relate

So I’ve taken a page out of my own book and saying “screw it! I’m going to put my best self out there and see what happens”.

The more you try to control an outcome, whether it’s having a successful podcast that everyone loves OR approaching a woman and getting her number, the less likely the chances for success will occur.

Go check out my first podcast where me and the women of Ask Women tell you:

- What it means when a girl looks at you

- How to know when she’s interested

- Subtle signs that women give that say “I want you” or “I don’t want you”

and much more!!

The podcast is available for download here: http://bit.ly/12sd68B

I hope you like and if you don’t, I’ll survive

I’ve been getting floods of emails from guys who’ve been asking GREAT questions that I think you’d love to hear for yourself. And it seems I get the most over the weekend come Monday lol…

Sooooo….I decided to send you the best questions and success stories every Monday and call it “Marni’s Mailbag”

They’re too good to not share with you…so take a  gander, see what applies to you, and let me know how else I can help!

Marni

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 ”When Should A Guy Approach A Woman?”

Marni,

Late last night, I went grocery shopping and saw this woman that I was extremely attracted to.

She was wearing biking gear and had a bike in the back of her truck. I think this intimidated me a little because I did not approach her. Reason being, I really thought I would be bothering her.  I do this all the time and want to stop wasting great opportunities.

So my question to you is, when can I approach a woman?

I

My Response:

I,

The short answer to your question is ALWAYS. If you see a woman you want, approach her. Delay or linger and you can easily become the creepy guy seemingly gawking from behind the Doritos display.

It sounds like there is a lot of pressure on your approaches and you may be thinking large picture instead of small picture.

Large Picture: I’m going to approach this girl, she is going to be attracted to me, I’m going to get her number, we are going to date, have sex… The whole shebang.

That’s a lot to put on an approach.  Try drilling it back a little to a smaller picture.

Small picture (or intentions) are more realistic.  Plus, they are far less emotionally charged which makes them easier to accomplish.

Small Picture: That girl is cute, I want to talk to her and see if I like her.

Having the small picture in mind before any approaches will make it a lot easier on you. If you don’t attach a large picture outcome to your actions, then you will not feel as much pressure to succeed.

So, again, start off small!

And once you’re ready and you’ve got all the basics  down, THEN you can take your game a step further by really developing into the type of guy that can open up with a woman, fully engage her into a deeply flirtatious conversation, and illicit intense attraction from her on a genuine (and even sexual) level.

So please do not fall victim.  Approach every woman that peaks your interest at this point and decide what category you want to put her in after you have some facts to base it on

Marni

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“You are the Tony Robbins of dating”

Recently, I bought both of your products: How to become the man woman want and What’s inside a woman’s mind.

They are hot as fire, Marni.

I learned so much about how to connect with a woman that I felt empowered as if I had gone through a Tony Robbins event. In fact I’d say you ARE the Tony Robbins of dating!

All I can say is that I learned so much that my confidence has soared to the Alpha Level.

With this knowledge, I am able to approach confidently to a woman and create a meaningful relationship that can lead to marriage.

Thank you, Marni!

T

My Response:

T,

You know I can’t believe I never saw myself as Tony

Robbins…I mean we look almost IDENTICAL to each

other!

I’m kidding.  I’m so glad you were able to gain the confidence and charisma to be able to approach women and become a man who can create a meaningful relationship.

Your success is my success so please keep me in the loop and once again, it was an honor to have helped

Marni

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“How Can I Tell She Likes Me?”

There is a girl at the place I work. Every time our eyes meet, she blushes. She has winked at me and she has checked me out. She has also looked at me when I enter the room. At the end of the day I say bye and she responds but she does not initiate anything.

A) What is she doing?

B) What can I do?

Yours,

D

My Response:

D

Answer to B: YOU CAN ASK HER OUT!!!!!

Answer to A:  She is living her life and being friendly to a co-worker.

From the actions you describe, it sounds like you may be creating this “connection’ in your head.  There is no indication that she is into you BUT there is also no indication that she is not into you.  See what I am saying?

If you are waiting for her to pounce on you it’s not going to happen.  If you want something YOU have to go for it.  Especially when it comes to women.  Women, even successful women in business, still want to be feminine. They typically do not take the initiative to make the aggressive first move.

