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[VIDEO] How To Flirt & Banter With Women

 May 16, 2013

**Video example below!

So the other night out at a lounge, my friends Mike, Eric, and I were sitting down in a moderately busy lounge when we noticed a tall, lean, Angelina Jolie look-alike stroll into the bar.

And within seconds after THAT we all watched and had a good laugh as swarms of men took their turns to try and talk to her (all of which she turned down without saying a word).

My friend Mike demanded that one of them should go over and introduce themselves, certain as all hell that that’s all they needed to do, was be friendly and say who they were…

“‘Hi, my name is Mike!’ is all you gotta say!” he insisted.

But I knew better.

I laughed and said that’s DEFINITELY not the way to go…

Eric then demanded that one of them go over and tell her, “You’re the prettiest girl in this bar.”

WRONG AGAIN, Eric!

The guys were pretty fed up with me at this point and asked what the hell I would work then considering she turned down all 7 of the guys that had approached her at this point.

Before I answered them, I scanned the lounge really quickly and noticed that all the girls in there were wearing really short tight dresses while our girl in question was wearing a
very casual, loose fitting blouse with a pair of jeans.

Then I said, “Guys, I’d walk up to her and say, ‘I noticed you are the ONLY girl in here not dressed in a saran-wrap-tight dress…and I really like that.”

Then I went onto explain what made this statement better than the ones they came up with:

At this point, “Hi my name is Mike” won’t work because she doesn’t know who you are and doesn’t CARE to know who you are!

There are floods of men coming and introducing themselves…and her guard is UP.

“You’re the prettiest girl in the bar,” is an OBVIOUS attempt at flattery and is something ANY guy can say to ANY girl it’s inauthentic and overused.

The truth is she doesn’t wanna be seen as just ANY girl…no girl does.

“You’re the only one in here wearing x,y, or z…AND I LIKE IT” is something you absolutely CANNOT say to any other girl because it’s your reaction to her in this moment…it’s genuine and it’s something so hard to find these days!

As soon as I finished explaining this, Mike and Eric were silent…and within seconds they both fought to get up and talk to the girl (Mike ended up winning).

And sure enough, we watched as the girl not only giggled and blushed at Mike’s comment, but also turned around to face him and talk very excitedly throughout their entire conversation… all ending up with Mike getting her number while every guy watched in dumbfounded disbelief.

Score!

So what I want you to take away from this is that you have to say something to her that you CANNOT to say to any other woman, be it something about what she’s wearing, what she’s doing in the moment, or an experience that you are both in.

Whatever it is, as long as your comment comes from something about the current moment, it’s genuine, authentic, and it’s gonna make her feel special and INSTANTLY
attracted to you within seconds.

After that night, I came home and found a clip on tv to give you the PERFECT example of a guy using this tip in action.

Watch how a guy uses this simple trick at the grocery store.

So go out and use this on the next woman you find too insanely gorgeous for words and let me know how it goes! ;-)

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In other words…lazy men cannot become a man who will attract any  and every woman possible!

So click here if you think you’ve got what it takes to get the edge over all the other guys out there to become a man who every woman wants and every guy wants to BE.

 
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  • http://www.facebook.com/victor.rosa3 Victor Rosa

    Based on what I saw I think the most attraction came from when the guy turned the conditioner hair volume insult into a compliment.

    How I plan to accomplish this, apparently I may need to stalk a grocery store until a woman buys captain crunch. =)

    • Ed

      I noticed that he “challenged her with his statement about the cereal box” and then quickly made a joke out of it!
      She then “tried” to insult him (by insinuating that he was a woman) in regard to the shampoos in his basket (testing him) in which he took it as a compliement and went on successfully from there! :) He gave it to her as much as she tried to give it to him!

  • Rikk Polillo

    The women issued three maybe four put downs in order to establish dominance and control. The man redirected the attempts with some casual slightly self deprecating humorous ( (the woman actually chuckled) remarks, but the remarks really implied, “I’m a man, secure with myself get used to it.” He then moved in closer to her, at that moment she ducked her head (a submissive action) and continued to engage him but in a less challenging way.

