Too Much Outer Game =’s BAD NEWS

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This article is about one of my clients that was obsessed with outer game.

Obsessed to the point where he found himself constantly losing women.

Don’t get me wrong, I love outer game. It is fun, engaging and easy. Usually when I am out for a night and I interact with a guy, we banter, I do my dance for him, he does his dance for me and it is fun. FOR ONE NIGHT, maybe 2 if I am in the mood.  But then it becomes exhausting.  BORING, UNATTRACTIVE and NOT SEXY AT ALL.

After 1 or 2 times with a guy, I want something real, something I can latch onto or at least feel like I could latch onto.  What I am referring to is substance.

Women want to connect to man they feel has substance.  Has more going on than some quick lines of banter and entertainment.

If a man is all about outer game he is basically equivalent a magician.

A magician is there to entertain for the evening then disappear from your life but will continue to do his show night after night after night.

One of WGM’s most recent insider members, recently read an article I wrote about too much out game equally bad news.  In this article I go through a case study of one of my clients who was obsessed with outer game.  In fact he was so obsessed with outer game that he totally forgot to focus on any inner game.

He first wrote to me confused by the fact that he was not getting girls to answer his calls past the second date.  Obviously you can take a gander at what my response was.

So after a few emails back and forth, a lot of female insight and much more openness from his end, he finally got it and wrote me this email:

“This is so real. I’ve lost so many women due to over gaming. and really, i think it was really out of fear. Fear that if I didn’t have her utterly captivated and laughing and if i wasn’t escalating sexually that i would lose her.

It’s funny (and a bit tragic) that when i learned these things – i became so enamored with the tools that i lost touch with my own body, my own feeling of things. and when I’d rewind i could notice that “hmm. . . that interaction felt off . . . i pushed too hard . . . i missed the transition point . . . i came across as eager and try hard.”painful to see but good to learn.

I love the banter and the flirting too. and i find it’s good to pepper it into interactions as a spice but not the whole meal. i really am loving your stuff. Pretty shocked that after only a few emails back and forth my whole mindset totally shifted. thanks so much for doing it. “

Routines can work. In fact, I totally endorse using routines and lines AT FIRST.  But treat them as training wheels.  They can help you overcome approach anxiety and show you how to structure conversation. But they can’t keep a person engaged for longer than an evening.  That skill has to come from within you.

It is so important to have a balance of inner game and outer game. When you are truly balanced you will see it is not a game at all but YOU. A confident, self assured, whole YOU.

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The Secret To Avoiding The Friend Zone With Women

Why oh why do you keep ending up in the friend zone? I am sure this is a question you are constantly asking yourself.

Let me try to explain why this keeps happening to you by using an everyday example so that it may be easier for you to understand.

My friend is having a barbecue. There are all kinds of meat on the grill.  Chicken, fish, steak, ribs, everything! I go up to the bbq and say I am so hungry and that looks amazing.  I would love a piece that meat. Can I have the one on the top shelf?

My friend will look to the top shelf and see 10 pieces of meat of all different assortments.  He’ll then look at me and say “which one?” and I will say “the one on the right?”  My friend probably still have be confused about which one on the right I am referring to.

Now what if I were to change the way I was asking for that meat and said “Can you I have that piece of chicken on the top shelf second from the right?”.  BINGO!!! My friend knows instantly what I am asking for, reaches for the chicken and hands it to me.  We are all happy. There is no room for confusion. He knows what I want and can give me exactly what I am asking for.

See where I am going with this?

In my experience as a woman, I have seen many men who tippy toe around asking for what they want with me.  They do this because they don’t think it’s polite to be obvious and let a woman know they are attracted and interested in pursuing.  My assumption is that men also think women are clueless.  Of course we know. As soon as you approach us we know or at least we always assume that is why you are approaching.  We don’t think you are coming over to us at a bar or social location because you REALLY want to tell us about the recent stock market crash or find out our favorite color.  We know and there is nothing wrong with that.

If you are attracted to us, approach us and then be perfectly clear why you are approaching. Don’t hide it or cover it up to seem less obvious.  Seem very obvious and let her know your intentions.

Don’t try to be sneaky and ask to be a friend. Because you know what’s going to happen don’t you?

YOU WILL BECOME THE FRIEND.  If you don’t ask for more, we won’t give you more.  AND we will assume that you are very content being that friend until you tell us differently.

I refer to this as Nice Guy Manipulation.  A manipulation tactic that sadly, always blows up in a guys face.

So next time you meet a woman be very clear on what you are looking for.  Tell her you think she is attractive and want to get to know more.  When you are online don’t say you are looking for a friend because you most certainly are not.   Be clear, be straight and be direct with what you want and I can guarantee you will not find yourself in the friend zone.

The only way to get what you want is by asking for it!

Remember the only one sticking you in the friend zone is you.

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