How To Approach Women & Get Over Approach Anxiety

Every day I have tons of people writing me asking me if they can post a blog on my site.  I ask them to first provide the blog and then I will see if I think it is quality information.  If you look through my posts you will see very few posts from others that are not me or my Wing Girls. That is because I think that a lot of the advice out there is incorrect or unhelpful.

BUT I recently receive an article from David Black from Social Masters and I thought it was great. It was all about what he went through to get over his approach anxiety.   I thought it was pretty great and it’s nice to hear another mans success story. This is the exact type of exercises I endorse and use to teach men how to approach & get over approach anxiety.

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Hey guys, David Black here from Social Masters. Today I am going to be explaining why you shouldn’t set the bar too high when it comes to meeting and attracting women.

You can find a million and one fancy techniques and ‘pickup lines’ out there on the net. Thing is, if you’ve ever gone out into the real world and tried to put these techniques to work, you may well have discovered that it’s not as easy as so called ‘Gurus’ make out.

In fact, it’s downright ROCK SOLID!

You see, most guys, including myself, start learning this stuff because we are not very confident and therefore not very good with women. I remember when I first started that I learned a ton of material but didn’t have the balls to put it into action. You may well be in a similar position.

Let’s be honest, most guys probably find it hard to ask a hot girl a simple question such as, “Where is the nearest ATM/cash machine?”. Let alone going up to a girl and reeling off, “Hi there, me and my mate are having a discussion about a girl whose mum has been sleeping with with her best friend’s boyfriend. Do you think I should say something?”.

Even if you had a 99.99% successful opening line tried-and-tested, most guys would probably still struggle because they may likely believe that they will be the 0.01% that cock it up, even if that belief wasn’t grounded in reality at all.

So the real issue to deal with initially isn’t: What fancy technique is right for me? It’s more a case of building confidence, and getting outside of your comfort zone (probably for the first time in ages). And this can be really daunting.

So how do you get over this?

The secret, is to build up gradually. Start with easy stuff and work up from there.

It’s like weight training. If you hit the gym for the first time and try to smash out the 50kg dumbbells, you’re going to get injured. Well the same applies in interactions with women. If you jump in the deep end, you might be ok (if you are one of the rare lucky ones), but the likelihood is that you’ll stumble, and may get emotionally injured.

Some people believe in this ‘baptism of fire’ approach. But personally, I have found it to be ineffective on all but the most emotionally hard of men (and these are the guys who don’t have many issues around women anyway).

As the wise quote says, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”.

Start by asking women what the time is over and over. This is a simple question and they give you a simple answer:

You: Hi, what time is it?
Her: [tells you the time / I don't have a watch / etc.]
You: Thanks.

Soon this will become easy for you. This is when it’s time to move it up a level. Start asking questions that involve a more complicated answer. Something like asking for directions:

You: Where’s the nearest Subway?
Her: [tells you / don't know / etc.]
You: Thanks.

Now you have to do what I consider a small interaction with the women. Keep making the questions more and more involved until you feel confident that you can ask an opinion opener or something (side note: Though I am not a huge fan of routines, I do believe they make for a good starting place when first beginning approaching women).

Word of warning!!!

Do not get stuck into the trap of ‘not progressing’. You need to make sure that as soon as you feel comfortable with a certain question, that you move on to harder and harder ones. You always need to be looking to progress, and be wary of getting stuck that all-too-familiar comfort zone.

Keep a proactive eye on exactly where you are, and what is the next logical step to improve in this area.

And above all else, don’t set the bar too high. Learning how to get a girl takes time and effort. You’ll get there, it won’t be overnight. Don’t feel bad that you aren’t there yet, the process is one of the most rewarding things you will ever do in your life (no exaggeration), so enjoy it. Take your time, have patience. The results will be more than worth the wait, and the effort.

Speak soon,
David Black

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Approach Anxiety: Case Study

Approach anxiety sucks. Point blank!  It sucks because approach anxiety is based on fictional beliefs that we make up in our head that stop us from doing the thing we really want to do and as men are born to do.  APPROACH WOMEN!

Below is a Case Study of a client that I worked with a couple of years ago who, in 1 week, was able to overcome his Approach Anxiety by pushing himself, being proactive and taking risks.  Again, all things that men are born to do.

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Give A Woman A Kiss To Remember

Give a woman a kiss to remember and I can guarantee you she will keep coming back for more.

I just stumbled upon this great article about kissing on iVillage. Simply reading it got me excited so imagine if the kiss described actually happened.

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Help Me Eyes

Ever heard of the HELP ME EYES?

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The help me eyes are an international signal sent out by females to other females when they are trapped in a situation.

Typically this situation involves a man they are not interested in.

When the female has become cornered by a man she does not want to be talking to, she will send out a signal to all females in her vicinity.

This signal is a simple, slight movement of her eyes.

Moments after the signal is sent out, another female, who may or may not even know the female, will swoop in to her rescue and relieve her.

Men always think it is the annoying friend who has ruined their perfect game.

Truth is, it was not the friend that spoiled your game it was you.

Take a look at the picture below or the video of me above to see what the help me eyes look like.

If you look closely at this photo, you will see the help me eyes. It is very subtle yet intense and almost any female can pick up on it. Most men will not be able to see the subtle lift and opening of the eye.

