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Secret To Approaching & Talking To Women – STAY GROUNDED…

 March 8, 2012

I was watching the new NBC show Whitney the other night, which got cancelled. And there was this great scene in it that showed an EXTREME example of a woman putting up the bitch shield and a man handling it beautifully.

Again, it’s extreme because honestly most women would not be that tough, guarded or vocal. BUT I do know that women whip out that behavior on a smaller scale and I want you to be able to handle it with confidence and charisma.

Press play to watch the video: Secret to approaching & talking to women – STAY GROUNDED…..

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The main point I want you to take away from this video is that you can’t and should not let a woman’s words rattle you.  They are just a verbal display of her own emotions.  The more unaffected (not sure if I spelled that right so correct me) and grounded you are, the more she feels safe, secure and attracted to you.  Masculine meet feminine.

I have an exercise for you that will help you learn to stay grounded no matter what women throw at you. It’s similar to what they do in martial arts so that you can stop reacting to danger, you can calmly respond to it.

EXERCISE:  The Shadow Game

Remember the shadow game that you played when you were a kid?? Where another person would say something and you would repeat whatever they said. It would be funny at first and then the other person would get so frustrated and upset because you wouldn’t stop it.  Ha.  Ahhh childhood. Anyway.  For the next week I want you to play this game with people (not women, people, everyone) you talk with for at-least 30 seconds. To the point where they kind of get annoyed but they aren’t at the point where they want to punch you.

So if they say “What are you doing” you repeat back “what are you doing” with a smirk on your face.

Then they say “Seriously stop it” and you repeat back “Seriously stop it”
Got it?

NOTE: Do not do it in the whiny voice that I know I used to do it in when I was younger. This is emotional and wimpy. Copy the way the guy in the video above talks to Whitney.

What this will do for you:

- It will show you what it’s like (how it feels) to be unaffected by someone else’s emotions.

- If you can remain calm and not give in to them wanting you to stop, it will give you a glimpse of what being grounded feels like

- It will be hilarious!!!  If you can’t have fun with yourself, you can’t have fun.

- It will give you an experience to draw from next time you encounter a woman who throws up her shield of protection

It’s no secret that women like men with confidence. BUT the essential piece, that many people forget to tell you is that, if a man can stay grounded, he instantly becomes the sexiest man in the room!!!  That’s a man I want.

Discover how to stay grounded in EVERY situation with women. 

There are 1000′s of little things that men don’t know about women. But I guarantee if you knew them, it would put you in the top 1% of men that have their choice of women they want. I can tell every little thing you need to know about women. Including the things that women would never want you to know.  Check out the system 1000′s of men use to make women want them.  Read more….

 

  • Kevin

    Banter makes women horny!

  • christofer

    Marni,

    Your advice about confidence and
    charisma is spot on.That’s assuming
    that you have any to begin with.Some
    of us have very little confidence
    and virtually no charisma to speak of.

    I imagine that with the right amount of
    charm;you can be successful with women.
    However,I don’t think that it can be
    taught or developed.You either have
    it or you don’t.

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Marni

      I hope you are not serious about this. Do you know my background? I had a stroke when I was 20 years old due to extreme social anxiety and emotional depression. I was the least confident person in the world!!! I lived in my head, developed an eating disorder (because it was the only that I could control) and nearly died.

      For anyone out there who does not believe that confidence and being social is a SKILL, I say LISTEN UP!!!! You can grow confidence and you can be anybody you want to be. But it takes time, work and the core understanding that you are going to have ups and downs. Confidence does not mean you live a life of bliss. It means you have the tools and know how to understand that even when it’s bad, it will always be okay.

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Marni

      I’m going to get more active on this blog because lately it seems like this is a place for the bitter and angry to gain comfort from others who think like them. Well no more.

      My core belief is that if you are good, you can get ANYTHING you want!! I believe that and I know it to be true because it happened to me. AND I have now worked with 1000′s of men who know it to be true as well. If you want help, I’ll give it you. But I can’t do it for you. You gotta work WITH me.

      I am a good person. In fact, I am a great person and my heart goes into every blog and article I write for you. My goal is not to confuse you or frustrate. My goal is to enlighten you but I can’t beat it into your head. SOOOOOO…. Read it. Absorb it. Question if you want, I’ll respond. But if you are not doing the work, it’s never going to happen.

