What To Say When She Says I Have A Boyfriend

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September 21, 2012

Watching glee last night and there was a PERFECT example of what to say when she says I have a boyfriend. This guy gives a great example of how to respond with confidence and comfort while clearly stating his attentions.

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skw

Here’s another great tip:

Look like this guy. Buy roses and other sh*t for the girl.
- Brandon
  
  You can use a guy’s better looks than you, as an excuse to do nothing and sit, waiting in your current state, or you can use it as fuel: to be a better seducer than him. From my experience, most great looking guys tend to be very lazy seducers as well. They rely on their looks more than any other thing when it comes to attracting women. For shallow women, it absolutely works! For women that want more than a dumbass that looks great, it won’t work nearly as well.
  
  Don’t use your lack of looks as an excuse to be lazy, use it as fuel to make everything else about you irresistible to women. There will be women that notice, and they will be worth dating, because they actually like you for who you are.
  - Ding Chavez
    
    I don’t know Brandon. I would rather look good.
    - Brandon
      
      For SURE! I would rather be too. It would make seducing girls much easier!
      
      But for most men, that just can’t or won’t happen. Genetics dealt you a hand you might not be able to trade cards out of. Personally, I’m fat. I work very hard on that problem, but at this point, it just means that I don’t get to date the shallowest of chicks. Most of those chicks are also the hottest ones. And frankly, I’m okay with that. Most of those chicks are emotionally fucked and full o’ drama. I would rather date a 7 or an 8 who treats me great and I have a great relationship with, rather than a 9 or a 10 who treats me like shit.
  - skw
    
    yawn standard bs. I’ve responded to this so many times, I’m fully aware on the value of looks, and it’s not acknowledged in places like this for obvious reasons – to sell more product.
    
    I’m working with a coach now who’s talking to me for FREE. thats right MFs FREE. thats how much this person stands behind their product.
    
    If your product is unproven (and Marni’s certainly are, because a 2 yr old can poke logical holes in almost everything put forth) why not offer it free ? and if it truly works, a sincere and honest person (like myself) will certainly pay for it. but it has to do the job.
    - Brandon
      
      Standard B.S.? You’ve got a long way to go before you actually understand what I am saying.
      
      I’m not going to try and convince you though. You can sit where you are, not getting anywhere. I used to be there myself.
      
      And you’re never going to find good free products. They don’t exist. Stop looking for them. If there is value in them, and they work, you would have to be insane (or already very rich) to sell them for free. Stop being a freeloader and get to work. If your coach is so great, WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU SITTING HERE BITCHING?!
      
      “Marni’s certainly are, because a 2 yr old can poke logical holes in almost everything put forth”
      
      Seduction is an emotional process, not a logical one. That fact may be part of why you’re still having trouble.
skw

it depends on what “does it work” mean? What’s “work,” does it mean she dumps the boyfriend and goes out with you?

it also depends on how she says “i have a boyfriend” is it, “I have a boyfriend” full stop, now go f*ck off

or is it like how she said it, “ohh Im sorrrrry but I have a boyfriend… but I think you’re super sexy.. etc. etc…”

This clip illustrates that it’s on the guy to state interest first, which is of course, completely unfair.
- Brandon
  
  Yes. It is completely unfair. But life isn’t fair. Women have to deal with unfair bullshit every day, so stop whining about having to show interest first.
  - Ding Chavez
    
    What unfair bullshit do women actually have to deal with.
    They sit back, play games, we do ALL the work.
    They lie to us, give us shit tests, and generally just waste our time.
    They tell us all kinds of random BS about what they want, but they lie.
    They get free stuff just for existing.
    I wish I could deal with THAT kind of unfair.
    - Parkey
      
      Start with men who are so engrossed in their own needs they have no empathy for women.
      - Ding Chavez
        
        I care about women’s needs.
        Women get everything handed to them on a silver platter.
        They certainly don’t need my empathy.
        
        Sounds to me like you are getting a lot of women Parkey.
        Insulting guys who are struggling doesn’t make you cool.
        Anyone who talks like you do is either getting HIS needs met or he’s completely insane.
        I think, in your case, the former.
      - Parkey
        
        Not intended as an insult to you, though I would suggest that you pay attention to the fact that it touched you emotionally in the way it did. With me I find that’s a useful indicator that I’m onto something.
        
