3 Tips To Never Run Out Of Things To Say With A Girl
What if you knew how to never run out of things to say to a girl? Especially when first meeting, or on a first date. Let's discuss some tips to keep the conversation going.
First, lower your expectations. You do not always need to have a highly stimulating, intelligent conversation. Instead, talk about the things around you. This will help keep the conversation going and they will be able to answer you.
Pause at intervals and enjoy the silence. This will allow her to feel comfortable around you. If you show that you are comfortable and can be in any situation she will begin to like you.
Ever talk to a woman you really like and your mind goes completely blank? And as hard as you try, you just can’t think of what to say next? If you’ve had that happen, you’ll know how painful it is. The seconds feel like minutes… And you feel the awkward tension start to kill any attraction she felt for you.
You wish you knew how to prevent this, and never run out of things to stay with a girl.
Even though most men have had this happen to them more than once, they still haven’t come up with a solution to stop it from happening, again. The good news is it’s not that hard to eliminate this problem for good.
All you need is the right plan to follow and take the time to practice it. If you want in-depth training on how to do this, then go and check this out.
Let me share these 3 tips in more depth so that you can start using them right away.
This will help when your mind starts going blank.
Lower the bar
One reason guys can’t think of what to say is that their expectations are too high. They think everything they talk about needs to be the most interesting thing a woman has ever heard in her life.
But HOW you say something is more important than WHAT you say. That’s because we’re picking up on all the other signals you’re sending. We do this through tonality, body language, facial expressions, and energy in the conversation.
This is why when you get the energy right, you can talk about anything and she will still be attracted to you.
So lower your standards for the topics you talk about, and start paying more attention to how you’re communicating.
Use what’s in your environment
Another reason guys struggle for what to say is they’re too in their own head. They miss all of the subjects in the environment around them, they could be talking about.
No matter where you are when talking to a woman if you look around there will always be something you can talk about when you get stuck.
What you need to do is practice talking about random things and find ways to make them relatable. For instance, if you are in a coffee shop it could be the music that’s playing, someone around you who stands out, anything on the menu, posters or artwork on the walls, or anything else you notice.
You can give an opinion on it, ask a question, tell a story it reminds you of, make a joke, or anything else that pops into your head. When you practice doing this, before long it will feel like second nature.
Be comfortable with the silence
So this third tip is a little different. Instead of feeling like you have to think of something to say to fill the silence… If you’re completely comfortable and relaxed, she’s more likely to say something to continue the conversation.
Silence is really only awkward if you both feel awkward during it. So you can actually use the silence to show that you’re confident and not feeling that social pressure… which makes you more attractive.
Now, the caveat to this last point is that you need to have triggered at least some level of interest in her for this to work. If she’s bored out of her brain and not into you at all, silence is the perfect opportunity for her to leave.
But if you’ve hooked her attention, she’ll want to continue the conversation to find out more about you.
So if you don’t want to be the guy that’s boring women to death…
And instead be the man that can capture a woman’s interest and attention within minutes, if not seconds…
The last female friend you’ll ever need, Marni