Too Much Outer Game Can Ruin Chances With Women

I am constantly getting emails from men around the world asking for advice on women. I thought I would share one of these emails with you because I think it is something you can learn from.

This email was written by a 26 year old man in London. He totally has his outer game down pat and his actions should be able to get him most women he wants. Pay attention to the negs he uses, because these are lines you may want to incorporate into your routine.

The one thing he does not have down is how to transition from outer game to a more substantial “connecting” with the girl he’s persuing. Without this connecting, your outer game will be wasted.

If you cannot transition from being the entertainer to being the man, then you will never truly be successful with women. Below is his email to the Wing Girls, and my response follows.

Dear Wing Girls,

It was a singles’ social boat cruise, and the following are the events that happened with one of the cuties I am really interested in. Need some opinion how to pick up the momentum.

Thursday Night: It was a singles’ social event, and I was moving around groups of women, busting on them and teasing some. This particular cutie that caught my eye I approached by grabbing her by her arm and telling follow me. She came along willingly.

Me: Why were you avoiding me all night?
Her: I was not, you were busy running around with other girls.
Me: Wait, are you single?
Her: Yes, of course
Me: You better be, otherwise I have to kick you off the boat!
Her :
Me: Are you a Good girl or a Nice girl?
Her: Naughty but nice.
Me: Do you speak English?
Her: Yes.
Me: Choose one then…good or nice?
Her: Nice I guess?
Me. Do you know the difference?
Her: You tell me.
Me: Good Girl goes out, comes home and sleeps, a Nice Girl goes out,
sleeps and comes home.
Her:
Me: Do you know the difference between a Good Secretary and a Nice Secretary?
Her: No, go ahead.
Me: Good Secretary will say, “Good morning, Sir,” and a Nice Secretary
will say, “It’s morning, Sir.”
Her:

Then we have a chat about where she is staying, her ethnic mix, and places
she has traveled. She turns out to be Singaporean and British. Then I say,
“I bet you suck at Thumb-wrestling!”

Her: Bring it on.
Me: I do not play without a wager.
Her: What is the wager?
Me: Loser buys dinner.
Her: OK
Me: No Cheating! Best out of 3, GO!

We wrestle, and it’s 1 – 1. Last round…I start to tickle her and wrestle/hug her. It’s good fun with some tension. I lose on purpose cuz I tickled her. I say ok, give me your number and we’ll set something up. We part.

The next hour, we exchange glances and I throw a few “I’m watching you” and “Stay out of trouble” lines at her, at which she giggles (most probably from a nice dosage of alcohol consumption.)

Friday: Cool off

Saturday: Message her to check if she got home alive and ask for her email address. She replies ok and gives me her email address.

Sunday Morning: Call and leave a message. She calls back and we have a chat about setting a date, but we both have commitments. She mentions briefly to touch base next weekend if we can do something together. I say, “Ok, we’ll see.”

I then ask her what is she up to? It’s almost noon, and why is she lazing like a pig? She giggle and says she has plans with some friends to watch Sex and the City.

Me: So which character best describes you?
Her: I dunno, what do you think?
Me: I think you are a Samantha in Charlotte disguise.
Her: Noooooo, No one likes to be her, its not nice.
Me: Are you judging her? You are even more evil.
Her: Nooo hahah etc.
Me: I gotta go, got training, will call and catch up.

I text her later telling her I had to cut her short cuz I was dealing with London traffic. TOURIST. Will call at night to catch up and have some stimulating conversations. End with Charlotte and a wink.

Called her at 22:30, went to her voice mail, I say, “Ahh, playing hard to get? Cheeky! Holla back!” Not heard from her since.

Tuesday 11PM, sent her a funny text: “It’s important to find a man who has money, a man who adores you, a man who is great in the sack. It’s also important that these 3 men should never meet! How are you doing?” Did not receive any reply.

Any opinion as to how I can pick my game up again?

