Approach Anxiety: Case Study

Approach anxiety sucks. Point blank!  It sucks because approach anxiety is based on fictional beliefs that we make up in our head that stop us from doing the thing we really want to do and as men are born to do.  APPROACH WOMEN!

Below is a Case Study of a client that I worked with a couple of years ago who, in 1 week, was able to overcome his Approach Anxiety by pushing himself, being proactive and taking risks.  Again, all things that men are born to do.

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7 Ways To Create Sexual Chemistry With Women

A lot of men are constantly asking me “How do can I escalate from friends to sexual attraction?”. Escalating is easier than one might think because all it involves is believing that you are sexual and stating your intentions. The difficult part is actually believing you are sexual and having the confidence and comfort in yourself to actually display your intentions.

Quick lesson: If you want to be seen as a sexual option stop presenting yourself as a friend or a suck.  Be straight, direct and confident in the way you present yourself.

One of my new awesome, intelligent and did I mention hot new Wing Girls Zoe has written you a piece on how
to show a woman you want her sexually without being aggressive or an a**hole.

Zoe is an Asian-American woman who has lived in Los Angeles, New York, and Paris.  She has  dated men from every continent, older men and younger men, sweet guys and obnoxious pricks and knows there’s something to be appreciated about all of them.  Her goal is to help men man up so that good guys can finally get the girl.

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What can be said about sexual chemistry between men and women?  Is it just a myth or is it a magic bullet aimed straight at the heart (or elsewhere…)?  Some couples say when they met they had “instant chemistry.”  So what exactly does this mean?  Is sexual chemistry a simple biological process or something more complex, a layering of mental and physical attraction, body language, and ancient love juju?

Ancient love juju aside, sexual chemistry is actually based on a kind of unconscious perception and interpretation of someone’s appearance and behavior.  Huh?  Simply put, we are constantly scanning the opposite sex for signs of interest and compatibility.  When we project the right signals, we are able to attract the objects of our desire.

For example, if a man projects a vibe of independence, seems to be happy, and appears to know what he wants, this triggers arousal in women.  “At first sight” he is providing enough evidence for a woman’s desire to be stoked.  Suddenly she sees him in a more sexual way, based entirely on her perception of him as strong and independent.  It also doesn’t hurt that when a guy appears sexually exuberant, he gives a woman the impression she’ll have a satisfying experience with him.

Men so often suppress their sexual strength and assertiveness as a result of past rejection; they get caught up in their own fears, trying to second-guess what women want.  These guys appear weak and inhibited, and, on an unconscious level, women see them as being “too feminine.”  Who wants to share in a guy’s weakness or have to fix it?  Either way, the sexual chemistry is ruined.

So, how can a guy amp up his ability to create hot sexual chemistry with a woman without having it blow up in his face like a bad science project?

1. Be aware of the kind of vibe you are projecting.  Are you coming off as confident, carefree, and fun or an emotional drag?
2. Pay attention to the subtle signals she’s sending you. Is she leaning into you and smiling or sitting back with her arms crossed over her chest?  It takes two to make chemistry happen, so be responsive to her vibe.  A little attentiveness can go a long way.
3. Don’t second-guess yourself.  Retreating inside your brain to battle your insecurities takes you out of the moment and is a sure way to kill chemistry.
4. Be direct and confident.  Looking into her eyes and smiling while you talk will make you appear assertive, enthusiastic, and sexy.
5. Don’t fear rejection.  Relax!  Remember we are constantly projecting signals.  If she picks up on how tense you are, she’s likely to tense up, too.
6. Make her laugh.  Light sexual innuendo is a great way to lighten the mood and convey your attraction.
7. Don’t be afraid to let her know you’re interested.  Women can sense it, anyway.  It’s chemistry, stupid!

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The important notes to take away from what Zoe has said is to be proud and confident in what you want. If you want to sleep with a woman don’t try to hide it, show it. Not in a sleezy, gropey way but in a sexually strong way.  The way that gets women turned on in 2 seconds by presenting them wiht a man that knows what he wants and can lead. How sexy is that??!!!

Answer: SO SEXY. Trust me.