        It’s a typical attitude to think “he’s doing X,Y,Z, but it’s alright for him, he can afford to do that because he’s already getting what he wants.” As someone who has made the leap from never having to having I want you to understand that it is happening BECAUSE I started doing X,Y,Z FIRST.
        
        One of those things is giving women empathy, and understanding that they most certainly don’t have everything handed to them.
        
        I spent Sunday afternoon snuggled up to a lovely young woman who was telling me all about the guys who have recently been chasing her beating their chests, talking at her, trying to prove something, to get something, but never LISTENING to her.
      - Brandon
        
        Start with figuring out how to fulfill a woman’s needs, and you soon will have no shortage of women to fulfill your needs. Odds are, you don’t even know what your needs really are yet.
        
        If you aren’t fulfilling her needs, she isn’t going to fuck you.
        
        It is okay to be angry. But instead of just sitting there being angry, do something constructive for yourself out of it.
      - Parkey
        
        Agreed. If you shift your focus to making the women around you feel amazing, including by expressing your desire for them, they start lining up for the chance to be with you. It’s not about cars or money or clothes, it’s about what kind of emotional ride it is to be around you.
        
        Disagree about anger though. Granted turning frustration into action is a good thing but anger is the manifestation of fear. Men who are acting out of fear are unattractive. Act out of love and compassion.
      - Marni Wing Girl
        
        I totally agree Parkey: it is such a great combo when a guy is comfortable enough in himself to be direct about his feelings, but also compassionate in his delivery & relation of them.
        
        Marni
      - Ding Chavez
        
        I’m not angry. I tired of silliness, but I’m not angry.
        Do I sound angry?
        Anyway, I’m ready to meet a woman’s needs. She has to TELL me (in English) what those needs are and if I can, I will take care of it.
        I cannot read minds, so if women really WANT a man to fulfill their needs, they need to SPEAK up. I’m ready to work.
      - Kevin
        
        Ding,
        
        There’s is your problem right there! You will meet her needs by simply being a man and taking the lead. In the beginning it’s not about her, it’s about you. If you lead (pick the time and place for a date, making the plans) She will follow you.
      - Marni Wing Girl
        
        Yes- work on what YOU want first
        
        Marni
      - Marni Wing Girl
        
        Hey Ding
        
        I think it would be great if women got more direct about their feelings and related to guys more clearly: but women are very different in how they communicate. Look to what her body language and non verbal communication is telling you & if you’re unsure what’s going on be direct and call it out! Then act on what she tells you, but also what you want.
        
        Marni
      - skw
        
        ah engrossed in their own needs – you mean, how basically every woman acts?
      - Brandon
        
        Well dude, if you aren’t fulfilling her needs, she isn’t going to fuck you.
        
        That is it, that is all, deal with it.
        
        Listen to the people around you that are successful. I used to be just like you man. I REALLY understand. I was angry and alone. But I listened to other people who were successful, and instead of shutting out the advice because it made me feel bad, and challenged me, I listened and changed my situation.
    - Chuncey Pride
      
      you wont and never will. let me tell you one simple truth and you can count on this. EVERYBODY PLAYS THE GAME. you have to play it its called PROCREATION. your evolution is to breed and re create. women know this because they are the ones who carry kids and feel that heartbeat. men will never know this kind of compassion and love and we shouldn’t
  - skw
    
    examples?
    
    In early stages of dating, women completely have the advantage, and it’s unfair. Please tell me, in dating (dont give me this women make 80 cents on the dollar stuff) what “unfair bullshit” do women have to deal with ?
    - Brandon
      
      Advantage is very dependent upon your point of view. If you define advantage only in that they get approached, often a great amount, then yes, you would be right.
      
      But, consider that for most women, society (and their emotional wiring) has told them NOT to approach men, but to be approached. Add in the fact that most males cannot handle it when a woman approaches them. Given these two circumstances, 99% of women can only choose among males that approach them. Now, this sounds great to us, who never get approached. But it SUCKS, because the odds of you getting approached by quality partners is quite low. Add in the fact that males will generally approach the hottest women, and you get 10-20% of women getting 90% of male attention. How is that for unfair? Now let’s talk about societal pressures on women… Now wait, I could write a book on that shit.
      
      I really could go on, but I have other things to do. If you are intrigued at what unfair bullshit women have to put up with, go ask some. They will most likely be really forthcoming, and you are welcome to make your own decision from there. But go into it with an open mind.
      