  • Neil

    Never get too brighteyed about anything Girls don’t like it. Easy goog seductive eyes about 10 to 20% closed with a nice non needy smile and you can say or do anything almost.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Neil

      I agree that most of when you go for the kiss is subcommunicated through your body language exchange

      Marni :)

  • Jason

    Hi Marni. Ilistened love your stuff and i listened with interest to your stuff on getting out of the friend zone. I am trying to get my ex back (so there was attraction in the past) but she is using that horrible word we all hate right now….FRIEND (Shudder)

    Any advice please ??????

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Marni

      yikes!! Well you don’t want a friendship, so sorry lady it’s not going to happen for now.

      BUT remember, I don’t know why you broke up with your ex. Do you? Friendship may be her way of protecting herself from getting hurt again. Why did you break up?

      • Jason

        Hiya Marni. Thank you for your. reply. I appreciate your valuable time.

        It was she who broke up with me. She concinced herself i was seeing someone else. I wasn’t. I was (still am) truly smitten with her but i have a female colleague who i get on with like a sister but my ex couldnt thought there was more to it.

        My ex has been treated badly in the past by men you see. I was determined to build her confidence up and protect her from any harm. Yet for all my efforts, she still thought i was cheating. The more i denied it, the more annoyed she got as she thought i was a liar as well as a cheat.

        I think she realises i wasn’t cheating now as ive been trying to win her back for the best part of a year. But as i mentioned, i’m stuck in the friend zone now. This stuff is worse than quicksand!!!

        We last had intercourse in December and last passionate kissed, mid January. I dated two girls in February but it’s hopeless. I am addicted.

        Is there a way i can resurrect her feelings toward me from a year ago? Or am i doomed?

        Your story is inspirational Marni.

        Cheers

        .J

        • Marni Wing Girl

          Hey Jason

          I’m genuinely sorry to hear your story: whilst there’s always two sides to every tale it really sounds like you tried your hardest to make things work and that your ex has lost out on a great guy.

          The first thing for you to do is recognise this & also that by pushing too hard you’re not allowing your ex to come to her own conclusions. Unfortunately it’s human nature that we often don’t realise what we had until it’s gone.

          So I’d quit pursuing your ex for now: focus on you, date, hang out with friends and do things that make you happy. You may not find someone special right away but if you lead your life happily and independently this is the best place to attract women into it. I also wouldn’t be surprised if by giving her space your ex realises her mistake and starts to fight to get you back

          Good luck!

          Marni :)

  • Neil

    That guy was “in” from the moment he walked up to her. She wasn’t being defensive at all – that was just “play” challenge.

    So don’t ever be confused by that. If she really wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t have acknowledged him to that extent in the first place.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Maybe but even if a woman isn’t instantly attracted to you persistance can (usually!) overcome resistance

      Marni :)

  • Shogo

    Christofer–confidence is a choice. 100%. I think you’re conflagrating confidence, charisma, and charm into one big cloud that’s something you think is out of your reach.

    Believe in yourself. Believe in others. That’s what it’s all about.

    You’re living in a world of disbelief. The power of belief in yourself is the most attractive quality you can develop.

  • christofer

    Marni,

    Wow..I was not aware of your background.What you have overcome
    to build a thriving,successful business goes way beyond my trivial tantrums about confidence…In your case we’re talking strength and COURAGE.

    Congratulations on defeating your anxieties and your eating disorder.
    I can appreciate the hard work/pain
    that you must have endured.It speaks volumes about your character that you were able to overcome both.

    Continued success & much respect

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Thanks so much for the comments and support Christofer

  • david

    Is it ok to date your best friends ex wife?

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey David

      Unfortunately there’s no hard and fast rule book for this stuff but if you value your friendship then this has to be the first bridge you cross. Getting discovered dating a friend’s ex will make you come across as deceptive, and your existing friendship circle should be mroe valuable to you than a date. So get it cleared with your friend first then go for it.

      Marni :)

  • valan

    this stuff is good but. i hurd if you can make a woman laught you can get her into bed ?

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Humour is always good- but it isn’t always sexy. You may not want to be ‘ha-ha’ funny. Instead focus on teasing a girl- this will really help her to feel attracted to you.

      Marni :)

  • Mark

    Marni,

    Im curious about when a girl says something along the lines of “ill help you find a girl and you help me find a man”. Does that mean shes not attracted at that point?

    • Parkey

      This is a typical question. Step back, look at the girl, ask yourself is there or is there not attraction at this point?

      My understanding now is that if you do this you are giving up your lead of the situation, and if you stop leading the dance will probably stop at that point. Attraction isn’t something that is there or not, like it is for men, it’s something that comes from your ongoing behaviour. She wants to be swept along in your world. Make the decision for her, yes of course she’s attracted, act as though she is. She will tell you if you go too far.