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Am I Into This Girl?

As a follow up to my last post “Why Do Women Give Out Their Phone Number and Not Answer?” I wanted to talk about a huge issue that I hear from my clients all time.

The issue is that a lot of my clients (men) are so focused on whether or not a woman likes them, that they forget to ask themselves

“Am I into this girl?”

This is one of the most important questions you can ever ask yourself because it will stop you from getting all wrapped up in “the game” and keep you focused on reality.

The next time that you go and approach a random girl I want you to focus on her rather than yourself.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Do I find her interesting?

2. Is she engaging me?

3. Do I like her?

4. Am I attracted to her?

Remember, this whole process of meeting people and approaching them is about finding someone who is right for you.

Not about making everyone like you.

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Why Do Women Give Out Their Phone Number and Not Answer?

You’re at a bar talking to a girl you really like and think “she’s totally into me. I’m going to ask for her number”.

You: Can I get your number so we can hang out again some time?

Her: Sure.

You: Great. I’ll give you a call.

You go home all pumped up, excited, patting yourself on the back.

Then two days later you call.

NO ANSWER.

Of course you give it one more try because with modern technology wires get crossed and messages get erased

Still NO ANSWER.

Then you think “WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH WOMEN?”

Why do they do this?

Why do they give out their phone number and not answer their phone?

Do they know this at the time? or do they decide later?

I have been in this situation MANY times and the answer for is usually I had no intention of ever answering the phone.

I was not interested and just being polite.

From the time women are born they are taught to be proud, polite, respectful ladies.

Ladies, who don’t tell you to your face if they are not into you. That is not polite or proper.

Instead we do it behind your back.

I have been one of those ladies many many times.

I have given my number over and over again with absolutely no intention of answering the phone.

I know it’s wrong but it’s so much easier and less awkward to give out my number then to say “sorry I’m so not into you and I will never answer my phone when you call. I do not want to go out with you.”

Listen, when I go out I enjoy talking to people.

I especially like talking with men but usually within the first 2 minutes, actually it’s more like 30 seconds, I can tell if I am going to want to see a guy past that evening. But I am enjoying my conversation with him.

Does this mean that I have to cut off the conversation with him? Should I be that presumptuous that he is into me and that I should cut it off before I hurt his feelings?

So I usually continue talking because I am enjoying myself and then the awkward moment comes when they ask for my number.

I freeze up, get nervous and give out my phone number feeling guilty the whole time.

It’s horrible, I know, but it’s what I do. It’s what all of my girlfriends do and what most women in the world do.

I don’t know a lot of women that can be strong enough to say “You know what I had a great time with you this evening but I think this is the end of the road for our relationship. It was nice meeting you. Goodbye”.

Doesn’t happen often.

So basically what I am telling you is that a number doesn’t mean a success.

The real success is when you actually get that women to answer the phone and go out on a date.

So what can you do to fight against this?

You learn about women.

You learn what they like and what they don’t like.

You figure out how to read their body language so that you know, even before they do, when they are into you and that getting her number will lead to a date or or relationship or sex.

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Pick-Up Artist or Artist of the Science Behind Social Dynamics?

Are the pick-up artists of the world slowly molding into Artist of the Science behind Social Dynamics?

I think so.

A lot of the leading male “PUA’s” out there have embraced the idea that inner/natural game is the key to success and that pick up lines and routines are just forms of manipulation. Manipulation against women but also against themselves.

This is a belief that myself and The Wing Girl Method have held for a very long time.

I wanted to tell you about a man/client/user I have been interacting with a for over a year now through email.

He first came to me bitter and angry at women challenging my abilities to assist him. At first, I told him that I had no interest in being challenged but I would be ready to assist him when he was ready to receive information.

I think the response caught him off guard and he quickly softened and became open. I think I was the first honest and blunt women he had ever encountered, just a guess

Over the year, he has changed considerably and sends me quotes from his psych courses and insightful notions that he now believes.

He sent me a note this morning that I thought I would pass on to #1 toot my own horn, but also show you how a man who was once angry can slowly transform into an open well balanced human being.