      If you aren’t where you want to be, the first step is to figure out the reality of your situation. Then you can start to get out it.
      - skw
        
        “But, consider that for most women, society (and their emotional wiring) has told them NOT to approach men, but to be approached. Add in the fact that most males cannot handle it when a woman approaches them.”
        
        Listen, whether society “tells” them or not, the point is, it’s easier to not approach. I can handle it just fine. If Carmen Electra knocked on my door tomorrow and said, oh hey skw, I was just passing by and wanted to have sex with you, I’m sure I’d be able to handle it. Maybe you couldn’t, I’d be alright thoug.h.
        
        “Now wait, I could write a book on that shit.”
        
        And it would make about as much sense as ann coulters books on politics. Your argument is completely facile because you neglect that approaching/initiating is inherently harder. Whatever “pressure” there is to “not approach” is moot. Hot women aren’t walking around going, “oh damn I wish I could approach that guy but society just tells me not to. Boo hoo”
        
        “Add in the fact that males will generally approach the hottest women, and you get 10-20% of women getting 90% of male attention. How is that for unfair?”
        
        Ok, this is actually a valid point. the hottest women will get the most attention, no argument. But that’s a woman vs woman unfairness. not a woman vs man unfairness. See the difference?
        
        Look man, I’m smarter than you, in fact Im smarter than most people around here. I hate to break it to you, but it’s the truth.
        
        Yes a woman born with great genetics has an unfair advantage over a 300 lb woman that has to work out like crazy to lose the 150 lbs.
        
        And it’s very unfair to the fat woman, I agree.
        
        here’s a great example of how the unfairness of approach was really shown on reality tv.
        
        I hate reality tv. But once in a while a few gems are to be found in some shows. There was an episode of beauty and the geek, where the challenge was for the “beauties” to actually go into clubs and approach men and get their phone numbers, the catch, they couldn’t wear makeup or trendy clothes, just choose from a selection provided (of normal clothes) but THEY had to initiate. Now according to you, this would be a godsend because hot women are just bursting at the chance to initiate but mean-ol-evil society tells them not to, right? yea.. right.
        
        A few of these women came out of that experience in utter tears. I had no sympathy for them. NONE. Try going through that experience every weekend for 10 years straight, then come back to me with your tears. That’s what guys have to go through ALL THE FUCKING TIME. And here was this one contrived situation that let these hot women into that experience just for a second.
        
        You should watch that episode, you might actually learn something.
        
        ” If you are intrigued at what unfair bullshit women have to put up with, go ask some”
        
        in relationships? I’m not talking about 80cents on teh dollar, or being at risk for rape (which is a crime last time I checked)
      - Brandon
        
        Well, you have made one thing very clear. You are very angry. So angry, that it is blocking you from seeing your own truth. You have to get some professional help and deal with that, because once you show this part of yourself off, you are only going to attract a woman that is just as angry as you are, or none at all.
        
        “Try going through that experience every weekend for 10 years straight, then come back to me with your tears.”
        
        If this is what happened to you, then you no doubt have worked very hard, and probably seen very little result, which is probably a big part of why you are so angry. But hard work alone won’t get you laid, or get you a girlfriend. If you were indeed very smart, you would have seen an easier way long ago. I will simply leave you with this:
        
        “Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.” -Albert Einstein
        
        “Look man, I’m smarter than you, in fact [I'm] smarter than most people around here. I hate to break it to you, but it’s the truth.”
        
        That’s a funny joke; I actually laughed out loud. I don’t know anything about you, aside from what you have typed here on this page, and intelligence is a very relative thing, so I will not speak to it. But I laughed because you don’t actually believe it. In fact, you communicated how ridiculously insecure you are about your intelligence. If you actually believed you were smart, you wouldn’t have to tell me, or anyone else. Your argument alone would do your intelligence justice.
        
        To weirdly continue with the physicist theme, I will end with a quote by the great Stephen Hawking: “The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, but the illusion of knowledge.”
        
        Open your mind, man.
      - skw
        
        “Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.” -Albert Einstein”
        
        Einstein never actually said that. It’s an often misquoted line.
        
