I see it all the time.
A man with a confident swagger who can approach any woman… as long as she’s by herself!
But place her next to another girl (or God forbid, a group of people) and it’s like the guy has just been exposed to kryptonite.
The confidence and swagger are replaced by confusion and doubt.
When I’m out with my girlfriends we get TONS of guys checking us out but hardly any with the balls to come talk to us.
And if there are men in our group, it’s even worse!!
The truth is, it’s often EASIER to talk to us when we’re with other people, and I’m gonna show you exactly how to do it!
All you need to do is remember these 3 simple points:
#1 Don’t ignore anyone
The cardinal sin of approaching groups is to focus on one girl and ignore everyone else.
It makes you seem like a wolf who is trying to pick off one of the sheep from the herd.
And sure, you may only be interested in talking to one of our friends, BUT…
If you can’t display basic social skills and manners by even acknowledging us, we assume you must be shady.
Our instincts are gonna kick in and make us want to protect our friend who you’ve got in your sights.
Instead, talk to the group as a whole.
Look everyone in the eye when you’re talking and make them feel seen and respected.
After you’ve been social with everyone for a couple of minutes, THEN you can start to pay more attention to the girl you like.
Even a simple, “I think your friend is cool, is it okay with you guys if I talk to her for a minute?” can work wonders.
#2 ‘Tis better to give
To quote Cyndi Lauper, “Girls just wanna have fun.”
When you come up and approach our group, you’re either adding to that fun or taking away from it.
This means you need to be contributing something of value for us to want to talk to you.
Your energy, presence, conversation and overall vibe should be giving value to the group.
If you’re coming in with boring questions, no energy, or trying to steal a girl away… you’re taking instead of giving.
Instead of focusing on what you want (the girl) put your focus on what the group wants (to have fun) and do what you can to help them achieve that.
When you help the group get what they want, you’ll be well on your way to getting what you want 😉
#3 Don’t be a threat
This one applies especially when guys are also in the group.
If you come in trying to hit on the girls right from the get go, it’s gonna piss off the dudes.
Talk to the guys and make friends with them first and they’ll be more open to you chatting with the girls.
And I have to say, I find a man SO much more attractive when he shows that he can win over my male friends.
The more the guys in the group approve of you, the more we’re wanting you to turn your attention ON US!!
Now one way you can ensure you don’t threaten the guys in a group is to have a girl (or girls) with you when you approach them.
So if you’re in a conversation with one girl, just involve the group next to you.
Maybe you’re playfully teasing each other about whose favorite band is better.
You could turn to the group next to you: “Hey guys settle this for us… who’s better, X or Y?”
Guess what? You’re now in a conversation with the group, as simple as that.
Not only will the guys not view you as a threat, but the girl you were talking to will be impressed by your social skills…
AND all the girls in the group will want to know who this sexy new guy is (and perhaps try to steal you away for themselves).
Trust me, once you get used to approaching groups it’s really not that hard.
Many of my clients tell me they actually find it easier, because there’s more people to talk to and play off of.
Not to mention the fact that as women we tend to feel more comfortable with our friends around us!
So by being able to approach and charm our group, you’re scoring major points in our eyes and putting yourself ahead of the 99% of men who don’t do this correctly.
Now go use this information while you are out and about this weekend and then tell me about it!
The last female friend you’ll ever need,
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