I will share my response a little later, but I wanted to use this email to show you an example of how many men can get carried away with too much outer game. So carried away that they lose the girl.

Listen, I am the first one to admit I LOVE THE GAME!! I love the banter, the butterflies, the negging, all of it. It is fun, but only for a night, maybe two tops. After that, I need something a little more substantial.

When I met Mystery at David DeAngelo’s seminar, where we were both speaking, I can honestly say he captivated me.

He was able to pull me away from a crowd of people, talk with me for two hours, and keep me completely focused on him. I understand how his game works, and it worked on me.

It worked on me because it was fun and exciting and it challenged me. I did not feel madly in love with him, nor did I think we had a great connection, but I had an urge for him to like me, respect me and want me. But once we had separated, I did not think of him again.

His magic only worked for a short period of time because I had nothing real to latch onto so that I could feel connected. I was simply entertained.

I have many clients that have done several PUA programs. These men have no problems engaging and approaching women, but after that they are helpless. They do not know how to have real conversations, nor do they listen to women. Basically they have learned to tap dance for women, and once the dance is over the women leave.

I am a big fan of programs like Mystery’s because he teaches men to be comfortable in their own skins. He shows them they can be that guy they have always wanted to be. They are worthy and deserving of everything that others have. I would recommend his material to any one of my clients.

But… where his program falls short is that it does not teach men what to do next. It is hard to keep up banter. It gets exhausting.

I am going to give you a straight and honest female perspective.

As a man, you have to give women a little more than just a moment of entertainment. If your goal is to get a woman to sleep with you for an evening, then outer game works great! Routines, magic tricks, anything that captures your audience and gets them excited will work perfectly.

But if you are looking to be with a woman for a longer period of time you will never succeed without showing a bit more substance. This is what makes connecting with her possible, and without that, your outer game is useless.

Here is how I responded to the email above.

What I noticed from your email is that you need to STOP playing a game. Games like this are good in the moment. They are fun and entertaining and get a girl’s heart racing, but once this moment or period in time has passed, reality sets in and girls realize what this behavior really means. It means player, games, and sex with no phone call the next day.

Again, if you want to sleep with women, great tactic, but you need to move fast or the euphoric feeling will disappear. If your goal is to date and have relationships, then you are totally using the wrong approach.

Not sure what you were trying to accomplish. The routine you have described will totally get a girl back to your room if you take the right steps to lead her there. Seeing that you took your time makes me think you were looking for something more.

One other key thing I noticed was the Sex and the City joke. First, very impressed you knew the characters. Second, no woman wants to be referred to as a Samantha by a man who is trying to sleep with her. It makes her feel slutty and used. It also makes her think that there is only one thing on that man’s mind, and that makes her feel dirty. Women want to be in control of their own sexuality and know that they are being respected.

Do not pigeon hole women by telling them who they are. Let them tell you who they are. You will get way more out a woman that way. To save yourself from this comment, it would have been smart to send her better text that had more heart attached to it, more of the “real” you. I think you would have gotten a response.

What I try to teach to all of my clients is that balance is so important. Outer game is fun and exciting, and most women, especially the great ones, will engage in it. But every outer game needs to have some substance behind it. It’s all about connecting, because once you run out of outer game, you need to make sure you have something left.

Thank you for contacting The Wing Girl Method.

I will show you how important it is to have balance in the way you present yourself to women. Outer game is fun, exciting and most women, especially the great ones, will engage in it. But behind every show of outer game needs to be something of substance. Something a woman can hold onto that makes her feel that there is more to “this” male than games, banter and playfulness.

Are you ready to learn to balance your outer game with materials of substance?

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Am I Into This Girl?

As a follow up to my last post “Why Do Women Give Out Their Phone Number and Not Answer?” I wanted to talk about a huge issue that I hear from my clients all time.

The issue is that a lot of my clients (men) are so focused on whether or not a woman likes them, that they forget to ask themselves

“Am I into this girl?”