        “That’s a funny joke; I actually laughed out loud. I don’t know anything about you, aside from what you have typed here on this page, and intelligence is a very relative thing,”
        
        what do you mean intelligence is relative? That doesn’t make sense, it’s clear from anyone that reads what I responded to you that I’m smarter than you. I said it to reinforce the obvious. Deep down, you know it also, which is why you aren’t addressing any of my points directly rather spewing nonsense like :
        
        “well if you believe its bullshit its gonna be bullshit, just open your mind and breathe the hair and remember the grass is greener when you cut it and see the bottle as half full” or what ever other pseudo-psychological mumbo jumbo you’re coming up with.
        
        Lets get back to the facts:
        
        -in early stages of relationships women have the advantage over men. And yes “I define” sitting back and waiting to get approached as advantageous, as any rational person would. In what context or frame of reference is it advantageous to have the pressure of initiating, to take a risk be a privilege rather than a burden? It’s about risk, women can mitigate theirs, we are forced to take it on.
        
        Imagine going into a casino and having the option of putting money down on the table when you wanted, and now imagine going in and being pressured to put money down when the casino wanted. Which would be more advantageous, irrespective of context?
        
        Is there any direct, irrefutable points you can bring up that can challenge this, other than , “no man it’s all relative”
        
        Find your mind, man.
      - Parkey
        
        Brandon don’t waste your time. Skw is too intelligent to listen to a voice of experience.
        
        Love the point about what writers like to call “show don’t tell”. It’s doubly amusing when you consider all of those online dating profiles out there that state categorically “I am… X,Y,Z”
      - Ding Chavez
        
        I like the fact that skw is actually thinking about the situation. It is a lot better than just pretending to understand when he doesn’t understand.
        .
        @MARNI
        .
        I really wish you would respond more to skw and other guys who may not be just sitting here cheering. We want to learn and I think we all have valid questions.
        .
        It is always encouraging to actually see you comment on the posts, but I wish you’d at least hit skw’s (his statements are the most hardcore) a little more. We might all learn something…
      - Ding Chavez
        
        “There was an episode of beauty and the geek, where the challenge was for the “beauties” to actually go into clubs and approach men ”
        Thanks for reminding me about that. I think every man that talks that “have sympathy for women” rubbish should be forced to watch that episode.
        Hell, those women were a minute away from phoning the suicide prevention hotline. It was only ONE night and they didn’t know what to do.
        Classic
      - Ding Chavez
        
        “the fact that most males cannot handle it when a woman approaches them. ”
        .
        If Kim Kardashian, Beyonce, or Megan Fox approached me, I can most certainly handle it.
        .
        I don’t agree with a lot of what you say, but at least most of it is reasoned out.
        .
        This statement from you really isn’t.
        LOL!
        I’ll forgive you this time. Everyone misses the mark sometime.
- Chuncey Pride
  
  what it means is if he keeps that up he will be inside her thighs within a week. everything he did was on point. the reason the gift, the why the because he followed all of this correctly. she held her grown for now. but what you didnt see was her call her boyfriend and break up you just saw her standing there. ALONE. she didnt ask him to leave he left.
Steven

I just move on and find another who doesn’t have a boyfriend. I’ve had girls w/ boyfriends and husbands who have shown interest, but I decided not to move forward. I don’t want some cheating chick.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Steven
  
  I don’t think that the guy in this is looking for a cheating girl BUT he’s being clear about what his intentions so that the woman knows where he stands. Then, if she feels the same, it allows the woman to decide which relationship she wants to pursue. He also makes it clear that he’ll ‘respect her boundaries’ so that she never feels the need to question his intentions and she is free to make the call whether she is comfortable with his intentions or not.
  
  This is a ton better than hiding your feelings, and landing in the friend zone
  
  Marni
Jamiel Cotman

I think it would TOTALLY work!

I mean what else could he have done?

A) Whine and moan because she was
taken [communicates he has no options/life e.t.c]

B) Somehow
FORCE himself on her [communicates he is really desperate = no options/life]

C) Walk away, but make her feel
completely stupid, and left out for turning him down [in a respectful but effective way].

He chose C!

Regardless to how the woman says she is taken, the best response is some form of C.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Jamiel
  
  I totally agree- let the woman see what a great guy you are by handling rejection well and who knows what may happen in the future
  
  And yes it definitely shows that you are a man that has options to walk away, but also that you’re a stable, confident guy to do it without any hard feelings
  
  Marni
El Respecto

Just more garbage. Respectfully, bow the hell out. Be honorable with the boyfriend as well by not playing a game trying to make a move on her. Marni, is doing nothing more than assisting in the perpetuation of even more selfish women and weak ass men. The strong man, would never try to pull this shit move on another mans woman. His departure in the video is nothing but a move with alterior motive. If he leaves that kiss BS out of it, he shows more strength. This in turn is more attractive, but without motive too.
- Brandon
  
  Hey Chips (as in, chip on your shoulder)
  
  You might want to consider that the willingness and ability to BE vulnerable, without freaking out about putting yourself out there, is actually very attractive to women.
  
