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How To Handle A Fight With Your Girlfriend

 September 6, 2012

If you don’t know how to fight correctly with your girlfriend, then your chances of breaking up will be considerably increased. Fighting is the worst part of relationships BUT it’s also an essential part. Fighting can mean that you are challenging one another and that you are a man that will not walked all over by a woman because you’ve become a “YES MAN”.

If you’re going to fight, then you have to learn to handle a fight with your girlfriend. This will ensure you grow from your fights, rather than damage the relationship.

Watch this video that I did for Askmen.com on how to handle a fight with your girlfriend.

  • skw

    The best approach to have is, whenever you decide to let a woman into your life, just kiss any kind of logical reasoning goodbye. There’s no point trying to be logical or fact-based. It’s one or the other.

    • Ding Chavez

      RIGHT!

      3+3= 17.
      Personally, I can put up with the illogical reasoning ONCE you can actually get them into your life. Because before you can get them in, the lack of logic makes that task extremely difficult and unpleasant.

  • Parkey

    The video seems to be more about what to do after a fight than during. Just an observation.

    Something I have learned, and I’m not sure how Marni will feel about this, is that a lot of the turbulence women will throw at men is just transient. Often the best way to deal with a woman who is looking for an argument, and women do love drama, is to tell her that what’s on her mind is important and you would like to discuss it later. Later, of course, there’s a much better chance her mood will have blown over and she will have calmed down. Never get defensive; they will latch onto it and destroy you.

    Same goes for pre-relationship stuff. I’ve received replies to a text message that have seemed quite angry or irritated, “why are you texting me?!” and the immediate inclination is to look for the right reply that will get you off the hook. In fact any answer is the wrong answer! Sometimes the right thing to do is nothing. She will try to get you to argue, to defend or justify yourself, and when you don’t take the bait she will love you for that!

    Women are crazy!

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Parkey

      I like all of this apart from when you say women are crazy!

      I agree though that taking time out to listen, or not reacting at all (if it’s a text or an email) is definitely a good move. Give her a little time and she may reconsider how she feels or be more open to talking to you about it calmly

      Marni :)

  • bobcanada

    I used your advice with my potential GF , and it worked so well , she emailed me back saying that she didn’t even know we were fighting !

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Sounds great Bob- really glad to hear it

      Marni :-)