Comments on: How To Work A Room: Starting Conversations With Women

By: Dan Donche

Dan Donche — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 00:45:38 +0000

And to go off what you and Adonis said, I agree with that, too. Too boring and you kill your chances, which is why we practice these things to get more witty and throw in the teasing and flirting. But yeah.

By: Dan Donche

Dan Donche — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 00:43:33 +0000

I agree with these techniques on starting conversation and getting the ball rolling. It’s astonishing how many guys get hung up with what to say when they can just start with something fun and casual and work the conversation until something comes up that establishes a commonality. I call this “prospecting” and “playing”. It’s easy to do, ask interesting questions to get her talking and then play off the free information she gives you until you find something you can contribute to (all the while maintaining a fun vibe and being humorous). It’s easy to practice on strangers throughout the day to get better at it.

By: Marni

Marni — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:35:06 +0000

I definitely agree with Adonis. Some people get stuck on these topics and are not sure how to transition away when a conversation gets stale. I have talked to many men who obviously get nervous and don’t know what else to say so they focus on 1 topic until they kill it. By killing I mean totally losing all attraction between them and the woman they are speaking with.

The thing with conversation with women, in my opinion, is how important it is for the man to lead a conversation. This is another topic which we will be covering shortly.

By: Adonis

Adonis — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:15:44 +0000

This is very “tricky” advice…these suggestions could also lead you down a path towards very boring conversation. Must be executed very skillfully to avoid being bore at the party.

By: Tad

Tad — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:11:16 +0000

COMMON GROUND:

My favourite opener for parties: “Hey. You all seemed friendly. My name’s Tad (shake with everyone) So . . . how are you connected to all this madness?”

COMPLIMENTS:

If you’re going to compliment her jewelry or purse – consider that every other man in the world does this. Consider that she 100% gets it that you’re trying to flirt with her and start a conversation. So, why not out yourself early? Why not just say, “you know, this is a bit random but . . . I saw you walking by and I just had to come up and say hi to you. You’re too cute and . . . I knew i’d be kicking myself all week if i didn’t say hi. My name’s Tad . . . (she introduces herself) . . . and . . . I have to ask . . . and this is a make or break question for me. the future of our whole relationship hangs in the balance . . . what’s the story with your bracelet? I love the stones in it.”

Comment on her apparel. But don’t hide behind it.

QUESTIONS:

another angle . . . if you can ask an UNUSUAL question I find it even better.

Lance Mason gives these two examples. Instead of asking, “where are you from?” ask, “Where are you from originally?” You usually get more interesting answers and more connection to their childhood which is more interesting and full of emotion. Or asking them, “What do you love to do? What are you into these days? What are you fascinated by?” rather than, “What do you do?”

Ask yourself what questions women always get and ask another twist on them.

I was at a tea shop lately. They’re always asked, “What’s the best tea?” Every. Damned. Day. So I asked, “Hey . . . what’s your most under rated tea . . .” The fellow behind the counter paused. “Wow. I don’t know. That’s a great question. No one’s ever asked me that before.”

If you can ask good questions that no one else asks you will stand out.