As a woman, I can honestly tell you that WOMEN ARE NOT THAT SCARY. Therefore approaching one of us should not cause any fear and anxiety.
Think about the last scenario you had to approach a woman you wanted. You are out in a social place like a coffee shop, bar, bookstore or on the street. Then you see an attractive woman that you like and want. There are tons of thoughts going through your head like:
– She is beautiful.
– I want to date her.
– I want to sleep with her.
– I should approach her.
– I am going to talk to her.
Then suddenly all the fears race in:
– She may not be interested in me.
– I am too short for her.
– She is too young for me.
– She likes guys who are richer than me.
– She looks busy I don't want to bug her.
– A woman like that does not like guys like me.
Even if you don't see your exact fear listed above, I am sure you know exactly what I am talking about.
How do I know these fears exist?
Because I am Wing Girl and 1000's of men have told me this is what they experience. My point being, that they are normal.
I myself have felt many of similar fears. All of my girlfriends have felt similar fears. In fact I can tell you that some of the top pick up artists or “masters with women” have revealed to me that they too experience these fears from time to time.
Fears are human and totally normal BUT those who are able to control their fears and push through them are the ones that succeed and always get what they want.
On the flip side those who let their fears control them are left to live in frustration and stagnation.
I want you to be the first person that I described, the one that is in control of their fears and pushes through them. The one with courage!
First we have to figure out why you may have fears when it comes to women. I can tell you the majority of the time these fears stem from FEAR OF REJECTION.
You are an intelligent man, right? Well then I have to ask you to think about what rejection really means when you approach a woman.
Think about it.
If you were to approach a woman you have never met before and she either turns away, does not engage you in conversation or says no to you when you ask for her number…what does it really mean?
NOTHING. It should mean nothing to you.
She may be having a bad day. She may be distracted. She may be rude. She may have a boyfriend or she may be gay.
There are a million things that this woman could be experiencing that have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.
She did let you know that based on a few moments of conversation at this time she was not into the situation. BASED ON A FEW MOMENTS.
She knows nothing about you. You know nothing about her. You do not know each other and yet you let this rejection that is based on nothing affect you and freeze you.
You let it beat you down and stop you from going after what you want.
Now I ask you again, are you an intelligent man?
Does this seem like a smart decision to you?
Think about if Thomas Edison had been put off by rejection.
The more we push through rejection, the stronger we become and the more we can gain.
I see rejection as a challenge to aim higher.
Here is my challenge for you. I want you to go up to that woman you have been “thinking” about approaching for months, and just approach her.
No fear, positive energy and no worries about the rejection.
I want you to approach her because I said so.
I also want you to approach her for YOU.
Go after what YOU want and stop worrying about the woman on the other side.
She is not important yet.
Because you do not know anything about her. Just like she knows nothing about you.
I want you to approach her and think in your head:
– I wonder what this woman is about?
– This will be fun
– I am doing this for me
– Do I find this woman interesting?
– Am I enjoying this conversation?
– Is she worth my time and energy?
You are approaching to find out more about this woman so you can make a choice for YOU.
From now on I want you to approach anyone and everyone that intrigues you.
Your goal is to find out what they are about. See if you they interest you. Figure out what you like. Your goal is not necessarily to get a phone number or ask them out (although it very well might lead to that!)… your goal is to simply approach and interact.
I promise you that the more you approach and push through your fears the less you will care about rejection.
Again, rejection is a challenge to aim higher.
Here's a little SECRET you might not know…
Women are afraid of rejection too. In fact the more attractive the women the more afraid she will be.
I will talk about this in a future blog post.
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Speak to you soon!