  “another mans woman.”
  
  Living in a possessive state of mind, aren’t we?
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey El
  
  Thanks for your comments. To me, watching it though, I think he is being respectful for walking away but he’s also doing himself and the woman in the video respect by choosing to be honest… which isn’t always easy. I also actually think it would be a ton more underhand to play the ‘friend’ then slowly try to make a move, which rarely works and is a ton more sneaky!
  
  Honest communication is great
  
  Marni
Bruce

I think this is a totally congruent thing to say. The guy spent some quality time with her – we know they at least had a good time dancing. He is making his intentions clear. He invested some time and a modest amount of money to give her the message that he likes her. He isn’t rude, he isn’t needy – he simply tells her in a respectful way.

As for the last part, it demonstrates to her that he is not a phoney. He is talking about what he really feels. I don’t agree at all that it would make her feel stupid. It is more likely to get her to think “Now, would my boyfriend ever have the balls to be THAT honest and up front with me?”

He is giving her something that women want: he is putting her a bit off balance; he is letting her know that she is special and feminine and sexy; he is making it clear that he thinks of her in a sexual way. She made it clear that she does like him, at least a little bit.

In my book, he did everything right.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Bruce
  
  Yep I totally agree: I think that making her think, “Now, would my boyfriend ever have the balls to be THAT honest and up front with me?” is a positive.
  
  It creates high standards for her relationship, makes her feel appreciated and at the same time demonstrates what a great guy he is.
  
  Marni
- Chuncey Pride
  
  you would be right accept you missed one simple cue. if she leaves her boyfriend for this new guy who is to say she wont leave him for the next guy?
Pete

She was not showing she was not available. And not seeing how they were dancing and what let up to this. If she welcome his attention. Something is there. He should try again in a few days. Just to make sure she does not want to see him. But commenting just on what this short clip showed, It showed him coming on very strong. Maybe she lead him to believe that she was available. She sure was please to see him, and by having a boyfriend she should hot have acceptable his gifts. But if he knew that she had a boy friend, (Did she tell him while they were dancing.). That is another whole story. If this was me. I would be gone.
Thanks
Pete
- Brandon
  
  “If she welcome his attention. Something is there.”
  
  Not necessarily. This is true with a woman that is emotionally healthy and/or mature, but if she is not, she could welcome your attention and have zero sexual interest in you.
  
  In this case, if he were to try again, he would just look needy. He has to let her go, and yet at the same time, be friendly when they run into each other again.
  
  Let’s be clear on how this clip unfolded as well; it actually communicated that she is indeed single, but still in love with her (ex-)boyfriend.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Pete
  
  I think sometimes you just meet people (and this may not be morally ideal, but it does happen). I think both of them did pretty good here: she was obviously very attracted to a great guy- but she was honest with him before things went too far. This honesty all round helps all parties to know where they stand, & what their options are without crossing the line
  
  Marni
Tim

She likes him she had to test him to see if he was strong enough then she need a green light to go forward thats it most people have the monkey & the branch syndrome they wont let go of the branch until they have grasp of the other branch and women do this a lot that was a great comeback line so now she or whatever woman hears that they know when your together its not to play cards lol .
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Tim
  
  I agree- I think, though it’s not a perfect way to act, in an imperfect world, lots of people- men and women- don’t have the security to leave a (bad) relationship until they know what’s out there. His honesty will help her to be more honest about her feelings and know what relationship is right for her
  
  Marni
John

Unfortunately, I have not gotten far enough with a woman to be able to respond in the way that he does in the clip. I had a wonderful conversation with a woman on a train yesterday. She told me that she had a boyfriend. How should I respond in a situation like that one? We connected well, and I wanted to ask her out and get to know her better.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey John
  
  I’d say to take the ‘essence’ of this and just make it more appropriate for the situation. Maybe:
  
  “That’s ok I still enjoy speaking to you & want to hang out. I will always respect your boundaries, but I will also always think you’re fantastic. I hope that sounds ok to you”
  
