There’s no way around it: Online dating is alive and here to stay. The internet plays a huge role in how we connect and communicate in 2019, including our sex and love relationships. But in order to successfully navigate these waters, you have to know how to swim… and you have to do it BETTER than all those other guys out there. Let me show you how:
Do you want to go on a lot more dates this year with attractive women? Then hands down, online dating is the easiest way to make that happen. And while I’ll ALWAYS preach the value of approaching women out in the real world (you are doing that, right?)…
The fact is, there are countless single women waiting for you to match with and message them… right there in the palm of your hand. So if you’re not using that to your advantage, you’re seriously missing out! And once you know what you’re doing, it really doesn’t take much to get a woman to at least meet up with you in person… Because most of us would rather get a feel for you in real life, instead of endlessly texting back and forth.
Now, that leads us to the two biggest problems guys typically face with online dating:
- How to get matches
- How to turn those matches into dates
To solve #1, you gotta work on your photos. Yes, it may seem shallow that women are making a snap judgement on you based on just your photo… But if you’re being honest, aren’t you doing the same thing when swiping through women? Regardless of whether you agree with it or not, this is simply the reality of meeting people online these days. The good news is you don’t have to look like a male model in your photos to get attention…
Because what we care more about is getting a sense of your identity as a man. That means using your photos to give us a glimpse of your life and show that you’re a 3-dimensional person… Not simply yet another guy who we know nothing about, except for the fact he’s capable of taking half a dozen mirror selfies!
Aside from having a clear photo of your face, you can have photos doing something social, engaging in your hobbies, travel-related, with your pet, at a business function, playing sport etc. What’s important is you make your photo feed relevant to who you are… so you attract the women who are right for you.
Now, once you’ve got that down and start getting matches… what are you supposed to write?
While I could talk for hours on this subject, here are the 2 golden rules you should always follow:
- Don’t be boring
- Don’t be creepy
For boring, you simply have to avoid sending the same messages every other guy is sending, such as:
- “How are you?”
And to avoid being creepy, don’t be overtly sexual in your first messages. Things like:
- “Wanna fuck?”
- “Dat ass tho!”
- U tryna get the pipe?”
Now, I’m gonna assume you’ve read enough of my advice that you’re NOT making these terrible mistakes. Sadly many guys are (as evidenced by the messages my girlfriends show me), where I feel like it still needs to be said.
So, what to do instead?
If you simply make your first few messages charming, engaging and show a hint of personality… you’ll stand out from 90% of the other guys texting her. Rather than using messages copy and pasted from other people, I encourage you to experiment to FIND YOUR OWN style that works best for you. But here are a few interesting examples to get you started:
“So does this mean we’re going steady now?”
- “What’s with all the women on here sending nip pics, it’s sooooo creepy ;-)”
- “This might be a little forward… but I wanna hold your hand so hard right now”
- “Hmmm, something tells me you might be trouble ;-)”
As you can see, these are all quite different to the standard first messages women get. Now, these specific examples may or may not work for YOU, depending on your style and the type of women you’re interested in. But if you look at what they have in common, they are all PLAYFUL and FLIRTATIOUS…
Which is the exact type of vibe that makes us think there could be some chemistry there… and we’ll be intrigued enough to message you back. From there, you just want to keep that flirtatious vibe going… Mixed in with sharing a few details about each other so she feels comfortable with you…
And then casually suggest meeting up in person to continue the conversation e.g. over a coffee or a drink. By getting her to agree to a low commitment offer i.e. meeting for a coffee… Your odds of success are WAAAAY higher than presenting a high commitment offer i.e. sex.
Focus just on getting her to agree to meet you in real life, and you’ll have more dates than you can handle.
Of course once you’re on the date, you need to keep up the flirting and playful banter that got her attracted enough to meet you in the first place. That’s where my F Formula program comes into play, the most comprehensive and clearly-explained guide to flirting ever created.
It’s specifically designed for men and from the perspective of a woman who knows what works and what doesn’t. (Hint: a lot of the flirting advice coming from men actually does more harm than good.) Once you internalize these simple principles, effective flirting just becomes automatic… whether it’s in person or even messaging online.
And instead of it being a technique that you do, it just becomes who you are. Which means women will naturally be attracted to you, without it feeling like hard work.
The last female friend you’ll ever need,