Comments on: Why Do Women Flake On Plans?

By: Marni

Marni — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 22:20:14 +0000

That’s a no no as well. A lady is allowed to be 10 minutes late. Does not mean she is blowing you off. It actually means that she is respecting your time by not letting you wait. Interesting reaction from this man. Most likely he had been flaked on many times before and you bore the brunt.

By: abby

abby — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 02:27:57 +0000

I recently called a guy 10 minutes before a date to push the time back, because I was running late due to personal issues. We were meeting at his shop, so I didn’t think it would be a huge deal to push the time back, but he snapped and got angry and I got scared. I went from pushing back the time, to rescheduling it for “some other time,” because his temper freaked me out. I understand that me calling 10 minutes before the date to push back the time wasn’t cool, and I apologized several times, because I felt bad and really wanted to see him, but his reaction made me change my mind about him.

By: Farley

Farley — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 16:56:47 +0000

Great blogpost.

I remember a female classmate of mine told me: “People aren’t always considered “nice” by being nice.
This translates into the area of flaking and “wussy nice guy behaviour”.

By: Michael

Michael — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 03:35:54 +0000

I want to say that I really, really like Tip #1. And it ties into something I’ve been learning about developing good inner game.

A great way to get good inner game is to make it a habit to act with self-respect and class. In all of our dealings, not just with women in dating-type situations.

This will boost you when you are in front of women in the future. See, you know women are safety-seeking creatures. You know from your past behavior you provide that safety for her. That will only give you confidence.

Anyway, relating to Tip #1, you’re not acting that way just for her, you’re acting that way for you. See you gain self-esteem and self-trust if you handle her flaking as Marni suggested via Tip #1.

By: Michael

Michael — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:58:18 +0000

I found this article very helpful, especially Tip #1. Not calling her on it never felt right and getting angry freaked her out and made me feel bad too. I love the text you suggested to send back. Thanks for the article, Marni!

I have an issue with Tip #2 tho, for a different reason from Valmont’s. What if her phone is off or in her purse? I know this won’t be the case 95% of the time, but stranger things have happened. Actually it is far more likely that she is indeed on her way to the date and she gets the text and doesn’t respond because she doesn’t think a response is needed. Anyway, a guy very well might miss a date with a great woman who did show up if he uses this trick.