“I guess I’m practicing on leading – not reaction seeking. Trying to convey that they’re (women) just as equal as I am that what I say is really not as important as I’m making it out to be. I do remember the post where you said your responses, 95% of the time dictate the response, or feeling of the other person.

The only thing different than me in comparison to other guys is my intentions are perfectly pure. I’m intruiged by social dynamics because I understand how important it is to hold a relationship. I believe unhealthy minds attract unhealthy people – and healthy to healthy. At the moment, I’m building myself up because like you said – women want a MAN not a passive male who is constantly evaluating himself and making sure his performance will please her.

I really want you to know that your posts helped me a lot, it opened my eyes and softened my point of view towards others and influenced me to understand others. I’m driven to make others comfortable – to not do nice actions purely to get positive results. You’ve changed my personality completely as well as other – I don’t want to say pick-up artists, it sounds corny – artists of the science behind social dynamics.”

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10 Signs She’s Flirting

Want to know 10 easy way to spot if a woman is flirting with you?

I recently came across an article by Bob Strauss, for Match.com’s Happen magazine, on signs to look for when a woman is into you.

You may or may not know that I do not believe in waiting for signs to take action. When considering approaching a woman the only sign you need is “I am interested in her and want to know more.”

BUT I once you get into a conversation with a woman, I know it can be difficult for men to tell when a woman is interested and flirting.

First, signs she is not interested:
No eye contact
Body language away from you
Nodding and not responding
1 word answers

You see these signs, RUN. Get away and get over this woman.

Second, sign she is flirting taken from Bob Strauss’s article.

My comments are at the end of each point in bold.

Enjoy!

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There are two types of guys in the world: those who think anything a woman does (scratching her nose, asking for the time, bending down to adjust her pumps) is an invitation to an immediate come-on, and those who can catch a casually tossed keycard in a crowded hotel bar and think to themselves, “Golly, she must have mistaken me for a bellboy. I’ll just leave this with the bartender and he’ll give it back to her when she’s sober.”

If you’re the second type, read the list below immediately, lest that gal who’s desperately been trying to engage your interest moves on to someone a bit less obtuse.

1. A smile. This is the simplest flirt there is, and the hardest to misinterpret. If a woman smiles at you from across the room, this means that she wants you to talk to her. Really. (Though once this happened to me, and as I approached the lady in question she said, “Oh, I’m sorry! I thought you were someone else.”)

Marni: Reinforcing my belief that everything is a signal, don’t wait for a smile. You like her your approach her and then you decide. If you have a situation where the woman says “whoops thought you were someone else” let her know it was okay for her to make that mistake but you are still sticking around cause you want to know more about her “whoops, I think your hot and could have a good personality that I may like. Let’s see if you do”.

2. The hair twirl. Just about every person I interviewed mentioned that the girly, unselfconscious habit of playing with her hair means that a woman is open to your advances. So if you say hello and she’s wrapping her locks around her finger, well, all signals say: Keep chatting.

Marni: This is something that I do when I am into a guy and want him to be attracted to me. I twirl my hair, touch my lips and bat my eyes. All very feminine things that, as women, we feel will make a man turned on and more attracted to us.

3. An unbuttoned button. Watch for a blouse that isn’t as closed up as it might usually be, says image consultant Dianne M. Daniels. “No, she won’t be stripping off her clothes in front of you, but if she doesn’t immediately re-wrap that scarf so you don’t see her cleavage, it could be a sign that she’s interested.”

Marni: This may or may not be a sign. It’s a sign when she returns from the bathroom with new lip gloss applied, her hair tossed and a one less button done up.

4. A cry for help. “If a woman asks you for assistance in any way, such as, ‘Excuse me, could you help me figure out the tip on this bar tab? I’ve never had to pay one before,’ she’s flirting with you by indulging your psychological need to feel like a hero,” says Py Kim Conant, author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha.

Marni: I have definitely done this one may times. Asked for help when it was not needed just to catch someone’s attention. “Can you help me lift this heavy chair for me?”. I do Yoga and weight training and could totally lift it myself but why do it yourself when there is a cute guy that could do it for you.