      So she asks you to help her find a guy. Say “great!” put your arm around her waist and lead her around, pointing out some guys to her and saying why you think they’re her type, the more ridiculous or hotter the better. Have some fun doing this! She’ll love it. She’ll probably want you.

      • Mark

        Its just that I asked this question to some female friends and former f-closes (sorry i know you hate the word!) and they unanimously said it means “not attracted”. I like your positive attitude of leading and being able to turn it around but cant help feeling there is an element of im not her type physically about it…..

        • Parkey

          I’d personally say it’s more about neediness than looks. When you say “turn it around” you show that you look at every woman you’re attracted to as a deal to be closed. You want to manipulate the situation to get a specific outcome.

          When I suggest the above I say do it because it’s FUN. Do attractive stuff around attractive women for the sheer fun of it. You’re giving them the fun of being around you, but you’re prepared to walk away and have your fun with that other woman over there. It’s fun to play that character. And guess what, if you don’t creep them out by getting needy and if you do let them go a most women come around again.

          Attract them, don’t try to acquire them. It seems a very subtle distinction but the difference in the way women respond is enormous.

          • Mark

            Agreed. Thank you for that, I actually came up with a list of 5 goals for myself and this was part of it. I think I have to assume I look hot enough and back myself to take on the attitude youve said.

  • Mark

    Oh and in response to your earlier comment im not bitter Marni, just frustrated that the hotter younger women all seem to be rejecting me on a physical level. But Im still here, you dotn see me quitting, just trying desperately to understand what is happening and if and how it can be changed (although logically it seems pretty obvious these girls are becoming like men just going for the hottest and only the hottest….)

    Also, do you ever come to Europe? I honestly need live coaching to deal with all this and see where its really at if by some freak of the mind im wrong in how im seeing things….

  • Max

    You’re all missing one very important point. Bitchy is as bitchy does. Even if you could seduce a woman like that, would you really want that type for your girlfriend? You should be going after the nice girls. The ones who have a smile on their face and kind words for everyone they meet. But not because they’re easier to approach. Their standards are just as high as other girls. But long term you’ll have a much better time with them. And don’t try to tell me once you get past a bitch shield you’ll always find a warm person in there. It doesn’t work like that. And anyway, hot chicks aren’t necessarily that good in bed, either.

    Besides, you need more than just confidence to deal with women who push on you and expect the best. You need to be quick-witted, too.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Max

      I actually think that nearly every person out there has goodness in them and is an interesting person. I totally agree that the girl who is smiling and friendly to you should be given the time of day but that’s not to say that the initially ‘bitchy’ girl won’t wind up being fantastic once you get her defences down. You may not want to bother- but so often behind that girl’s knee jerk abrupt reaction is a woman who’s been a little hurt in the past and is worth understanding.

      Quick wits are definitely handy in accomplishing this though!

      Marni :)

  • Jacques

    Hi Mari, Happy weekend to you hope everything is well. I really appreciate al that you do here for us guys it means a lot to me to be able to get some straight answers from a woman, instead of watered down half-truths.

    Could you please explain how you were able to overcome the social anxiety issues and eating disorder you had, this would be a big help as a woman I know in Sicily has the same similar issues. Mainly she feels alone and uncared for, and firmly believes that all men will abandon her, mainly due to her fathers infidelity and career choice of being a politician, which he pursued as his being more important than family. In a nutshell she is self sabotaging, goes after less than desirable men and thinks “it’s complicated,” means she he will see her value and commit, personally I told her, this is where one person is exclusive in a fantasy sense and the other basically does what he wants, physically and emotionally, she didn’t really care as long as she was being faithful, this made her feel like the good person, in which case would allow her to feel jealousy and lack in anything tactful that would bring a man closer versus drive him away. Basically I se a broken down lonely person that acts on desperation and even though she says she doesn’t do the casual sex thing, I told her well he does and if you were having sex with him you were doing the casual sex thing too(by default she gave him permission to see other women on the side). My advice to her was commitment first then give it up as she wants the commitment but feels that she needs to devalue herself to get it. (she told me she doesn’t deserve to be in a commited relationship) I explained to her that It really is a shame that she does have great potential as a great girlfriend, and future wife, and has some outstanding character traits, that if she only stood up for herself and had the confidence to go for it, she would get what she wants. This is why I keep putting her in the friend zone (She’s needy and desperate). No I don’t lie about it, their is mutual attraction yet after being married for awhile to a woman that was 11 years older than me, and acted with complete insecurity in regards to confidence, basically she was afraid of everything and had frequent anxiety attacks too,(long before she met me) mainly the thing I saw with both of them is a lack of support network, especially among family, it almost seemed as if the younger they act the more others will want to take care of them, so they hold on to the past, and their fears become realized as if they keep telling themselves things that aren’t true and as such they manifest their own fears. One of the things I explained to this girl that we’d get along better if she was more herself and people would like her a lot better when she acted more authentic then having to wear social masks, basically she was so transparent that it was easy for me to figure her out. At the moment she fels I believe that she doesn’t measure up, isn’t accepted socially or intimately and can’t do anything right.( perhaps I’m the problem, and not supportive enough or maybe I’m too hard on her) So if you could give me some tips or things I can try in regards to help her boost her confidence and other women overcome these issues I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you for you time Marni.