This is one of the most important questions you can ever ask yourself because it will stop you from getting all wrapped up in “the game” and keep you focused on reality.

The next time that you go and approach a random girl I want you to focus on her rather than yourself.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Do I find her interesting?

2. Is she engaging me?

3. Do I like her?

4. Am I attracted to her?

Remember, this whole process of meeting people and approaching them is about finding someone who is right for you.

Not about making everyone like you.

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Where To Take A Girl On A Date: First Date Ideas

Tons of men ask me “Where should I take a girl on a date?”

My answer to them is always the same “Where do you want to go on a date?”

The dating process is all about seeing if two people can connect and fit into each others lives.  Therefore I feel that in the beginning stages of dating you must hold true to who you are so the other person can see if they want to come along for the ride.

A lot of men try too hard to think “what would impress her?”, “what would she want to do?”, “what will make her want to be with me more?”

In the beginning, the first few dates, this she or her is really no one to you.  At least not anyone whose needs come before yours.  Right?

So then stop focusing on her and start focusing on you.

If you want to go to a salsa class, take her with.  If you want to go to a comedy show and laugh, take her with.

A first date does not need to be extravagant, expensive and showy. It has to be real and it has to be you.

BUT most importantly it has to be fun and enjoyable.

Great first date ideas:

1. Drinks at a bar
2. Bowling
3. Walk on the boardwalk, walk street
4. Jazz club
5. Salsa dancing
6. Comedy show
7. Concert
8. Mini Golf
9. Billiards
10. Go carting
11. Art exhibit
12. Wine bar
13. Cooking class
14. Book signing

My recommendation is to not go to an expensive restaurant and wine and dine.

NOT YET!

Wait until you know she is worth it.

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Too Much Outer Game =’s BAD NEWS

If you signed for The Wing Girl Method’s newsletter filled with great tips and tools to attract women, you would have received an article that I wrote about a year ago. This article is about one of my clients that was obsessed with outer game.

Obsessed to the point where he found himself constantly losing women.

Don’t get me wrong, I love outer game.

It is fun, engaging and easy.

Usually when I am out for a night and I interact with a guy we banter, I do my dance for him, he does his dance for me and it is fun.

It only becomes an issue when there is nothing past the outer game but an empty man.

BORING, UNATTRACTIVE and NOT SEXY AT ALL.

If a man is all about outer game he is basically equivalent a magician.

A magician is there to entertain for the evening then disappear from your life but will continue to do his show night after night after night.

One of the men who signed up for The Wing Girl Methods newsletter and received the full article on Outer Game wrote me today and added his two cents in response to the article. I thought his input was a great addition and feedback that would be helpful to you.

“This is so real. i’ve lost so many women due to over gaming. and really, i think it was really out of fear. fear that if I didn’t
have her utterly captivated and laughing and if i wasn’t escalating sexually that i would lose her.

It’s funny (and a bit tragic) that when i learned these things – i became so enamored with the tools that i lost touch with my own body, my own feeling of things. and when i’d rewind i could notice that “hmm. . . that interaction felt off . . . i pushed too hard . . . i missed the transition point . . . i came across as eager and try hard.” painful to see but good to learn.

I love the banter and the flirting too. and i find it’s good to pepper it into interactions as a spice but not the whole meal.

i really am loving your stuff. thanks so much for doing it.”

What this man has said was that only working on his outer game took him so far out of his body that he was not able to enjoy the actual connections he was attempting to make.

Routines can work. They can break you into conversation but they can’t keep a person engaged for longer than an evening.

It is so important to have a balance of inner game and outer game. When you are truly balanced you will see it is not a game at all but YOU. A confident, self assured, whole YOU.

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The Master Plan

I have said to you several times that as a man, being able to attract women is part of your genetic make up.

Why? So you can have sex and make babies.

So what is stopping you? It is that thing on the top of your shoulders called YOUR HEAD.

Your head tells you:

- I am too fat
- I am too bald
- I am not rich enough
- She will reject me
- I will have nothing interesting to say

It never ends.

