Have you ever wondered how to become higher status in the dating scene without making six figures?
Did you really think it means having a big fat paycheck to your bank every two weeks?
Are you often wondering why other people seem successful with their income and you're not?
That's your first mistake my friend, so let's address it. How do you become higher status is you start giving less fucks on what people think of you.
Especially if they shove it down your throat. Because guess what, those people that try REALLY hard to show you how successful they are, it shows what's important to them and they are coming from a place of bragging.
In the dating scene, the best way to become higher status is to let people brag and follow your own lead.
Before we talk about becoming higher status, do one thing for me…
Start saying to yourself over and over “I love myself and I see myself as higher status.”
Even if you have to mind-fuck yourself in to believing it, I'd rather have you talk kind to yourself than constantly worry of what the next person thinks of you because what they think is none of your business
Think Like A Higher Status Man
You hear this all the time, but it's absolutely true. When you think the way a higher status man thinks, you emulate what a higher status man is. So I will tell you a few exercises to implement starting now.
Listen to subliminal messages (it's free on YouTube) and commit to doing it every night. I want you to listen to this video here.
Now you must listen to it while you sleep. And don't get frustrated if it doesn't happen overnight. Because success takes time. Nothing is ever overnight, this is a marathon, not a sprint.
It's just like going to the gym, you cannot expect five inch arms after you start lifting weights for one week. I'll say this again, in case it didn't sink in, success takes time, patience, and willingness to fail.
However, listening to confidence affirmations is a start because it's going to get you to elevate your ‘I don't care” mentality. Do this every night.
You trust yourself fully and that's what confidence is all about. Not caring other peoples opinions of you is extremely important for becoming higher status.
Have you done that? Awesome. Assuming you did, let's proceed to the next exercise.
In my book Become The Alpha Women Want, I have what are called Alpha Male Affirmations…
These affirmations are powerful statements because they are phrased in the two words I AM…
I have to remind you that you have you have to believe it already.
That's why you MUST listen to the confidence affirmations before this next action step.
So if you haven't done that yet, this won't work.
Don't do this ass backwards and put the cart before the horse.
Put the following affirmations on post-it notes and in your room so you can see them consistently.
- I AM completely calm in high social pressure situations
- I AM higher status at all times
- I AM valuable and have a lot to offer
- I AM non-needy and carefree, no one can perturb my carefreeness
- I AM higher status in my nonverbal communication
Money Should Not Dictate Your Self-Worth
Before I get in to this section of the article, I have to preface this by saying it's always a good idea to better your financial situation.
In fact, self-improvement is number one and it would be wise of you make more money.
A lot of guys feel like they are not enough unless if they make X amount a month (let's go with 10K a month) for example.
So let's go a little further on why this is unattractive.. You meet a woman and you start bragging to her about their income.
I slap my forehead, because bragging is NEVER a good idea.
Women subconsciously pick up on this when you brag about how much you make. They know deep down you're insecure, like you have to prove to them you are up to worth by you telling her you're making 10K a month
That means to say, you never want to let your income dictate your self-worth as a man.
I'm actually going to back this up by telling you a story my friend..
My girlfriend told me that she went on a date a few years before she met me with a man that made six figures and says he owns three real estate rental properties..
Wanna know what Emily said? “I'm not impressed.” You might say that's harsh.
She was honest with him. So do not brag about your income, it looks try-hard.
Tune Out Societies Conditioning on Higher Status
What society tells you is possession of money, cars, and expensive Rolex watches are higher status.
Higher status cannot be bought, nor can it be a short term solution. Don't rely on external factors.
Higher status is learned over time. You cannot buy your way in to being higher status.
Don't let society write your life because they don't know who you are.
You know who you are more than everyone else.
Money is a false status signal because our society relies solely on manipulating people to believe that being higher status is bought.
I want you to become higher status for life, not for the short term.
This is extremely important because you never want society to write your destiny.
Let's move on to state trainings exercises.
“Status and possession of resources are separate qualities.” Doctor David Buss
Higher Status State Training
Have you ever wanted to become charismatic?
I'll briefly tell you something that you most definitely don't know…
The most successful people in the world that speak in front of thousands of people do state training.
So it's time for you to understand something before we proceed…
The state you are in most often becomes your default mood.
I really cannot stress that enough.
If you don't train your state, you'll often feel like complete crap and you are in an unattractive state.
That means low confidence and your state is based off of circumstances.
Which means I want you to really fucking listen to me when I said listen to confidence affirmations.
I want to give you a few state training exercises:
Let me tell you why it's important to do all three. They all put you in a positive, resourceful growth minded state. And they are guaranteed to raise your mood up to a higher, more attractive vibration.
I recommend that you meditate every day. I'll tell you why. Firstly, you're always in your head when you engage with a new woman asking yourself…
“Does she like me? Am I coming off as try-hard? Did I forget to brush my teeth? Does she notice anything about my body language? How do I look to her?