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Marni

      My husband (boyfriend at the time) tried to do the same thing for me but ultimately she has to do it for herself. It is not your job to help her.

      Suggestions for your lady:

      - Find a really good coach/therapist
      - Read psycho cybernetics, how to win friends and influence people (Dale C)
      - Brain dump – get a journal and just write everything she feels
      - Join groups to meet other women (THIS ONE IS HUGE)

      That’s a good start. But honestly, you can’t turn into her therapist. This is for her to do and for her to seek help. You can lead by example but you can’t make her do it.

      Email me directly and we’ll see what else we can do marni@winggirlmethod.com

      • Jacques

        Marni thank you again for all your help, your wise insight into the female mind is always appreciated by me, and I still remember the interview you did with CX for the GTP, about cutting your foot on coral and wanting some compassion and nurturing from your man.. Your words stick with me, yes I actually listen, not a male trait I know but I’m making progress, lol.

        I’ll shoot you an email tomorrow with more details and if you want I’ll lay the whole thing out and see if I’m missing something, I’ve done everything you suggested so far except the psycho cybernetics with her, I’ll suggest that but at the moment she’s not talking she’s currently hiding in her head, forgot I was walking on eggshells…

        She knows I’m not her therapist I told her flat out I wasn’t gonna do that, nor am I her emotional absorbant feminine product of her choice, is that PC, lol Anyway she’s actually looking for me I think if I’m correct to bail her out of her misery or rescue her as it seems, the message I’m receiving and yes I could be wrong is marry me, take care of me as I can’t take care of myself, cause I don’t have any support from anyone, nobody loves me, she’s trying to invite me to her pity party, but I rather not go, those things are rather depressing and non productive in my mind but maybe I’m wrong don’t mind if I am I’m brave I’ll admit when I’m wrong, most guys I know won’t, pride means everything to them too bad it’s not authentic.

  • Omar

    Hi Marni

    I would like to thank you for your great advice of having confidence and sense of self and now I find it all naturally coming to me it was just about acting like a man.It really helped me with all the girls and even my social life .But I wanted to know something I have this girl that I really like and she seems attracted by my confidence and sense of humor but I find that the other guys she encounters are using flirting Techniques and it is really working.So my Question is flirting stronger than having confidence or does it only work on girls and not on women.

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Marni

      I would think that flirting would be an extension of confidence.

      Tell me more about this flirting and what are these other guys doing that you don’t feel you are doing? What does flirting mean to you?

      • Omar

        They do it in a teasing kind of way For Ex: one sitting behind her calls her name then tells her to look forward and she likes it .They do it and she responds by even teasing them back.By doing that they seem to really get in her mind which makes me feel as a guy that just makes her feel good and laugh .I know that she finds me awesome but I don’t know if she is attracted more to them.Or if I used the same technique she would like me more.Its just annoying specially when she was talking to that guy & then starts talking with me although I don’t lose confidence I get serious & talk about H.w uhh and guess what ! she said God be with you hahahaha. Please help :) .

  • Thijs

    @ Jacques, try to read anxious to please by James Rapson an Craig English. It helped me overcome the problems you mentioned. If you want to speed it up combine it with material from Tony Robbins.

