Approach Anxiety: Case Study

Approach anxiety sucks. Point blank!  It sucks because approach anxiety is based on fictional beliefs that we make up in our head that stop us from doing the thing we really want to do and as men are born to do.  APPROACH WOMEN!

Below is a Case Study of a client that I worked with a couple of years ago who, in 1 week, was able to overcome his Approach Anxiety by pushing himself, being proactive and taking risks.  Again, all things that men are born to do.

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7 Ways To Create Sexual Chemistry With Women

A lot of men are constantly asking me “How do can I escalate from friends to sexual attraction?”. Escalating is easier than one might think because all it involves is believing that you are sexual and stating your intentions. The difficult part is actually believing you are sexual and having the confidence and comfort in yourself to actually display your intentions.

Quick lesson: If you want to be seen as a sexual option stop presenting yourself as a friend or a suck.  Be straight, direct and confident in the way you present yourself.

I have written you a piece that will help you show a woman you want her sexually without being aggressive or an a**hole.

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What can be said about sexual chemistry between men and women?  Is it just a myth or is it a magic bullet aimed straight at the heart (or elsewhere…)?  Some couples say when they met they had “instant chemistry.”  So what exactly does this mean?  Is sexual chemistry a simple biological process or something more complex, a layering of mental and physical attraction, body language, and ancient love juju?

Ancient love juju aside, sexual chemistry is actually based on a kind of unconscious perception and interpretation of someone’s appearance and behavior.  Huh?  Simply put, we are constantly scanning the opposite sex for signs of interest and compatibility.  When we project the right signals, we are able to attract the objects of our desire.

For example, if a man projects a vibe of independence, seems to be happy, and appears to know what he wants, this triggers arousal in women.  “At first sight” he is providing enough evidence for a woman’s desire to be stoked.  Suddenly she sees him in a more sexual way, based entirely on her perception of him as strong and independent.  It also doesn’t hurt that when a guy appears sexually exuberant, he gives a woman the impression she’ll have a satisfying experience with him.

Men so often suppress their sexual strength and assertiveness as a result of past rejection; they get caught up in their own fears, trying to second-guess what women want.  These guys appear weak and inhibited, and, on an unconscious level, women see them as being “too feminine.”  Who wants to share in a guy’s weakness or have to fix it?  Either way, the sexual chemistry is ruined.

So, how can a guy amp up his ability to create hot sexual chemistry with a woman without having it blow up in his face like a bad science project?

1. Be aware of the kind of vibe you are projecting.  Are you coming off as confident, carefree, and fun or an emotional drag?
2. Pay attention to the subtle signals she’s sending you. Is she leaning into you and smiling or sitting back with her arms crossed over her chest?  It takes two to make chemistry happen, so be responsive to her vibe.  A little attentiveness can go a long way.
3. Don’t second-guess yourself.  Retreating inside your brain to battle your insecurities takes you out of the moment and is a sure way to kill chemistry.
4. Be direct and confident.  Looking into her eyes and smiling while you talk will make you appear assertive, enthusiastic, and sexy.
5. Don’t fear rejection.  Relax!  Remember we are constantly projecting signals.  If she picks up on how tense you are, she’s likely to tense up, too.
6. Make her laugh.  Light sexual innuendo is a great way to lighten the mood and convey your attraction.
7. Don’t be afraid to let her know you’re interested.  Women can sense it, anyway.  It’s chemistry, stupid!

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The important notes to take away this article is to be proud and confident in what you want. If you want to sleep with a woman don’t try to hide it, show it. Not in a sleezy, gropey way but in a sexually strong way.  The way that gets women turned on in 2 seconds by presenting them with a man that knows what he wants and can lead. How sexy is that??!!!

Answer: SO SEXY. Trust me.

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Am I Into This Girl?

As a follow up to my last post “Why Do Women Give Out Their Phone Number and Not Answer?” I wanted to talk about a huge issue that I hear from my clients all time.

The issue is that a lot of my clients (men) are so focused on whether or not a woman likes them, that they forget to ask themselves

“Am I into this girl?”

This is one of the most important questions you can ever ask yourself because it will stop you from getting all wrapped up in “the game” and keep you focused on reality.

The next time that you go and approach a random girl I want you to focus on her rather than yourself.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Do I find her interesting?

