You want to know how to attract women? Don't pounce on them. In the past few weeks I have had several coaching sessions with men who did not realize that their actions were considered pouncey by female definition.
This made me realize that there are probably thousands of men in the world who don't know how to attract women because they end up on pouncing on the women they desire.
Because of this I asked one of my Wing Girls Esmerelda to write a list of the Do's and Don'ts to ensure you don't pounce on women. I am sure you are not doing all of these things but if you are STOP RIGHT NOW! These Do's and Don'ts are for those who have gotten past the first and second date and are on the way to exploring the options of a possible relationship.
I have also written a blog post for AOL that explains bouncing in greater detail. If you are a pouncer it can explain why you may be bouncing and what you can do to stop it! A link to the article is posted below the Do's and Don't list.
How to Avoid Pouncing On A Woman
1) Text or call her once or twice a day – Keep it short, brief and non-needy. There is nothing wrong with saying a quick hi as long as that quick hi is not satisfying an urge for you.
2) Focus on the moment and make an effort to make sure things continue to go well. No need to focus on the future especially in the beginning stages. Take your time and make sure she is for you. This is a testing period for both of you so don't forget you are involved in the decision as well.
3) Reciprocate physical affection but don't go over board.
4) Share your interest with her: We want to get to know you. A man with a passion is the sexiest type of man.
5) Control your desire for her. Think about where the desire is coming from. If you are trying to control an emotion and acting impulsively don't do it.
6) Appreciate her body. Tell her she is sexy.
7) Don't pressure her sexually. A woman pressured is a woman that will not feel free to be sexual. Let her feel that she is involved in the process of opting into sex. (Get David Shades Material about how to be a masterful lover. He just interviewed me last week for his membership series and we talk all about how to make a woman more comfortable with sex. My interview goes out in January. Click here to get David's Materials)
8 Show her you trust her. Men with walls who distrust all women are by far the most unattractive specimen of man. Be cautious but don't let past baggage carry over.
9) Accept change.
1) Compulsively text or call her every time you think about her
2) Physically dwell on her. Too much kissing and obsessive hugging is annoying.
3) Give her constant reassurance. If a woman needs constant reassurance there is a disconnect. Either there is something you are not giving her or she has some past insecurity. Get down to the bottom of it and figure out what can be done to make her feel more comfortable.
4) Throw yourself too quickly into a person you barely know. Take time. You are allowed to go slowly and figure out if this new woman is someone you want to invest your time in.
5) Exaggerate your physical ardor and enthusiasm for her all the time.
6) Talk about your exes and compare her to any of them. Even if your intentions are good, we do not like it!
7) Dwell on the past. As said above this is a fresh start so past baggage is not needed and unappreciated.
8 Overwhelm her with food or gifts.
9) Be defensive. Listen to her and don't take everything she says as a test. Read our blog on The Shit Test so you can understand.
10) Get jealous of every man that sets his eyes on her.
11) Make sex a display of desperation or a time to show off. Remember she is there to and she feels “like a hole” she is going to tense up and the experience will not be as great as it could be.
12) Expect anything to stay the same forever.
I think Esmeralda did a pretty great job of discussing what does and does not attract women. Go back and read through this list and check out my latest post on AOL to get a better idea of what pouncing means, how women view it and how to avoid it!
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