How To Get A Girls Phone Number In Under 30 Seconds…
So many men that I speak with believe that there are specific rules to follow when it comes to asking for a woman's phone number. I am here to tell you, there are no such rules. The only rule that you must follow is to ask for the girl's phone number when you decide that you want it. Other than that, there are no rules, there are no guidelines, and there is no right or wrong time to ask for a phone number!
Below is an email from one of my coaching clients updating me on a recent success story. I had given him an assignment where he had to pick up a woman and get her number in under 2 minutes. He wrote to tell me he was able to To Get A Girls Phone Number In Under 30 Seconds. Amazing! My commentary and female explanation follows directly after his email.
Just wanted to keep you up to date on things with a story from Starbucks yesterday.
I was in a meeting with a man and a woman, and looked up to see a young woman walking towards us, heading for the doors. She looked at me with a bit of a smile and had her head slightly tilted to the side. I held her gaze, excused myself, immediately got up and walked directly towards her. Without skipping a beat I said, “Hi, listen, I'm in a meeting right now, but I'd love to grab a coffee with you some time.” She looked a little stunned, but held eye contact. She then said, “Sure, okay!” I pulled out my iPhone, hit the “Contacts” button, pressed “New” and said, “Do you know how to work this? Just put in your name and number.” She did, I told her I had to get back to my meeting, and she left. Her name is X. The whole process took about thirty seconds from open to close and is a new record for me.
I returned to the table, and the couple looked at me with a bit of disbelief and we carried on with our meeting. I couldn't help but notice the woman kept checking me out after seeing my number close with X, and shifted her body language to face me directly. And, forgive my candor, but I caught her doing a “package” glance a couple times, and she kept on just looking at me with that slow up and down gaze. She also remained distracted for the rest of the meeting, and seemed to have her mind elsewhere. The man was clearly stunned by my action with X and had that “”Did that just happen?” look on his face for the rest of the meeting.
Fifteen minutes later I texted X with, “Hey you.” She responded immediately with, “Hi! Thanks for the text :)” I replied, “First one's free…. ;)” Now the only drawback is she is young, early twenties (again) so I don't really know where to go with this. Still a little bizarre how easy it is for me at 43 to meet women that young. It is satisfying at some level, but rational me realizes it's an untenable situation. Hmmm….
Anyhow, just wanted to share this with you.
First of all, AMAZING!! Right??!! Second of all, as a woman, I am not surprised by this at all. What my client did was proactive, masculine, and super attractive.
– He saw a woman he was interested in
– Approached her
– Asked her for what he wanted (her phone number to get to know her better/sleep with her/date her etc…)
– AND THEN… got back to his life
The reason why it was appealing to the woman he approached was because it was exciting and it MADE HER FEEL SPECIAL. I talk about this in full detail in my program, What's Inside A Woman's Mind, but for now I want to take a moment to explain the latter.
I know other male experts (PUA's) will scream “Making her feel special is the kiss of death,” but there is a huge difference between making her feel special and pouncing on her.
Special – Means that you acknowledge that you have a life, you respect yourself, and you are choosing to allocate some of YOUR time for a selected female
Pouncing – Means that you have forgotten about yourself, lost all emotional control, and need the woman's approval.
My client made this woman feel special, not pounced on. That is exactly why she responded by giving him her phone number. It's also the reason that the other women, with whom he was having his meeting with, suddenly found herself wanting him to notice her. She wanted to feel special too! But that's a whole different blog post.
I talk more about why women get jealous and competitive when they see other women getting attention in my program What's Inside A Woman's Mind. It's insane what a little appreciation for another woman can do to our attraction levels.
Back to this post! If you see a woman you want approach, ask for her number and then get back to your life. In and out.
One Note: Don't worry about “the right” thing to say, worry about not saying anything at all.
You have no idea how many opportunities you are missing out on every day. There are tons of women around you at all times and the only reason their not noticing you is because YOU are letting them. I guarantee, if you can do this assignment 3 times a week for 1 month, you too will be able to succeed in getting a girls number in under 30 seconds!
To learn more about female jealousy and why we're so competitive with other females, check out What's Inside A Woman's Mind!