Subtle signs like winking or smiling could be saying to you “ask me out fool”.  They could also be saying “I have something in my eye.”.  It’s up to you to find out more.  Right now you are playing it safe with her. You are taking little steps to “test” if she likes you but in reality you are actually just protecting yourself.

But protecting yourself and staying in the safe zone will almost never result in getting what you want.

There are actually SO MANY things that go on in woman’s mind when she’s into a guy…and yet there are so many things that us girls will NEVER say!

So imagine how things would be for you, if you knew exactly what was going on in her head…and EXACTLY what to say and do in order to have her gazing at you like you are
the ONLY man for her.

See most guys actually get it wrong…they compliment her in ways that come off as offensive, touch her in ways that get her creeped out, and text her in a way that seems needy and unattractive.

And I don’t EVER want that to happen to you!

So I put together a full arsenal of goodies that’ll show you how to get her giggling and blushing at your touch, daydreaming about you while you’re away, and even fighting herself to not text you because she desperately wants to hear from you already (yes this is how us girls act when we’re REALLY into a guy!)

Get started on finding out all the secret ways to talk and touch to get her gushing to all her friends about you

I call it “[What's Inside A Woman's Mind]” and I give you JUST THAT: everything you need to know about what we think…and more importantly…what we WANT when it comes to the perfect man.

Not only are you gonna the entire female perspective on our ideal date and dude…you’re now gonna have the confidence to NEVER miss out on a girl you really like (especially your co-worker!)

Take action now and find out what most men will never know about attracting any woman they want

As the famous Wayne Gretsky says, “You miss 100% of the shots you never take.” So start taking shots

Marni

P.S. – Women can be very hard to read, especially in the workplace.  There’s so many things we never say to begin with…so imagine all the things she won’t say to you at work (or all the FEELING she actually does have for you).

Find out exactly what’s going on in her mind and how you can use that to get her tonight!

Once you discover exactly what’s going on in her mind you’ll have everything you need to win over her heart…no matter WHERE you are

So the other night out at a lounge, my friends Mike, Eric, and I were sitting down in a moderately busy lounge when we noticed a tall, lean, Angelina Jolie look-alike stroll into the bar.

And within seconds after THAT we all watched and had a good laugh as swarms of men took their turns to try and talk to her (all of which she turned down without saying a word).

My friend Mike demanded that one of them should go over and introduce themselves, certain as all hell that that’s all they needed to do, was be friendly and say who they were…

“‘Hi, my name is Mike!’ is all you gotta say!” he insisted.

But I knew better.

I laughed and said that’s DEFINITELY not the way to go…

Eric then demanded that one of them go over and tell her, “You’re the prettiest girl in this bar.”

WRONG AGAIN, Eric!

The guys were pretty fed up with me at this point and asked what the hell I would work then considering she turned down all 7 of the guys that had approached her at this point.

Before I answered them, I scanned the lounge really quickly and noticed that all the girls in there were wearing really short tight dresses while our girl in question was wearing a
very casual, loose fitting blouse with a pair of jeans.

Then I said, “Guys, I’d walk up to her and say, ‘I noticed you are the ONLY girl in here not dressed in a saran-wrap-tight dress…and I really like that.”

Then I went onto explain what made this statement better than the ones they came up with:

At this point, “Hi my name is Mike” won’t work because she doesn’t know who you are and doesn’t CARE to know who you are!

There are floods of men coming and introducing themselves…and her guard is UP.

“You’re the prettiest girl in the bar,” is an OBVIOUS attempt at flattery and is something ANY guy can say to ANY girl it’s inauthentic and overused.

The truth is she doesn’t wanna be seen as just ANY girl…no girl does.

“You’re the only one in here wearing x,y, or z…AND I LIKE IT” is something you absolutely CANNOT say to any other girl because it’s your reaction to her in this moment…it’s genuine and it’s something so hard to find these days!

As soon as I finished explaining this, Mike and Eric were silent…and within seconds they both fought to get up and talk to the girl (Mike ended up winning).

And sure enough, we watched as the girl not only giggled and blushed at Mike’s comment, but also turned around to face him and talk very excitedly throughout their entire conversation… all ending up with Mike getting her number while every guy watched in dumbfounded disbelief.

Score!

