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This Guys Got Balls

 April 24, 2012

This guys got balls:

The best thing about this is that Ricky stood up for himself. Recognized when something was just not right (because that behavior is NOT right) and did something about it.  Not just anything. He took action the way he wanted to do it. Not emotionally.  Not childishly.  But gentlemanly. He stayed grounded and sure of himself and took action accordingly.  Sexy!

  • Kevin

    I had a similar date once. She showed up 20 mins late, walked in the restaurant with a pair of converse hanging from her backpack, Obviously had put no effort into her appearance, Waitress came over and asked “What would you like to drink” She said “Just a diet coke” I asked what she was going to order and she said “Nothing, I’m on a diet, Actually I’m leaving after this drink”

    I got up and said “It was nice meeting you”

    And walked out.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Kevin

      I respect you for demonstarting your boundaries on this one

      Marni :)

  • Kevin

    Marni,

    It was extremely clear neither one of us was attracted to the other, so no point in wasting each others time.

  • Erick Tang

    Well done dude, I wouldn’t have done better.

    I see an option which would backfire on her and challenge/test her:

    Staying calm and pointing to the table I’d say something like: “ You see that glass (napkin, or whatever)… for me it has more value than you.” And grab it. “Show me you deserve my attention or let me enjoy my drink/ the meal … which worth my time”. Point to the exit/door. “It’s up to you to leave or go to the restroom and calm down”.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Erick

      I actually think that even if these words are said in the calmest tone possible that you’re going to appear overly emotional and (in fact) really angry saying them.

      This doesn’t make you appear calm or in control: but instead that your reaction is disproportionate. I would recommend keeping it honest but brief and playful at all times. If a woman really crosses one of your boundaries remember the worst thing that you can ever really do is deny her any future contact with you. So keep your cool and you’ll usually come across better!

      Marni :-)

      • Darth vader

        You are right Marni, my testosterone took me over, thank you to remind me to be cautious.

  • Mr. Howard

    Rickey Ballew – Here is my take on this, I will try to refrain from vulgar language or any type of hate words. That self entitled bitch only acts that way because weak willed beta males put her on a pedestal and let her act like that. If she said something so outrageous like that, to me. I would have gotten up, left, ignored any call and leave her at the restaurant. She needs a rude awakening that she isn’t some Julius Caesar’esque descendant of the gods. Attitude like that isn’t built in a single day, she’s probably had men LETTING her act like that for awhile. She is going to have a rude awakening if she meets somebody more vocally expressive and not so gentlemanly as yourself. You handled the situation well I would say you even held back. Nothing is worse in the world than a pretentious person like that.

    • Marni Wing Girl

      Hey Mr Howard,
      I think he’s actually doing her a favour in the long run because a girl like that won’t be getting much out of a relationship if that’s the only way she thinks about it!
      Marni :)