“What would happen if he said THAT to you as he went in for the kiss?” I asked.
“OMG… I would love that.” They said in rapid succession, bursting at the seams.
I was sort of amazed at how much they were blushing and smiling, from ME (another girl!) saying these words to them.
It's like they couldn't contain themselves.
It got me wondering about what would happen if a guy would say this stuff to a girl with even just a bit of interest in him.
You're sitting there right now biting your nails trying to figure out what these words were, aren't you?
I'm such a tease lol.
Before I give away the farm and tell you what I said to them and why it worked so well, I want to paint you a picture of what I think the PUA community is dead wrong about.
And you've probably had a sneaking suspicion about this too.
What do most PUA “gooroos” preach from the peak of the mountain at the top of their lungs?
BE ALPHA NO MATTER WHAT.
Be aloof. Act like nothing phases you. Fake it til you make it. Pretend you have 10 hot pieces of ass waiting for you at home.
NO MATTER WHAT.
Let me paint you a picture of how it comes across to every girl you have tried this on, are currently trying it on, and will try it on.
You're out on a first date with a girl you met recently. She's definitely the most beautiful girl you've ever been out with.
She's so smoking that you can hear this slow song playing in your head when she walks into the room.
You're nervous and intimidated the entire date, but you're about to win an Oscar for your performance.
There's only one problem with this whole act.
She can SENSE you're nervous. It's all over you.
It's all in your “micro-expressions”.
Micro-expressions are the little cues people give off in social situations that our brains pick up on.
You ever got a bad vibe from someone and you just don't know why? Bingo.
To add fuel to the fire, you're trying super hard to cover it all up.
Her brain is going haywire with all of your INCONGRUENCE.
She gets turned off without even knowing why and you're left with your Golden Globe, and the PUA gooroos patting you on the back for “keeping it alpha”.
But… let's switch gears.
What if we changed a few things in this scenario.
We're not going to change the fact that you're scared shitless, or the fact that you're intimidated by her hotness.
All we're going to do is take away the “act”, we're going to let you be confident in your fear.
Think of it like: “Yeah I'm intimidated, but I still know I'm awesome.”
What happens then?
Well, remember those magic words at the beginning of the blog that had the girls melting?
Do you want to know what I told them?
We were talking about guys going in for the first kiss, and I asked:
“What do you think about a guy, looking you in the eye, telling you that you make him nervous and that he really wants to kiss you right now?”
And they blushed like little school girls and said OMG I would love that. I can still see their eyes light up, intense blushing and huge smiles plastered all over their face.
Like MAGIC, and all you're doing is being completely honest and upfront about what you want.
What they didn't want was someone who was scared, AND/OR hid it or cowered in a corner, crying to himself.
You won't get the Academy Award, but you'll get the girl.
The last female friend you'll ever need,
P.S. What if you lost everything you've ever known and had to start from scratch at 67 years old?
That's exactly what happened to one of my readers.
Tomorrow, I'm going to give you a peek into the advice that I gave him that will change your life and get your the women of your dreams.
P.P.S If you think being honest and congruent is hard work, you couldn't be more wrong.
Being yourself is your default state, but with years and years of social conditioning it's easy to lose sight of that.
Here's a great example of a kid with more swag and, dare I say it, balls than 98% of guys out there:
Follow this little munchkin's example.
I'm like Oprah with the P.S.es today I'm just handing 'em out!
I had to sneak this one in here because if this email resonated with you then there's something you should check out.
If getting comfortable with yourself is something you think you really need to work on then you need to get your hands on this: https://www.winggirlmethod.com/special/htb/020/
Yes, this is a shameless plug BUT I'm putting it in here because the second part of that course is dedicated to everything this email was about.
Here's what's you'll find:
- How to understand, accept, and be comfortable with who you really are at the core – especially in the presence of a beautiful woman (This is HOT, especially because most guys try to change who they are to impress us)
- Discover what YOU want, who YOU want, what YOUR boundaries are with women (and how to unleash your natural “male charisma” so that women are automatically drawn to you)
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Anyways, here's that link again Oprah-style: https://www.winggirlmethod.com/special/htb/020/
Alright I'm done, peace!