    • Jacques

      @ Thijs Thank you I’ll do that any information is helpful, I’m also considering investing in the Stragic Intervention program by Tony and Manndes, the 1200 dollar price tag is a bit steep, yet could forward my personal interest in Relationship coaching that I am certified in, in conjunction with my certifications in Hypnotherpy and NLP, I have a lot of tools at my diposal yet trying to make connections through email is difficult, especially when the other party is wrought with anxiety and fear and a sense of everything she does will lead to failure of some sort. I do have a good 20 year track record of being able to help in many ways, I used to as a teen work with girls from a girls home, much of my work was in post rape recovery, I’m still friends with most of the girls I worked with back then and if not for this current girl I wouldn’t have renewed my passion for counciling women, unfortunatly this leads to women of this sort seeking to find me as Mr. Right, and proposing marriage or desperately trying to qualify themselves to me, I use my best efforts to act ethically and objectively, and remind the client what we’re doing here, yet the client continues to flirt and pursue me for subjective reasons, which bothers me to some degree, as my knowledge if in the wrong mindset could lead to some dishonorable acts on my part, yet I’ve been able to sway or stiffle the intentions of the broken and misguided emotional desires of my clients where as they are in effect looking for someone to desperately rescue them from reality. My efforts have always been to get the client to face their fears, utilize their tools, and use their lifelines or support groups. I am in effect just the facilitator and it’s solely up to them to be responsible enough to seek additional help when needed.

  • Bill

    Hi Marni,

    You make a great point here! I totally get it!! However – if I were to “bare bones” this concept – I don’t think it would work! If I were to approach a woman – and tell her I’m totally diggin her – but I’m not going to take her sh&* -I’m sure I’ll be going home to my inflatable. Ok – that’s a joke!!
    I’m sure the same is true for these blind dates I’m going on.
    This just feels like one peice of the puzzle….I keep working with the concept that I should “play with no endgame in mind.” Trouble is – with no endgame in mind – there is no endgame. Is it better to have an attitude of “I’m not gonna take your sh%!” – or “I know I can….and would really like to make you a happy woman tonight….”?

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Bill

      I’d definitely aim closer to just knowing you can handle a woman’s reactions and behavior; and that as a guy you’re ok to go after what you want. Not placing too much importance on the outcome is important but have some intentions. You need to go after what you want in order to get it

      Marni :)

  • Bryan

    Just by trying things that you, Marni, have posted on your blogs I have improved a lot and women respond different to me now.
    Yesterday I try to approach a woman that I was not that interested in, but I just went to say hello and said to myself that no matter how it could end I’d give it a try and practice…

    Little changes in my mind have made things change and work a lot for me.
    Thank you again Marni.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Really glad to hear it Bryan- it is often about those small steps!

  • shivendra

    Know what Marni, I had this horrific break up recently 4 weeks ago. The girl literally puked out the word A****** in front of my face. I was depressed for a couple of days, let me be honest here when I came to know of your advises and dear lady thank you so much for all the stuff here. I realised that I dont care whatever she said, it was only her opinion but never the truth. I know that I’m not an A****** but she will never acknowledge my frankness, to hell with her. Just laugh it off and let go, there are a lot of brilliant women like you to date :)

    • http://www.winggirlmethod.com Marni

      Amen!!! love that you feel this way. I obviously don’t know what happened between you to but I like the attitude you have. However, asshole is a pretty strong word for a woman to throw out. I don’t know her so she may be irrational and emotional but I would want to find out why she thinks you are an asshole. You may be able to learn from it. Again not sure if she’s totally out there.

      But I do like that you are strong enough to move on and realize that it’s not about what others think. It’s about what you think.

  • Parkey

    There’s a comment in the video about remaining unemotional, I think this can be a mistake. Marni you’ve scolded me for being impossible to connect to emotionally, and you’re not the only feminine woman to say I can be a bit of a stone wall.

    I think the point is to lead with your emotions, not follow hers. And keep it positive.

    I used to stand in dance classes thinking with each partner rotation “does this girl feel comfortable with me?” And keep looking at women in that light. I wanted to see where I stood in her reality. Now I think “I am comfortable with this girl” and let her step into my reality. The difference between these two attitudes is mind boggling.

  • Boydnar

    Marni, remember my saying that a man needs to be “a psychological and emotional Rock Of Gibraltar?” Well that’s what this guy was doing. He was absolutely unflappable. I’ve realized from your previous lessons and this post that women get immediately turned off if it’s easy for them to have a strong effect on a man’s emotions. I guess that being too easily influenced emotionally by a woman’s crap makes a man a wussbag.

    I’m so glad you posted this video because it really drove your point home for me. Your text banners in the video explain all the female mental gyrations in a very clear and enlightening way. Your lesson here actually goes beyond my saying and pulls back the curtain on female relational instinct. A Five Star post.

    I used YouTubeDownloader to download the video onto my ‘pyooter and I’ve watched it probably ten times.

