Women really do like nice guys. They do not want someone that may be fake and someone that will agree with everything they say. A man needs to be confident and help a woman while showing off his true personality. He can be nice and strong at the same time.
“Marni, can I still date hot women by being nice to them?”
It’s a question I get asked ALL the time. And my answer is…
YES! You absolutely can be nice to hot women and still be attractive and desirable. In fact, we actually prefer to date guys who are nice over guys who are assholes.
However, our definition of nice is usually different from what yours is.
And that’s where guys get confused.
You see, a lot of the behaviors that guys think of as ‘nice’… Actually comes across to women as ‘weak’.
And that’s a huge difference. Because while we can feel attracted to nice men…
Weak guys are a huge turn off. So let’s clear up what I actually mean by weak behavior. I’m NOT talking about physical strength or anything like that.
I mean actions and behaviors that reflect your character.So an example of that would be agreeing with everything a woman says, even though you don’t really feel that way.
Guys who do that usually view it as being nice. They don’t want to seem disagreeable or cause any conflict.But in reality, it shows they’re afraid to say what they really think.
They won’t express their true feelings because they’re trying to control somebody else’s impression of them.
That’s weak because it’s the opposite of being a strong and confident man. We don’t trust or respect guys like that.
Another example might be showering a woman with compliments all the time… or always spending money on her… or doing favors for her.
While there’s nothing inherently wrong with those things, it’s the reason behind it that’s the problem. A weak man will do these things with the expectation that we owe him something in return.
That’s not nice. It’s manipulative. And make no mistake, we can almost always sniff out a man’s real intentions. Another weak behavior that gets mistaken for nice is hiding your sexual interest.
I’m not saying you need to hold up a flashing neon sign telling a girl you’re into her right away…
But if you never escalate things and show any intent, that’s not the behavior of a strong and confident man.
And the truth is, most women realize when a guy has a crush on them but is too afraid to act on it. And that just makes us even less attracted to him. So you really have nothing to lose by going for it.
We want a man who treats us well… but not a man who is a doormat.
And if you’d like to learn in more detail how to attract and date women by genuinely being a nice (but strong) man…
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