I wanted to introduce you to a friend of mine Scot Mckay who has just completed a wonderful program called The Master Plan.

This program is all about how you, as a man, can tap into your natural ability to pickup and attract women.

It is a fantastic program with detailed examples, interviews with top specialists (including myself) and much more.

I have taken a clip from the interview between myself and Scot. We talk about what women want from men.

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Stuck In The Friend Zone Again?

Why oh why do you keep ending up in the friend zone? I am sure this is a question you are constantly asking yourself.

Let me try to explain why this keeps happening to you by using an everyday example so that it may be easier for you to understand.

My friend is having a barbecue and has tons of meat on the grill and I say to him “Can I have that white piece of meat that is on the top shelf?”. He may look at me confused and I may have to explain my request.

Now what if I were to say “Can you I have that piece of chicken on the top shelf second from the left?”.

There is no room for confusion. He knows what I want and can give me exactly what I am asking for.

See where I am going with this?

I find that a lot of men are not very clear in asking a woman for what they want. If you want a woman to see you sexually ask for it.

Don’t try to be sneaky and ask to be a friend. Because you know what’s going to happen don’t you?

YOU WILL BE THE FRIEND.

This is a form of manipulation, an unconscious form but still a form.

So next time you meet a woman be very clear on what you are looking for and I can guarantee you will not find yourself in the friend zone.

Remember the only one sticking you in the friend zone is you.

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How Sexy It Is To Be Direct With Women

I want to show you an example of how sexy it is to women when a man is direct.

I recently saw the move Vicki Christina Barcelona, staring Penelope Cruz, Scarlett Johansson and Javier Bardem.

The movie is about 2 women who go traveling for the summer to explore new things and find themselves. During their travels they meet a man played by Javier Bardem.

Javier’s character is sexy, straightforward, direct and again SEXY.

Their first interaction with him is at a restaurant where he comes up to their table and asks them, very directly, if they would like to come with him on a trip. He states that it would be filled with fun, good wine, good food and GREAT SEX. He really said it just like that.

After he said this, I could feel the libido’s of all the women I was watching with start to get rise and get excited. This is every woman’s dream.

Yes, I know, Javier is a handsome man but it was not just his looks that got us excited it was the way he made his offer.

Now this is an extreme example of a man being direct but it is an important one.

Javier’s character wanted something. He was direct and offered it and was okay if it was declined.

SEXY, HOT AND SOOOO ATTRACTIVE!!

This is what I hope you are able to accomplish. Doing things for you and not for women.

Definitely check out this movie if not for just Javier but the kiss between Scarlette Johansson and Penelope Cruz . Click here or click the image below to get the movie.

Let me know what you think.

Carlos Xuma Interviews Marni

Carlos and Marni discuss the importance of setting boundaries with women.

Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating field. Xuma argues that most of the problems men face in romance and attraction stem from a gender disadvantage, as women are socialized to be collaborators and communicators from early childhood, and men are socialized as independent and competitors.

His unique methods of instruction start with rehabilitation of a man’s self-confidence. He describes the three primary parts of a man’s masculine confidence as: 1) Self-esteem (how worthy a man views himself), 2) Self-image (the roles or actions a man can and cannot envision himself performing), and 3) Self-confidence (how certain a man is about his world and abilities in general.)

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Women are going to hate me when they discover what I am about to start teaching you. Through these blog posts, our dating tips newsletters, our wing girl services and our relationship advice products available through our website, I am going to reveal every secret that women have tried to keep hidden for years.

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No more becoming “The Friend”, no more wishing she was yours. It is time to get every woman you have ever wanted to crave you.

One thing I will tell you is that “GAME” is just like any other skill. It requires time, practice and dedication.

Just like any other program or lesson, it will only work if you work at it.

If your goal is to be with more women, to become a player, a pickup artist, or a PUA … then it is your job to take the right steps to make this happen.

You have already made the first step by reading this article.

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