Female Decoder: What Does It Mean When A Woman Says NOTHING

I know, I know, women are tough to understand. Trust me, I am one of them and I have a hard time understanding myself sometimes.  :-)

My job is to help you avoid making mistakes with women to make life easier for you.  I have been putting out mini quizzes on Facebook to see what things men may need my assistance with.  Check the one I put out today focused on: What does it mean when a woman says NOTHING?

When a woman says “nothing,” what she is really saying is something is wrong and:

1. I don’t know what it is.

2. I do know what it is, but I want you to pull it out of me because I’m nervous to say it out loud.

3. You should know considering YOU did this to me.

Who knew that NOTHING could have so much oomf behind it!  Above, I gave my all in one solution to help you when you run into the dreaded “NOTHING”.

NOTE: When a woman does this, she is not trying to be bitchy, manipulative, or intentionally hurt you. It’s actually not even about you. It’s about her. If you can realize that and stay grounded or unaffected, you will win with her every time!

Solution: Best thing to do in this situation is approach her, touch her softly and tell her you care about her and you’re not going anywhere until you’re sure everything is OK. – GOLD!

But what if she still does not tell you what’s wrong and remains standoffish?

Solution #2: If she is still being stubborn and childish you confidently say to her “I care about you and I’m here to help, but I don’t want to be your punching bag. I’ll be in the other room and when you are ready to come talk to me calmly, I’ll be there for you.”

I love when my husband does this. In the moment, it totally upsets me but it gives me the leadership and support I need in that moment to snap out of my funk. The most important thing that you want to express to a woman during that time is that you still care for her and she will never mess that up. That is what we are most afraid of.  You disliking us or messing up perfection.

Want more female behavior decoded?  Check out What’s Inside A Woman’s Mind. 44 beautiful women, completely exposing what they want, so you can give it to them. Read More!

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  • Parkey

    I miss this. Being the strong, caring, empathic and desired boyfriend is what I can do; that’s the skill set I have. For all this, as long as I still suck at the first 5 minutes of a relationship I can never get to giving years of deep intimacy. It feels like a tremendous waste and it hurts.

    • Jim Daniels

      Then stop improving this area of your life and focus your attention on what you lack and where you need to grow. recognize your soul has learned this part of life and it needs other parts. you are good at giving pleasure but are you good at applying pain to correct bitch behavior? Do you have your own life in order and control your space in the world? Recognize lack of patience means lack of ability to suffer means lack of ability to carry weight which is a necessary trait if you want to build anything like a ziggurat or a megalith or castle or pyramid

  • Kevin

    I’ve known this one for a long time, going back to my teen years I’ve known this, I was at work once and say this cute waitress and she had this sad face on. I said “what’s the matter? She looked at me as her head spun 350 mph and said very fast “Nothing”… I said “Yes there is”. :)

    Look women drive men crazy with all kinds of questions when they think something is wrong with us, they do it because that is what they want and it’s to show you they care.

  • Ron C

    I totally agree with Kevin. The opposite of love is apathy, NOT hatred or silence!

  • Munish Sethi

    topic’s are very great
    thanks Marni

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Glad you like them Munish!

  • Alan

    2 Instant solutions ANY man can use to combat the “nothing”
    Is this a hidden reference to the movie “The Never Ending Story”
    Sorry, it was there, and begging to be asked.
    Have a great day

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Alan

      That made me laugh- I liked that movie!

  • last

    when a woman say the word “nothing” it mean anything except nothing (hahaha)

    • Marni Wing Girl

      So true- usually she has something that she wants to express but doesn’t feel comfortable enough to be open about that yet :-)

  • Bharat

    I feel exactly the way our Wing Girl said.We guys believe in straight from the heart,practical and no-nonsense talk.5 minutes and we have practically spilled everything on the table.Women,on the other hand,like to be reassured and cared.Point is to hold your calm and go in the other room!

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Being grounded and controlling your emotions to an extent is definitely attractive in a guy AND I couldn’t agree more with this:

      ”Go for the gold,even if it means you lose the silver!”

      Go after what you want in life, no excuses

      Marni :)

  • Thaddeus

    Why not say what you mean and be done with it?Sometimes it’s just too hard playing detective on reading between lines when what’s said and what’s really meant.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Thaddeus

      I totally agree that a man should be direct and open about what he wants, as long as it’s not offensive! Sometimes just stating your aims can also really help to allow a woman to open up: ‘I’m not sure I believe the ‘nothing’ so I’m just going to stick around until you feel comfortable to chat to me: I do want to support you’.

      Marni :)

  • Lil Man

    i did this to my friend and she kept saying nothing after i tried all of the steps what do i do??

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Walk away! Her bad mood in that instance isn’t your problem- you’ve shown a willingness to listen & that’s all you can do

      Marni :-)

  • Ardiana the adventurer

    This kind of depends… in what way does she say it. Is she smiling, significantly frustrated like clawing her hair, or looking elsewehre in a dreamy way. There are some occasions I could pry into but some feel that I just shouldn’t interfere. I’ve always had women yapping on and on too much about stuff at me anyways so I never have to pry anything out of them…
    In what stage of a relationship does “nothing” come up? Rapport? Seduction? After sex?
    ~AJ

    • Marni Wing Girl

      I agree if you don’t really want to know you shouldn’t try to take it further.
      This would only emotionally complicate everything.
      Marni :)

  • http://twitter.com/Daswaggatron Daswaggatron

    i simply say ok and go on about my business. women say they want somebody mature who doesn’t play games. well guess what i’m not playing your games. grow the fuck up and speak it or seal it. I aint got time to play mind reader Obama is raising the national minimum wage. there is more important shit going on around me then some chick about her feelings.

  • kiefer knightly

    Sometimes it means she wants to be fucked, right? I’m serious now this aint no spam. It was like that once with my ex