QUESTION: How To Approach and Pick Up A Girl At The Gym
Marni, I got this one in particular girl at the gym but I can't seem to approach her since she's into her training with headphones on…what should I do? Her eyes lock into me and she does look at me when I'm passing by. Please help. – Josh
Honestly, the gym is typically my time to myself. I like to work my butt off (literally), sweat and get the hell out of there. BUT, just like most other places that I frequent on a usual basis, I like seeing people I recognize, building up relationships and getting to know people. My point being, that the gym is not a like a bar or a club. Fast talking players are not welcomed.
They gym is very similar to joining a group. It's a slower process but one that will yield a higher success rate. So be patient and follow these guidelines which are the same guidelines I wrote in response to the email above:
Day 1 – Make and hold eye contact while walking by her. Give a little smirk, then you ca
n walk away.
Day 2 – Make and hold eye contact while walking by her. Give an acknowledgment that you now recognize her, smirk and then say hi, how's it going. Then walk away.
Day 3 – Make and hold eye contact as you walk up to her then make an observation and start a light conversation. I would tease and banter, nothing serious in this conversation. Talk for 20-30 seconds max and then get back to your workout.
** You can do something funny like when you catch eyes with her start mouthing words to her and then she'll take her earphones off. Then make a light joke about that you weren't really saying anything or something like that.
Day 4 – You already have a repor with this woman, so she will make eye contact you with you when she sees you the next time. You are now familiar and interesting. You can now approach her and ask her out if that is what you want. Again, keep it brief but you can let her know that you want to take her out and get to know her better. Be specific, confident and brief. Then get back to your workout.
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