2. Is she engaging me?

3. Do I like her?

4. Am I attracted to her?

Remember, this whole process of meeting people and approaching them is about finding someone who is right for you.

Not about making everyone like you.

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Why Do Women Give Out Their Phone Number and Not Answer?

You’re at a bar talking to a girl you really like and think “she’s totally into me. I’m going to ask for her number”.

You: Can I get your number so we can hang out again some time?

Her: Sure.

You: Great. I’ll give you a call.

You go home all pumped up, excited, patting yourself on the back.

Then two days later you call.

NO ANSWER.

Of course you give it one more try because with modern technology wires get crossed and messages get erased

Still NO ANSWER.

Then you think “WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH WOMEN?”

Why do they do this?

Why do they give out their phone number and not answer their phone?

Do they know this at the time? or do they decide later?

I have been in this situation MANY times and the answer for is usually I had no intention of ever answering the phone.

I was not interested and just being polite.

From the time women are born they are taught to be proud, polite, respectful ladies.

Ladies, who don’t tell you to your face if they are not into you. That is not polite or proper.

Instead we do it behind your back.

I have been one of those ladies many many times.

I have given my number over and over again with absolutely no intention of answering the phone.

I know it’s wrong but it’s so much easier and less awkward to give out my number then to say “sorry I’m so not into you and I will never answer my phone when you call. I do not want to go out with you.”

Listen, when I go out I enjoy talking to people.

I especially like talking with men but usually within the first 2 minutes, actually it’s more like 30 seconds, I can tell if I am going to want to see a guy past that evening. But I am enjoying my conversation with him.

Does this mean that I have to cut off the conversation with him? Should I be that presumptuous that he is into me and that I should cut it off before I hurt his feelings?

So I usually continue talking because I am enjoying myself and then the awkward moment comes when they ask for my number.

I freeze up, get nervous and give out my phone number feeling guilty the whole time.

It’s horrible, I know, but it’s what I do. It’s what all of my girlfriends do and what most women in the world do.

I don’t know a lot of women that can be strong enough to say “You know what I had a great time with you this evening but I think this is the end of the road for our relationship. It was nice meeting you. Goodbye”.

Doesn’t happen often.

So basically what I am telling you is that a number doesn’t mean a success.

The real success is when you actually get that women to answer the phone and go out on a date.

So what can you do to fight against this?

You learn about women.

You learn what they like and what they don’t like.

You figure out how to read their body language so that you know, even before they do, when they are into you and that getting her number will lead to a date or or relationship or sex.

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Pick-Up Artist or Artist of the Science Behind Social Dynamics?

Are the pick-up artists of the world slowly molding into Artist of the Science behind Social Dynamics?

I think so.

A lot of the leading male “PUA’s” out there have embraced the idea that inner/natural game is the key to success and that pick up lines and routines are just forms of manipulation. Manipulation against women but also against themselves.

This is a belief that myself and The Wing Girl Method have held for a very long time.

I wanted to tell you about a man/client/user I have been interacting with a for over a year now through email.

He first came to me bitter and angry at women challenging my abilities to assist him. At first, I told him that I had no interest in being challenged but I would be ready to assist him when he was ready to receive information.

I think the response caught him off guard and he quickly softened and became open. I think I was the first honest and blunt women he had ever encountered, just a guess

Over the year, he has changed considerably and sends me quotes from his psych courses and insightful notions that he now believes.

He sent me a note this morning that I thought I would pass on to #1 toot my own horn, but also show you how a man who was once angry can slowly transform into an open well balanced human being.

“I guess I’m practicing on leading – not reaction seeking. Trying to convey that they’re (women) just as equal as I am that what I say is really not as important as I’m making it out to be. I do remember the post where you said your responses, 95% of the time dictate the response, or feeling of the other person.

The only thing different than me in comparison to other guys is my intentions are perfectly pure. I’m intruiged by social dynamics because I understand how important it is to hold a relationship. I believe unhealthy minds attract unhealthy people – and healthy to healthy. At the moment, I’m building myself up because like you said – women want a MAN not a passive male who is constantly evaluating himself and making sure his performance will please her.

I really want you to know that your posts helped me a lot, it opened my eyes and softened my point of view towards others and influenced me to understand others. I’m driven to make others comfortable – to not do nice actions purely to get positive results. You’ve changed my personality completely as well as other – I don’t want to say pick-up artists, it sounds corny – artists of the science behind social dynamics.”

