How To Attract Women: Avoid Pouncing On Her
You want to know how to attract women? Don’t pounce on them. In the past few weeks I have had several coaching sessions with men who did not realize that their actions were considered pouncey by female definition.
This made me realize that there are probably thousands of men in the world who don’t know how to attract women because they end up on pouncing on the women they desire.
Because of this I asked one of my Wing Girls Esmerelda to write a list of the Do’s and Don’ts to ensure you don’t pounce on women. I am sure you are not doing all of these things but if you are STOP RIGHT NOW! These Do’s and Don’ts are for those who have gotten past the first and second date and are on the way to exploring the options of a possible relationship.
I have also written a blog post for AOL that explains bouncing in greater detail. If you are a pouncer it can explain why you may be bouncing and what you can do to stop it! A link to the article is posted below the Do’s and Don’t list.
How to Avoid Pouncing On A Woman
Do
1) Text or call her once or twice a day – Keep it short, brief and non-needy. There is nothing wrong with saying a quick hi as long as that quick hi is not satisfying an urge for you. Read the AOL article for greater detail on this.
2) Focus on the moment and make an effort to make sure things continue to go well. No need to focus on the future especially in the beginning stages. Take your time and make sure she is for you. This is a testing period for both of you so don’t forget you are involved in the decision as well.
3) Reciprocate physical affection but don’t go over board.
4) Share your interest with her: We want to get to know you. A man with a passion is the sexiest type of man.
5) Control your desire for her. Think about where the desire is coming from. If you are trying to control an emotion and acting impulsively don’t do it.
6) Appreciate her body. Tell her she is sexy.
7) Don’t pressure her sexually. A woman pressured is a woman that will not feel free to be sexual. Let her feel that she is involved in the process of opting into sex. (Get David Shades Material about how to be a masterful lover. He just interviewed me last week for his membership series and we talk all about how to make a woman more comfortable with sex. My interview goes out in January. Click here to get David’s Materials)
8 Show her you trust her. Men with walls who distrust all women are by far the most unattractive specimen of man. Be cautious but don’t let past baggage carry over.
9) Accept change.
Don’t
1) Compulsively text or call her every time you think about her
2) Physically dwell on her. Too much kissing and obsessive hugging is annoying.
3) Give her constant reassurance. If a woman needs constant reassurance there is a disconnect. Either there is something you are not giving her or she has some past insecurity. Get down to the bottom of it and figure out what can be done to make her feel more comfortable.
4) Throw yourself too quickly into a person you barely know. Take time. You are allowed to go slowly and figure out if this new woman is someone you want to invest your time in.
5) Exaggerate your physical ardor and enthusiasm for her all the time.
6) Talk about your exes and compare her to any of them. Even if your intentions are good, we do not like it!
7) Dwell on the past. As said above this is a fresh start so past baggage is not needed and unappreciated.
8 Overwhelm her with food or gifts.
9) Be defensive. Listen to her and don’t take everything she says as a test. Read our blog on The Shit Test so you can understand.
10) Get jealous of every man that sets his eyes on her.
11) Make sex a display of desperation or a time to show off. Remember she is there to and she feels “like a hole” she is going to tense up and the experience will not be as great as it could be.
12) Expect anything to stay the same forever.
I think Esmeralda did a pretty great job of discussing what does and does not attract women. Go back and read through this list and check out my latest post on AOL to get a better idea of what pouncing means, how women view it and how to avoid it!
To read the AOL post click here.
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Hi Marni:
Your summary of Do’s and Don’ts is quite accurate, but I must point out that a key ingredient is missing: Challenge.
I’m actually a student of Mr. Tom Hodges (a.k.a. Doc Love), and your system parallels Doc’s system on many counts. I would also recommend that you consider having a knowledge sharing interview with Doc, as he is really a storehouse of incredible knowledge and wisdom when it comes to understanding women.
Doc teaches men to practise 3 important masculine traits to RAISE a woman’s Interest Level. These are: Challenge + Confidence + Control.
And for MAINTENANCE of Interest Level, he teaches 4 additional traits: Affection + Respect + Romance + Humour.
Your system seems to cover Confidence and Control pretty well, but can be even more powerful if the element of Challenge is also introduced.
Basically, Challenge can be defined by “how difficult it is for the woman to win the man over”. The greater this difficulty, the greater the Challenge he exhibits, and vice versa.
If a guy flips for an attractive girl just like that, then it is almost certain that she will have no attraction for him as he is a Zero Challenge. This is because she needs to do absolutely nothing to win him over……he has already been won over by her good looks! On the other hand, when we observe the guys that women themselves run after, we’ll find that ALL those guys exhibit Challenge……they make the women WORK HARD to win them over.
And secondly, SELECTING a good woman (and consequently, rejecting the undesirable ones) is also EXTREMELY important when it comes to long-term relationships. And here it’s very very essential for a woman to be Flexible, a Giver and have Integrity.
During today’s times unless a guy understands this very well and has ALL these components together, he automatically runs a risk of:
- Being henpecked and dominated by a Feminista freak for the rest of his life (will not happen if she is Flexible)
- Being milked out of his hard-earned money by a vicious gold-digger (will not happen if she is a Giver)
- Going to jail on false charges of rape/domestic violence (will not happen if she has Integrity and high Interest Level)
- Being forced to pay alimony by the vicious misandrist court system to a wife that cheated on him (will not happen if she has Integrity and high Interest Level)
- Being forced to pay child support for kids that are not even his (will not happen if she has Integrity and high Interest Level)
……and the list goes on.
The Feminazis currently control almost everything in the government, the courts, and also the media. And in most cases, no matter what happens, a woman is always treated as a victim unless proven otherwise, while a man is always treated as guilty until proven innocent. The left-wing politicians shamelessly encourage this type of hypocrisy, and it’s also no exaggeration to say that there is a cultural war today against men.
It’s about time we brought this hypocrisy and double standards to light and more men are made aware of it.
Lastly your “help me signal” is very interesting indeed. I was once eating at a restaurant in a different town, and a woman that appeared to be a religious fanatic came over and started preaching to me. Needless to say that the whole thing was draining, and in spite of telling her directly that I was not the least interested in her religion, she never seemed to stop.
So I myself gave out the “help me signal” to another girl sitting across the room…..to see whether it actually works. And guess what, she actually came over, picked up an argument with the “preachress” and managed to change the topic
So yes, it does seem true that women love keeping other women at bay because of their competitive nature.
Anyway, keep up the good work and may the Force be with you always.
Wow, this stuff sounds spot on. I just met a girl I really like, for the 4th time in my life, and things are staying stable, there is definitely a mutual interest, but I wasn’t quite sure on how to communicate to her in a way that says “im interested still, but not obsessed”. This article cleared up a lot of confusion for me, thanks.
P.S. the list sounds fun and useful, other advice I have found boils down to manipulation, which will get a girl in the sack, but won’t make for happy relationships/ intimacy in my opinion.
“Share your interest with her: We want to get to know you. A man with a passion is the sexiest type of man”
what if a guy’s interests is video games or something more geeky?
Not all interests are valued the same … I would suggest learning how to dance, playing music, writing erotica…something sensual.
Overall great article, women want what is hard to get!