  • paul

    he caught her off guard without having to go through her defenses

  • drc1515

    The reason she was attracted to him was because he used the observation of cereal to start a conversation with her instead of some lame pick up line. He also had confidence in his voice and held good eye contact.

  • ron

    Okay — I Get it but lets face it, the man on the clip is an attractive man

  • http://definitelybiased.com/ Josh Gonzales

    That whole dialogue put a smile on my face.

    1) He was actually paying attention to his environment and made a comment unique to the situation.
    2) He interpreted her comments as her flirting back and not as some kind of *test*
    3) He wasn’t attached to the outcome of the conversation (i.e. He was having fun no matter what she said)

    Marni, I love how the advice you give always gives insight into human interactions in general and not just dating. I often get stuck in my head so this week I’m going to comment on ANY random thing strangers (not just women) do that sticks out and try not to worry about what they think.

  • refinedself

    To be fair, this is scripted. Clever, meta humor like this is very hit or miss. If the woman has a deer-in-the-headlights look when you comment on her cereal, you may fail. However, if she responds to your sense of humor, it may go somewhere.

  • John

    He was simply being present. In the moment. All the material you ever needs is right in front of your face, if you choose to pay attention to the present and interact with her in the here and now.

  • Timmy

    Well, he thought Very Fast of a humorous, witty remark about the Captain Crunch cereal choice. Then followed without hesitation, with more clever and witty remarks. No nervousness, anxiousness, cool and collected. Not Easy!

    BUT, this was scripted and rehearsed in a TV show. How is a guy suppose to think THAT fast and Nail it, in real life, fleeting situations? You have very little time to think that fast about what to say. That’s why for me, all I can do is stare and smile.

    • Alexander

      Practice, practice, practice… with EVERYONE AND ALL THE TIME. I can do it now… by trial and error and now get them laughing and don’t even think about it. Take Improv Comedy classes.

    • Cody

      How is a guy supposed to think that fast? Just because YOU cannot think in a fraction of a second does not mean no one else can. I most certainly CAN and DO think very quickly ALL THE TIME. The things I say in the moment have made so many people laugh (or have the reaction I intended them to have) far too many times to count.

      There’s a word you might want to look up to get an idea of how it is very possible that people can be this way (and yes you used a form of it but see further below for what I am getting at): wit

      Some are quick witted and some are not. Your response is essentially the victim mentality combined with an excuse: “Since I cannot think this quickly it MUST be rehearsed and because it is rehearsed it is not real and there’s nothing I can do about it.” You’re incorrect that it’s not easy for some people. It is. It might not be for you but it is for some (as I said like me). If you do look up the word wit you might even get a hint at one way to improve things: remaining observant at all times in your day to day activities. (Of course you even use the word witty which really is a bit odd since if you use that word you should understand how it works). Another thing is learning new words and things that you can then use to your advantage when something related comes up.

      Here’s something for you to ponder though:

      I am generally not at ease around people (that’s a rather large understatement even) – in general, no matter who it is or where – but being quick witted is a way I can actually feel more comfortable around people because it relaxes everything and everyone around (and laughter is therapy). This (being uneasy around people) and being quick witted is something I have had my whole life but the fact remains small changes can result in big rewards IF you actually try to make those changes.

  • Chris

    I thought it was that he handled with humour everything she threw at him calmly.

  • Athirson

    And if you aren’t observant enough to come up with something like that on the spur of the moment, then what?

    • MD

      Learn.

      • Athirson

        That’s like putting someone who doesn’t know how to swim, in the middle of the ocean, and saying, swim.