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Do You Know These 10 Signs She’s Flirting With You?

Want to know 10 easy ways to spot if a woman is flirting with you?

Now, I don’t believe in waiting for signs before you take action. When considering approaching a woman the only thing you need to be thinking is: “I am interested in her and want to know more.”

BUT once you get into a conversation with a woman, it can be difficult for men to spot the female flirting signs.

First, signs she is NOT interested:

-No eye contact
-Body shifted away from you
-Arms crossed
-Leaning back
-Looking around the room while you are talking
-Nodding and instead of responding
-Giving 1 word responses
-Being overly friendly

If you see these signs, RUN. Get away and get over this woman.  She’s not into you.

Now onto signs you should be looking for.

I recently came across an article by Bob Strauss, for Match.com’s Happen magazine, on the 10 female signs of flirting, and I’ve added my own 2 cents to each of his points.

Let me know your thoughts and experiences!

Article:

1. A smile. This is the simplest flirt there is, and the hardest to misinterpret. If a woman smiles at you from across the room, this means that she wants you to talk to her. Really. (Though once this happened to me, and as I approached the lady in question she said, “Oh, I’m sorry! I thought you were someone else.”)

Marni: Remember, don’t wait for a smile. You like her your approach her and then you decide. If you have a situation where the woman says “whoops thought you were someone else” let her know it was okay for her to make that mistake but you are still sticking around cause you want to know more about her “whoops, I think your hot and could have a good personality that I may like. Let’s see if you do”.

2. The hair twirl. Just about every person I interviewed mentioned that the girly, unselfconscious habit of playing with her hair means that a woman is open to your advances. So if you say hello and she’s wrapping her locks around her finger, well, all signals say: Keep chatting.

Marni: This is something that I do when I am into a guy and want him to be attracted to me. I twirl my hair, touch my lips and bat my eyes. All very feminine flirty things that, as women, we feel will make a man turned on and more attracted to us.

3. An unbuttoned button. Watch for a blouse that isn’t as closed up as it might usually be, says image consultant Dianne M. Daniels. “No, she won’t be stripping off her clothes in front of you, but if she doesn’t immediately re-wrap that scarf so you don’t see her cleavage, it could be a sign that she’s interested.”

Marni: This may or may not be a flirting sign. But it’s definitely a sign when she returns from the bathroom with new lip gloss applied, her hair tossed and a one less button done up.

4. A cry for help. “If a woman asks you for assistance in any way, such as, ‘Excuse me, could you help me figure out the tip on this bar tab? I’ve never had to pay one before,’ she’s flirting with you by indulging your psychological need to feel like a hero,” says Py Kim Conant, author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha.

Marni: I have definitely done this one many times. Asked for help when it was not needed just to catch someone’s attention. “Can you help me lift this heavy chair for me?”. I do Yoga and weight training and could totally lift it myself but why do it yourself when there is a cute guy that could do it for you.

5. A well-placed double entendre. Says Debbie Mandel, author of Turn on Your Love Light, “When a woman is flirting, she’ll invest the conversation with subtle double meanings, and most everything she says will have an erotic undercurrent, even unremarkable phrases like ‘I really like your tie.’”

Marni: I don’t know about double entendres but for me, if I make a statement like this one I am FLIRTING. Unless I say it point blank or over the top. This is an important to note. Women who are overly comfortable with you are NOT usually into you.

6. Happy feet. “Consciously, a woman may play hard to get by twisting her upper body away, but her feet show where her interest really is,” says TV personality Dr. Diana Kirschner. “A clueless guy should ask her some friendly questions, then watch carefully to see if she starts opening up nonverbally by pointing her toes in your direction.” (Note for beginners: Be subtle about glancing under the table.)

Marni: Often very true.

7. Fidgeting. This one cuts both ways, but the experts concur: If a gal constantly tosses her hair, twists her pinky ring, or snaps her hairband, this counts as flirtatious behavior if and only if (and these are big “ifs” and “onlys”) she maintains uninterrupted eye contact. If she keeps glancing away, she may very well be repulsed by you and wants to get away as soon as possible.

Marni: Very true. As I said above about double entendres, when I am attracted to someone I stumble over my words and fidget. We all get nervous.

