Do you ever feel like this guy? Watch him as he makes classic approaching mistakes and read below about how to approach women in public.
If you do, don’t feel bad. SOOOOOO many guys feel exactly the same way.
I know that from your POV you are doing your best. You had the guts to approach and make a first move… only to get each of your attempts shot down by a stone cold woman.
Why do we women do this?
I’ll tell you why I do this and it may hurt to hear. So brace yourself.
When a guy approaches me, the way that this guy in the video approached Selena Gomez, I immediately put my defenses up and get annoyed. Annoyed that I have to deal with this approach.
Here’s why it was annoying:
1. He was all over the place
Women get nervous too and we understand that talking to us if you are attracted can rock those nerves. But this guy was all over the place and simply trying to find something that she would latch onto to get the conversation going.
A woman being approached will rarely share the brunt of getting a conversation started, unless sparked by something you say. This guy didn’t give her a chance to be sparked. Nor did he give her anything to be sparked by.
2. He just asked questions
Who the hell is this guy and what the hell does he want from me? Is what she was thinking. He mumbled a couple of things about himself but told her nothing about him that would help her drop her guard or get to know more about him.
3. His body language was too much
I wish this guy could have just calmed down a bit and stood in one place. His actions were kind of frantic. I wish this guy could have just stayed still and was confident enough to turn his body away for moments at a time.
4. He gave her no information about himself
He didn’t share anything about himself with her. Nothing for her to latch onto. Instead he asked question after question after question, trying to find SOMETHING that interested her and would have her open up. When what he should have been doing, was taking the lead and opening up himself first. That’s why OSA is such a powerful tool for helping start conversation that sparks attraction with women.
5. He asked her out without connecting first
This is a huge no no. She basically had an “I smell poop face” the entire time they were talking and gave no sign that she would be open to doing anything with him…. AND he still asked her out.
A girl is never going to go out with a guy that she:
A. Knows nothing about
B. Has not shared a moment, an interest, a laugh… ANYTHING
C. Thinks is a crack addict because of his shaky body language ;-0
If you see any of yourself in this guy then I beg you to change things up. This guy will rarely ever get a good response from a woman. It’s sad and I wish it wasn’t true. I wish that women could see how hard it is for guys to approach and think of things to say… But we can’t.
We can’t be looking to take care of you while we’re also trying to take care of and protect ourselves 24/7.
What this woman in this video subconsciously saw was a man that could not protect her and be stronger than her. Women need to see this in men or else there is no chance of attraction being created.
Do you want to change the way women see you and respond to you? Do you want women to instantly see you as a sexual option while ignoring every other man in the room?
Not only will it change how women see you….
It will change how you view yourself!