So what I want you to take away from this is that you have to say something to her that you CANNOT to say to any other woman, be it something about what she’s wearing, what she’s doing in the moment, or an experience that you are both in.

Whatever it is, as long as your comment comes from something about the current moment, it’s genuine, authentic, and it’s gonna make her feel special and INSTANTLY
attracted to you within seconds.

After that night, I came home and found a clip on tv to give you the PERFECT example of a guy using this tip in action.

Watch how a guy uses this simple trick at the grocery store.

So go out and use this on the next woman you find too insanely gorgeous for words and let me know how it goes!

Being the man that women fall head over heels for isn’t a simple push-button thing that can happen over night, it’s something only a real man can accomplish…

In other words…lazy men cannot become a man who will attract any  and every woman possible!

So click here if you think you’ve got what it takes to get the edge over all the other guys out there to become a man who every woman wants and every guy wants to BE.

P.S – This is a true story from this week out with the boys hahaha =D

Being unfit and out of shape can have a detrimental effect on your dating life.

From the dates you go on, to your confidence both in and out of the bedroom, how fit you feel will impact your love and sex life.

Here are the 7 ways that being un-fit affects your dating life.

1. Great dates are like marathons! :First you rush out to dinner after work, then spend a couple hours talking with your beautiful date, all this followed by the entire night wide awake laughing and kissing…

Of course this is exhilarating…but also exhausting!

If you’re gonna make it throughout WONDERFUL dates…and BE a wonderful date, you’re gonna need the marathon endurance for it!

(And I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that you’re gonna need stamina to “last” throughout the honeymoon period. )

2. Dating involves fun ACTIVE-ties: Whether you want to swing by a Salsa class, go for a bike ride in the park or take a long stroll across the beach; some seriously romantic dates also require you to be active.

Women are drawn to men who wanna take them on adventures that other guys are too lazy to go on.

No girl is gonna settle for a coffee date, then a dinner date, then the movies over and over again.

And the key to keeping a girl hooked and wanting more of you is to take her on adventures that no other guy has…or even can.

So get those climbing legs ready, get your heart rate up to speed, and don’t limit her to a night out at the movies…again.

3. Dating involves delicious dining: I’ll be the first to say that when I see a guy on a date ordering just a salad or limiting his options, I get really self-conscious about what I’M eating, then I get uncomfortable in front of him, and then overall become less attracted to him.

The more fit you are, the more able you’ll be to go crazy with whatever dinner choices you want…

In return SHE will feel that much more comfortable eating whatever around you as well, which IN TURN will make her feel secure with you and more connected to you.

So don’t restrict where you can go to eat, or feel guilty when you get there.

Instead, get started on a dynamic fitness routine that allows for some wiggle room when it comes to adding some spice to your meals…and to your dates.

4. Dating means choice: Imagine how awesome dating would be if you knew you could have absolutely any woman YOU wanted…even the ones you immediately write off as “out of my league.”

You don’t just want a woman who is nice enough to deal with…you want a girl who’s beautiful (inside AND out), fun, smart and totally gets your impersonation of Steve Carroll.

Don’t limit the kind of women you think you can approach by having poor self esteem.

So do what you need to do to get the confidence you need to go for those tens…for the women YOU really want…don’t just settle for the only ones you THINK you can get.

5.  Dating means dress code: Just like how you don’t want to restrict the women who you think you can approach, or the dates you can go on, you also want to be able to wear clothes that are both stylish and appropriate.

In fact you want to look and feel sexy yourself: so that means getting to a fitness and stamina level where you’re happy to wear a well tailored suit, feel great in a pair of swimming trunks, and amazing in the nude.

6. Dating means first impressions: Just how you wouldn’t walk into a job interview unprepared, and un-groomed, you want to go out to a date feeling like you’re presenting your best self to the world.

But don’t look back to your high school photo and wish you still looked that good…because as far as I’m concerned, your best self has yet to be realized!

Instead, get to where you need to be in order to present yourself at your fittest (and HAPPIEST) today.

7. Dating is overall SEXY: This is gonna sound a little weird, but I want you to ask yourself if you would wanna watch a porn with yourself in it.