8. Proximity. “If a woman stays inside a ‘safe distance’, then she’s probably interested in you, especially if she’s not the touchy-feely type,” Daniels says (of course, this advice doesn’t necessarily apply if you’re talking in a crowded, noisy club). “Also, watch for any lingering touches where she doesn’t immediately remove her hand.”

Marni: True. Women who do not want to be around you will physically back away from you. If she is into you she will lightly touch you in some way.

9. Lively banter. For many women, flirting is a non-button-popping, non toe-pointing no-brainer: They merely listen to what you have to say, and interject meaningful, encouraging comments. If she’s not interested, she’ll yawn during your yarn about parachuting behind enemy lines during Gulf War I. If she is interested, she’ll expostulate endlessly about how fascinating the shoe business can be.

Marni: I have done this myself when I am attracted to a guy. I will be fascinated by anything that comes out of his mouth. Remember, if a woman is NOT interested she will give you single-word answers and nod. If you have a woman engaged but you can tell she is slightly nervous, it’s a sign she is into you.

10. Lack of inhibition. I’m as cloddish as the next guy, but I still fondly remember the time I met a gal at a cocktail party and, within five minutes, we were talking about how old we were when we lost our virginity. (Alas, she already had a boyfriend, but I still cling desperately to the belief that it was a genuine flirt maneuver…)

Marni: This is a tricky one because most women who are that comfortable with you right off the bat are usually not attracted to you. Therefore they may freely reveal lots of private information with little worry because there is no attraction to be lost.

It depends on the conversation. In this case I would need to hear more about what information was actually exchanged to give a good assessment as to whether she was interested.

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Do Women Want Sex As Much As Men?

Of course we do. We just want to be able to make the choice to have sex.

Speaking for myself, as a woman, I like sex. It’s fun and it feels good. What’s not to like.

I will be honest and tell you that I am a good girl who used to be very prude when I was younger.

The reason i was so prude was that I was uncomfortable. Uncomfortable with boys, my body and myself.

Not a good combo if I ever wanted to have a mind blowing sex life.

When I was 18 I went backpacking and safely kissed my way up the east coast until I met a very special guy who totally broke me out of my shell.

The first time we were making out he said to me “I want you to be comfortable. If I do anything that makes you nervous or uncomfortable, just slap my hand and I will stop.”

I can tell you there was no hand slapping and I got very comfortable.

The reason for this was because I felt that I was in charge of my sexuality. I was getting to make the choice and that alone put me at ease.

Women want to be sexual. Women want to be sexy and women want to live out crazy sexual fantasies but they need to feel safe and secure.

They want to know that they are the ones making the choice and not being forced or pushed into being sexual.

I never want to feel judged or pressured. I don’t want to be tossed in the slut category and therefore I am very conscious of who I give my sexuality to.

Women want to be unlocked. Trust me. Even the purest of pure want an adventure.

As men, you can give women a safe place to be sexual. Just like my backpacking friend did for me.

Next time you are getting intimate with a woman, try his move and I promise you will get great results.

Too Much Outer Game =’s BAD NEWS

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This article is about one of my clients that was obsessed with outer game.

Obsessed to the point where he found himself constantly losing women.

Don’t get me wrong, I love outer game. It is fun, engaging and easy. Usually when I am out for a night and I interact with a guy, we banter, I do my dance for him, he does his dance for me and it is fun. FOR ONE NIGHT, maybe 2 if I am in the mood.  But then it becomes exhausting.  BORING, UNATTRACTIVE and NOT SEXY AT ALL.

After 1 or 2 times with a guy, I want something real, something I can latch onto or at least feel like I could latch onto.  What I am referring to is substance.

Women want to connect to man they feel has substance.  Has more going on than some quick lines of banter and entertainment.

If a man is all about outer game he is basically equivalent a magician.

A magician is there to entertain for the evening then disappear from your life but will continue to do his show night after night after night.

One of WGM’s most recent insider members, recently read an article I wrote about too much out game equally bad news.  In this article I go through a case study of one of my clients who was obsessed with outer game.  In fact he was so obsessed with outer game that he totally forgot to focus on any inner game.

He first wrote to me confused by the fact that he was not getting girls to answer his calls past the second date.  Obviously you can take a gander at what my response was.

