If a man comes on too strong he may frighten a woman off. He should give her some space and allow her to be her own person. He can be friends with her on social media but he should not be focused on everything she does and getting worked up over nothing. That is a turn off.
There’s one dating behavior that is universally unattractive to both men and women:
Coming on too strong, too soon. And even though I think most people are aware this is unattractive…
Many people are completely unaware this is how they’re coming across.
So here are three things that can signal to women you’re coming on too strong…
#1 You make her the center of your world
We might like to feel that we’re the center of your world when we’re in a relationship, but not when we barely know you.
So if we met somewhere and gave you our number, it’s too soon to be constantly texting us throughout the day. When we’re on the first date, we don’t want an invitation to meet your parents.
And we don’t expect you to cancel plans and be available 24/7. We’ll actually be more attracted to you if you have your own life going on that doesn’t revolve around us. Because when you’re only think about us… and wanting to spend all your time with us… it makes us wonder why.
Do you not have friends? Hobbies? Do you have no other options with women? By living your own life and not putting us at the center of it, it’ll help you avoid coming on too strong.
#2 Not giving her space
When you’re really into someone, you may have a tendency to want to be with them all the time.
Often this can stem from a fear of losing them. But ironically this is what will usually drive them away. You end up smothering them and they feel like they can’t breathe, so they run in the other direction.
So it could be something like inviting yourself over to her place… or not leaving in the morning after you’ve spent the night… or tagging along to one of her social events uninvited.
There’s nothing wrong with these things if she’s asked you, but it’s not good if she feels she has no choice. Sometimes a woman will be too polite to say no to you, so will agree to something rather than risk an argument.
You need to remember that she has her own life, and you need to give her space to live some of it without you.
#3 Stalking her social media
This is a more recent trend that many people are guilty of. Rather than stalking someone in real life, they’ll do it virtually. It could be a woman that you’ve already been out with… or one that you’re working up the courage to ask out.
And you may find yourself commenting on all of her Facebook posts. Or liking all of her Instagram photos. Or watching all of her Snapchat snaps.
But unless she’s already gone first and done the same with your social media, it comes on too strong. She’ll likely think you’ve got some kind of obsession with her, since she doesn’t know you that well yet.
Great. So make sure you avoid these 3 things and you’ll be far less likely to come on too strong too soon.
The last female friend you’ll ever need,