No I’m not saying that you’re gonna have to make one…but I am saying that SHE will have to see you during moments of physical intimacy…

And whatever doubts, concerns, or self-reservations you may have about yourself…she will totally pick up on and become instantly turned off (she might think there’s something about HER that’s wrong).

What I want you to do is get to the point where you look in the mirror and think, “YEAH that guy’s hot enough to be a porn star!” because THAT’S when you’ll know you’re looking and feeling your best

But being sexy doesn’t just mean feeling like you’re one hot guy…cuz let’s face it some guys feel sexy with money, nice clothes, and a fancy car attached to them.

But REAL sexy comes from having a voracious libido and showing her how hot you get for her AND having the overall stamina and endurance to give her the kind of passion she needs.

Unfortunately being unfit may mean that your nights of passion don’t last as long as you would like though.

I remember I was in the middle of some hot action with a not-so-fit guy and NOT ONLY did I feel like I was suffocating while he was on top of me, he had to keep stopping to get water and wipe off all his sweat!

I was so put off and grossed out that I stopped in the middle of it and never answered his calls or texts ever again!

Find out how to get the endurance you need and avoid being her next horrific sex story

I’m not saying this is you by any means, but I will say that it’s almost inevitable if you don’t start taking care of your body and overall physical state NOW.

Most guys will write off this advice as something they don’t have time for or something they’ll get to later…or even worse, something they can fix with a shake-weight!

But just think…

If YOU aren’t giving yourself the time to invest in yourself, then no woman will give you her time either.

Dedicate time to yourself now and find out how you can look and feel your best

So if it came down to a choice between a doughnut and dating, or a mid afternoon sugar fix and sex, I know which one I’d choose!

I still don’t have exact details for you on how to download but for updates make sure to follow @askwomenpodcast

I wanted to introduce you to each of the girls that will be joining me on the Podcast, which you can listen to for F.ree and call into if you like!

I thought the best way for you to get to know these girls is to hear what they have to say.

So I gave each girl the assignment of answering the same 3 questions about what women want.

Here are Haely’s responses:

1. What you see as a big mistake men are making with women

A colossal mistake men are making with women is believing the myth that women like the bad boys.

Sure, perhaps there’s a brief instance when she’s had one too many glasses of chard and simply doesn’t know better.

But in all honesty, at the end of the day I know women want a man with integrity & humility that we can trust.

We DON’T want a bad boy. I want to stand on my soap box and scream out: STOP PLAYING GAMES!

Chances are once you stop playing games and put the tough-guy-act away you’ll be able to find the girl who responds to the real you.

2. 1 story where a guy who is not good looking, won you over or surprised you

In college I dated a guy who wasn’t handsome or even good looking, but I fell completely head over heels for him.

In fact, we dated for almost two years. He had a bit of a pot belly, smoked cigarettes and drove a clunker that always had left over fast food bags shoved under the glove box.

But he was brilliant, funny, and the type of guy who would say things under his breath that would bring out this guttural laugh reserved for only truly hysterical moments.

He introduced me to astronomy, politics, and a world away from what I had typically known. We’d stay up late debating philosophy or sneaking into fancy hotel pools for a late night skinny dip.

Bottomline: When the brain is activated, the heart is activated. That’s the only way I can describe it.

3. True or false: It’s not about what a guy says, it’s how he says it.  Then explain why!

TRUE! The way a guy responds tells us if he is listening.

If it’s apparent you’re not listening and just blurt something out, prepare yourself for the antichrist to rear her ugly head!

Everything depends on tone and timing.

Hope you get to know and love Haely as much as I do.

Make sure to tune into the Ask Women podcast this week to hear Haely!

Get all updates on the podcast by following @askwomenpodcast

Big news that I may have mentioned to you before but now it’s actually happening.

I am finally doing a Podcast and I am so excited about it.

Me and 3 other amazing, intelligent SUPER HOT women, are going to be doing a weekly FREE podcast called Ask Women.

Each week me and these 3 lovely ladies will be giving you realistically raw and hilarious perspectives on what women ACTUALLY want in a man.

To ensure you get all the updates on the podcast, you can follow @askwomenpodcast on twitter and I’ll also update you through email so that you don’t miss it.