So after a few emails back and forth, a lot of female insight and much more openness from his end, he finally got it and wrote me this email:

“This is so real. I’ve lost so many women due to over gaming. and really, i think it was really out of fear. Fear that if I didn’t have her utterly captivated and laughing and if i wasn’t escalating sexually that i would lose her.

It’s funny (and a bit tragic) that when i learned these things – i became so enamored with the tools that i lost touch with my own body, my own feeling of things. and when I’d rewind i could notice that “hmm. . . that interaction felt off . . . i pushed too hard . . . i missed the transition point . . . i came across as eager and try hard.”painful to see but good to learn.

I love the banter and the flirting too. and i find it’s good to pepper it into interactions as a spice but not the whole meal. i really am loving your stuff. Pretty shocked that after only a few emails back and forth my whole mindset totally shifted. thanks so much for doing it. “

Routines can work. In fact, I totally endorse using routines and lines AT FIRST.  But treat them as training wheels.  They can help you overcome approach anxiety and show you how to structure conversation. But they can’t keep a person engaged for longer than an evening.  That skill has to come from within you.

It is so important to have a balance of inner game and outer game. When you are truly balanced you will see it is not a game at all but YOU. A confident, self assured, whole YOU.

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The Secret To Avoiding The Friend Zone With Women

Why oh why do you keep ending up in the friend zone? I am sure this is a question you are constantly asking yourself.

Let me try to explain why this keeps happening to you by using an everyday example so that it may be easier for you to understand.

My friend is having a barbecue. There are all kinds of meat on the grill.  Chicken, fish, steak, ribs, everything! I go up to the bbq and say I am so hungry and that looks amazing.  I would love a piece that meat. Can I have the one on the top shelf?

My friend will look to the top shelf and see 10 pieces of meat of all different assortments.  He’ll then look at me and say “which one?” and I will say “the one on the right?”  My friend probably still have be confused about which one on the right I am referring to.

Now what if I were to change the way I was asking for that meat and said “Can you I have that piece of chicken on the top shelf second from the right?”.  BINGO!!! My friend knows instantly what I am asking for, reaches for the chicken and hands it to me.  We are all happy. There is no room for confusion. He knows what I want and can give me exactly what I am asking for.

See where I am going with this?

In my experience as a woman, I have seen many men who tippy toe around asking for what they want with me.  They do this because they don’t think it’s polite to be obvious and let a woman know they are attracted and interested in pursuing.  My assumption is that men also think women are clueless.  Of course we know. As soon as you approach us we know or at least we always assume that is why you are approaching.  We don’t think you are coming over to us at a bar or social location because you REALLY want to tell us about the recent stock market crash or find out our favorite color.  We know and there is nothing wrong with that.

If you are attracted to us, approach us and then be perfectly clear why you are approaching. Don’t hide it or cover it up to seem less obvious.  Seem very obvious and let her know your intentions.

Don’t try to be sneaky and ask to be a friend. Because you know what’s going to happen don’t you?

YOU WILL BECOME THE FRIEND.  If you don’t ask for more, we won’t give you more.  AND we will assume that you are very content being that friend until you tell us differently.

I refer to this as Nice Guy Manipulation.  A manipulation tactic that sadly, always blows up in a guys face.

So next time you meet a woman be very clear on what you are looking for.  Tell her you think she is attractive and want to get to know more.  When you are online don’t say you are looking for a friend because you most certainly are not.   Be clear, be straight and be direct with what you want and I can guarantee you will not find yourself in the friend zone.

The only way to get what you want is by asking for it!

Remember the only one sticking you in the friend zone is you.

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Should Men Buy Women Drinks?

Should you buy a woman a drink? Depends.

First ask yourself a few questions:

Are you buying this drink to be a gentleman?

Are you buying this drink cause it’s polite?

Are you buying this drink so that she won’t run away?

Are you buying this drink so she’ll like you?

If you answered YES to any of these questions then DO NOT BUY HER A DRINK.

I think it is really important to acknowledge when you are doing things for other people and when you are doing things for yourself. Women are attracted to men who do things for themselves.

This does not mean they like selfish men but women like men who are confident enough not to be lead by what others think or want. Not swayed by trying to please others.

So next time you think to offer a drink to women think about why you are doing it. If you are buying it because you want to and you have no “REASON” behind buying the drink then buy it.

If however you feel that buying a drink will automatically lead you somewhere with a women than 9 times out of 10 you will be sadly be disappointed.

Let me know what you think.

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