Here’s the simple truth. If you’re not projecting an air of approachability, you’re going to fail with women. Unfortunately, most women view a majority of men as being absolutely unapproachable. Read on and I’ll tell you the five biggest reasons why!
If there’s one thing 99% of guys would love, it’d be for more women to approach them. No matter whether you love or hate approaching women yourself…
There’s no denying that it takes less effort — as well as providing a nice ego boost — when a woman makes the first move. But the reality is most guys DON’T ever get approached by women. So what gives?
Why do women gravitate towards some guys… but steer well clear of others? Despite what you might think, it’s NOT a looks issue. I know plenty of hot guys that practically never get approached by women.
And I know many average looking guys who often get approached by women. Well, one of the biggest differences is how approachable you look. Because the more approachable you seem, the more likely we are to actually approach you. (Duh!)
This may come as a surprise, but just like you, we don’t want to feel rejected. And if you’re sending signals you don’t want to be approached, we’ll pick up on those loud and clear.
So here are 3 signs that you may be sending that you’re unapproachable.
1. Not smiling
If you see a woman scowling, does it make you want to approach her? Probably not, as you already get the idea that she’s in a bad mood. Everyone knows this, but so many guys do the same thing without realizing it.
The other thing you need to keep in mind is that we also have to think about our physical safety around men. And if a guy looks upset, or angry, then we’ll be more cautious of him.
Now, you don’t know need to go around with a big cheesy grin on your face. But a genuine and warm smile that makes you look friendly and approachable will do wonders for you.
2. Avoiding eye contact
Eye contact is the universal signal that you’re into someone. So if we’re looking over in your direction but you never lock eyes with us, then it’s much less likely we’ll approach you.
But if you hold eye contact — while smiling — you’re signalling that it’s okay if we come and talk to you.
3. Closed body language
The more closed off your body language, the more unapproachable you seem. It might be crossing your arms or legs. Or keeping your hands in your pockets.
Or holding a drink out in front of you, as kind of a barrier. There are many ways to unconsciously signal you want to keep people away. So start being more open and inviting with your body language, and we’ll feel more comfortable approaching you.
4. Not having fun
This one is mainly relevant if you’re in a social environment e.g. a bar or a party. We’ll naturally gravitate to the men who are clearly having the most fun. Why?
Because we want to get in on the fun, too! After all, most people go out to these places to have a good time. So if you can look around the room and see that most people are having more fun than you, it’s unlikely many women will want to approach you.
5. Looking busy
We’re socially conditioned to not want to interrupt people who are busy. But most of us these days are doing things to keep from being bored — which also makes us look unapproachable.
It could be looking at your phone… listening to music… reading a book… or anything else. Even if you’d love to have a woman come and talk to you, she’s much less likely to in that situation.
But when you’re present and in the moment, and not distracted by anything, it’s easier for us to come over and break the ice. Now, whether you’re the one getting approached or doing the approaching, that’s just the first step.
If you actually want to date or hook up with a woman, you need to focus on what comes after the approach.
And that’s exactly what you’ll discover in my best-selling program, How To Become A Man Women Want.
It’s helped changed the lives of thousands of men, and I receive success stories almost every day.
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