I will have full instructions for you next week on:

1. Where and when to listen to the podcast

2. How to download the podcast

I’ll also be introducing you to the other 3 women that will be part of Ask Women.But for now, here are some preview pics of them:

I am so excited for you to get to know these girls and for them to educate you on the ridiculous mind of a woman to help you better understand, appreciate, and avoid getting punched by the next girl you come across.

Be the first to get details on the Ask Women Podcast by following @askwomenpodcast on twitter   Click the link to follow us now and PLEASE share this with others!!!

The challenge is called, Nickname it!

I came up with this challenge when I was at wholefoods this morning getting my coffee when this guy walked in that I see nearly every morning.

He looked at me, smirked and said “coffee buddy, what’s up”. I immediately got shy for a second, hard to believe right

I realized that because he nicknamed me I instantly saw him as someone of higher value than me AND I felt attracted to him.

2. Nicknames are kind of fun and funny

3. Nicknames make me feel special

4. Nicknames make me feel feminine.  Not sure why, but they totally do.

I love that he doesn’t even know me but he had the confidence to nickname me.

The fact that he did this rather than politely initiating conversation caught my attention and made me like him more.

So this weekend I want you to Nickname It!!!

Everyone that you come in contact with, I want you to give them a fun nickname.

If you’re at a bar and the waitress is kind of mopey, call her mopey face or sad sally.  Then tease her a little and cheer her up.

If your coffee girl is really perky and smiling call her smiles.

You get the idea.

But I want you to dish out nicknames to women, or even people for that matter, and watch how your rapport changes. It’s almost as if you skip all formalities and go straight to connecting.

So go try it this weekend and then come back here to report back to me and let me know how it went. Write what happened in the comments section below.

In the comment box below, tell me what happened after you did this exercise.

Want more challenges and exercises just like this one??  CLICK HERE

Josh is the founder of the Tao of Badass. You may of seen or heard him on The Today Show, The NY Press, The NY Times, The NY Daily News or his Maxim Radio show that he hosted for several years.

All you left brainer’s out there, pay attention!

Josh’s specialty is creating systems by identifying patterns. He uses this skill to understand and explain the successes and the failures of men and women.

He told me that today, he shot a video that he wants me to share with you. The video is teaching a technique on How To Get A Girl To Kiss You, that he’s never taught anyone before. It’s one of his favorite little tricks-of-the-trade. I snuck a peak and I can tell you that it is amazing AND it’s dead on!

To watch video RIGHT NOW Click Here.

It’s a sentence that you can say that will make a woman want to kiss you. When I was watching the video, I literally found myself leaning in for a kiss and felt butterfly’s in my stomach.

Most of Joshua’s students have paid thousands of dollars to learn techniques like this one from him and he’s giving it out to you in video form (which is awesome), so check it out now:

To watch video RIGHT NOW Click Here.

This video will disappear in a few days so watch it all the way through.

As a woman I know exactly why these women gave out there numbers so easily.  The reason was BECAUSE HE ASKED FOR IT!!!  Seems stupid but it’s true.

These guys asked for the girls numbers and didn’t doubt that they wouldn’t get it. They asked for what they wanted and the girls responded favorably.  If the girls asked “why do you want” the guys would simply say “because I want it” and for the girls, that was enough.

So after I put this video up and got over 200 comments on it, I got an email from one of my newsletter readers (if you’re not subscribed to my newsletters, sign up below)

He wrote me this:

“I sent  your phone pickup video (where guys are asking women to add their phone numbers into  guys phones) to my very cute female friend to get her thoughts.  This is what she told me:

Hi E!

Haha what a video! No, I wouldn’t give my number to any guy who asked for it on the street, especially if the guy was hiding behind sunglasses, almost yawning and looking elsewhere while I type my number.

But add a good eye contact and a little twinkle in the eye to that and yes I see the point. I like guys who know what they want. Especially now that I had Andrew around and realizing how I reacted to his behavior… versus seeing what the hot kettlebell teacher is like and how I react to him.

Andrew is the ultimate nice guy, he cooked for me, cleaned for me, brought me flowers, massaged my feet, would do anything I wanted, didn’t really have any strong opinions cos everything I said or suggested was fine. And I ended up being annoyed.

Whereas the hot teacher is very assertive. He tells me what to do and doesn’t end up asking if it is too much or too little or too this and that… and for some strange reason I find it very attractive!

