How To Talk To Women
18. Jun, 2010 
18 Comments
The most common questions I receive from men all over the world are about How To Talk To Women? And it got me thinking why is this question so common? Why are men so confused on how to talk to women and then I realized it was because the way that men talk to one another and the way women talk are totally different.
When women talk, they look for connectors, emotional connectors. So men that understand this about women, have an upper hand over other males.
So what I am going to do, with the help of my friend Bill, from PUA Forums, is teach you a few tools to use so that you can connect to women in conversation and will never again have to ask me how to talk to women.
Bill discusses what he uses to remember to connect with women when talking with them. He remembers to Listen, Confirm and Affirm which I thought was genius and as a woman I can say these actions are definitely appreciated and rewarded at any stage, be it attracting, dating, relationship or marriage. Connecting to women does not stop once you get her number.
Here is a brief summary of Listen ,Confirm and Affirm
Learn – Learn something about a woman by asking a question or by having her tell you something about herself
Confirm – Confirm you have heard her by talking about the topic at hand for example giving your own take on the topic either by sharing a story or expanding on hers
Affirm – Affirm that because of this “thing” she has told you makes you like her more
Listen to the full audio (16 minutes) that gives a much longer description with exact examples on how to talk to women and how to connect to them through conversation. After you are done listening to the audio, Click Here to see another one of Bill’s famous moves called The Whiskey Kiss!
To watch a video on how to perform the Whiskey Kiss Click Here!
Hey Marni,
I can’t seem to play the audio file. I have installed Quicktime, as the audio plugin on this page requests, but still I cant seem to play the audio file. Is there maybe a chance that I can download the audiofile and play it on windows media player?
Thanks
If you can’t play the audio go to this link: http://www.sendspace.com/file/yvvubr
and download the audio file!
Let me know if that works for you.
Hey Marni,
It works.
Thanks for the link
I’ve personally studied women for over a year now and what you said is very right. But I simply put it this way – men think (or are logical) while women feel (or are emotional). It would be easy for a man to connect with any woman if he can make her feel what he is saying; just say the right words with the right voice tone to enable her paint the pictures in her mind.
I love it!!! Love it, love it, love it! make her feel your words. Easier said then done but a great way to start thinking. Take note of you express your words with women. What emotion you have behind them. Once you can make that connection and awareness with yourself what Tayo said will become a lot easier. Great feedback!
Loving the new design, great work. Will it always be like this?
Still making changes every day!
Its OK to acknowledge that men and women are different and to try to bridge that distance for greater understanding and connection.
See, the thing is that a lot of what you say is said nonverbally, by body language. Pick up a book on body language so you can tell what she is saying and what messages you are sending out without even realizing it.
Sounds like good advice
. I’ve studied dating materials for ten years off and on, and I’ve never heard it expressed like this. I personally recalled a conversation with a girl I liked from my past and got to “mentally see” how there was an opportunity to connect with some sincere and cute knowledge about herself which she was sharing with me. Had I known, we could have better connected then and there.