Now that you know about this trick women use, you can use it to your advantage! Call a woman out on her help me eyes. Doing this will make her a little uncomfortable and put her in a vulnerable position.

Watch Marni do the HELP ME EYES:

How To Tell A Woman Likes You

How to tell if a woman likes you.

Lots of men can’t pick up on subtle female signals.

I do not want this to be you.

Not being able to pick up on subtle signals translate into missing out on great opportunities.

For example I have worked with a lot of clients and have many male friends who are totally oblivious to women’s “I like you” signals.

Tons of my clients and friends will tell me about women they encounter that they are interested in but fear the women does not feel the same way.

Most of the time it turns out the women are equally just as in to them but my client was unable to pick up on her subtle female signals.

The audio below gives you a woman’s opinion on ways for you to know when a woman likes you and tells you the exact signals to look for.

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How To Dress: A Woman’s View On “Peacocking”

Marni gives her opinion on Peacocking. For those of you who don’t know what “Peacocking” is, it is the action of dressing to stand out, or to have an item of clothing or an accessory that looks interesting, allowing the girl to comment on it if she is interested in starting a conversation with you.

As a woman I know what women see and lately all I see is men wearing boa’s and tall hats to impress a woman. A man does need to go this far to impress a woman.

If you are a man who naturally, on his own, would choose to wear a certain type of clothing, then continue wearing this clothing.

If, however, you are forcing a certain style to attract women then it will never work for you.

As I have said many times before, WOMEN CAN SMELL WHEN YOU ARE FAKING IT!

Instead of wearing a dress with red sparkles, go out and buy that one article of clothing that you have had your eye. You know what I am talking about. That one piece of clothing that you would like to wear but fear you can’t pull off.

Go buy it!

Listen to the audio below and let me know your thoughts and questions.

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Maintaining Conversations With Women

Maintaining Conversations With Women may seem like a daunting task right now, but it doesn’t have to be.

It can actually be quite an easy thing to do but you first you must do some work.

I get questions like: 1. What do I say? 2. What do women like to talk about? 3. What will make a woman want to talk to me longer?

The answers I give to the above questions are: 1. Say anything but be confident in what you are saying. 2. Women like to talk about themselves and the more you can show that you GET a woman the more responsive she will be. Try to guide the conversation, not dominate it. 3. Women will want to talk to you longer if they like your energy. A nervous train wreck does not have attractive energy. Be confident, practice at home and excuse yourself if you are no longer interested in the conversation.

YOU CAN WALK AWAY TOO!!

Again, MEN ARE ALLOWED TO WALK AWAY FROM A WOMAN TOO!

I bet you didn’t know that.

Listen to the audio below where I Provide 1 Tactic  you can use to better your conversation skills so you will have no trouble maintaining conversations with women in the future!

5 Tips For Maintaining Conversations With Women

1. Ask questions and LISTEN – Women enjoy talking about themselves and they enjoying revealing information.

2. Do not reveal too much right away.  Women Reveal, Men Conceal. There is no need to reveal to much about yourself right away.  If you want to become friends with a woman, reveal. If you want to create attraction with a woman Guide The Conversation Don’t Dominate It.

3. Sign up for improvisation classes.  These classes will make you take risks, confront fears but most importantly teach you how to pull conversation out of thin air.  Best thing I ever did was sign up for an improv class!

4. Let women know you hear and understand what they are telling you.

5. Keep it short and sweet!  The more you drag on the further a woman will bond with you on a friendship level.  Save the longer versions of stories for later! When initially interacting, let her have center stage. You will get your chance later.

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9 Tips For Approaching Women

TIPS FOR ATTRACTING WOMEN THAT EVERY MAN MUST KNOW:

1. Do not linger and stare – Women are always aware of the “lurkers”. We can see you and feel you. The longer you stare the lower your chances are of having a successful approach.

2. Do not be afraid of rejection – What is rejection really when approaching a woman? It is a woman who you have never met before and know nothing about telling you she may not be into you based on two seconds of conversation. The less afraid you are of rejection the more attention you will get from women.

3. Always go after what you want – I always say the only way to get what you want is by asking for it. If you never take a chance and go after the things you want, you will never get anything EXCEPT a big case of depression. Any woman that you are interested in approach, find out more about, and then decide if she is really what you want.

4. 25% / 75% – As the man you should be talking 25% and guiding the conversation not dominating it. The more a woman is talking the better.

5. Know what you want to say – I hate it when men come up to me and expect me to start and carry the conversation. An opinion opener is always a good way to start a conversation if you are stuck. Just make sure that you are actually interested in the question you have asked.

6. Pay attention to her body language – To avoid wasting your time, energy and money take notice of a womans body language. This will tell you what she is really saying. She is not interested or engaged if: She is not making eye contact, she nods her head to answer your questions, she gives one word answers, her body is turned away from you, she is looking over your shoulder for someone to save her.

7. You can leave at any time – Remember that reason you are approaching a woman is because you want to see if you she is interesting and worth your time. If this is not the case you have full power and permission to excuse yourself and leave.

8. Everyone has approach anxiety – Approaching a complete stranger is a nerve racking task for everyone. But the more that you do the less scary it seems and the more natural it becomes.

9. Approach every woman – Practice, practice, practice.

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