    Were you really licking the screen?

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Boydnar- just glad to hear you liked it, learnt from it and that you got something from it :-)

      • Boydnar

        Dearest Canadian, Commonwealth Marni, on THIS side of The Pond, we’ve never “learnt” anything . . . though we’ve LEARNED many things.
        Heh heh.

  • Boydnar

    What I meant was that your lesson in this blog page gets a Five Star rating.

  • Ronald

    Hey Marni
    Lighten up! We all know the answers you are giving are in response to serious and highly emotional problems of the guys.
    The next blog will be addressed to Mother Marni is you don’t insert a bit of levity.

  • Oz

    Marni,I have enjoyed reading this bog. Its good to see that your a real person who cares about people, not just some money making machine machine exploiting others at their weak point. I, like so many other men simply wish we could better serve the women we have chosen to be with ( Married 24 yrs ). I don’t mind paying for education, I don’t like paying for wordy PDF’s that have small crumbs of insight hidden deep within them. I am looking for someone to hook me up, I will look more closely at what you have to offer. Keep up the good work, Coach :) BTW, Thanks for sharing that clip…Priceless. Oz.

  • Andrew

    What I wonder is, are most guys born with “Game”, are they born with the Confidence, Social-Skills, Conversation-Skills, or just “Skills” in order to get a girlfriend, date, relationship? it’s like for most guys, men, it is all instinct for them, common sense, like the Jocks in High School, or just guys who have been getting girls since they ever first became interested in the oppossite sex, once they hit puberty, they knew how to approach and talk to girls, flirt with them from day one, does genetics, heredity, play any role, reason into why a guy is a natural, success with women, able to easily attract them, knows how to talk to them and never run out of things to talk about, etc.? Is it genetic? what is it that seperates the guys who were born with these skills versus the guys who struggled for a long time, like after high school, or still struggle after high school?

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Andrew

      I think like everything in life it’s a combination of nature and nurture BUT you can override your ‘natural’ behavior by really training hard. Olympic athletes may be naturally good at sport but they get to be champions through dedication, practice, trial and error.

      Marni :)

  • Chris

    Hey Marni, really enjoyed that tv clip,I too always looked at movies to see how men and women interact until I realized that movies and tv seldom mirror real life. for instance that clip is heavily scripted, few men or women are that quick and witty in real life.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      I agree: BUT I don’t think it’s so much the exact script as the confidence and attitude that is exuded. Work on these and you never have to worry about the exact lines

      Marni :-)

  • Chris

    I also appreciate the fact that you battled your own demons and that you seem to actually care about your clients rather than just being another money grubbing pick up artist.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      And thanks Chris, appreciate your comments :-)

  • Chris

    no problem I’m glad your getting involved in these discussions :)

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  • Mark

    Ive already decided to buy your system when I get some free time. You have some really great info. I’m not horrible with women but you still have some eye opening stuff.

    Having said that though,I am beyond excellent at keeping composure. In emergency situations I always know what to do. My Dad’s an ER doctor so I get that from him. If that woman said the above to me though I would just be like “OK” and walk on. I might be “nice” but more because I felt sorry for her, not actually because I wanted to sleep with her. When men say “You are a bitch” its man code for “You seem very uncaring and would make a bad mother.” My point is the bitch shield makes her less attractive to me, in fact it makes her easier to approach because I think less of her…? So in this particular case I would say that this is a BAD test from a woman’s POV. They are testing the wrong thing.
    That doesn’t take away from the fact that this blog post is eye opening though.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Mark

      thanks for your comments and support. The problem with women’s tests is that they are often subconscious, so are not always the best thought out actions! Instead of coming from a rational question they’re often based in a woman’s own insecurities and vulnerabilities. If guys can see this then it will really help them to understand why women have that ‘bitch shield’ in place

      Marni :)

  • Ari

    So what you’re saying is we men should in essence be trying to “save” the girl from themselves?

    That’s a new idea and sheds some light into my situation because for now I’ve been occasionally getting frustrated and angry at my girl for her playing hard to get and giving mixed signals. But if it’s infact her defense mechanism, which is like a 2nd person protecting her then it makes more sense.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Ari

      yes a woman’s bitch shield can just be a strong signal that she feels vulnerable. If you can understand that her words are just a reflection of how she feels; and you can remain her rock, by staying grounded and in control of your emotions- it makes you so attractive.

      Bottom line: try not to be thrown by a woman’s emotions.

      Good luck

      Marni :)

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