If you have been rejected there are some things you can do to prevent this. You need to be clear with your emotions and how you are feeling. You need to be compassionate even when breaking up with someone. You need to be sure of someone before you reject them. Often there is no going back. You should talk to the woman and get to know her. Then if you do not like her it may be time to let her go on to someone else.
Nobody wants to be rejected by someone they’re attracted to. But for most guys, they’re only ever on one side of rejection — the one where they are being shot down. However, a funny thing starts to happen to the guys I coach or who buy my products.
They soon develop the confidence and skills that makes them way more attractive to women… Meaning that they have a lot more choice and power with who they date. As a result, that flips things around and puts THEM in the position of needing to reject women.
This could be when first meeting her and she wants to see you again…Or it could be after a date or two and you’re just not feeling it.And because it’s an area most guys don’t have much experience with, they often don’t know how to handle it…
Which can lead to hurt feelings, conflict, or a woman not getting the message you’re trying to send.
So I want to share 3 tips to help you turn women down in a mature and classy way.
#1 Be Clear
The worst thing that anyone can do when rejecting someone is be ambiguous.If you leave the door open where they think you might be interested, it’ll just toy with their emotions.For example, let’s say you go out on a date with a woman and she suggests getting together again.
If you say something like, “Yeah that might be fun, I’m really busy at the moment but I’ll call you when I’m free”… You may think that’s letting her down in a gentle way, but that’s not being very clear. She may still hold out hope you do actually like her.
Instead, you’re better off saying what you mean. “I had a nice evening with you, but I have to be honest in that I don’t really see this going anywhere and I don’t want to waste your time.”
Sure, that may sting a little more in the moment. But she’ll appreciate it compared to leading her on for weeks or months.
#2 Be Compassionate
There is a small minority of guys who enjoy rejecting women in a cruel way. Usually it’s because they feel a sense of revenge for all the times women have hurt them. While it might boost their own fragile ego a little… it also crushes the woman’s ego.
Examples could be laughing at her… calling her derogatory names… highlighting physical flaws… shaming her… drawing public attention to the rejection… or anything else that would be cruel or humiliating.I feel fortunate that 99% of the readers on my list don’t fall into this category, but I’m still pointing it out because I see it from other guys.
An easy way to reject someone with compassion is to start off with “I’m really flattered, but…” and then provide a reason why you’re not interested e.g. maybe you have a very specific type of woman you’re attracted to.
#3 Be Sure
Okay, so this one is a little different. What I mean is, be sure you’re definitely not into a woman before rejecting her.
That might sound kind of obvious, but I’ve seen countless times where a guy told me he wasn’t attracted to a woman. But after I made him go talk to her anyway, next thing I know he’s telling me how amazing she is.
Sometimes the first impression we have of someone based on their looks alone can change when we talk to them. And your impression after 5 minutes of talking to them can change an hour later when you find out they’re into a lot of the same geeky hobbies you are.
So while I’m not suggesting you go out on dates with women you find physically repulsive…
There are many attractive women who may not fit the “perfect dream girl” image in your head, but could be perfect for you in real life if you give them the chance.
Keep these 3 tips in mind, and it’ll make rejection an easier experience for both you and the women you meet.
And if you don’t have that high quality problem yet where you’re attracting so many women that you have to turn some of them down…
The last female friend you’ll ever need,