Want to instantly improve your chances of attracting exactly the kinds of women you’re interested in? Who doesn’t!? In this article, I’ll share three DEAD SIMPLE mental exercises that will help put you in the right frame of mind for success. You won’t believe how effective this is!
There’s one thing that nearly all guys who struggle with women have in common. And if they changed this one thing, it’d make a HUGE difference in their results.
What is this one thing I’m talking about? It’s being too attached to the outcome. In other words, caring too much about what happens with any particular woman. The reason this is such a killer is the more invested you are in the outcome, the more nervous you feel.
I mean think about it. When there’s something you want really badly — like a job promotion, to win a competition, get accepted to a certain school — it usually makes you on edge and anxious.
Well, it’s the same with women. And if you’re feeling anxious or nervous around us, that’s the complete opposite of what we find attractive.
This is why tons of guys notice they attract the women that they’re not into… but get completely ignored by the women they really want. It’s the carefree I Don’t Give A F*ck attitude that makes you that much more attractive.
And while it’s one thing to KNOW that you should care less about the outcome… It’s a whole different beast actually putting that into practice.
That’s why training your brain to be less outcome dependent is such a valuable exercise.
This is what one of my students recently did, and it’s working out great for him. As an avid golfer, he’s had to do something similar to calm his mind on the golf course so he can perform at his best.
So he simply applied the same strategy he uses in golf, for dealing with women, and it makes him far more relaxed and carefree. While some athletes and high level performers spend years trying to master this skill, let me give you a couple of things you can apply right away to get some of the benefits.
1. Realize any woman is only one opportunity
When you really like someone, it’s easy to overvalue their importance. You may think nobody else can compare… or that you won’t be happy unless you and her end up together.
But there are amazing women all around you. (And when you have the skills to meet and attract women anywhere, you’ll realize that.)
So you need to remind yourself often that what happens with any one woman is no big deal. If it doesn’t work out with one, there are plenty of others waiting to meet you.
2. Picture a positive outcome
This one sounds kind of cliche, but research shows that it works. When you picture something in your mind going the way you want it to, then it’s more likely to happen.
However most guys do the opposite. They imagine the worst case scenario. Whether that be a woman ignoring them, saying she has a boyfriend, laughing at them, or just flat out rejecting them. This creates more anxiety, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
3. Find her flaw
A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking a woman is flawless. They fall in love (or lust) and imagine that she can do no wrong. Well, if you think someone is perfect, how are you ever going to be good enough for them? This alone can create a ton of anxiety as you think you’ll never live up to their standards.
So one mental trick that can be helpful is to imagine she has a flaw. This can be anything that you imagine e.g. she snores loudly in bed, has terrible body odor, or enjoys kicking small puppies.
Whatever it is, the idea is you realize she’s not flawless. When you see her as just another person (which she is) then it’ll help you feel less attached to the outcome.
Ok, try these 3 mental exercises out from now on and see how they work for you.
Of course the best way to actually be unattached to the outcome is to have limitless options with women.
When you have multiple women flirting with you, texting you, asking you out and wanting to hook up with you… then it’s pretty easy to have that carefree attitude we’re drawn to.
And the best way to have limitless options with women is by using this super simple system that I reveal right here.
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