  Marni
KevinS

All in all, she’s not going to leaver her current boyfriend for you, simply because you told her every time you see her, you think about kissing her. Ask out girls who you know are single, you’ll have a much better chance. I’ve tried the whole “Ask out girls with boyfriends” he’ll I’ve even asked one of them to blow me. she said “Nope, I’m not that kind of girl” If she says she has a boyfriend just smirk and say “Alright, see ya around” then look for someone else. No matter how sexy she found it to be that you told her you think about kissing her. She’s still not going to leave him for you. Don’t sit around and wait for her. Ever.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Kevin
  
  totally agree it’s better to focus on girls that are single BUT if you do happen to fall for a taken woman it is better to say this, than wonder about what could have been
  
  Marni
fidlbeau

I think she is more available than she says,,,,why was she spending time and attention on this guy if she was in a committed relationship? The attraction was palpable. I do think his response was cool and collected.
Personally , I don’t ever get into other couples lives; did that once a long time ago—lesson learned.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Fidlbeau
  
  I think everyone has to have their own ‘code of conduct’ on this one; but it is good to know the ‘what’ and the ‘if’ so you can handle the imperfect situation as well as possible in case it happens to you
  
  Marni
JP

I think he played it really well, and if he really wants her he would have to be persistent yet infrequent which allows time to play its role. On the other hand, I wonder about her communication skills if she gave him the time and does have a boyfriend, or perhaps it’s not her communication skills but her boyfriends which is why she is giving him the time. I think if he continued, he would just have to set clear boundaries going forward and make sure the channel for communication is always open so he doesn’t end up in the same position as “the boyfriend” at the moment. Given the scenario at hand, he played it very well. However, instead of “thinking of kissing you”, or in addition to, he might have added something like, “there aren’t many great women out there, and I think you are one of them, I just wonder how long it will be before I meet the next one, and if it will be too late.” Grab her hands, a kiss on the cheek and walk away, and don’t look back when leaving. Without closure, we feel like we are missing something. With closure, looking back, even if we fail we seem to be content with it for some reason. Right or wrong, my two cents.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey JP
  
  I actually really like a lot of what you’ve contributed here. I think that part of the reasons this worked so well is because he, ‘set clear boundaries going forward and make sure the channel for communication is always open.’
  
  I also agree that being ‘persistent yet infrequent’ is a good idea. You don’t want to fall into the ‘friend zone’ or make her feel too awkward by constantly being available- and you would also want to stand clear in your intentions and not come across as inconsistent
  
  Marni
tom

its ok,but i would of said when i am not with you,all i think about is kissing you,and when i am with you,i have no exuse not to!
tom

how many of you were married for hore than 15 years? if you ever want to know what it takes to have a successful marriage? ask marni!
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Thanks Tom- I hope I do help
Eddie

This one’s loaded. But really the first impression I got was he didn’t even let her respond to the gift before he started going for the kiss close. A little convo goes a long way. He kept talking over her, cutting her off when she tried to speak. That had to make her uncomfortable and to then push for a kiss, to me comes off as creepy. Good that he left then, she needed some space.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  Hey Eddie
  
  I think the sexual tension was there and he was right to try for the kiss- I don’t think her feeling comfortable with him is what’s missing. In fact to avoid the ‘friend zone’ I think he played it pretty well to be as clear as he did
  
  Marni
howler

My response would be more cocky—something like “that’s great that you have a boyfriend-
but quite honestly I’m not interested in him!!” say it with confidence and look her directly
in the eye(s).. then go for the kiss close—if there is ANY interest–she will kiss you back,..
and if she does–you got her hooked–if not, say “your loss” and move on–she will never
forget that moment–it may pay off at a later date!!
- Parkey
  
  Um no. I wouldn’t. Might work in a PUA action comic, but not with real people.
  