I hear Marni about women liking the men to be strong. For me it is very refreshing to be around a guy who doesn’t worship the very ground I stand on. Yes he thinks I am attractive, and yes he is opening up to me more a little lately but he is not one of these puppy eyes guys who would bring the moon if I asked for it.

So I guess some sort of cave man style works with women. A man who is a leader.. who says “no” to being bossed around by a woman. ”

I loved this response that E got from his female friend because she clearly stated what women are attracted to and the turn ons & turn offs from women.

WHAT DO YOU THINK? I want to hear your opinion. Don’t be shy & Don’t be a dick either  

There are 1000′s of little things that men don’t know about women. But I guarantee if you knew them, it would put you in the top 1% of men that have their choice of women they want.  I can tell every little thing you need to know about women. Including the things that women would never want you to know. Read More…

I did tell each of these guys that when they talk they were putting the same emphasis on each word and trying to clearly enunciate but I didn’t know how to help them change that until….

I found a great article online.  Here is what it said:

Have you suffered from a monotone voice? Would you like more vocal variety and a public speaking voice that sounds like music to the ears of the listeners?

In high school I was chosen to be a narrator for the spring concert. Confidently I stood on stage and delivered to several hundred people. My speech was clear and easy to listen to. However, it lacked vocal variety.

The music director told me I was emphasizing every single word. It is like having a sentence with EVERY WORD IN CAPS. Or as one of my speech mentors said, “It was like listening to a machine gun fire.”

Do you remember the old records and how sometimes they would get stuck on the same phrase and repeat over and over again. Many people get their voice stuck in one gear. They may be loud/fast, slow/soft or any combination. When it stays the same, it is monotone and can put an audience to sleep or make it difficult to concentrate.

How To Stop Being Monotone & Improve Vocal Variety

Patricia Fripp, an executive speaking, coach taught me the following public speaking technique.

Vocal Variety Technique: Only emphasize 2-3 words in a sentence.

Look at the following sentence:

To be successful you need to have goals and a plan to reach them.

To deliver with vocal variety you may say:

To be successful you need to have goals and a plan to reach them.

In high-school I delivered the line like this:

To be successful you need to have goals and a plan to reach them.

Every word was emphasized. You can improve your voice and vocal variety by following Patricia Fripp’s advice: emphasize 2-3 words a sentence. Do this and it will sound like music to your audience’s ears.

To emphasize a word, change how you say it. Even pause for a micro second beforehand. This subtle shift in your voice will cause the words to stand out. Record yourself before and after. You’ll notice the extra vocal variety and your audience will love you for it.

Practice for just a couple minutes a day, and you soon develop good vocal variety and avoid being monotone.

(C) Arlen Busenitz – Speakinginfo.com

So if you think you are too monotone (if you think it, you are) then I definitely suggest testing out these exercises.

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THIS VIDEO? I want to hear your opinion. Don’t be shy!!

Just an add in after thought on this video.  YES I want the slow build tease because it creates great anticipation so it feels SOOOOO good once something actually happens.

BUT there are times, especially later in dating/relationship that all I want is to be taken and safely slammed up against a wall

Edit

Facts are that men and women have very different ideas of what makes for a great first date: which is why you may think it’s a done deal, when she’s not ready for round 2.

As a guy you may see an attractive women in front of you, have a nice conversation for an hour or so, and assume that she’ll be equally interested in a second date. Problem is that women are often looking out for a much broader range of qualities that make you a keeper.

You may not even consider these points when you’re looking for a date: but women will be evaluating on whether they believe you have the right qualities to be a good match for them; whether you have the charisma to keep them interested; and what you can bring to their life long term.

To help you put the pieces of the puzzle together I asked 5 sexy, successful, single ladies to give you their HONEST opinions about what they’re looking out for on a first date:
Our panel:

Ria, 27, sales executive

Brittney, 28, admin coordinator

Haley, 31, retail consultant

Rebecca, 29, finance

Sarah, 34, accountant

Q: Imagine you’ve just met a guy for your first ‘official’ date: what’s the first thing you’re looking out for?

Haley: This sounds bad: but how much of a ‘man’ he is in organizing the date. I once had a guy ask me to make all the decisions as to where we’re going, what I wanted to do etc and it just felt really dull! Kind of like I was hanging out with my younger brother!