This immediately puts you in your head. What I love about daily meditation is it's extremely beneficial to decrease worries on your mind, which often put's you in a perfectionist mindset.
Often you'll find people with a fixed mindset want everything to be perfect. I strongly advise you to put growth as top priority and don't base your state from circumstances. Draw validation from within and be humble.
Women are not attracted to a man that hides his flaws and his mistakes. That's what people in this mindset often do and they want everything to be perfect. Own your mistakes and embrace every flaw you have.
Women Find Low Status Men Unattractive
Let's talk about what is low status in a woman's mind. First and foremost, doing favors for women is lower status. Secondly, when you are needy, you are EXTREMELY lower status.
Thirdly, giving women the power to influence your actions is very lower status. For example, let's say you see a woman you want to approach. But then she walks away, you never approach her.
The fact that you just let her walk by without giving her the gift of your handsome looks and good energy, she just won. She won because her beauty signaled to your mind, “I don't want her to see me, because I'm not good enough for a woman like her.”
And there it is. My friend, you must take action in spite of fear. I want you to lean in to your edges and go outside your comfort zone.
Higher status men approach women because they don't let looks intimidate them. They understand that in order to get the women of their dreams, they go first and lead with value.
Also I want to say one more thing about being lower status. Most lower status men have a seeking rapport tonality. That means you talk with an upward inflection in your voice.
Correct that my friend, start developing a more downward, masculine voice.
Higher Status Nonverbal Communication
Read my article on higher status nonverbal communication. This is super fucking important!
Here's what I want you to remember about higher status nonverbal communication:
- Walked slow and relaxed (never run unless you're working out)
- Have expansive body language and remain proud of every inch of your body.
- Remain grounded in your own reality.
I strongly advise you to do the bow and the arc from Bioenergetics. Why?
Because it's guaranteed to raise testosterone and ground your body.
The bow is you raise your arms and push your pelvis forward and start breathing erratically for one minute.
The arc (think of a forward fold in yoga) however, you are breathing calmly and loudly.
What does this do? It releases repressed energy you though you've never had.
You'll feel fucking phenomenal. TRUST ME!
Higher Status Decisiveness
In my opinion, this is super important and may be one of the most attractive qualities in a man.
That is you act quickly, you know what you want, you are determined to make your goals happen.
I have a harsh truth to tell you, if you are indecisive, this won't work. In fact, you are lower status.
Let me tell you the facts, success loves speed of implementation and momentum.
When you take zero action, women won't follow their lead, they will follow someone else's lead.
When you are decisive and you know what you want, you take action to get it.
It’s super fucking attractive, and you my friend, must develop higher status decisiveness.
The harsh truth is when you are indecisive, you are refusing the call to life.
You are refusing your purpose and you follow other people's lead, not your own.
I want you to become higher status long term, not short term. So take decisive action every day.
Higher Status Self-Expression
Start expressing your beliefs, your values, your boundaries, and what you will and will not accept.
This is how to get insanely good with women. Some of the most successful people I know are naturally self-expressive.
So what does it mean to be naturally self-expressive?
It means you speak your truth and you don't hold back from it.
Lower status guys filter themselves and are afraid to express themselves because they're insecure.
I want you to start wearing your heart on your sleeve and express who you are.
Express yourself as if you are the most valuable, higher status man that you are.
So that you can express your standards to women.
Higher Status Purpose
This may be the most important point to be higher status long term.
When you get clear and brain dump your passions, hobbies, goals, and daily missions, you have purpose.
With everyone I train nowadays, I see people that lack purpose in their fitness (as a personal trainer, this is sad.)
Don't get me wrong, some are very committed to working with me but other guys have no purpose.
And these are the clients that fall off track and don't last for the long term.
My friend, do me this one favor, and brain dump all of your goals in a journal or in your notes app.
Then take immediate action towards your goals with purpose and passion.
Don't ever let getting women get in the way of your purpose, it will never end well.
“The next time you notice yourself ‘giving in' to your woman, postponing your mission and denying your true purpose in order to spend time with her, stop.” -David Deida (The Way of the Superior Man)
Bonus Tip – Higher Status Flirting
If you got this far, you handsome stud, do me a favor and read my higher status flirting article.
It's going to elevate your game to new heights and you are going to learn how to make women laugh.
You'll also find teases, false disqualifiers, and push/pull comments guaranteed to build intrigue! Take immediate action, you got this Casanova 😉
Now that you are ready to become a higher status Alpha Male, I think it's time that you understand something.
Just with the information I gave you, it's going to elevate your game.
But true movement and fast movement is knowing how to create fast sexual tension in a woman's mind.
I recommend you watch this video because it's going to be taken down in a few hours.
Watch it now as you are about to discover how to make a woman wet just by flirting with her!
When you know how to flirt in a sexual way, you'll immediately look higher status in her mind.
And I appreciate the hell out of you for reading this. Don't forget to watch this short video brother!
My friend, go follow me at MasculineMindsetCoach on Instagram.
You are looking more higher status by the minute 😉