Amazing story to share with you guys about the question “do looks matter to women?” Honestly, I think my biggest “eye-roller” comment that I make is when I tell men that looks do not matter to women. But it's true.
I've said it a million times that yes looks DO matter, but only in the first 5 seconds of interaction, because for the first 5 seconds we have nothing else to base our perception of you on. But something interesting happens after the first 5 seconds. A man's face starts to morph, as we start to see his character. Good character gets more attractive. Bad character gets down right ugly.
I got an email from Ed the other day, telling me a story about how he used to an “eye roller” but since a recent experience has changed his POV. I told him his email was an amazing story that I had to share with the rest of my guys and asked him if I could post it.
He luckily said YES! Here's his story:
Hey Marni, I've written you a couple of emails, and you respond to my tweets
a-lot. So first, thanks for that, your advice is awesome!
I remember you writing that the reason women will say that their best friends
are beautiful even if most guys don't think they are good-looking at all because
of the way they FEEL about that friend of theirs. Here's a REALLY good example
I'm watching the Major League Baseball All-Star game, afterwards, Erin Andrews
interviews one of the players of the game. She is gorgeous. My mom responds
“Ugh, she is so ugly” I tell my mom she's crazy, and mom starts saying “She's
old, her profile's bad, look at her mouth! She is SO BORING”.
I remember what you said so I asked my mom: “Wait, you just don't like her…I'm
curious, Mom, can you name a celebrity or women you dislike but is also
“Like a bitchy girl who is pretty? They exist”
“No, I mean YOU think she is gorgeous, not that other guys think she's pretty.”
She could not do it! After getting frustrated, she just blurted out “You dumb
men are just being fooled by your eyes and ignoring everything else!!!”
The insight that came was something I talk about, but still really didn't know.
Women's attraction is based on how someone makes them FEEL. “Creepy” men are men
who make them feel weird, uncomfortable (In a negative way), and a little
scared. Sexy men are ones who make women feel feminine, safe, and fun. That's
why most guys, and myself, screw this up. We're trying to make women “think” we
are sexy, cool, and important. Instead, we should choose to far better strategy
is to focus on making women “feel” feminine, safe, and sexy.
Women do not look at you and think:
Watch: 9 out of 10, Shoes:6, Hair: 8, Car: 10, Smile: 9, jokes: 2, Kissing: 6, Dick Size: 4, Sex Skills: 9 Foreplay: 5; annual salary: 10; This averages him to a 7.09. I am a 9.5 and have a law that I only date 8s. He will not get a second date.
They just react to how they feel about you. Men who are sexy make women feel safe, feminine, and fun.
This is cool! Thanks for being awesome.
More men need to read your blogs!
Finally!!!!! A man agrees with me 😉
How you make a woman FEEL is way more important than how you look to a woman. Looks are only a portion of it.
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