        Got anything helpful? If not, put a sock in it

        • MD

          No, what I said is not like putting someone who doesn’t know how to swim in the middle of the ocean and saying swim. I didn’t tell anyone to just do anything. I suggested people learn to do things they can’t already do. If you’re not observant enough to come up with things on the spur of the moment, learn to be more observant. If you can’t swim, learn to swim. There was a time when you couldn’t walk. You learned. There was a time when you couldn’t talk or write etc. You learned. If you can’t do a particular skill right now, learn to do that skill.

          • Athirson

            OK. I’ll go learn. Somewhere else. But not here, because nothing that is going to help me learn is coming from here. And when I see you by the side of the road with two broken legs, and you ask me for help, I’ll be sure to chime in with, “Learn how to walk”

          • MD

            I answered your question. I suggested you learn how to do something you wanted to do but couldn’t yet do.

            I really don’t think what I said justifies your angry fantasies about me breaking my legs.

          • Athirson

            Enough. There is no point arguing with idiots. Moderator–if there is one–how do I block this jackass?

          • skwISBack

            Athirson, Let me give you a little primer on MD:

            He makes no sense

            He makes no attempt to make any sense. (yet unlike Parkey, claims he makes complete sense)

            His ability to engage in any kind of intellectually honest debate miniscule at best, non existent at worst.

            Every one of his responses can be boiled down to:

            -”I never said that” (when in fact he clearly did)

            -”No, you can’t assume all X’s are like that. X’s can be different, I’m sorry you had negative experiences with the X’s in your life, but not all X’s are like that”

            “OK. I’ll go learn. Somewhere else. But not here, because nothing that is going to help me learn is coming from here.”

            Exactly what I’ve been saying for years. Marni’s more concerned about her next penthouse or fox news interview than actually thinking about how to help the very people she claims to want to help.

            She routinely uses examples from TV shows, movies, and reality tv to “show” how the average guy should/shouldn’t act.

            hello, showing me a clip of Josh Duhamel who most girls would wanna bang before he even opened his mouth isn’t very helpful.

            There are other places where people are actually willing to address your issue rather than just bark “learn”

          • Athirson

            Thanks for helping a bro out. I’ve already unsubscribed from this site but thought I would drop by and say thanks. Peace

  • The Lone Planet

    It’s a TV show, not real life.

  • Marni Just Give Up

    She responded because it was written in the script. I will grant that his approach was witty and engaging but the principal reasons that it worked were about the woman not the man. The vast majority of PEOPLE, both women and men, are a little bit too slow on the uptake to respond so easily and cleverly to a comment like his. A far more common result of his comment is some combination of confused look, “uh okay”, a facial expression which declares loud and clear “You are weird” and the woman simply walking off a bit surprised and disturbed.
    The problem with trying to be as clever as this is that you need to encounter someone who is prepared for your humour, so you can spend all day and night learning how to react with insightful casual banter but the vast majority of the time the person you try to do it with HASN’T been preparing for it and will be caught off guard and will be uncomfortable.
    And in response to your bar scenario Marni, the idea of trying to pay women a non standard compliment is great, but the trick is actually in figuring out exactly what the women wants to be complimented on. THAT IS IT! If you miss the mark even slightly it is going nowhere so congratulations on another failure of a post.

  • Marni Just Give Up

    I can’t believe how many of these clowns you have buying into your basic non-sense and parroting your crap back to you without thinking any deeper about the situation. As I said before, the weakness of this approach is that it is reliant on encountering a confident woman with a genius level IQ and a good sense of humour who is not in a bad mood after a tough day at work.
    Or you could just be good looking and confident, of course if that were the case then you really don’t need that crap now do you?

    • Alexander

      Marni is right… it has nothing to do with “good looking and confident”. I’m neither, but unlike you, have balls. ;) Practice, practice, practice… with EVERYONE AND ALL THE TIME. I can
      do it now… by trial and error and now get them laughing nearly every time and don’t even
      think about it. [and that look that I stand out from the rest of the losers - great feeling!] Take Comedy Improv classes to learn to be funny without even thinking.

