Attraction is different for women then it is for men. Men look at the physical aspects and women want something more. Women are more fluid and they want do not need a man. Sometimes they may want to take a break and women are going to need some space.
You may know by now that attraction isn’t the same for women as it is for you.
But while many guys realize this on an intellectual level… They don’t always know how this applies in the real world.
Let me give you a recent example from a student, Mark, because I see a lot of men make this same mistake.
So Mark met this woman and she seemed into him. They exchanged numbers and texted a couple of times. But then he had to head out of the country for a few weeks.
By the time he gets back and decides to text her again, about a month had passed since they first met. And the next text he sent her was all about meeting up for a drink.
Now, here’s the problem with that:
As a guy, he was still attracted to her. That feeling of attraction isn’t going to change unless she maybe puts on 50 pounds or ages a decade or two.
The way he feels about her now is still the same as it was a month ago when they met. But for women, we don’t operate like that. Our feelings — attraction especially — are more fluid.
Just because we were into a guy when we first met him, doesn’t mean we automatically feel that way a month later. (Or even the next day, in some cases.)
Things happen in the meantime. Maybe we met another guy we’re seeing now. Or are taking a break from men altogether. Or it could be a case of out of sight, out of mind and we haven’t been thinking about you.
Whatever the reason, it’s a mistake to think you should simply pick up right where things left off.
Getting straight to the point and asking her out after no contact in weeks is very low percentage.
Not to mention, it doesn’t make us feel like you’re interested in us as a person. More that you’re looking to get something from us.
Instead, you want to take a few steps back and warm things up again. You want to strike an emotional chord with your texts so we remember why we liked you in the first place.
That means you should be flirting and bantering and actually having a conversation before asking us out. Because once you create that spark of attraction again with your texts, the odds of us agreeing to meet you go way up.
By the way, this same principle also applies when you meet up in person.
Just because she’s agreed to meet you doesn’t mean you can have a boring conversation on your date and she’ll still be attracted to you.
A woman’s feelings about you are fluid. Just because she’s attracted to you once doesn’t mean she always will be. You need to keep being attractive for us to feel that attraction for you.
And the good news is that the reverse is also true. Just because a woman isn’t attracted to you right now, doesn’t mean she won’t feel that way later.
So go click on the link above if you’d like more info on exactly how to do this.
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