Do you think you're a good lover??
Honestly, you don't have to answer that right now but think about it.
A good lover, from a woman's POV, is one that is present and connected to her in the bedroom whether it's for one night of fun and excitement or a lifetime. A good lover is also someone that understands her body inside and out and knows how to calm her mind so that she can really “open up”.
I get A LOT of men writing into me who are concerned because they are not sure if they are good lovers. Sometimes it's because they don't have a lot of experience with sex and some of them are even virgins. But there are also many that just aren't sure.
Be honest with me right now. At some point or another YOU have questioned whether or not you are good in bed.
I know I have.
I will tell you the same thing I tell each of these guys. Just because a guy has experience in the bedroom (or the back seat of a car) DOES NOT mean that he is a good lover.
In fact, many men who started having sex at an early age never acquired skills on how to be good in the bedroom because they didn't think they had to. When I was younger I didn't even know what an orgasm felt like. I was just excited that I was having sex which is why it was easier to please me.
BUT NOW, I want more.
I know what an orgasm feels like and I can definitely tell the difference between good sex and bad sex. So what can you do right now to ensure that you are a good lover, even if you are not as experienced as you'd like to be?
You can educate yourself!
Ok. So here's the deal.
Sexual inexperience is NOT a turn off for women UNLESS you let it lower your confidence and ruin the connection you may have with her during sex. Excitement, interest, and intrigue are all part of the sexual adventure that make things fun.
What I would suggest is that you study.
Get confidence from what you know so that you yourself know that you can sexually pleasure a woman once you have the opportunity.
But the lack of knowledge plus lack of experience will create a low sense of confidence around sex.
Here are a couple of resources that I want you to check out:
I myself have seen (and applied) and strongly recommend the programs below if you want to improve your sex life:
1. Free CD on The Secrets of A Masterful Lover from David Shade.
Excellent materials from a man whose wife left him because he was a bad lover. Pretty sure that's not the entire reason she left but it's his reason.
He then spent 15-20 years researching to develop Masterful Lover.
He walks you through the whole process of getting into the correct mindset to be a Masterful lover and rock a woman's world.
Great material and if you use the following link you will get a free MP3 from him.
Get Free MP3 Here:
**This one is for a mature audience who wants to focus on the Mindset of a great lover.
2. Porn Star Sex Life – 3 Pornstars and Penthouse Pets reveal the myths porn teaches you and how to be a rockstar in bed and AMAZING with foreplay.
Don't let the name scare you away. It is lessons from a former porn star but it one of the most informative videos I have seen on how to pleasure a woman. It doesn't feel seedy, it feels informative and educational.
**I've gotten great feedback from guys that I have recommended this to and they all say that they've received rave reviews from women 😉
3. You can also check out this video I did for AskMen on How to last longer in bed:
…and how to pleasure a woman with your hand:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5vnc4rjhE4 <== VERY IMPORTANT
4. Listen to this Free MP3 of me and Sexpert Darrah DeJour discussing How To Take Action and Get Physical With Women
There are tons of other great resources out there, but those are my top recommendations. Which is a great start for now!! Trust me when I tell you that a man who understands how to REALLY pleasure a woman is a man who never has an empty bed.
So go get one of these programs and start educating yourself. I guarantee it will give you good bedroom Karma 😉