Brittney: Confidence definitely helps with that, I want a guy to take the lead!

Rebecca: Yes, if a guy is clearly super nervous, it makes me worry for him and think ‘this guy can’t handle me!’

Sarah: I’m a little different… I’m looking for a gentleman, someone who has manners, and is respectful. I don’t want to go out with an immature guy, or a rude one!

Q: What do you mean when you say ‘confident,’ Brittney?

Brittney: Confidence doesn’t mean being a jerk: it’s more like someone who is confident and calm within themselves. You don’t want a guy who apologizes about who he is or what he’s about: you want a man who’s comfortable with what he’s got to bring to the table.  I want to sit across the table from someone that feels like a man to me so that I can feel like a lady.  Ya know?

Q: Ok, it’s time to get real ladies, how important is a man’s success to you?

Ria: I’m actually not a huge fan of boastful guys. I mean, if a guy has a good job and loves his career that’s cool: but nothing comes off worse than when a guy can’t stop talking about how much money he’s making. I always think that seems to try hard, guys who are doing more humble things are fine by me!

Sarah: I grew up in a small town so I have similar values to that: honest work, enough money to live on, but no need to be flashy. Now I live in NYC though and- my god- it’s different so many guys will try to impress you with their wallet first.

Haley: I think you can live with a guy who maybe doesn’t have the best job, as long as he’s got some drive and ambition. You want to be with someone who’s going somewhere. So, if he’s a little broke right now, but that’s because he’s putting himself through med school: that’s cool, in fact it’s pretty admirable.

Brittney: Yes, I agree: ambition to be a better person is more important than just being rich here & now!

Rebecca: Listen, having cash is almost never a negative thing in my eyes but it’s certainly not the reason to continue dating a guy. I see it as a bonus if a guy has money. It’s honestly nice but it’s not the reason I would sleep with him or want to continue dating him. There has to be more or else the money is useless. Sorry, just being really honest.

Q: But what happens when it comes to paying for the date?

Haley: It doesn’t have to be an expensive date, drinks or coffee are fine, but I would expect a guy to pay, for sure. If he’s asked me out on a date I think it comes across as really rude when he wants to split the check. That said, if I really like a guy, then I’ll usually offer to pay for something: maybe the second round of drinks or the parking.

Rebecca: If a guy doesn’t pay for the first date, there will certainly not be a second one.  I’ve had a guy go dutch on me for a coffee date. I think the total bill was $7 tops.  It threw me off and left a bad taste in my mouth.  I know we say we want to be equal and stuff but that’s in the work force, not the dating space. It just makes me feel really unwanted and unfeminine if a guy wants me to pay on the first date.

Ria: Yeah, I wouldn’t want to date someone who’s overly thrifty. It’s fine to not have too much money, but when guys are ridiculously cheap it makes you worry about where he sees the relationship as going, and what it would be like in the future if you were in a relationship with him.

Q: And what about the actual type of date: do you need to go out to dinner?

Rebecca: No, but it kind of depends where you met the guy. If you met him via a dating site, or he approached you, you may go for something a little more formal than if he’s a friend of  a friend that you linked up with at a party.

Sarah: I think sometimes a restaurant can be way too much. A really fancy place too early on makes me feel like things are going too fast.

Brittney: Yes, I like to still feel like I have something to work for too: there’s no fun when it’s a done deal. I also hate it when guys get drunk or forget really simple manners. I’ve had guys forget key details about me mid-date: which has made me want to leave!

Ria: I also think that where you go is slightly less important than the guy’s overall presentation. You want him to have bothered to you know, wash, comb his hair, make sure his car is tidy: simple things, but they say a lot!

Q: How is it important for him to behave mid date?

Haley: I think, just like Ria said, you want him to have put a little effort in and, most importantly, make you feel like you’re the only girl in the room.

Sarah: The most important thing for me is no groping! Or lunging in to kiss you unexpectedly before you part- I hate that! A little touch to the small of the back to guide you across the street is fine though.

Rebecca: I like it when a guy has good values: when he speaks about his family, friends, co-workers, positively. Even occasionally mentioning ex’s is fine, as long as it’s light hearted. You want a good guy really: not a guy who’s a player, or who wants to act like one.