  If she’s got a boyfriend pay her the compliment of expressing your desire for her and then go and find some more women, which is the bit the video doesn’t show.
- Marni Wing Girl
  
  I actually think sometimes it’s best to give her that space: it may not push her to kiss you, but it allows both parties to act with integrity
  
  Marni
Kevin Johnson

In my book, He acted like a bit of a, oh no, oh, oh, here it comes, wait for it……….WUSSY!!!!! Chasing after her on a 45 minute bus ride and giving flowers as a gift, then confessing how he feels about her has needy and kinda,”creepy” written all over him. Give me a brake. The best thing he did was leave quickly without showing allot of jellous insacurity after making her feel very “uncomfortable.” Dont forget that woman are comfort seeking creachers. Which bring’s me to this golden rule of attraction. “FOLLOW & THEY FLEE, FLEE &THEY FOLLOW”! The pre quality time shared together would probably turn into the, “Think I’ll ceep an eye on this guy”, from her perspective. He wants something! I think he’s got an acute case oneitess, by putting her on a pedastell, having a lack of abundence attitude for woman and not being a chalenge to get. Even though he know’s she’s got a boyfriend, he’s still willing to wait her out. This-never-works! Never, never, never! After being schooled by Marni, David Deangilo, and Carlos Xuma, I have found in real live practice, that this is the way of thing’s. Have an amazing day everyone,……Kevin:-)
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  he is in the right frame of mind I am in a similar situation and the girl I am focused on stopped by last nite at 1230 am unanounced and she explained her second thoughts and more
Boydnar

Not even a valid plausibility. She’s about a 7.5 and he’s about a 9.5. If this guy is seriously interested in this girl it’s because he has LSE — low self esteem. He needs to get out more and find a REAL hottie. They’re roamin’ the Earth.
But to the issue at hand . . .
His line about “When we’re together, whatever we’re doing . . . I’m thinking about kissing you,” is gold. ABSOLUTE GOLD. That’s gonna make HER think about kissing HIM . . . constantly. That’s like mentally imbedded forplay that she can’t get away from. It will be like mental torture for her until she acts on it and kisses him. This is the classic “mind phuque” at its finest. And the fact that he left right away is good, too. Shows that he has some self-respect and that he’s not a needy orbiter. He effects DeAngelo’s advice, to wit: Give her the gift of missing you.
But seriously, this guy need to go find a hottie. If I had his looks I wouldn’t be seen with a girl who wasn’t a “9″ or a “10.”
—Boydnar
Hot like Chrisitan Bale :D

Hi All
Let me add to Kevin , he has a very valid point. Personally speaking I have run into amazing girl who were freindly, good looking and had amazing personality BUT turned me down saying – sorry I have a BF and he is jealous type , with similiar expressions as shown in the video. (there is non zero probablity she is testing)
As a man I can go in 3 directions :
1- Act disappinted , walk away …. girl will say – thank god this guy was WUSSY , am glad I didn’t date him ….. GUY LOSSES .
2- Act submissive – Oh! thats fine , we can then just be freinds blah blah .. Girl will most likely not buy into this and if she does she will ONLY USE HIM (and surely won’t use him for sex) .
3- Act alpha (risking the rapport) – I belive it depends totally on the girl how is interprets it.
Marni – your views?
shlecky

Hahahaha I see why it was posted twice
samuel

truly a seed of love has been planted in her heart,it will only germinate with time when the guy continue with the right attitude by the way he talks with her in a loving manner,fun to be with,creating the atmosphere of true love etc.it will work and we have tried it in one way or the other.
sd

Rule 1: Never model yourself after a TV show.
Mikey

She should be so lucky to get a guy like that–to tell you the truth she looks like a bit of an airhead and he is actually a better looking male than she is a female. I am amazed he doesn’t have a thousand better looking women throwing themselves at him.
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Red

If she says she has a boyfriend but ends up messing around with you anyway, either she’s a liar or a cheater. I don’t want either one. If she says she’s in love with someone else but ends up messing around with you anyway, she doesn’t know what love is, and should be left alone. In similar circumstances I’ve been in I just tell them I like them and when they’re available to contact me. Never heard from any of them, unless they want something.
http://twitter.com/StuartMerrell D Stuart Merrell

Sure. It could possibly work but will still feel awkward when she says it in-person. What if she says it in response to a text where I offer to meet her for coffee and to catch up?
Chuncey Pride

the fact that a woman tells you she has a boyfriend isn’t for you its for her. she is reminding herself that she has a boyfriend. the choice is simple here. do you want to break them up or leave her be. depending on how cute she is or if she has a certain skill i could use to my advantage i normally let her walk. But, if she is worthy i will befriend her and wait patiently. do some homework and see if she is really in a relationship or if she is just insecure about being alone. yes there is a difference trust me. women who dont want to be alone or have a fear of being alone is my favorite insercurity. work smarter not harder and remember nothing last forever and this simple truth will save you time and money

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