      • skw

        I’ve done four improv classes already. I know all the rules. yes, and…

    • skwISBACK

      No Marni is not right, I don’t know her upbringing but she must have had the most entitled existence in the world. Anyone that agrees with her is “showing how awesome he is” and anyone that disagrees with her is “not willing and open to change and just wants to soapbox”

      For her, hearing ‘no’ is the most distressing thing in the world I believe.

  • Rick

    Lets be real, how many women actually BUY Captain Crunch cereal??? If one does, Its an insult waiting to happen. mean, is there such a woman out there so desperate as to eat Kids cereal and cannot make her own peanut butter and jelly? What else in her basket

    I’ll stalk a woman and give her a hard time about buying her tampons in a funny way… “Oh, I see you are the athletic and adventurous type… I see you buying the mega-size box of tampons… you know, tampons are great … because it gives you the freedom to explore different activities you would never otherwise consider, especially on a rainy day like today, with that magical box you can now go horseback riding, mountain biking, gymnastics, water skiing, etc…Look, it says so on the box… Yeah, by the way, I use tampons too when I can’t cannot decide on whar vigorous activity I want to do… I think I will go get me a box of fun!!!” Come on, its all scripted… I want to see some REAL LIFE hidden video examples!

  • Matt

    He’s very relaxed allowing him to access his wittiness, confidence, and creativity with relative ease. Nice natural outflow of emotion. She’s defiantly feeling a little aroused now.

  • Derek

    Completely unrealistic! Cereal right next to fresh fruits & veggies?! Come on now, no store is arranged like that!

    OK, seriously… I know what the idea here is supposed to be, but the scene really just reminded me of the huge number of times I’ve been in situations like that with people who were not attracted to me, and/or whom I was not attracted to (both friends and strangers). This is just routine goofing around, which normally leads to nothing else, and no distinction’s been given between cases that do and don’t lead to anything else.

    And really, he already had this one handed to him before he said anything at all anyway. She’s the one who, while putting the boxes in her cart, froze in the middle of a movement while looking right at him and didn’t move again until he noticed. Whatever he did next was going to work as long as it wasn’t utterly moronic. It’s just a matter of trying it with a woman who gives him the 1-second stare instead of with one who doesn’t. The problem is: how often does the 1-second stare happen in real life?

  • Jdesey

    first off he led with a sorta dig about her cereal choice. Kinda a funny sorta put down. Then when she took a shot at him about the amount of conditioner he was buying, he handled it as a compliment. basically he was large and in charge of the whole situation.

  • Alexander

    Great example of taking advantage of this particular situation. To all the naysayers below: get off your butt and practice and you can take advantage of ANY situation. I couldn’t do this a year ago… I practiced with everyone in any situation and now it’s easy. And fun to make people smile and appreciate that a stranger can make them laugh! Just conquer your fear. Good luck!!

  • TopGun

    I like how he used the cocky and funny technique with out trying to, “Impress Her.” That is CONFIDENCE!

  • Ding Chavez

    You guys do realise this video is scripted? That means a writer (actually group of writers) sat around a room for days coming up with this, revising it. Then actors took much time rehearsing it.
    .
    This wasn’t an off the cuff moment.
    .
    All the practise in the world can’t make up for the collective ability of a room of seasoned television writers.

  • Gnosis

    It worked because it’s in the script. There are so many stars that would have to align for this to be effective in real life. I’d have to have good view of the items in her cart or basket, or witness her pulling something interesting off the shelf. Then I would have to, on the spot, think of something witty to say about it. It looks so easy and natural on this scripted TV show, but in reality you need to be fortunate enough to find something obvious to comment on. For example, a girl’s wearing a music t-shirt. “I love that band. I’ve seen them twice,” I might say. Easy, but it doesn’t happen often. In the moment, it’s damn near impossible to come up with some clever to say about a jar of peanut butter.

  • John

    It worked because he deflected the diss that she tried when she made a comment about his hair, HE PASSED THE TEST !