If you’re having some success dating, but aren’t ready to settle on just one woman, it can be tricky. Fortunately, there’s a simple solution that keeps things from getting weird. I’ll tell you everything you need to know!
Are you interested in dating around and just having fun? If so, that’s completely fine. However it can cause some headaches if you’re not prepared.
Such as how to let women know you’re not looking for anything serious…
And should you admit that you’re dating other women?
It can be a tricky topic, so let me give you my take on all of this.
The main rule to keep in mind is not to be blatantly dishonest with anyone. That means if you’re on a date with a woman and she asks you if you’re seeing anyone else, you should tell her the truth.
If she’s asking, it’s because that information is important to her. It could be a big factor in whether she wants to keep seeing you or not. With that said, it’s also not something you need to volunteer yourself early on. Because usually if someone is single, it’s safe to say they’re going on dates with other people.
We’re certainly not expecting you to be in a committed relationship with us right from the first date! (Plus, we might be seeing others guys too.) So let’s say you’re on a first or second date. You don’t need to say something like, “Just so you know, I’m dating and sleeping with three other women right now.”
That’d be pretty weird. However, you can imply that same idea without being so blatant about it.
For example, you might have some funny, weird, or interesting stories related to dates you were recently on. Or you might be talking about your lifestyle and how you’re always out every night of the week and meeting lots of new people.
Or you could have a story about a “friend” who went on a Tinder date and the woman got super clingy to him after one date… and how you think those kind of people are crazy.
Believe me, most women will clearly pick up on the message you’re sending.
Now, the other way to keep things casual with a woman is through how you behave with her. For example, tons of guys are confused why a woman they’re dating is acting like things are serious… even though he may have told her that he doesn’t want a relationship.
Yet when I ask them how much time they’re spending together, they’ll often say 3 or 4 nights a week. No kidding she thinks things are serious!
If you’re acting like a boyfriend — spending so much time together, doing couples activities, meeting each other’s friends etc. — then that’s how she’ll think of you. Even if you SAY you don’t want anything serious.
Remember, your actions trump your words every time.
But if you just hang out once a week together, you’re making it clear that things are pretty casual. She’ll likely realize that you’re dating other women without you even explicitly saying so.
So this is how you manage expectations without anyone getting hurt or having the wrong idea. Your actions and words are congruent with who you are and what you want.
When that’s the case, it’ll be obvious you’re the kind of guy who dates many women. Some women will choose not to be with you, because that’s not the kind of relationship they’re looking for. But there are many who want the exact same thing as you. And it means you’ll have less headaches and complications because you’re attracting the right women who are on the same page as you.
And if it does get to the stage where she tells you she wants something exclusive…
You can either explore that option, or be honest and tell her you don’t see things going there. When you behave with integrity and honesty like this, women rarely get mad that you’re dating multiple people.
It’s only when you’re sending mixed messages (or outright lying) that we don’t know where we stand with you.
So keep this in mind from now on and you should have a lot less complications with women you’re casually seeing.
Oh, and if you’d like to more easily attract women so you can have whatever type of relationship you’d like…
The last female friend you’ll ever need,