5. A well-placed double entendre. Says Debbie Mandel, author of Turn on Your Love Light, “When a woman is flirting, she’ll invest the conversation with subtle double meanings, and most everything she says will have an erotic undercurrent, even unremarkable phrases like ‘I really like your tie.’”

Marni: I don’t know about double entendres but for me, if I make a statement like this one I am FLIRTING. Unless I say it point blank or over the top. This is an important to note. Women who are overly comfortable with you are NOT usually into you.

6. Happy feet. “Consciously, a woman may play hard to get by twisting her upper body away, but her feet show where her interest really is,” says TV personality Dr. Diana Kirschner. “A clueless guy should ask her some friendly questions, then watch carefully to see if she starts opening up nonverbally by pointing her toes in your direction.” (Note for beginners: Be subtle about glancing under the table.)

Marni: Sometimes very true.

7. Fidgeting. This one cuts both ways, but the experts concur: If a gal constantly tosses her hair, twists her pinky ring, or snaps her hairband, this counts as flirtatious behavior if and only if (and these are big “ifs” and “onlys”) she maintains uninterrupted eye contact. If she keeps glancing away, she may very well be repulsed by you and wants to get away as soon as possible.

Marni: Very true. As I said above about double entendres, when I am attracted to someone I stumble over my words and fidget. Not at my peak of confidence so I get nervous.

8. Proximity. “If a woman stays inside a ’safe distance’, then she’s probably interested in you, especially if she’s not the touchy-feely type,” Daniels says (of course, this advice doesn’t necessarily apply if you’re talking in a crowded, noisy club). “Also, watch for any lingering touches where she doesn’t immediately remove her hand.”

Marni: True. Women who do not want to be around you will physically back away from you. If she is into you she will lightly touch you in some way.

9. Lively banter. For many women, flirting is a non-button-popping, non toe-pointing no-brainer: They merely listen to what you have to say, and interject meaningful, encouraging comments. If she’s not interested, she’ll yawn during your yarn about parachuting behind enemy lines during Gulf War I. If she is interested, she’ll expostulate endlessly about how fascinating the shoe business can be.

Marni: I have done this myself when I am attracted to a guy. I will be fascinated by anything that comes out of his. As I said in the intro to this blog is if a woman is NOT interested she will give you 1 word answers and nod. If you have a woman engaged but you can tell she is slightly nervous, she is into you.

10. Lack of inhibition. I’m as cloddish as the next guy, but I still fondly remember the time I met a gal at a cocktail party and, within five minutes, we were talking about how old we were when we lost our virginity. (Alas, she already had a boyfriend, but I still cling desperately to the belief that it was a genuine flirt maneuver…)

Marni: This is a sticky one because most women who are that comfortable with you right off the bat are usually not attracted to you. Therefore they may freely reveal lots of private information with little remorse because there is no attraction. However it depends on the conversation. In this case I would need to hear more about what information was actually exchanged to give a good assessment as to whether she was interested.

Over all, I think these are great tools for you to use to catch female signals.

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Do Women Want Sex As Much As Men?

Of course we do. We just want to be able to make the choice to have sex.

Speaking for myself, as a woman, I like sex. It’s fun and it feels good. What’s not to like.

I will be honest and tell you that I am a good girl who used to be very prude when I was younger.

The reason i was so prude was that I was uncomfortable. Uncomfortable with boys, my body and myself.

Not a good combo if I ever wanted to have a mind blowing sex life.

When I was 18 I went backpacking and safely kissed my way up the east coast until I met a very special guy who totally broke me out of my shell.

The first time we were making out he said to me “I want you to be comfortable. If I do anything that makes you nervous or uncomfortable, just slap my hand and I will stop.”

I can tell you there was no hand slapping and I got very comfortable.

The reason for this was because I felt that I was in charge of my sexuality. I was getting to make the choice and that alone put me at ease.

Women want to be sexual. Women want to be sexy and women want to live out crazy sexual fantasies but they need to feel safe and secure.

They want to know that they are the ones making the choice and not being forced or pushed into being sexual.

I never want to feel judged or pressured. I don’t want to be tossed in the slut category and therefore I am very conscious of who I give my sexuality to.

