How to ask a girl for her number without being a creep
Finally! The topic that you have all been waiting for and one of the biggest points of frustration for almost every man. Let’s discuss how to ask for a girls number without getting rejected or being given the stink eye, shall we!
You know what sucks about being a man?
When you are a man, you can say something to one girl and she will love you for it. Yet, when you the say the exact same words to another girl and she will freak out on you.
Even worse, she might yell at you, shame you or look at you with disgust.
She might even make you feel like you are being an asshole. When really, all you are doing is something pretty innocent – like asking for her number.
Did he ask for her number the right way?
Here’s an example of Hollywood actress Brie Larson who lost her cool when a guy asked for her number.
Brie tweeted: I merely smiled at a TSA agent and he asked me for my phone number. To live life as a woman is to live life on the defense.
In a few short days, this tweet had close to 5000 shares. In the world of Twitter – that’s a whole lot of shares!
What these shares mean is there are a lot of women out there who feel the way Brie does.
Do you want to know what I thought when I saw this tweet?
I thought, good job TSA agent for taking your chance with Brie Larson! He didn’t grab her. He didn’t push once she said “no” and he certainly did not shame her for turning him down.
In my opinion it was not assault or cause for defense at all – but for Brie it was. And no matter what my opinion is on the matter, I can’t debate how she felt or what she experienced.
After doing a little digging, I found out that assault and harassment have been very prevalent in Bries life which is rightfully why she is so sensitive about it.
This however is not the TSA agents fault. Nor did he have knowledge of this.
I would still applaud the TSA agent for taking his only opportunity. Thought, I will add in one little caveat of advice for both the TSA agent and for you.
Establish a rapport
Do not ask a woman out unless you have established some kind of verbal or non verbal rapport with her. This is the context for why you are asking her out.
One example of this is making eye contact and exchanging smiles. The keyword there is exchanging, the positive attention and flirty looks need to be returned.
Or if you two had a brief exchange of words AND in those moments you were able to flirt with her and she laughed at something you said.
Not just “hand me your passport. BTW can I have your number?”
A woman can feel objectified when you ask for her phone number too soon.
I can’t properly explain this in words to you, but when a man has done this to me, my automatic response is to protect myself by covering up my body.
It instantly happens before anything properly registers in my head. I will cross my arms and lean back. Or I will pull my shirt up so that my cleavage is not showing. Another way I have done is by putting something up in front of me.
It is my automatic reaction to an uninvited approach that has happened too soon.
This is when the creepy label that you’ve heard way too often gets slapped on.
Talk to her for a minute
The truth is it’s not really you being creepy or a creep. It is the lack of substantial interaction prior to the advance.
Here is what you want to do instead. First, talk to a girl for a minute(ideally multiple minutes) before you ask for her number.
Let her see who you are as a person before going straight for the number ask, and get to know a little bit about her.
Granted that little bit may just be that she has a great smile and seems to be attracted to you 😉
I don’t want some girl tweeting like this about you.
Absolute best way to get her number
Now if you want the absolute best way to get a girls number without ever getting rejected then you need to flirt. It’s the only way to make those 30 seconds be enough to initiate a number ask.
Flirting is what sets you aside from the other boring bozos approaching us. How you flirt, dictates who you are and how we see you.
Think of the last time you were on a roller coaster. There was such a mix of emotions, wasn’t there?
The jittery feeling in your body as you climb up the hill. Your heart thudding so loud you can hear it in your ears.
When the drop comes, you feel it deeply in your stomach. You feel exhilarating adrenaline—almost like you’re flying without wings.
Afterward, you are elated – brimming with energy, and ready to do stuff you wouldn’t normally do, right?
Well—that’s EXACTLY what girls experience with good flirting.
For us girls, NOTHING compares to a guy who can elicit an “emotional roller coaster” that keeps us guessing!
In fact, creating that roller coaster is 90% of the game, after you approach.
…And it’s the easiest way to get her number
This is what was missing from that TSA agents approach. He didn’t flirt. Whether it be through simple eye contact and a smile or verbally – therefore his approach fell flat.
Actually, it didn’t even fall flat. It did create an emotion; an emotion of danger and creepiness.
I certainly don’t want you sending out those vibes to women when all you really want to do is take action and go after what you want.
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Unlike the typical conversations we have with most men, which fall flat.
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