How To Be Confident With Women
Confidence is the buzz word of the decade if you have been reading up on how to attract women. You may even have that key phrase rolling around obsessively in your mind, “how can I be more confident with women?”
By the way…
How freaking annoying is that word?
It’s what you constantly hear everyone telling you that women find most attractive.
But what the hell does it mean? How does one even become confident any why is it so freaking attractive to women?
Let’s tackle the last question that I just asked because I know that it’s the most important to you. How come confidence so freaking attractive to women?
Confidence is attractive to women because of a simple evolutionary principle. The man who gives me the highest chance of staying alive is the man I want to attach to.
I know I just took you back to the cave days by going all biological and evolutionary on you. Only you have to think of things in that way to truly understand why women go gaga over, confidence.
A college professor who studies attraction, on confidence:
David Buss is a professor of evolutionary psychology who writes about the evolution of attraction. I was fortunate enough to have him on my podcast. He stated that women are most attracted to attributes that bring them closer to the resources that will guarantee optimal survival.
Now, bitter and jaded men who have a chip on their shoulder about women will predictably react to this statement. They will take this information to mean that all women are money hungry whores. I assure you, it doesn't mean that.
Even though we are no longer living in the cave days and the daily threat of death is no longer an issue. Survival and surviving is still a thing in our psychology and nervous system. It's a hard-wired old past of our reptilian brain and it's here to stay.
Those around us that seemingly have more attributes like good health, wealth, intelligence, social status, friendship circles, and character are people we want to attach to. These are subliminal measures of status and like or not, being attached to people of status has historically ensured our survival.
Now, from a non-evolutionary perspective, but rather an emotional one, women desire something else. It's something that you do have control over, always! You can control this much more than your social status, and it's a lot easier.
How does one even become confident?
Women are attracted to men with confidence. The reason for this is women innately know that men with confidence will be able to take care of us no matter what happens.
A confident man will know what restaurant to go to. He’ll know how to take care of us in the bedroom. He will know what to do if there is danger. I can trust him to be able to handle my emotions. Since he can take care of me I will in turn want to take care of him.
Confident men know how to take care of business and that will always be sexy, whether that's hunting lions or picking a restaurant for us to go to.
Simply put confident men do and they do it well
Confident men make decisions, even if they are not the right ones. They go after what they want even if what they want seems silly to others. These men are driven, believe in themselves, and will try again, even after they fall flat on their face.
Being around a man who knows what to do is intoxicating. It allows a woman to relax and trust. It demonstrates that “he's got this” and that she doesn't have to worry.
Since we’re on a science path talking about evolution, I wanted to share some really interesting stats given to me by the team at Zoosk. Zoosk is one of the leading dating sites.
They found that men who use words such as: maybe, sort of, kind of, and “not sure” in their profile and opening messages get over 25% less attention online.
These stats show that women are not only turned on by men with higher confidence, they are repulsed by men with lower confidence.
You become more confident by doing
Which leads me to answer one of the other questions I asked at the start of this video. How do you become more confident? You become more confident by doing. Doing “what”, you may be wondering?
Doing things like asking for a woman's number, even if she potentially could say no. Ask for a date, even if you might get rejected. Go for the kiss, even if you land on a cheek.
To be confident you must start going for it and be okay if things don’t go the way you want. Just going for what you want, when you want it, will grow your confidence.
Not sure where to start to grow your confidence? You are in luck. I have a course that gives you the tools to tap into your inner confidence, take action with women, and have women do a double-take with you just because of the energy you're exuding.
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