Women want to be unlocked. Trust me. Even the purest of pure want an adventure.

As men, you can give women a safe place to be sexual. Just like my backpacking friend did for me.

Next time you are getting intimate with a woman, try his move and I promise you will get great results.

Too Much Outer Game =’s BAD NEWS

If you signed for The Wing Girl Method’s newsletter filled with great tips and tools to attract women, you would have received an article that I wrote about a year ago. This article is about one of my clients that was obsessed with outer game.

Obsessed to the point where he found himself constantly losing women.

Don’t get me wrong, I love outer game.

It is fun, engaging and easy.

Usually when I am out for a night and I interact with a guy we banter, I do my dance for him, he does his dance for me and it is fun.

It only becomes an issue when there is nothing past the outer game but an empty man.

BORING, UNATTRACTIVE and NOT SEXY AT ALL.

If a man is all about outer game he is basically equivalent a magician.

A magician is there to entertain for the evening then disappear from your life but will continue to do his show night after night after night.

One of the men who signed up for The Wing Girl Methods newsletter and received the full article on Outer Game wrote me today and added his two cents in response to the article. I thought his input was a great addition and feedback that would be helpful to you.

“This is so real. i’ve lost so many women due to over gaming. and really, i think it was really out of fear. fear that if I didn’t
have her utterly captivated and laughing and if i wasn’t escalating sexually that i would lose her.

It’s funny (and a bit tragic) that when i learned these things – i became so enamored with the tools that i lost touch with my own body, my own feeling of things. and when i’d rewind i could notice that “hmm. . . that interaction felt off . . . i pushed too hard . . . i missed the transition point . . . i came across as eager and try hard.” painful to see but good to learn.

I love the banter and the flirting too. and i find it’s good to pepper it into interactions as a spice but not the whole meal.

i really am loving your stuff. thanks so much for doing it.”

What this man has said was that only working on his outer game took him so far out of his body that he was not able to enjoy the actual connections he was attempting to make.

Routines can work. They can break you into conversation but they can’t keep a person engaged for longer than an evening.

It is so important to have a balance of inner game and outer game. When you are truly balanced you will see it is not a game at all but YOU. A confident, self assured, whole YOU.

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Stuck In The Friend Zone Again?

Why oh why do you keep ending up in the friend zone? I am sure this is a question you are constantly asking yourself.

Let me try to explain why this keeps happening to you by using an everyday example so that it may be easier for you to understand.

My friend is having a barbecue and has tons of meat on the grill and I say to him “Can I have that white piece of meat that is on the top shelf?”. He may look at me confused and I may have to explain my request.

Now what if I were to say “Can you I have that piece of chicken on the top shelf second from the left?”.

There is no room for confusion. He knows what I want and can give me exactly what I am asking for.

See where I am going with this?

I find that a lot of men are not very clear in asking a woman for what they want. If you want a woman to see you sexually ask for it.

Don’t try to be sneaky and ask to be a friend. Because you know what’s going to happen don’t you?

YOU WILL BE THE FRIEND.

This is a form of manipulation, an unconscious form but still a form.

So next time you meet a woman be very clear on what you are looking for and I can guarantee you will not find yourself in the friend zone.

Remember the only one sticking you in the friend zone is you.

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Should Men Buy Women Drinks?

Should you buy a woman a drink? Depends.

First ask yourself a few questions:

Are you buying this drink to be a gentleman?

Are you buying this drink cause it’s polite?

Are you buying this drink so that she won’t run away?

Are you buying this drink so she’ll like you?

If you answered YES to any of these questions then DO NOT BUY HER A DRINK.

I think it is really important to acknowledge when you are doing things for other people and when you are doing things for yourself. Women are attracted to men who do things for themselves.

This does not mean they like selfish men but women like men who are confident enough not to be lead by what others think or want. Not swayed by trying to please others.

So next time you think to offer a drink to women think about why you are doing it. If you are buying it because you want to and you have no “REASON” behind buying the drink then buy it.

If however you feel that buying a drink will automatically lead you somewhere with a women than 9 times out of 10 you will be sadly be disappointed.

Let me know what you think.

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