In my opinion attracting women and succeeding in the financial world require the exact same skills. Both require confidence, comfort, strategy and the possible risk. They also do not leave room for regret or the Coulda, Shoulda, Wouldas, which I will explain later.
I recognized this parallel between attracting women and finance when I was researching. As you may or may not know my new hobby has been to learn how to trade online. I know this may not be the best time to jump into the stock market but I realize how important it is to understand how the economy works.
I stumbled upon a great article in the Wall Street Journal called The Mistakes We Make and Why We Make Them and the whole time I was reading it I kept thinking, I should send this to you. Even though the article is taking about investments, I felt the information also applied to how you deal with women. Putting it in financial terms, unrelated to women may make things clear. For me, hearing metaphors and stories help me better understand concepts.
One point in the article really stuck out for me because it talks about moving on past rejection and not dwelling on regret.
Strong people move past regret when faced with rejection. Weak people get lost in it and women are NOT attracted to weak men.
A lot of men write into me asking something along the lines of “There is this women that I keep seeing at my gym for the past 3 months. She makes eye contact with me and I usually look her way but never approach. What should I do? Have I ruined my chances with her because I have not approached her yet?”
The answer is that chances have only been ruined if you continue to do nothing. What you should do is approach and engage and stop staring at the poor girl. Any more staring without action will put you into the freaky staring guy category and you do not want to be in that category.
I find that a lot of my clients talk about waiting for what they feel is the “right” time to take action. My response is there is no “right” time to approach, nor do you need to wait for “signals” to go after a women you find attractive. The right time is when you say so and the only signal you need is the one in your head telling you that you are interested in meeting her. This helps you avoid regret and the Coulda, Shoulda, Wouldas.
I Coulda approached her BUT she was headed in a different direction than me
I Shoulda talked to her BUT she was talking with that other guy who is probably her boyfriend
I Woulda asked for her phone number BUT I wasn’t getting the signals that she was into me
I am not a fan of Coulda, shoulda, woulda! Nor am I a fan of men who use Coulda, Shoulda, Wouldas and I know most women feel the same way as I do. As humans we can talk ourselves out of anything especially if it is something that requires us to take risk and live in an uncomfortable place that could possibly lead to rejection. Rejection is only rejection if you let it be rejection. For me rejection is a push to keep trying! Trust me it stings but not as badly as regret.
For the next month I want you to go after any woman you want and not let your head talk you out of it.
- Push yourself to take risks.
- Approach that woman at the gym that has caught your eye.
- Talk to that woman at the gas station.
- Ask the woman at work out on a date.
And if you get rejected, take a breath, relax your shoulders and walk away with grace and then keep going until you get what you want.
This little push from me should help you with getting everything you want with women.
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If you feel comfortable with your assignment then start doing it now and let me know how it goes!