How to tell an engaging story
The other day I had this wonderful guest on my podcast, The Ask Women Podcast. He shared with me an important lesson for men on how to tell an engaging story that sparks attraction.
Myke helps STEM professionals improve their social confidence so they can have great connections both romantically and personally. Here's the version of the lesson he shared with my personal twist.
How to make a conversation interesting
The lesson was on how to talk to women in a way that makes your conversations more interesting and engaging by perfecting the art of story telling.
He explained that the art of how to tell an engaging story does not come very naturally to a STEM man and in fact many men have a hard time telling stories to women.
Women need a lot more touchy feely parts in order to be engaged and potentially turned on by your stories.
Most male brains, especially those brains that are more STEM (Science, technology, engineering, and mathematics) inclined are going to lean towards linear logic.
The more linear and logical the conversation is, the more it lowers any chances of attraction and connection.
What Myke suggests to the people he works with is for the them to prepare their stories in advance.
If you’ve ever written an exam that you didn’t study for you will naturally feel nervous, anxious, foggy, your heart will beat fast, you’ll have empty head syndrome.
It's the same with conversation. Which is why preparing your conversation so that you can feel more calm, present and relaxed can be very helpful.
This doesn’t mean preparing scripts that you have to follow and if you go off script it throws you off.
It means to prepare a little so that a female presence doesn’t mess you up, and instead you can just “be yourself”.
Here are the steps to help you mentally prepare non logical, linear conversation and stories that attract women and create connections.
Step 1: Identify the top topics of conversation
For the most part there are really only 5 topics that people talk about for the most part.
- Family and upbringing
- Hobbies and what you do for fun
- Passions and ambitions
Step 2: Knowledge dump
For 30 minutes a night I want you to pick one topic and just start writing about each topic.
Literally do a knowledge dump on work for example. Write down everything about work.
What you do, how you got there, how you’ll get to the next level, what you think about your work, why do you do what you do, what you think about the people you work with and on and on.
You can also talk if that’s a better way for you to express yourself and record yourself with your phone.
Step 3: Story structure to tell an engaging story
Now, I want you to start putting together stories one topic at a time.
For example: The story of when I moved to Canada to the United States.
The story of when I started my business.
2-3 stories for each topic that follow the typical storytelling structure.
The resolution of your engaging story
The set up, the content, the resolution – which you can google to get more details on
and I can also help you with if you are part of my email coaching program.
Step 4: Add In Sensory Words
Adding in sensory words is the real meat of this and the part of this that’s going to have the most impact on your conversations with women.
As you write out your stories in your typical linear way, add in sensory words to lighten it up and make it more digestible for others, especially women.
For example, what did you see, what did you think, what did you hear, how did you feel?
This makes your story WAY more engaging and easier to connect to for women.
BECAUSE we women always want to hear the WHY behind the things you say and share.
The feelings. The real story behind the basic story. The tidbits that make the story personal and about you.
The real juicy parts is when you can dive into the WHY’s.
The WHY’s make both you and the women you're talking to feel something about you and for you.
These 4 steps will prepare you to tell an engaging story.
You will be able to quickly access conversations even under times of extreme nervousness and that empty head feeling, won’t exist for you anymore.
Once you have a few handfuls of stories in your back pocket you’ll start to notice that your conversations with women will start to shift.
Women will be more engaged in what you are saying and you’ll also feel more connected to the feelings behind what you say.
The next question I’m sure you have is how to do I use these great stories and conversations to build attraction with women?
Connection will become easier and women will be more engaged in conversation with you when you know how to tell an engaging story.
If you want to take your conversation up to that next level.
The level that builds amazing sexual tension and sparks attraction then you need to learn how to banter.
Banter is not something that comes naturally to a lot of people. Lucky for you it can easily be learned. And if you are a true STEM guy, then this will be super easy for you.
Because if there is one thing you kick butt at, it’s learning.
5 facts you should know about banter:
- Women rate a sense of humor as the most attractive quality a man can have.
- Banter demonstrates the kind of wit that makes women laugh without the common mistake of going into “clown mode.”
- Many men struggle with texting and dating websites because they don’t know how to build the vibe. When we add banter to digital conversations it builds attraction and dramatically increases the chances of landing a first date.
- Women love men who are playful. Bantering gives them the good feelings of being back on the school-yard which builds that all-important trust and connection.
- Bantering is the foundation of flirting.
It shows confidence, social intelligence, and it creates a fun dynamic that women are irresistibly drawn to.
All 5 of these facts should hammer in just how essential banter is to your conversations with women.
And that’s what motivated me to create the ultimate guide on how to banter with women.
Because knowing just this one skill can make a dramatic difference to how women feel about you.
So if you’re ready to start having more exciting and attractive conversations with women…
The video shows you how throwing a little banter into your conversation can totally transform your interactions with women and give you that edge you’ve always wanted.
It’s a quick, 5 minute video that explains how to have conversations that naturally build attraction through playful banter and how an attraction building conversation should unfold.
Click here and go watch this quick, 5 minute video When you go to this page you can also get a ton of banter examples you can use as templates for your own future banter sessions with quality, beautiful women.
Guys are already writing to me everyday with crazy success stories since they started using it.
To check it out and discover how to communicate with us women in a way the ignites desire and builds sexual tension go to: https://www.winggirlmethod.com/banterguide
Let me be your wing girl and share all my secrets with you.