Ria: I think we’ve all had a couple of mid date make outs, ha.  I think it’s weird if the guy and I are just having a normal conversation and then he pounces on me wanting to make out. But if we’re in that vibe and feeling it, I’m totally down for a little make out session.

Q: Do you know during the 1st date if there’s going to be a 2nd date?

Haley: Honestly, YES.  I know pretty quickly if I am feeling a connection. I’ve been surprised mid date before but that doesn’t happen very often.

Sarah: I also know pretty early if the date is going to go anywhere. But I will say it also depends on what I want at that point in time.  If I’m on a date and I’m in the “I’m happy I’m single” mode, I may be more open to the guy. But if I’m in “I’m looking for my next boyfriend” mode, I decide pretty quickly. Doesn’t mean I won’t have fun on the date. I just won’t want a 2nd one if I’m not feeling that chemistry or a strong connection and desire to see him again.

Rebecca: I wish I could say that I was really open minded and non-judgmental but I’m not when it comes to guys I date.  I know within the first 5 minutes if I want to see this guy again.  I usually try my best to wrap up the date quickly and not lead him on in any way so that there is no confusion at the end of the date but sometimes it’s tough. Like when I really get along with the guy but I don’t feel anything more for him.  I’m sure he’s thinking “we’re having a great date” while I’m thinking “I totally want you to be my new best friend”.

Ria: Sometimes I go on dates where I really get along with a guy and I really wish I felt something more for him but I don’t.  It just isn’t clicking for me and I don’t know why.  I never say anything because I always assume he can feel it too.

Q: OK, let’s be brutal now: you went out, and you didn’t connect with him. What do you do next? Be honest!

Brittney: Let it die! Avoid calls, say you’re busy and hope he gives up? I know that sounds horrible but it seems nicer than just flat out telling a guy that he isn’t rocking your world.

Sarah: You have to make excuses sometimes: just to be polite.

Ria: I’ll usually blame myself! I may say I’m not into relationships right now, which is true, I’m not into having a relationship with him but of course if the right guy came along, I’d probably change my mind!

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You’re not going to meet women sitting on your couch now are you???

While you are out I want you to go up to the first girl you see and TELL her that you want her to be your Wing Girl for the night.

If she asks what that means tell her “you don’t know what a Wing Girl is?” with a smirk. “Well a Wing Girl is a super cute and outgoing girl who helps a guy break into conversations with women. I think you’d be great at it”.

Then if she says yes to this “partnership”, play around with her. Give her challenges to complete.

This is dare that will help you be more playful when you are out and about.

It will also show you how open to fun and being playful women are when they are out and about.

REMEMBER, you are the leader and it’s your game. She is a part of this fun world you are creating.

NOW GO DO IT!!!

AND then let me know how it goes!

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I can literally feel your stomach muscles tighten from reading that, ha. But take that as a good sign because it means you’re anticipating doing it which makes me a very happy woman!!

You have until the end of this week to approach that one girl and just get it over with already.

No more debating it or waiting for the perfect situation. Instead you’re going to create that perfect situation because it’s going to be on your time and when you want to approach.

I’m sure you’re thinking, What I am going to say or what is my REASON for approaching.

Well, you’re reason for approaching is because YOU want to and what you’re going to say is whatever the hell you want!!

Go up and tell her about your weekend.

Tell her about the new world of warcraft game and how you are on level 10 (is there a level 10?)

Tell her about a funny story that happened to you this week.

Tell her about why you think double stuffed oreo’s are by far the best snack on the market now that twinkie’s are going out of business.

TELL HER ANYTHING you want to tell her just make sure you tell it from your POV and because YOU are interested in it. NOT because you think she will be.

Then after you approach her and tell her anything… WALK AWAY!!!

BOOM!!!

That is your dare, in fact it’s your double dare and the first step to getting over your approach anxiety. Plus it’s always fun to mess around with people

Remember, you are not overly invested in this girl.

You are not even mildly invested in her so this approach does not mean anything in the grand scheme of things. BUT it’s the first step in blasting through your approach anxiety and realizing that you can do whatever you want. So go approach that ONE girl that you’ve been meaning to approach forever.

Tell me what happened when you completed the dare and write in the comments section below!